Grateful For No Should Of Could Of Ought Ta!
Years ago, not sure exactly when, probably somewhere in my early 20's - a very wise mentor said to me - Stop talking about Should Of, Could Of, Ought Ta....just stop it. Get out there and and do and create what you want next. There's not a darn thing you can do about yesterday or 5 minutes ago, so move on. I remember looking at him and thinking, holy you know what, he's right and I'm guessing I felt pretty foolish complaining about who knows what. Sure I could have done that or that or that - but - I chose not to for whatever reason. Of course this guy was really 'old' probably 50 or so, which seems young to me now!! But he had lived and experienced enough years to get this one simple thing.....No more Should Of Could Of Ought Ta!
Over the years I got really good at stopping that kind of talk - for the most part. Every once in awhile I'd got stuck on who knows what. Usually (if I didn't snap out of it quickly) my husband Gary snapped me out of my pitty party of Should Of Could Of Ought Ta. And I returned the favor to him when appropriate. It always make us laugh, now. Sometimes we say - oh yea, what was I thinking? How silly is that!! To say the least, I'm grateful to accept 'It Is What Is' in the moment, and change it to whatever I want to...next!
Case in point, last summer I had a horrible experience attempting to have surgery on my foot. What a freaking nightmare scene it was - think of an alien scene in a movie! After 5 hours of a crazy parade of nurses that had no idea of what was going on and a doc that didn't even bother to address me when he came in to the room or when he finally left. It was beyond time to exit stage left. Nothing had been accomplished - nothing! I'm very grateful to Debe Maxwell, CRS for listening to me after that experience and explaining to me that some docs think they're a god. It was time to move on. And I did! Thank you Debe!!
Last Friday I had successful surgery on my foot and I am on the way to getting back to hiking and golfing in a few months (or less)!! YEA!! The surgery center was awesome from start to finish. The nurse was incredible! And the doctor couldn't have been kinder! They have a TEN STAR team and facility! I am very VERY grateful to be on my way to enjoying being outside in nature and doing what I have loved to do all of my life. YES!!!!
Grateful For No Should Of Could Of Ought Ta!
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