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Who am I being today?

By
Mortgage and Lending with January Financial

I've realized something interesting through the past couple weeks of being a blogger and reading other people's blogs. What made it even more interesting is how it coincides with my personal life.

I am ever struggling to get people to comment on this blog. Call it a need for attention, validation, whatever you like, but when I see that little message on my home page that someone has commented on my blog, I can't help but feel good about myself.

I'm starting to understand that the blogs that get the most comments are those with the most sincere purpose and humble mindset (or, ones that incite negative emotions, which I try not to write). Don't get me wrong, I attempt to write every post with sincerity, but some topics are just hard to discuss logically and still give that little bit extra of myself. But it's the posts that are the most genuine, the most guileless, that people really seem to respond to.

[For an example, see my post yesterday. I wrote it sincerely, but asked a very closed off, impersonal question and voila! No comments as of 10 am PST.]

Where this intersects with my personal life is that I'm starting to realize that there are few people in this world whom I truly dislike, but the ones who rub me the wrong way are those who are the least genuine and the least humble.

So after all this soul-searching, I have to ask myself, "Am I being as sincere and genuine as I can possibly be with my clients and industry partners? Do they truly know who I am?"

I think they do, and I think that's part of the reason we've been able to stay in business in these tough times. But I can always be better!

Please use this post as a word of personal encouragement to open yourself up to your clients and coworkers and let them see who you are. Once they understand that you can be open with them, they'll know they can trust you, and that's when the magic really starts to happen!

Cyara Pott - Market Specialist

Comments(9)

Marie Meyer
Keller Williams Realty - Central Valley, NY
Orange County New York Realtor

Hi Carey ... I know exactly what you mean about waiting for a comment.  Perhaps, you have a point about which posts people choose to read.  Being open is important in all aspects of our lives.  If I look back at my posts, the ones that have "0" comments are the ones where I truly want an answer. I'm not just voicing my opinion.  Maybe, answering such posts is too much like work!  Thanks for the insight

Jun 11, 2008 05:52 AM
Chris Fisher
Your Virtual Assistant - Concord, CA

Carey - don't we all check our inbox more eagerly since joining AR?!  I think you're right about being open.  I enjoy reading blogs where I learn a little bit about the person writing them.  Keep blogging!

Chris

Jun 11, 2008 01:06 PM
Carey Pott
January Financial - Foothill Ranch, CA

Marie - I think you're on to something there. Unless the post has a tone of desperation about needing an answer, I would probably ignore it too and go on to the more "fun" postings where commenting doesn't require too much thought! ;-)

Chris - I agree, and I think that's why I enjoy your blog!

Jun 12, 2008 05:07 AM
Christine Donovan
Donovan Blatt Realty - Costa Mesa, CA
Broker/Attorney 714-319-9751 DRE01267479 - Costa M

Cyara, I completely understand wanting to see the comments come in from a post.  It makes me say, "Wow, somebody was interested in what I wrote."  I hope you'll keep seeing more notes in your inbox : )

Jun 16, 2008 05:08 PM
Chris Fisher
Your Virtual Assistant - Concord, CA

lol - I got Carey... I was misreading!  haha

Jun 16, 2008 05:14 PM
Carey Pott
January Financial - Foothill Ranch, CA

Christine - thanks! I hope so too!

Chris - no worries, Carey approves everything I write so it may as well be him anyway! I just enjoy the writing portion more than he does so I don't mind taking care of it from time to time.

Cyara

Jun 17, 2008 05:31 AM
Chris Fisher
Your Virtual Assistant - Concord, CA

No wonder I was confused!  lol  Hello Cyara and Carey!  : )

Jun 17, 2008 05:42 AM
-- Casey Brischle
Columbia Bank - Spokane, WA
Spokane Home Loan Mortgage Professional

Carey - another good post on relationship building through transactions.  Well Done!

Jun 18, 2008 05:23 AM
Carey Pott
January Financial - Foothill Ranch, CA

Thanks, Casey, and thanks for adding me as an associate!

Jun 18, 2008 06:54 AM