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The Wednesday Edition for 3/25 - Happiness & Resilience

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Real Estate Agent with DFW FINE PROPERTIES 0506509

"You were designed for accomplishment,

engineered for success, and endowed with the

seeds of greatness." ---Zig Ziglar

 

 

Happiness is knowing that Calloway's Nursery in Flower Mound is apparently considered "Essential Services," because they were open yesterday, I stopped in to buy some new plants. I chose mostly perennials over annuals because they were created for a long or indefinite period of time. However, I did pick some annuals too for immediate gratification.

 

After planting my flowers and turning on the sprinkler system, I noticed a mother and her two young daughters gather around the flowers I planted on the front lawn. As I kept my distance standing by my garage door, I had meaningful conversations with the mom about children, flowers, and life in general. I find flowers brings out the best in people, and although the debate is still up about whether or not the practice of Real Estate is considered "essential services," I must concur, planting seeds to last indefinitely is more than essential, it's a necessity. Stay tuned for photos of my new spring garden.

 

Resilience. I wondered how my daughter is adapting to her new way of life as a virtual teacher in responses to the Coronavirus. As someone who is extroverted and thrives on positive interactions with her students, she let me know she's doing great and enjoys doing what she loves most - teaching. As a mother, it is good news to learn that she and her colleagues can bounce back with strength from global setbacks and professional crises that helps them to teach their students in order to succeed, one must be resilient. 

 

Empathy. In a recent blog post, I mentioned my role as a Girl Scout Leader many years ago. I thought about the girls and the time I helped them to achieve their badges on Historical Preservation. One of our activities was to find someone from the community who could take our troop on an excursion to learn about our communities past. From the meeting hall, to the farmer's fields, the old one room school house, and the cemetery, we were led by Joyce Proper. Since that day, I have kept in touch with Joyce. She is now in her mid 80s.

 

I called her to find out how she's doing. Our conversation lasted longer than usual because I asked more questions about her life's journey. I was surprised to learn she herself got her humble beginnings north of Greenbay, WI in a one-room school house for kindergarten before going to the elementary school. It was there where she learned about plants, the American Indians, and how important agriculture was for their survival. Since Joyce and I volunteered at Grant Woods to preserve the forest, I inquired about what's new? She surprised me to learn, she's still working in the Forest Preserve and shared that the Lady Slippers she discovered when I still lived in Lake Villa, IL had disappeared. Lo and behold, another volunteer shared with her that the Lady Slippers relocated to a new location in Grant Woods, more private, with less humans. 

Our conversations continued and it was then that I realized how important it is to be empathetic towards generations that came before me and to pay attention, listen, and learn. Suddenly, it hit me, life lessons and stories are very important. Storytelling are the seeds that are needed to be planted just like perennials. They need to be told and should  last indefinitely, without stripping our culture from good history lessons. Empathy without sadness for the elderly is a great teacher for those who are willing to listen. ---Patricia Feager 

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PATRICIA FEAGER, REALTOR®
DFW FINE PROPERTIES
3575 LONE STAR CIRCLE SUITE 315
FORT WORTH, TEXAS 76177

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MBA (University of Dallas)
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Paralegal (Southeastern Career Institute)
Associates (3) (College of Lake County)
KU (University of Kansas)

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CRS (Certified Residential Specialist)
SRES (Certified Senior Residential Specialist)
PSA (Certified Pricing Strategies; Mastering the CMA)
CRS (Certified Military Relocation Specialist)
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"With self-discipline most anything is possible." --- Theodore Roosevelt 

 

 

 

  

Comments(28)

Eva B. Liland Century 21 Doug Anderson
Century 21 Doug Anderson - Lancaster, CA
Glad to be of Service 661-714-1643

Taking the time to listen to somebody elses story and really listen is a gift given to those that takes the time. I think this COVID staycation is actually a gift in disguise. Looking forward to see your perennials!

Mar 25, 2020 05:26 AM
Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP
DFW FINE PROPERTIES - Flower Mound, TX
Selling Homes Changing Lives

Eva B. Liland Century 21 Doug Anderson - I do believe the memories of staycation will linger longer than those expensive trips to exotic places and will have more meaning with time. 

Time. Valuable time. That's really all we need to concentrate on and not so much the material world. 

Thank you, for your thoughtful comment.  

Mar 25, 2020 05:33 AM
Kat Palmiotti
eXp Commercial, Referral Divison - Kalispell, MT
Helping your Montana dreams take root

Good morning Patricia! Listening to other's stories is a wonderful thing. We can learn so much, and provide an ear. I participated in a program once where I volunteered to call an elderly shut-in person x times a week (I don't remember the details). It was such a fun time to talk, learn, share. 

Enjoy your day.

Mar 25, 2020 06:01 AM
Sheila Anderson
Referral Group Incorporated - East Brunswick, NJ
The Real Estate Whisperer Who Listens 732-715-1133

Good morning Patricia. I really enjoyed this story and particularly the conversations with your old friend. Be well.

Mar 25, 2020 06:06 AM
Nina Hollander, Broker
Coldwell Banker Realty - Charlotte, NC
Your Greater Charlotte Realtor

What an important point, Patricia. As an "elderly" myself now, I often wish I'd taken more time with both my grandmother and my mother to have elicited their stories and to have listeded.

Empathy without sadness for the elderly is a great teacher for those who are willing to listen.

Mar 25, 2020 06:19 AM
Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP
DFW FINE PROPERTIES - Flower Mound, TX
Selling Homes Changing Lives

Kat Palmiotti - That program that you participated in years ago had so much value. From the stories of those who came before us are guides to herbal medicine, remedies, plants, food, animals, weather, and many different educational lessons too!

I remember spending summers at my Aunt and Uncle's cottage. In the evening, all the adults, except for Gramps (he was my cousin's grandfather from their father's side) stayed indoors playing cards. Gramps would be the only adult building the bonfire; then sitting on the log to tell us stories with the crackling fire as we roasted marshmallows under the stars. Those evenings were magical!

Mar 25, 2020 06:26 AM
Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP
DFW FINE PROPERTIES - Flower Mound, TX
Selling Homes Changing Lives

Sheila Anderson - I always valued Joyce. She may have served a purpose to the community, by being available to scout troops; to me, she was a gift. I learned so much, because of her. It was because of her and all the documentation she and others provided illustrating results about how important volunteer work was needed for the woods and our environment that many native plants and trees were saved. Oh, how I enjoyed working in the forest with Joyce, her husband George, and all the other volunteers. She is a very special lady.  

Mar 25, 2020 06:40 AM
Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP
DFW FINE PROPERTIES - Flower Mound, TX
Selling Homes Changing Lives

Nina Hollander - I know. You're not alone. Mothers and grandmothers had much to learn about life before we were born. Their stories were the real "Little Golden Books," in audio form when kids like you and I were looking at pictures  and reading print books in our early days of education. 

Thanks for using my personal quote, to drive home the point I was trying to make. I appreciate that, very much.  

Mar 25, 2020 06:45 AM
Michael Jacobs
Pasadena, CA
Pasadena And Southern California 818.516.4393

Hello Patricia - while the classroom and the assignment may change, teachers can prove their appreciation of education in different ways.   

Mar 25, 2020 06:51 AM
Roy Kelley
Retired - Gaithersburg, MD

Now that may of us are staying at home and local non-essential businesses are closed, it is a good time to reconnect with old friends by phone, email and on Facebook.

Mar 25, 2020 06:55 AM
Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP
DFW FINE PROPERTIES - Flower Mound, TX
Selling Homes Changing Lives

Michael Jacobs - To be perfectly honest, these last several years have been very stressful on students and faculty staff. May they all be safer!

Today, I'll be on a conference call with the Executive from our Real Estate Board learning how to run and Chair the Professional Development Committee meetings. It's a whole new world! Going virtual, i.e., with Social Media was just the beginning and not the end. 

P.S. I don't mind saying, I'm looking forward to not having to drive into Dallas.  

Mar 25, 2020 07:09 AM
Sheila Anderson
Referral Group Incorporated - East Brunswick, NJ
The Real Estate Whisperer Who Listens 732-715-1133

Hello again Patricia. All of those feelings you spoke about came alive in your beautiful post. :)

Mar 25, 2020 07:11 AM
Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP
DFW FINE PROPERTIES - Flower Mound, TX
Selling Homes Changing Lives

Roy Kelley - Once again, we are reminded just how valuable it is to stay connected with effective and valuable communication. Let's hope everyone can do so professionally. 

Mar 25, 2020 07:12 AM
Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP
DFW FINE PROPERTIES - Flower Mound, TX
Selling Homes Changing Lives

Sheila Anderson - I am everything! Speechless. Grateful. Happy.

Thank you!!!

Mar 25, 2020 07:13 AM
Debb Janes
Nature As Neighbors - Camas, WA
Put My Love of Nature At Work for You

These are lovely messages, Patricia. I especially love the line, "empathy without sadness."  So true, there are many great stories, we need to make sure we don't miss them by ignoring older people. I'm pretty certain many people are so  freaked out about death, they are fearful, to some degree, of really recognizing and giving import to the elderly. ( If I don't think about it, it won't happen to me) It should be the opposite, in many cultures, the older folks are the ones who get the respect- and it is well-deserved. 

Mar 25, 2020 07:56 AM
Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP
DFW FINE PROPERTIES - Flower Mound, TX
Selling Homes Changing Lives

Debb Janes EcoBroker and Bernie Stea JD - Thank you, for your thoughtfulness and kindness. I appreciate hearing your thoughts, very much, because I know that you are insightful.

Reflecting back, I can honestly say I learned a lot about the elderly through my parents. We lived in the land of immigrants and my parents were one of the few first generation Americans on my block. Respect for the elderly is what they instilled in me. I remember taking walks with them in the neighborhood. My mother was multi lingual and could speak to all the East Europeans from all different countries. I used to listen but couldn't speak back in their native tongues. Oh, how they enjoyed learning English and they asked me many questions that mother would translate to me; then me back to them. I also learned to never step in anyones garden, unless they invited me on a personal tour. The scent of the neighborhood at dinner time was different from house to house. 

I know now, that they came from war-torn countries, many from concentration camps. What I remember the most was love not hatred and a willingness to learn.  

Mar 25, 2020 08:30 AM
Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP

Debb Janes EcoBroker and Bernie Stea JD - That was so kind of you to reply once again.


Sincerely, I appreciate you and your feedback too!

Mar 25, 2020 02:40 PM
Debb Janes

What a gift to have those experiences, Patricia. 

Mar 25, 2020 08:43 AM
Myrl Jeffcoat
Sacramento, CA
Greater Sacramento Realtor - Retired

I hadn't realized you were a Girl Scout leader, Patricia.  My daughter spent several years as a leader of Girl Scouts, as well.  My grnaddaughter is a testament to the positive benefit of that organization.

Mar 25, 2020 11:19 AM
Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP

Myrl Jeffcoat - I am so happy to learn that you discovered something new about me! Being a Girl Scout Leader was something I really enjoyed. Between my daughter, her friends she grew up with, and the new scouts, they were confused about what to call me. To make it easier on all of them, I told them to call me Robin. That solved the problem! My daughter didn't have to call me mom, the kids I knew didn't have to call me Mrs. Feager, and others didn't have to reference me as Carrie's Mom. 


I just learned one more new fact about your daughter too! It's a great organization for mothers and daughters to develop leadership and new skills. As a mother/grandmother, I'll bet you heard lots of Girl Scout stories and bought a lot of cookies too! But wasn't it worth it?

Mar 25, 2020 02:46 PM
Myrl Jeffcoat
Sacramento, CA
Greater Sacramento Realtor - Retired

CONGRATULATIONS Patricia, on having this blog FEATURED in the PHOTOS group!

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Mar 25, 2020 11:21 AM
Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP
DFW FINE PROPERTIES - Flower Mound, TX
Selling Homes Changing Lives

Myrl Jeffcoat - Thank you! I really appreciate being featured in the Photo's Group! You're the best!!! Also, I really love the photo you use for your logo. It looks like a painting to me and it would make great placemats to brighten up the kitchen or outdoor patio table too!

Mar 25, 2020 02:48 PM
George Souto
George Souto NMLS #65149 FHA, CHFA, VA Mortgages - Middletown, CT
Your Connecticut Mortgage Expert

Patricia now you not only have the time to smell the flowers, but to plant them as well

Mar 26, 2020 11:46 AM