Have you ever wondered why apologizing is so hard and painful to the one doing it? I am speaking of the real deal where YOU know what you did, why you did it and how it was not appropriate and some ancient and powerful dynamic driven by your conscience or (?) at work compels you to approach this subject with humility and give it the respect it deserves? If genuine it will sting but for a good cause
I WAS WRONG
Right & wrong remain subjective terms is where we will start. My right or wrong belongs to me & my beliefs as does yours. However when we come into common ground of agreement sort of a social or personal atmosphere or environment, a higher standard kicks in & the "author of good" in us must respond to it. Could an apology made be the price to keep your humanity? How about humility summoned by us?
THE EGO IS DIMINISHED
This is where the pain of the apology is felt. It is a blow to your ego which is protected by your pride. The apology made passes your pride thus wounding the ego. It is the price of playing god this pain is because the spirit in you will not support a substitute or imitation power in place of the real deal. The ouch to the ego says: you are not god thus you made a mistake (God does not) and somehow wrongs are righted and life can continue but for the better
REWARD THE REWARD-ABLE
There has to be a universal concept of what is acceptable & what is not. Why? Mankind requires it & it is within grasp & reach. How? It is in you! The standard of what is right (righteousness) is at the very core of your creation & being. It is a jealous concept & does not reward counterparts or intruders only itself!
THE LIPS MAY SAY IT
Saying I'm sorry doesn't mean you are and this cuts both ways. The sorry part has to be driven by correct motives which are found beyond words. We have seen others and have said "I'm sorry" just to hear the words and we all know it most of the time. Only the shrew and the people with secret agendas master this deception they think. In reality, the uncorrected demeanor is in a state of non-reward-able behavior making everything harder, wronger and unsatisfying.
SORRY FOR THE PART YOU PLAY
What can interfere with your own healing is the story your ego concocts to avoid the reprimand namely seeing what the other person did or did not do and how that justifies what you did or did not do. The fact is that your regret is to be addressed first & foremost. The other person or circumstances is optional unless the relationship or criteria requires a reset or neutral grounds to proceed on. You will know at that time
TRUE SORRY IS IN THE HEART
Change of heart is no myth and a true sorry drives the process quite well. Sometimes there is no one to apologize to but when a person realizes and acts on that then it releases the change necessary to let it go and to start anew. That's how powerful an apology is. It can "reset" you to begin fresh with innocence
THE NEED TO APOLOGIZE
We live according to the Universal rules which are non-negotiable. They are trial and error mixed with learning curves. Add people to the mix and we have need to see what works, what doesn't, adjust and then proceed or we will become bogged down with past and present baggage affecting our life journey
PRIDE HATES THIS PROCESS
Pride hates the apology process and it should too. The light of reality which reveals all things followed by right actions is a pride-killer and mankind does well to wield this. What benefit does it do a person who is always falsely right, never wrong to live a life that way? What will one end-up looking and sounding like?
THE GREATEST APOLOGY EVER MADE
In the story of Jesus Christ as read in the Gospels we are introduced to the concepts of correction, love, righteousness, neighbors, business applications, personal interactions and how to live according to the dictates of the heart which is very pleasing unto God. Jesus demonstrated this and had nothing to apologize about personally but he spoke up (apologized) for the rest of us when he said:
FATHER FORGIVE THEM THEY KNOW NOT...WHAT THEY DO.
Thank God his apology was accepted for us and by him. His standard is to be kept & practiced
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