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Mans best friend,how much do you grieve after ones death

My dog's name is Roscoe. He is a Jack Russell Terrier.....he was also the pick of the litter which means he is the most dominant in his pack. My wife and I wanted a dog and when we picked Roscoe. It took us about 1 month of reading different books,talking to different breeders and checking different locations as to where we can find him.

After finding out his breed was what we wanted, we researched about the breed, finding out they were good with children.....he is also friendly and faithful. We also realized he would be a handful as he would need lots of exercise and lots of attention. We were told he was a small dog but in a 8 Ft. tall body....meaning he looks small but was like owning an amazon dog and he always has to be on a higher perch than everyone else. After all the feedback we recieved.... we picked him out of a group of 6 from a reputable breeders in Lyme Conneticut. At the time we were living in NY and we would always fed him the recommended food and we took him to the vet on a regular basis and kept up with all his shots and medicines he needed when we was ill.

This post was updated from back in 2007.

Roscoe is now 17yrs old and still ticking! If you were to look at him he is as vibrant today as he was when he was a puppy,the life expectancy for his breed is around 15yrs. Well Roscoe went over that plateau and will be 18 yrs old in Nov.2009. It amazes me and my family how he still has a bottomless pit and always begging and barking for food. But in the last 2 yrs he has started to have bladder problems and constantly has to go out. He now likes to wake me up out of a sound sleep at anywhere from 4:30 am to 6:00am. When he was younger he would wake us up at 6am......but those days seem to be over.......but we cope with it and I know he cannot help it.

We love him and he still is a terrific pet.

Lately he has started to have problems getting off the high bed we have and seems to be limping....but when it comes to food he doesn't care about the pain and just runs around like a lightning bolt to get some. My wife wants to plan a 1-2 week trip in a few months. In the past we would leave him for a few days at the vet to be boarded but now we are not sure how he will handle the longer time without us and if something happened while we were away then it would upset me if I wasn't there for him to say goodbye in my own way. This morning I started to think how much longer can he can keep this up. I just hope when I wake up one morning or come home from work that he doesn'tpass before I could say my goodbyes and I did get very sad when thinking about this and don't know how I will feel when it does happen..... but this morning I felt like it could happen soon.

I hope I am wrong and we get another 2 yrs .....but I also do not want him to suffer either.

Some people I know think I make too much out of it and that our world always seems revolve around him. Let's face it..... he has been with me longer than my daughter and I already lost a dog when I was younger.

My mother told me our other dog ran away....but years later I found out they put him to sleep because he was out of hand and very old. It was amazing I was running around the neighborhood looking for him for months.... thinking I would find him and not realizing until my wife told me my mother had told her the truth 20 yrs later that they had put him to sleep. That really made me unhappy for a long time.

So this blog goes out to my best friend...."my pet" Roscoe and god bless! If anyone is interested....I updated this blog so that I can share a new group you can join

PETS ARE PEOPLE TOO, if anyone is interested, please feel free to join!

Neal Bloom

Posted by Neal Bloom-Realtor ®CRS-Weston FL Real Estate on 03/11/2007 04:02 PM

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184 Comments on Mans best friend,how much do you grieve after ones death

MAR

2007

Neal,

This is very sad for you and your family.Our dog Copper is 15 years old as well and he`s like our son..

Having a dog that gets older is very difficult for everyone involved.

Neal, Roscoe is adorable!! I am a big animal lover. We have two dogs, two cats and assorted small pets. Our dog Sam is 10 and has seizures, is on daily medication for a collapsed disc in his back and he's also got arthritis. His teeth are in awful shape, cleanings at the vet seem to do no good, and he's already had to have one pulled. Still, he's the happiest little guy I know. He helps me wake the kids every morning. He follows me so much my husband calls him my entourage. He feels important to our family and he's right. I know the time will come when he won't be with us anymore, and it will be like I'm losing ... well, a cross between a best friend and a child. I raised him from a six week old pup.

You're taking great care of Roscoe. You're not making too much about worrying about him. We don't always get to say good-bye, but Roscoe already knows how much he means to you. I saw a plaque once that said, "Heaven, where all your old dogs are waiting for you at the gate."

I have no idea where I was going with this.

Just wanted you to know that I get where you're coming from. Give Roscoe a pat from his friend in West Virginia.

Thanks Sarah

http://www.sun-sentinel.com/news/yahoo/sfl-cpdogshow11mar11,0,3682849.story?coll=sfla-newsaol-headlines

Hi Neal, I know how you feel about Roscoe. What a cutie! We have two Beagles and spoil them way too much. Our Dalmatian, Jack, had to be euthanized last year. He was 16 and it was just a heartwrenching experience.

But here's the deal. The only way to protect yourself from suffering in this life is to not love anybody (humans and animals). I'm sure you'll agree that's simply not an option. It's the price you pay for love.

I hope Roscoe stays healthy so your family can continue to enjoy him. Tell him Baxter and Cooper say "hi".

I don't know if this will help, but a potential client just gave me a book called "Marley & Me" by John Grogan. She gave it to me last week after we lost our border collie. He was the best and most infuriating friend I ever had. I will miss him forever and there will never be another "Snickers".

My baby died in my arms 2 years ago. She was 22 1/2 and I loved her so. I will never get over it and have not allowed another into my home. Just not ready yet.

You made me cry.

MAR

2007

Neil, my heart breaks for you, as Peggy said it's the price you pay for love. We love our little dog so much and I'm teary eyed thinking about the day he's not with us. I'm sure Roscoe bring so much joy to you and he's an important part of your family. Enjoy your time with him, he's adorable.

Laurie,

Damm! 22 1/2 years, come on ,I didnt know that pets could live that long, tha is longer than some relationships! Fabulous!

Thanks

Neal,

Gee, I hate to be the gloom and doom person of the day, but when you love a dog like you love Rosco you never get over the loss. I lost my Alexandria 5 years ago and it is just like it was yesterday. I miss her and I think of her everyday. She was with me for 17 years. I would love another dog but present conditions prohibit it at this time. Although it would never replace her, no dog could, I love the companionship of dogs. They are so great! Love every moment you have with Rosco and make the most of it for the memories.

Roberta, Thank you, it was a hard thing to write about, but it was bothering me lately, especially that I might need to go out of town for a week and it is hard boarding him long term instead of 2-3days.

Neal,

Is there any way you can take Rosco with you? I used to travel and I made a bed of plywood out of the back seat so that Alexandria could travel with me. I just knew she would be upset if I was gone to long. Our four footed friends don't understand when we are gone and they get frightened that we have left them. I just didn't want her to go through that. What can you do to lessen his fear?

We leave him with our vet who boards, this way if there is a problem, I know he is in good hands, also I will be going from Florida to Arizona in a few months, so driving is not an option ,also he is too much to be in a car for long periods.

He just gets alittle disoriented when we pick him up and kind of does not know where he is for the first half hour, but then he is fine,thanks for asking.

Awww Mr Roscoe! Play with him everyday like it will be his last day. We lost a cat that was less than 5 from acute kidney failure. We thought she just had a cold and her health deteriorated in less than 24 hours after we took her to the vet for the news. The grieving process was long and hard. I couldn't imagine a pet that had been in the family that long! We got a dog almost a year ago and dogs are almost like kids in some respects. I hope Mr Roscoe keeps chugging along in his old age. You keep him happy and healthy and he will stay there for you until he can't any more :(

Thanks Renee, from Roscoe the eveready dog, just keeps on ticking!

MAR

2007

Neal...

I'm with you on this. My K-9 was shot with 22 bird shot. He has a pellet lodged against the nerve that let's him know he has to use the men's room :) The pellet can not be removed without causing severe damage to to his spine. He now has to live outside and in time I will have to put him down because the pellet has also affected his spine and his legs. He is slowing losing his range of motion and is no longer able to climb stairs or get around like he used to. It's very sad to watch this happen to Brutus Tutas. He's been a girl's best friend for many years. I have prepared myself emotionally, but I still get a little upset when I wrap my head around the fact that I will have to be the one who makes the decision about his future. In the meantime I am looking for another police dog so Brutus can train it while he is still able to be the leader of the pack. I am sorry that your pup is having similar problems. The only words of wisdom I can offer is to prepare your heart for the inevitable loss. Now, see. You got me all mushed out. :(

TLW...ROAR!

Neal - a year ago my wife and I left for a long weekend to attend a wedding. During the service we got a call from my mother in law... our 12 year old Chocolate Lab had collapsed and was being rushed to the hospital. One of our best friends was getting married and we were in tears on the phone in formalwear telling the vet to put her to sleep. We had no choice. My mother in law told us she was very peaceful and sweet... we had to do it. It still makes us very sad. We feel her spirit every day in our home.... she possesses our other two dogs when they do things out of their personalities that was so much HER.

It is hard ... it is hard taking care of an older ailing dog. There are steps you can buy even at places like Bed Bath and Beyond to help Roscoe get up and down. If he's happy and loves you and wants to be with you, then it is worth it. If he's in constant pain and not enjoying life then you owe it to him for all the love he's brought to make the tough decision. With Animals, unlike our human companions, we have the legal right to be humane.

I know I'm SUPERcontroversial now... so be it.. .I love my dogs.

My dog growing up had bladder problems because of her heart medicine... at night she didn't want to wake my parents so she would go into their bathroom!! She would go into the SHOWER and pee on the floor. On the nights that my dad would forget and close the shower, she would go into the separate "water closet" and pee on the rug. Needless to say his morning wake up wasn't his coffee those days. She was smart and she found a way to live with it... something dogs do amazingly well.

TLW

I am so sorry for what you are going through with your beloved Brutus. I KNOW how hard this is on you. Been there. Done that. God bless you and him to give you the strength of heart when the time comes. My prayers are with you at this time in you life. Losing a loved one is never easy and let's face it our love is never less just because the one we love has four feet instead of two.

MAR

2007

Hi Neal, Wanted to comment on your post a few days back but I have a few irons in the fire that needed tending. First wanted to say that I was very touched by your story about Roscoe and how amazing that he's lived so long, undoubtedly a tribute to the love and care he gets in your family. Looks like a real cutie-pie!

I am a cat person with 2 cats of different ages. Odo is 11 and Lucylou is 4. My older cat has always been a scaredy cat, which I knew when I adopted him, so it takes very little to rock his world. I've always made it a point to use a pet sitter for him or have someone who knows us look in on him when I'm away. I think it's easier on his temperament. Like you, as my little buddy ages, it's hard to be away for long periods of time so I feel for you.

I used to facilitate a pet loss support group through my local humane society. Once a week, I'd sit down with people who had just lost their best friend and the main thing that everyone struggles with is the difficulty of letting go: when, how, and the guilt of it. The best way to get through is to consider the following: Because you love them, you will make the best and most loving decision at the time. There is no right answer. The time of passing is inevitable for all of us.

For any of you suffering about either the loss of a pet of who know that a loss is coming and want to talk to someone outside of A/R, there is a wonderful service from the Veterinary School at Washington State University at Pullman http://www.vetmed.wsu.edu/ for people suffering from the loss of pet. They were very kind to me when my kitty passed a few years ago and there is no charge. They are also a good resource on all pet things.

I was very moved by all of the kind people responding to this post. Blessings to you, I'm so proud to be in this group.

Neal

There's nothing like a good terrier. I've raised 3 dogs from 8 week old puppies until I had to put them to sleep due to health problems around 13. Two Chow Chows & a Gordon Setter. They were much larger than your friend Roscoe. Small dogs live much longer. Losing a dog is amoung the hardest things I've ever done.

Joe

Thanks guys for your kind thoughts, Joe.... love the beard!

Love Roscoe all you can. We had four mini doxies and we just had to put one to sleep on Monday. We had two girls and two boys. Angel, Annie, Bandit and Koby. Angel was the one we lost. They are like your children and all hae different personalities. Angel had gone thru alot. When we was a puppy she got into the trash and ate something that wouldn't come out. We had to take her to our local vet and they did surgery to remove what she swallowed. She started going down hill, her kidneys and liver started to fail. One of our friend referred us to another vet out of town. We took her there and he consulted with another vet and they dermined that he had to go back and open her up. We ok'd that, anything to save our baby. He went back in and found that the other vet didn't stitch her up right, there were loose stiches and stitches missed and an infection in her that caused her kidneys and liver to start shutting down. Then about the same time my husband had neck surgery, so they both had the neck thing going on. You know the plastic thing they put on dogs so they can't get to their stitches. And my husband has his neck brace on. She recoved from that. Then last Sept we had to take her in again, she wasn't doing good. The vet tested her and it was her kidneys, oh yah, I forgot to mention, when we took her out of town to the vet, he took x-rays and told us her kidneys are small for her body so that didn't help. So last Sept he then gave us pills for her to take. Well, she started we thought doing good then went down hill again. We took her back two weeks ago and he said to take her off the pills and we will do a biopsy of her kidneys to see if she might have a bacteria and then we can treat it. He scheduled her surgery for last monday. Well over the weekend she wasn't doing well at all, not eating, not drinking water. We gave her water and chicken broth by dropper. Then Sunday morning when we came back into the house she met us at the door with her talk wagging. We thought she was feeling better, then Sunday night she ate her dinner and was drinking water on her own. We thought great! She is feeling better. Then as night passed by, she was really going down hill. She could barely walk, she was drowling alot. We knew she wasn't going to make it. She would walk around the house all night putting her head against the wall and just stand there or she would go over to her bed and put her head against it and stand there. It broke our hearts. We took her to the vet on Monday and by the time we got here, 8am, she was really lifeless. The vet told us he could take our money and he could give her a blood transfusion and do other things but she probable wouldn't make it. He flipped her ear up and noticed they were yellowing, her liver was shutting down. So we deceided it was time to put her to sleep. We really broke down. We loved her soooooooo much and miss her. My husband keeps saying, what if we did the transfustion and she was getting better. Then he realizes that it was best. I held her all day Saturday, and cryed. We thought we were going to lose her on Saturday. We are just thankful we got six great years with her.

Here is our Angel:

Here is Angel with me:

Michelle,

I AM SO sorry for your loss. I know the pain. With our animal family it is two fold. One WE are the ones that have to decide when it is time for them to go and two the final good by. God bless you my dear.

You will meet again at Rainbow Bridge!

Hi All,

Very touched by the remarks.

If anyone is interested , I started another group called PETS ARE PEOPLE TOO, if anyone is interested, please feel free to join.

Thanks

MAR

2007

Neal

Is someone suggesting Dogs aren't people? Don't tell Casanova that. I wasn't much of a dog person, until I got Casanova. He is 11 1/2 and I almost lost him a couple years back and devastation didn't even describe how I felt. I have lost family, friends and there was a part of me that felt worse when the Dr. told me, he is probably not going to make it. I am soo thankful he has but know that day is going to come, so Kelly & Casanova

I treasure each day we have together and I am sure as Casanova knows Rosco knows you do as well.

I believe, in my humble opinion that the reason we love dogs so deeply and grieve so extremely is they are the only ones we will ever know that love totally unconditionally. They don't care what we look like, or what we do for a living or how much money we have. All they require is a little food, water and lots and lots of love. If you give freely to your dog they will love you no matter what. You can't love more completely than that.

MAR

2007

I know what you mean about these fuzzy friends. I'm so in love with Chanel my Lhasa-pom. I'd do anything for her!

Lizette

What an adorable family member you have. How bigis she?

Hi Roberta,

Now she weighs about 11 lbs., but I think most of it is hair. She's skinny chicken under all that fluff!

Kelly , Lizette ,Joe,great photos of pets!

Thanks for everyone's thoughts as well!

The "beasties" in our lives...what an influence! I have never met a dog I didn't like. Even cantankerous dogs, I seem to forgive.

I have a boyfriend. (Please don't tell my husband). He has short golden curls and a sexy under-bite. He has a real sweet tail, too, if you know what I mean...

OK, Brutus, his real name is Facia Brute, (Ugly Face), is a toy-poodle. Unfortunately, he is not a Westminster poodle. He has his under-bite, extremely short tail and to top it off a bad heart. But, he doesn't seem to care. Brutus goes a million miles an hour. He loves to play "bingle ball" and will not let you rest. He can retrieve for hours on end. All this with a bad heart. I get nervous sometimes, I think he is just gonna drop dead. In which case, my heart will be broken, too. ---If I think about it I have to laugh about it, because it scares me! I really love this little guy!

Oh God... my heart sinks and smiles for you and the thoughts of my dogs .. whom are no longer with me. I will never be over the loss I had Bailey for 14 years and Barkley for 12 -m to large lovable labs that were my family.

I will recommend for a great great read and espeically for someone in your current shoes the best seller "Marley and Me" - Any person who is a fan of Dogs and has owned a dog for and that dog was family well love, laugh and cry.

This book your relate too deeply and hold dear to your heart. My best to you and Rosco... As many others said in their posts... I have tears in my eyes just thinking about it.

Desiree

MAR

2007

Chris and Donna,love the descriptions of your pets and yes...at least in my life they do make a big influence.

Desiree,didn't know my story made you come to tears, also a few others recommended that same book,thanks!

MAR

2007

I lost a child that lived only 28 hours. I thought I would die too. It never feels good to loose even a little love. Sometimes we never appreciate love like we should, until we loose it. Take care of it while you still can. Good thread.

Thanks John!

John

I have experienced both. I lost a child and I lost my beloved Alexandria (a dog that didn't know she was a dog). I still grieve. My son died in 1969 and Alexandria died in 2002. I don't cry every day, the pain moves from the front brain to the hind brain, but it is still there.

The deeper we love the greater the loss when we lose the ones we love be they two legged or four. But not to love is out of the question because just think of all you would have missed. I'll take my chances with loving every time. Hang in there your with friends. :)

Neal...

Do you know about the pet food recall? The recall indicates that the dog food that is being recalled is causing kidney failure in dogs.

<CLICK HERE> For more information about this.

Feel free to write a post about it. I make no claim to this idea :)

TLW...ROAR!

Hi Billie,

Yes, we saw it on the news right after we signed out of A/C last night.

No alarm, his brand was only pouches and cans, our was the large bags, but I still will be calling the number to confirm,that is all I need, he already has enough problems with his kidneys, no need to accelerate it.

Thank you kindly.

Just wanted to make sure you knew about it. :)

Of course you did, I feel we are like family from all the blogging

LoL!

God...I got Elderberry this time!

MAR

2007

I love this! I just knew that I'd see a bunch of picures! So here's my "baby" (I tease that my children wouldn't give me grandchildren so I had to get a doggie)

shadow

MAR

2007

Sally

Your "baby" is adorable. Thank you for sharing her pic with us. I too love to see others babies. :)

Brook 4/3/1995 - 9/30/2006

Words cant even describe...

Molly

I am so sorry. I know greving can be so hard. Just remember the Rainbow Bridge!

I know she's waiting for me!

Thanks:)

APR

2007

Neal,

Incredible responses to an incredible tear jerker! Hope you had a safe and uneventful trip back in time to get the listing!

Teri

Teri,

Are you in another local?

Thanks, did you send it to Colleen? HEHE

Hey there ..I enjoyed our little talk, next time maybe I can party more,instead of driving.

APR

2007

A much better idea and perhaps it could be somewhere halfway to be fair to all!

yes true, closer to me for sure!

They are all so special & we have lost many dogs, cats & horses over the years because we have owned many. But we will get others and love them & lose them as well - you'll know when the time is right to let go. I have many fond memories of ours that are gone but I love the ones we have now. Adopt & save one or two - it is very rewarding & they seem to know that you rescued them.

Hi Kathleen,

Well Roscoe is still running on all cylinders today...as a matter of fact,he is bugging me for food, I swear....when he does go, if I put a biscut in front of him .,he might wake up.

Thanks, very tough.

APR

2007

Hi Neal,

Hang in there. Enjoy every minute you have with Roscoe.

I lost my baby (Chubby) four years ago after a long battle with cancer. I feel so guilty that I wasn't there when he past away. He was slowly deteriorating the last few days before my wedding. I didn't want to put him to sleep. I figure once I come back from my honeymoon, I would decide then. Chubby past away a day before I was to return from my trip. To this day, I still feel that I deserted him when he need me most. After all these years, the grief doesn't get any better. I still have good days and bad days.

Best wishes for you and your baby.

APR

2007

Yen,

You definitely struck one of my cords...I do not know how I would have handled that one.

When my daughter was born, I took him to the vet and they thought they found cancer...the vet didn't want to tell me but they thought he had 3 months and I was pretty upset then and had mixed emotions between the birth of my daughter with was joyous...but the possible loss of him..well that was almost 11 yrs ago and he is approaching 17 and he still amazes me.

He can be a real pain in my butt....but generally very affectionate and I think he still likes to spite me.

APR

2007

Bless you & Roscoe! I had to make that very difficult decision not once, but twice last year and am still greiving.

Rosie was a Boxer mix who was resuced from the Augusta GA animal control facility after being used to hunt pigs (she was surrendered because she wasn't agressive enough!) and was full grown when we got her. She lived with us and blessed our lives for 16 years; last summer she was diagnosed with congestive heart failure. After being on Lasix and several other medications, she was having great difficulty breathing and the decision to euthanize had to be made.

Buster, a purebred boxer was rescued from the University of Georgia after being used for a feed study. He was also full grown and was with us for about 7 years. Buster started losing weight and not eating and was diagnosed with stomach cancer (after 2 vets, numberous xrays and finally an ultrasound). We fed Buster Ensure with a syringe for 6 weeks while exploring options, but there just weren't any, when he got to the point that he couldn't go out and he had lost 35 pounds, we just had to go ahead. Last year was really tough!

Rosie Buster

Michelle,

Sometimes I wonder if I should have wrote this post....too many sad stories...I'm not ready and neither is Roscoe..hopefully we will have a few more with him...thanks and sorry.

Neal, I understand the sorrow. Maybe what I need to tell you about instead was the joy they brought and the stories my kids laugh about. I'll share this with you as encouragement (I really didn't mean to hijack this post...and I'm writing a full piece that I hope to post soon). Two weeks before Buster passed, we received a call from a rescue organization about a 6 month old Boston Terrier who was being surrendered because his owner was being called to active duty in Iraq, so even while feeling the pain of Buster's illness we decided to bring him home....meet Bo below! His antics brought smiles to our faces from the day he arrived. I will never forget the dogs who have blessed my life and been members of our family, but we keep our hearts & doors open and have 4 dogs who help us live with joy today!

Michelle,

You are not hijacking my post..I welcome the comments..look how many I have gotten.

Also you can post it to my group PETS ARE PEOPLE TOO if you want when you are done.

Thanks again.

APR

2007

I am pugged by my portable pooch, Lilly the pug. Lilly at age 6 months

She is my buddy and I would be sad to leave her in a kennel too. So we have developed relationships with people we can leave her with who will take care of her very well. And I will do the same for them if they need to travel. (With a pug, it is important to find people who understand the limitations of the breed.) So when I took a 10 day trip to St Maarten, I was completely content knowing she was being loved and cared for, as was my cat-monster Louis.

Good luck finding someone to leave your friend with, and don't forget to impose on the rest of your friends & family! I have even sat dogs for friend/clients because it was important that the dog was well cared for.

Thanks..cute dog.

I probably won't get another later on.

WOW you hit the nail on the head with regards to how you feel about your dog. Animals are important and if you've had one for a significant amount of time they become family PERIOD! I cannot imagine my dog not being around. She's so happy to see me when I come home from work...I find hanging out with her is very theraputic. So to answer your question NO you're not wrong for feeling this way...it's a part of life. I hope you do get at least 2 more year's out of him!

Trenton,

Thanks for stopping by...he is right here waiting for me to give him part of my dinner.

Pets are very important part of our lives. I volunteer with New England Pet Partners -- pets to to senior homes, help kids read and just are members of the family! We honor our pets and wish them long lives.

To me ,although he can be difficult at times...he keeps us company when we are alone.

I also have seen shows where they give life prisoners pets to help rehabilitate them.

APR

2007

I am reading these posts, teary eyed, with one dog on lap and one under my desk (who has bad gas!). Don't feel bad about posting this, it makes me feel even more bonded to this site and to the rainers who have opened up. Sometimes being the competent ones all the time gets lonely, pets and rainers know that..thank you.

Victiroia,

Thanks.

I am real and sometimes I get a little sad about it.

But I am still all man! HA!

Funny Victoria I just noticed an odor coming up from under my feet and it is not me. Got to love them!

Kathleen,

I see that too many times a day with his bladder both one and two!

APR

2007

I missed your post the first time around. And found it now because of a link from Michelle. I completely get where you are coming from! My dog Belle is a very important part of my family. I savor / treasure every day I have with her. She is just such a character. Sounds like Roscoe is too. Here's hoping you have another 2+ good years with him.

Debi,

Roscoe is still running at pretty high speed.

Hopefully we have some more time with him.

MAY

2007

Neal,

My cat accidentally died when he was only 5.5 years old. My healing process did not begin until I got another cat after 3.5 years after his death. Nothing will replace him, but I just had to move on.

I'm a big animal person, too. We have a Beagle named Shiloh who we got from a shelter and a lab/pekingese cross named Conan. I also have a slew of cats, which definitely brighten my day.

Shiloh

Baby Harold

Henry and I

This is Goose-Goose and me

Conan Sleeping in the recliner

Can you tell I love them? They make me smile, and after a stressful day, there's no one better to go home to than my fiance and my animals. :)

You can see the whole family on Catster and Dogster!

Anna,

Sorry to hear of your loss but i am glad for your recovery.

Hey Joslyn,

I see you are following me now. You have a real pet oriented home

Mine still loves us but also gives me stress!:)lol!

Roscoe is lucky. I have an 18 year old pet and I will not leave him because it would be too hard on him. I feel my beloved pets are with me, always. It is difficult to process in the moment, but for some reason, animals are only given to us for relatively short periods. I think all we can do is be kind to them and be the best owners we can be.

MAY

2007

We are going to AZ for a week in June and he has not been away that long for a long time so I hope he remembers us when we get back.

MAY

2007

I tell you what...when it comes to a pet some people just don't realize how it becomes part of the family.

MAY

2007

Sally,

Mine ia a part of the family and like the son I never had

JUN

2007

this is so touching - thanks for sharing

It has been over two years since our "Bracken" died. She was just under 15. Our vet, who only does house calls, came out and put her out of her misery. He was very compassionate, and even sent a card talking about how much he enjoyed her. He was her vet for her entire life. We haven't yet gotten another dog, but lately I find myself looking at other's dogs with envy. Probably going to happen soon.

JUN

2007

Thesa,

Thanks for talking to me yesterday on the phone about this..I know you can relate to my story.

David,

I appreciate your thoughts...Roscoe has been having a few bad days since we returned from vacation and he needs a few tests done..I could not sleep last night thinking about what will be and I am trying to get prepared for it yet he is still such a vibrant dog I hope he might actually improve...but at his age I will just have to hope we get as much time as we can with him..thanks

Here is Maddie, I lost her at 11 to cancer.

Here is my new Casey that I got 2 years later

Casey had gone through 4 surgeries at the age of 1 after the hospital messed her up on the first surgery. she is now 4 and gets around pretty well. I feel for anyone who has pet troubles!

Casey is now a certified canine good citizen and a certified therapy dog.

(sorry for the photo size problems, I am not good with photo stuff)

Carla

Carla,

Thanks for thinking of this post..sorry to hear about your loss..but happy to hear about the new life!

JUL

2007

Neal,

I know exactly how you feel....I had to make a decision like that in January with my little Pomeranian, Bogie...In Memory of Bogie. It was one of the hardest decisions that I ever had to make, but I knew that to keep him alive would only make him suffer more and I would only be satisfying my own self because I knew that I didn't want to let him go.

The pain never really goes away and I still have 'waves' of sadness that come over me when I think of my loss.

My thoughts are with you.

VAL

Val,

Quick update on Roscoe,

He just recently had some tests done..his kidneys are apparently damaged and not getting better. He is not suffering yet and still is vibrant but drinks eats and urinates every few hours...so the doctor told us all we can do at this point is put him a low protein diet..but he won't be getting better..just prolonging his life a bit. Thanks for your thoughts.

Neal,

It sounds to me like Roscoe still has some good time left, and I am sure that you will enjoy every moment that you have with him.

VAL

Neal,

I am so sorry to hear the update on Roscoe. I prayed for a complete recovery. I wish you and him well. I think one of the worst things next to a child being sick is to have you dearest friend sick and not be able to do anything. You are in my prayers.

JUL

2007

Val,

Thanks again! Happy 4th!

Roberta,

Hopefully he will give us additional time...he seems to be ok so far...but probably will eventually slow down and I guess I will have to wait and see....I plan on trying the change in diet..maybe it will buy him even more time..but if he starts to suffer then I might have to make a hard decision and I am trying to prepare now rather than later. Thanks for the kind words. Happy 4th!

JUL

2007

Neal,

What I did for my Alexandria when she need more protein was to buy Baby Meat. I used all of it except ham. It is high in protein for our babies so I knew it would be good for her, and they love it. You might try that. I wish you God's love and more year of happiness with your beloved friend. :) Happy 4th to you and yours. :)

JUL

2007

All of these stories touch my heart about your pets. I know our family has had several dogs (Lady, Ginger, and PJ) - all three of these animals were dropped off in our neighborhood. I can only watch an animal suffer so long, so my family and I took each of them in and within days these dogs grew to be part of our family. Lady and PJ lived for 16 years and Ginger lived until she was 13.5 years. Broke our hearts when they passed but we did not want them to suffer either.

JUL

2007

Sonja,

Thanks for stopping by to read this and hopefully things will be ok for a while.

Neal... I just wanted to stop by and say that I am sorry to hear about your dog Roscoe and what he is going through. And I don't want to say this in a negative tone, but when he does go to doggy heaven, I hope he goes with little or no pain.

Jeff,

Thanks for stopping by..we just found out he has some kidney damage and we won't know until we see later symptoms. So far he is still moving around pretty well for his age.

JUL

2007

Neal it is so hard to have to make a decision when having to deal with things like this. I have 2 Dobermans and one is really sick. I take him to a chiropractor to help him but am fearing I will soon have to make the dreaded decision. I find myself wishing he would just go to sleep and not wake up. I don't know how I will recover or his brother recover if I do have to put him down. It is such a funny thing as to how attached we get to our animals. I never thought of any type of situation like this that I would have to go through when I agreed to take them on-I inherited them from a past boyfriend who past away-I guess that is why I am sooo attached. For some reason I thought they would be here for ever. My dobbies are the only living reminder of him and when they are gone I am afraid I will loose those memories as well. I hope what ever happens you make it through.

Penny,

I am glad Roscoe is still going strong..thanks for reading

JUL

2007

It is so hard when they get old. Enjoy every second with them when you can. I lost Savannah, my Golden Retreiver in March, she was 15. I lost Sinbad, my 19 year old persian in May. I was and have been so devistated. I still have Sinbad's son, Barkley and he is also very sad, he cries all the time. These animals are so sensitive. My thoughts are with you.

Barkley

BARKLEY

JUL

2007

Thanks for your thoughts...he just keeps on tic-ken so hopefully he will be around a little longer.

JAN

2008

Neal,

What a wonderful relationship you and your family have with Roscoe. He has been with you for a long time and he is a "member" of your family. I can't understand why people can't understand the bond we have with our "pets". Too bad for them, they don't know the meaning of love from those furry little ones. If they did, the world would be a better place. How you treat animals is one of the character builders in life. God Bless...Roscoe is a blessed one for having you for a Daddy.

Nicholas,

I wrote this a long time ago and thankfully Roscoe is still with us alive and kicking. Hopefully he will live a bit longer without too much suffering. I have already gotten more life out of him than we fairly expected.

You must have done something right for him to thrive this long. Unfortunately if you really love them losing them is always very difficult.

Gayle,

When that day does come I am sure it will be a tough day.

FEB

2008

I had a Jack Russell also. I had "Jack" for 11 years. That has been 5 years ago and I still miss him. When that time comes you just have to remember the life you gave him and the joy he gave you.

Melissa,

Since he is approaching 18 ...more and more do I think about it every day....thanks.

FEB

2008

Neal, I can't believe I found this today, of all days. My version of Roscoe is my 19 year old cat Mister Kitty, He has the biggest heart and most positive, loving attitude of any person or animal I have ever know. I wrote a post a week or so ago about his weight loss and a bad tooth. Well, Thursday they put him under to check his teeth to see why he wasn't eating and found a massive tumor in his throat. I thought we maybe had another year and was suddenly hit with a horrible reality. I asked the vet if we could take him home so I could at least spend one last day with him When faced with the ultimate decision, I realized he and I weren't ready. Yesterday seemed a bit rough and the tumor is growing so fast I thought he might not make it but by evening he was eating chicken, purring and smiling as if he were totally healthy. Today it almost seems like he is his old self. The doctor said I will know when, and I guess I will, but man this is tough. Mister got me through a divorce and has been there for me and my family and the loss seems unbearable. He is so strong and clearly, by all of his loving purring, is not quite ready. I guess when he stops purring I will know. Sorry to go on.

Neal, Roscoe is precious. Terriers are my favorite breed. I have a pit/black lab mix that is my pride and joy. He is definitely a "mama's boy", at my feet as I type this. It breaks my heart to think that one day he will no longer be around, and my heart goes out to you. Forget those fools that think your life revolves too much around Roscoe. He is a member of your family, as important as a "human kid", and you love him.

My dog has a bad hip and we give him Glycoflex frequently to keep his joint health up (it has helped!) and a doggie pain pill if he is having a hard time. I wonder if Roscoe might benefit from the Glycoflex?

I had a yorkie that died at the age of 14. I came home from work one day at 3 p.m. No sooner did I sit down to eat than I heard a noise in her room. She fell over and died in my arms. I really think she waited for me to get home and say "goodbye". It was absolutely one of the most terrible things I've had to go through, but I am so glad I got to say goodbye. I hope that when Roscoe passes on you will be able to be there and receive closure, but I hope that he is around for years to come even more!

Diane,

As you can see..this was written long before we knew each other. Roscoe is still going strong...but I really can't talk about ti because I feel one day it is inevitable he will pass..hopefully peacefully. Thank you!

Angela,

Thanks as well..it is too emotional for this man to think about and yes...I hope I am with him-when he does. I have been doing a bit of traveling lately and I am more worried he will when I'm not there to be with him...his food has glucosemine in it for his joints.

MAR

2008

Neal,

I couldn't read all of the posts - just got too teary-eyed, but have you checked into having someone stay at your home while you travel? As a former vet-tech, there were many a time that our clinic clients would ask us to stay at their place and pet-sit (we only helped out those clients that were like family - the rest we would refer to professional pet-sitters who were licensed vet-techs) and we could be there to give the attention, love and care that those elderly or "special needs" pets really needed. I know several times, a few of us were able to rush a pet to our vet clinic (luckily we worked at a 24 hour emergency clinic) and get the four-legged family member the emergency care they needed. Hopefully your vet has an on-call service when they are not available - as well as keeping Roscoe on the necessary meds, appropriate diet and supplements, your love and care always supplements whatever else they need.

I have two 10 year old Chocolate labs, and I know the day they go I will be totally devastated - as I was with each dear pet that I have lost, I mourn, go get another to love, and keep the cycle going. Here's a little something I have kept in my emails, for it goes around and around, and I truly do love this version of life, and I hope it helps you when you most need it! God bless!

Why Dogs Don't Live Longer Than People

Being a veterinarian, I had been called to examine a ten-year-old
Irish Wolfhound named Belker. The dog's owners, Ron, his wife,
Lisa, and their little boy, Shane, were all very attached to Belker
and they were hoping for a miracle.

I examined Belker and found he was dying of cancer. I told the family
there were no miracles left for Belker, and offered to perform the
euthanasia procedure for the old dog in their home.

As we made arrangements, Ron and Lisa told me they thought it would
be good for the four-year-old Shane to observe the procedure. They
felt as though Shane might learn something from the experience.

The next day, I felt the familiar catch in my throat as Belker's
family surrounded him. Shane seemed so calm, petting the old dog
for the last time, that I began to wonder if he understood what
was going on. Within a few minutes, Belker slipped peacefully
away. The little boy seemed to accept Belker's transition without
any difficulty or confusion.

We sat together for a while after Belker's death, wondering aloud
about the sad fact that animal lives are shorter than human lives.
Shane, who had been listening quietly, piped up, "I know why."

Startled, we all turned to him. What came out of his mouth next
stunned me. I'd never heard a more comforting explanation.

He said, "People are born so that they can learn how to live a good
life- like loving everybody all the time and being nice, right?"
The four-year-old continued, "Well, dogs already know how to do that,
so they don't have to stay as long."

Neal, My thoughts go out to you and Roscoe and family...I have 4 dogs...2 jacks...and I can't bear the thought of life without them. We can only be grateful for the joy they bring us for the very short time they are with us...

MAR

2008

It's really wonderful to read these comments, about how much our pets mean to us. I feel for you, Neal, because it's hard to face the reality of our aging pets. But, I feel compelled to say something. For those who have lost a pet, and feel like you have to stop feeling your grief before getting another pet, it's the act of getting another pet that will lessen your grief. And, instead of asking yourself, do I really need another dog or cat, you should be asking does a dog or cat need me. And, the answer to that question is a resounding YES!

Neal, I just came back to finish my story. We had to put Mister Kitty to sleep on Saturday. It was the hardest thing I have ever had to do. He was still fighting but could no longer swallow/eat. He paced around the house even though he could barely walk. He was so strong. I kept waiting for him to give up but he didn't. I agonized over what to do. The decision was so much harder than I had expected, I guess because Mister was still mentally tough and his same loving self. He never complained. There is such a horrible emptiness in the house since then but I know it was the best thing. To answer your question...I don't know how long it will take. I know I feel a sense of relief that he is no longer suffering but no other cat or dog can ever begin to replace him.

Every time I come back to this post I cry!

Thanks you all for stopping by this again. I'm not going to answer individually because it's hard. Believe it or not but Roscoe is still going but we know it's only a matter of time. I'll keep you updated.

MAR

2008

Thanx for stopping by to update...I'm glad Roscoe is still carrying around spirit...They are tough critters!!

MAR

2008

Neal,

No matter how much it hurts when you lose your canine companion, it will never surpass all the joy that he brought you over the years.

A month and two days ago, I lost my 14 1/2 year old Golden Retriever. Sherman was in great shape, but came in lame from his daily fetching in early January. By the next day, he couldn't walk. He had age related degenerative disk disease. After six weeks of anti-inflamatories, steroids, acupuncture, and chiropractics, Sherman's pain reached the point that we had to let him go. It was especially difficult because he was in perfect health except for those damn back legs. I'll miss him forever, as I miss his mother who preceeded him almost exactly 12 years to the day. The sadness and pain is testament to all that they have given us in their life. Why do many of us do this over and over again? Simply because it's worth it. It would be insulting to the memory of all our past companions to do anything else.

MAR

2008

Thanks for stopping by...I'll keep everyone who is interested with an update. Thank you!

Neal-

It is really difficult dealing with the health of an older dog, and even worse, deciding when the time is right for euthanasia. In my adult life, I've had four dogs, three of which are gone now. When they get old and infirmed you end up wishing they would just go to sleep and not wake up. Usually that does not happen and you end up deciding on the "right" time. Of course, no time ever feels right. We become so used to protecting our pets that we feel helpless when we can no longer do so. Having had to decide to euthanize three dogs, I can tell you from experience that it never gets easier. My little guy, Awgy is 12 now, and still pretty healthy, but I dread the day when I have to make that decision for him. Here is his picture:

Awgy Pic

Here is something called Rainbow Bridge, that, while it is a nice sentiment, never fails to bring tears to my eyes, so only read it when you feel that you can. (Disclaimer: I've seen it in various forms and in several places, so I don't think it is copywrited)

Just this side of heaven is a place called Rainbow Bridge.

When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, that pet goes to Rainbow Bridge.
There are meadows and hills for all of our special friends so they can run and play together.
There is plenty of food, water and sunshine, and our friends are warm and comfortable.

All the animals who had been ill and old are restored to health and vigor; those who were hurt or maimed are made whole and strong again, just as we remember them in our dreams of days and times gone by.
The animals are happy and content, except for one small thing; they each miss someone very special to them, who had to be left behind.

They all run and play together, but the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks into the distance. His bright eyes are intent; His eager body quivers. Suddenly he begins to run from the group, flying over the green grass, his legs carrying him faster and faster.

You have been spotted, and when you and your special friend finally meet, you cling together in joyous reunion, never to be parted again. The happy kisses rain upon your face; your hands again caress the beloved head, and you look once more into the trusting eyes of your pet, so long gone from your life but never absent from your heart.

Then you cross Rainbow Bridge together....

Rich,

It's amazing how many people were drawn to this post written so long ago...thank you for stopping by.

You're welcome, Neal. I am a real animal lover and get pretty emotional about these things. Obviously, there are a lot of other animal lovers out there as well.

Yes...I don't like to talk about it too much but I guess it turned into an interesting post.

MAR

2008

I'm glad Rich posted Dear Abby's Rainbow Bridge. It was hard to read the last several posts as I tried not to cry. Everyone's pictures they shared are fantastic. In December 2006, 3 days before Christmas, I had to have my Boxer, Charles, put to sleep. It was so hard to say good-bye. I had him for 9.5 years. I had him before I met my husband and before my daughter was born, so when I was single, he was who I went home too everyday after work and he was always so glad to see me. I keep pictures of him everywhere and think about him everyday. The last few weeks thinking about him have been even harder for some reason. There are no magic words or advice that will make it any easier, and I think that no matter how much you prepare for it, you still aren't really prepared for it. My heart goes out to Roscoe and your family and I hope he has a few more years left in him!

Here is a picture of my Charles in his younger day before all the gray set in around his face. He was extra special because he was really big for his breed. 100lbs. of pure baby!

Charles

Neal

It's been a while since I commented on this post, but the last entry made me want to comment once more.

I believe the reason so many responded to this post is because dogs occupy a special place in our hearts and lives. They just know how to love us unconditionally. No one else can really say that. We can be totally free to be ourselves with our dogs. They don't care who or what we are. I have seen dogs that weren't really well cared for by their owners all but give up their lives to save or protect them.

I have always said that in our lives there are two types of dogs. There are "heart" dogs and then there are "soul" dogs. The heart dogs occupy our hearts and we love them dearly, but a "soul" dog will climb into our hearts and soul and snuggles there forever. They are the ones that we will never forget, they are the ones that we will dream of when they are gone. A person is truly lucky to find a soul dog and if you can say you have had more than one in your entire life time then you have been blessed.

My soul dog was Alexandria. She was a beautiful delicate small Doberman. She graced my life for 16 years and then she passed. 16 years is almost two life times for that breed and although I am grateful for every single day she was with me it was not long enough.

She has been at the Rainbow Bridge for 6 years now. Not a day goes by that I don't think about her. In fact many times a day. But if I get truly sad I read the poem on my wall. "The Rainbow Bridge", and it gives me hope and makes me happy that she just might be having the time of her life with all kinds of friends until I get there.

It sounds to me as though Rosco is your soul dog and may you have many more years with him, but when he is gone, just remember the "Rainbow Bridge" and then it won't hurt so much.

Have a wonderful day.

Thanks for stopping by again guys. I'll keep you all up to date...still going strong.

Neal... Glad to hear that things are still going strong. I have a 16 yr old Min Pin named Quinn. She will be 17 on Thanksgiving. She's diabetic, takes insulin twice a day, has had the lens on both eyes replaced, but still lost most of her vision, has gotten to the point that when we are away from home for long has to be in her kennel because of bladder problems or is it she's just mad that we left her, were not sure....hahaha. But let there come a sunny warm day and if we go for a walk she's there, we have a pet stroller but she doesn't want that, she will walk most if not all the 1.5 mi track around the park. I know where your coming from, we've been at the vets office @ 2:30 a.m. wondering if she's going to make it... then here you are a grown man standing in the ICU area crying your eyes out talking to her in her cage thinking that she's not going to make it....then here we are at home for another go at life and you know it's all worth it. When she gets to the point that her life isn't good then we will make a decision and we've been close more than once but like you I hope that we have another few weeks, months, years with this incredible creature. She has helped me through the loss of both my parents, to a change in professions and will hopefully be here for many more years of happiness.... You just listen to Roscoe and enjoy the life you have..... That's what I do with Quinn and I've not regretted one minute of it.

David,

I guess this post will never die either....amazing that when I wrote it ...the words came out terrible...I just recently updated it...thanks for stopping by.

MAR

2008

Neal-I got a notice that you updated the post and also notices of Tricia, Roberta and David's posts, so I came back to visit. This hits an emotional chord with all animal lovers. They get into our hearts as soon as they come into our homes and they stay there forever. It is something that can't be explained to a person who has never loved a pet, but something that needs no explanation to those who have.

APR

2008

Hello Neal - Our 8 yr old Buddy sends well wishes to Roscoe - and consider a home/dog sitter :) when you leave for vacation - they do much better than the Vet or Boarding places :) Great Post.

Sincerely,

Grace

Neal, I haven't read all of the comments to your post (so many), so I hope I'm not repeating anything. You mentioned that Roscoe is limping. Our 15 year old husky was limping for just a few months and we assumed that it was arthritis due to her age. Unfortunately, it is bone cancer -- a tumor is developing in her upper front leg. We found out because my daughter works at the vets' clinic and she insisted on the xray. So far the cancer has not advanced to her lungs, but the vet says she has maybe 6-8 weeks left. If you haven't already had Roscoe's leg xrayed, you might want to do that to be sure you know what is going on. In any event, the pain in his leg can be treated with Rimadyl and pain killers. Hope all goes well and that you get another two years with him. And don't let anyone tell you that you worry too much or care too much. It isn't easy taking care of an old dog, but it is all worth it.

APR

2008

Sallie,

Thankfully his limping disappeared so I never did update that...it must of been sometihng that was just hurting him but apparently he got over it.

Aloha Neal,

Thank you for sharing your moving story of your family member Roscoe, and thank you to all those who have contributed their stories and photos of their own beloved ones.

I strongly believe that there is a reason dog spelled backward is God; it's the unconditional love. It is also my belief that God like, unconditional love can never die or be destroyed in our hearts and souls.

By loving and observing the quality of life that these little lights bring to our lives, we learn valuable lessons on the power of love. Their transitions from life to death helps us deal with our own mortality and allows us to recognize how powerful and important loving relationships are to our well being.

Bless the lights in our lives,

APR

2008

Neal

We love our pets unconditionally. Their only expectation of us; is that we return that love unconditionally. Like Laurie Manny I rencently lost my boy "Me-Too" who died in my arms and grieve for him to this day. We have a sixth sense in regards to knowing our time may be short-

A month before Me-Too was called to a greater purpose, I rescued a little pug on his way into the pound. His former owner was sent to a convalescent home and the family could not keep him. I happened to be in the right place at the right time and was able to get the "Me-Too" paw print of approval on this little guy.

For a month Me-Too showed him the ropes, "This is where we go to the bathroom", "This is where we lay down" "Don't bother the family when they are eatting" "Don't wonder from the yard" He was an awesome mentor to the new kid.

When ME-Too left us-we grieved, inconsolably for weeks-and through it all, there was the little guy doing lap duty dutifully. He knew. Just as we were able to give him a new life-he helped us tremendously in coping with the the change in our old life. I am so gratefull, I was in the right place at the right time to bring little "Winston" home when I did.

He is joined now by another new addition, Cody (Commander of Chaos) a golden retriever pup who at 9 months old keeps us hopping and his utter joy at playing reminds us of our best boy in his early years. Another rescue.

Each are individuals and have very unique personalities. I am grateful Me-Too left us in the competent and capable paws of Winston, who had his approval. Winston in turn is helping us to break in the new kid.

The cycle of life continues.

APR

2008

It's still amazing to see comments coming in on this post written so long ago! Roscoe is right here with me as I'm writting...he's still laying around!

APR

2008

I'm glad you have had your experience for so long. With age comes changes. I had my jump shot last year, today my knees won't allow such.

Neal, I never saw this post up to today. I'm glad your Roscoe keeps on living and sharing his life with you. We just lost our beloved Max, a sweet and loving lab of almost 9 years. Thank you for sharing your story with us.

Thanks for all the kind comments...I can't keep up with them!

APR

2008

Neal....just enjoy that sweet little Roscoe as long as you are blessed to have him. I'm such a animal person both dogs and cats. I lost my Snookey last March (my kitty) and let me tell you, it was sooo hard. He was only 10 yrs old but he had cancer. I still have what I call my "Snookey melt downs" and I never know when they will hit. So just love, love, love your furry little person as long as you can! and by the way...he is really a cutie!

Tank

Hi Neal, Thanks for sharing Roscoe with us. Cherish the time you have had with him. Your family and Roscoe were very lucky to have found each other.

This is my Tank, my english mastiff. When he died suddenly, I swear it was worse than losing a person. He was 235 lbs of pure love and affection. He hands down was the best dog I have ever had. He actually thought he was a person. When my youngest was learning to walk he would literally use Tank as a trampoline to propel himself onto the couch. He'd lay there Jack would take a running start, jump on his belly, and onto the couch. Tank never even lifted his head up, he'd just wag his tail. It took me forever to come to grips with losing him. Come to think of it, I am still working on it.

What I have learned though since then, having seen friends lose their pets, and in my own experience is this: If you know death is coming it is horrible, but your gradually have time to process it. You loss is awful but I found that a lot of people find themselves ready, or need to welcome another pet into their home to help the healing process. This really suprised me at first, but now I understand it. I think. On the other hand, if you lose a pet suddenly and it is unexpected... I think people are horribly sad, in shock, maybe even angry and tend to take a lot longer to open their hearts to another pet, or resent the idea of another pet. In time though they heal. We all heal.

APR

2008

Thanks for all those great comments and soon I will be posting a recent photo of Roscoe who thankfully is still going strong.

When I was in school I took a grieving class from a teacher that was also does counseling for people that have lost a pet. She did one class on the subject, and it was very interesting. Some people do not understand that the grieving process is the same for a pet as it is for a person. They expect you to get over it and may not be as compassionate as they should be. I was glad to see the link Irene posted for possible help for those that are grieving.

APR

2008

A post written over a year later and still lot's of readers that were interested..thanks for stopping by Julie!

APR

2008

I'm so sorry about your loss. I also posted when we had to let our Buddy go. It was so hurtful and we still miss them each day!

Later in the rain~Deb

Hi Debra,

Not to embarrass you but Roscoe is still alive and kicking!

Neal, lol...I just read your last comment. I'm so glad Roscoe is still kicking! I had my first dog, Lulu, a golden retriever before I had my kids. Lulu was my life, for quite some time. She went EVERYWHERE with me. She had a "babysitter" that came to the house to play with her when I was working too much, etc. I was nuts about that dog.

5 years ago Lulu got cancer, and she went quickly. I could tell she was in so much pain and I couldn't handle seeing her like that anymore. I finally made the hardest decision to have her put to sleep. I was there with her and it broke my heart. She was only 12. I was so upset, that I couldn't work for a week. I felt so silly being so upset about a "dog", but she was so much more to me than that. She truly was my best friend. Everyone loved Lulu.

5 years later, here i sit with Gus, my new best friend. It took me almost a year to even consider getting another dog, and I'm SO thankful I did. I am nuts about him as well. He is so special to me also. I adopted him from a Golden Retriever rescue. (didn't want to go thru the puppy stage again). Gus is my constant companion and I love him just as much as I did Lulu.

You will know when Roscoe has just worn out completely. You will feel it in your heart and it will hurt. I promise you, you will love another dog someday. I'm proof of that!

Wow, I'm writing a book and I apologize! This just really touched my heart. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers! Give Roscoe a lick from Gus!

Elizabeth,

I will only say thanks for your thoughts...too hard to say more.

MAY

2008

Neal-I can't believe that I did not read this post..I think the puppy is going to surprise you! :) Congrats on this great post..it has been selected for The Bloggers' Choice Selection Award Winner!

p .s. Can I do the week in review?????? :)

MAY

2008

I remember ....a YEAR ago....and just getting to know you.....one thing we had in common....our poochies...yours getting older ...mine on steroids....still.

Congratulations Neal!

Sparky

Neal, I can't believe I missed this post for this long! Roscoe is so cute and you are so lucky to still have him in your life! I understand how you feel about Roscoe.

I have a Jack, who is my best friend and she has me wrapped around her little paw! You can check out my blog on her for her story. Sparky of Fabulous Las Vegas She even swims underwater! The video is on my blog. Unfortunately, she has to have surgery again Monday for another cancerous lump. I am so upset, but the vet says she has so many years left in her (she is almost 9) that it needs to be removed again. It is not a life threatening cancer, according to the vet.

Thanks for all the comments!

Neal- Like Laurie this was an emotional Post.....I just wanted to say I know the feeling of impending loss. I was a Foster Parent for many, many years. Many of them brought or found pets that we would then take in as well. I would take some kids for just a short time, try to help them overcome different things, get attached to them, then have to say goodbye as they went back to their families or to long term Foster Care. Just wanted to say I understand....Pets and Kids have a lot in common.

Neal...

I just stopped by to grab myself some easy by saying...

The Dog died...No need to say you're sorry he died. He's in a far better place.

It is my understanding that in Doggie Heaven the dogs who could not give chase in this lifetime can when they leave us :)

TLW...ROAR!

Wow Neal, this was an extraordinary post. I think it should be considered an Active Rain Classic. Your post was so touching...it definitely connected with a lot of folks in a meaningful way. That's the essence of a quality post. Thanks for sharing it with us on Blogger's Choice & Congratulations on being included in the Spotlight!

Wow...where did these come from? Oh yeah...I was voted one of this months bloggers choice awards...didn't realize it at first but thanks for nominating me! Roscoe is also happy!

It's about time....and I thought stuff flew over my head.

This is a classic. Now...do you see the ribbon? :)

MAY

2008

Maybe I shouldn't have gotten the ribbon because I really don't know what else to say:)

Neal, Grieving for a pet is a very natural thing. In many respects they are closer to us than people. I wrote a blog post "Too old to have a dog?" about my mother's loss of her shetland sheepdog (sheltie). My mother was very lonely without a dog, but due to her age, it was difficult to get a new dog for her. I finally found her a 6 year old Papillon, pictured below, and mom is the happiest she has been since the sheltie died last November.

Fifi

Hi,

I had to put my dog down in Oct. of last year. It was good for hm, but one of the hardest things I have ever done. He was a GREAT boxer. Losing a dog is sometimes harder than losing a friend or relative.

People grieve in their own way. He was a gift while he was wth me.

All the best!

My Mom has two dogs. I think she lives for her dogs. I don't know what she would do without them.

MAY

2008

I'm sorry to say that my wife's friend told us last night that their dog died. Was younger than Roscoe. It's amazing my old man still keeps going the way he has. I'm not looking forward to the bad days.

Neil, I took my Jack with me yesterday to work and watched her in the car. Her aging is very apparent and it makes me soooo scared. I too don't look forward to that day, it will be really really hard, she is my soul mate

MAY

2008

Patirce,

Yup it's a hard pill to swallow

MAY

2008

I love my animals just like you love yours, I just happen to have cats at this time in my life, but have had dogs, horses, ducks, etc. Anyway, although I didn't have time to read all of the posts, all I can say is to just enjoy your time with your pet while they are on this earth with you. Don't waste the time you have left worrying about the end result for all of us. Enjoy your time, that's all you have, so enjoy it!! You might try the home sitters, or a close friend, coming to tend to your pet for a few days while you go out of town. We don't take long trips for that same reason, so we just try to make the best of both worlds.

MAY

2008

Stacy,

I think I lost the scroll bar on this one but thanks for stopping by anyway:)

Neal - you are embarking upon a sad time if you have to say your good byes. I too am a complete dog lover, and I have a six year old irish setter Patrick. My thinking is the same as yours about leaving him because he gets sad if I am gone. Perhaps you could shorten your trip just for a few days. I think that dogs are so loyal to us for so many years - and their life is so short compared to ours.

MAY

2008

Neal: I just lost my beloved cocker spaniel, "Boopi" and I can tell you that it has ripped my heart out! She started having bladder problems too, so if you haven't already, run to the vet as fast as possible and have bloodwork done to see if his kidneys are failing - do not hesitate a minute. My Boopi was the best friend I have ever had in my entire life. The loss for me has been so much harder than I ever imagined but there are so many great memories and to know she was truly a gift and a blessing in my life is very comforting. I think you cannot put a time limit on grieving. Each person is very different and the relationship you have with Roscoe is very personal and unique to you. You are truly, truly blessed that he has lived so long. My heart goes out to you and anyone else who has lost or is facing losing a cherished pet.

MAY

2008

Hello!

Have you read, "Rescuing Sprite" By Mark Levin?

Great book!

Chip

JUN

2008

Neal, I commend you, We had to put my Dog Shadow Down, Last wed at the age of 13, I knew this day was comming, but could never get ready for it, After losing my mom in March, came home from a business trip to find a tumor on shadow that was not there when i left a week before, cancer of course, it,s only been 5 days , every morning i get up and lose it, we have a terrier about 7 yrs old who is completely lost. I had Shadow cremated and have her back home again. She truly was my best friend,no complaints and always there to put a smile on my face even for a moment. thanks for letting me talk, it feels good to speak to pet lovers, some people think im crazy for acting the way i do, but i dont care

Mike

It is difficult for some people to realize that the grieving process is the same whether it is a person or an animal. Sorrry for your loss.

JUN

2008

Neal, my husband and I have had two dogs at a time for years. They have all been like children to us and they all lived to be well past the age expectations for their breed. We have adopted older dogs from the breed rescue leagues since people usually want puppies and the older dogs are harder to place. The problem is you have less time with them, but these dogs more than make up for it with their love. Like you we have worried about boarding them so we had trusted friends come in to take care of them in their last years. It made it easier when we had to leave home. Each time we would worry about when would be the right time to end any suffering and each time the answer would become clear. It is never easy and you grieve a lot, but one day you realize that it is getting easier and then comes acceptance. Do I miss our "babies"? Yes, and always will. But we have learned to look back on the good times without being sad at least most of the time now. Having a "new" little body to love helps too. She is 10 years old, a Jack, Bassett and Beagle mix. She now plays and acts like a puppy after living in an abusive situation for some time before she was rescued. We see characteristics of all of our other dogs in her and we feel that she was meant to be ours. Enjoy the time you have and try not to dwell on what will come. It will only diminish the time you have.

JUN

2008

I still miss Hercules, and think about him everyday. It has been nearly two years.

Amazing that this post still is getting comments...thanks!

HI Neal

I am the proud owner of 7 dogs and I love all of them like humans. I dont have children so they are my furkids!!

I even cooked for all of them until recently.

All I can say is that when it is that time you will know it in your heart. When I had to put my first dog to sleep it was like I could see in his eyes that he was telling me he wanted to go to the rainbow bridge. Nothing but time will be able to take that pain away. Just enjoy his love and enjoy it to the fullest. You sound like a wonderful parent!!

JUN

2008

My wife and I lost Red, our beautiful Rhodesian Ridgeback, on March 4, 2008. For a couple of weeks, we could barely function, our grief was so terrible. We decided to get another dog sooner rather than later. The house was so empty without Red. It was a good decision. We still are grieving for Red, but Mimi, our new Rhodesian girl, has helped to ease out pain.

When I was a little girl...MANY years ago, we had our first Boxer. I am now on my fifth Boxer. A 95 pound black brindle...typical Boxer, loving,perennial puppy.Funloving with a heck of a sense of humor. Family dog, protective, but knowledgeable about what is a threat and what isn't. He's spoiled rotten, too. I have 2 baby granddaughters, he gently plays with them. I didn't learn unconditional love from my parents but from my Boxer. People without pets wonder why pet people are the way we are...this is the reason...unconditional love! They probably made most of us better people, too. Boxers don't live very long, but Buster is just 4 years old. We're looking for a few more good years with him! He's the love of our life!!...............You will know what to do and when to do it. And Roscoe will know it's time, too. That won't make a decision any easier, but you both will come to agreement!..............And remember...death is not the end....and know that sometimes death is a gift that we can give to our 4 legged loved ones! My heart goes out to you...

AUG

2008

turtle This post just made me cry... love him each day you have and then remember him after he has passed. A few years back ( I use to raise shelties) and all of them were getting older. Kaiser 16, Sheba 16 and Cody 15. Kaiser passed when I was at work the first day of spring 2006... then September of the same year I had to take the other two and have them put down (on the same day because I just put it off for so long). Having Kaiser go while I was gone was easier because I did not have to drive him to the vets for the last time. I cry now writng this. All my love to you & your BEST friend! Brenda :)

Neal: Some people think grief is a sign of weakness but it certainly is not. It is the result of a strong relationship which deserves the honor of strong emotion. It takes a long time to build a strong bond of love and it takes a very long time to say goodbye. I am parking here to go back and read through all the comments. I've already read some and I can't get through them all because of the tears so I will be back off and on to read all the stories. My best to you and Roscoe. In loving memory of Boopi

I have 4 dogs, two which are 10 years old. They are like part of the family and it is very hard watching them get older, but one thing is for certain, they know they are loved. I know without a doubt that Roscoe knows he is loved too. Treasure each day you have with him and love him like there is no tomorrow.

Wow...I guess this blog came back from space...thanks...I feel now that decisions might have to be made sooner than later.

AUG

2008

It's hard when you lose a loved one, and when you lose a pet-friend, is not any different. They become part of the family and it's hard to let go. I lost a wired fox terrier 10 years ago and when I think back about that day, I still cry. Now I have a miniature schnauzer and he's 9, so the older he gets the more nervous I get. I know the day will come for us to part our ways, no way around it, but still doensn't make it any easier on me.

I love all the pictures and comments everyone wrote!

AUG

2008

Hi Neal,

Roscoe's personality comes through in that picture you posted! We have 4 dogs now. They're basically part of our family. My wife bought a small sign, and mounted it on our front porch, that says "Spoiled Rotten Dogs Live Here". It's true! :)

Cordially,

Bruce

Neal, We had to put 2 of our dogs down last year, Buddy - our 15 1/2 year old golden retriever and Rocky our black lab who was 16. Buddy was going downhill, and then one day made the decision for us when he couldn't even walk. That was in February and by July Rocky lost control of his bladder and his joints were so bad we had to carry him up and down the stairs, and then one morning he didn't want to get up at all and we knew it was time. Our vet came out to our house and we all gathered down by our creek while he peacefully went to sleep. I still cry when I think of both of them, and have an ache when I look at their photos that will never go away. We still have Rocky's son, Sonny who is now 10 1/2, and Bailey our 2 year old golden retriever..here they are when we first got Bailey and he was looking up to his brother for advice!

I just read "The Art of Racing in the Rain", and think it was one of the best books ever, and really gives you a different perspective on aging dogs. It hurts so much to lose your furry friends, but the joy they bring to your life when they are with you is the best feeling ever!Best wishes to you!

Dan and Jamie

Neal-I had to put down my dog Lucca in 1999, she was my first dog. My daughter was 3 at the time, and I will never forget her pain. I remember reading to her the Rainbow Bridge, and we could never get through it without a tear. After many months of my daughter crying over our beloved Lucca. I went to a shelter and picked our Bailey. We know that Lucca would of loved Bailey, but I think Lucca would think that we spoil Bailey all too often. Anyways this has been a great post for all dog lovers, and my best to you and Roscoe's family.

Joe

AUG

2008

Thanks everyone...I think I might shut off the comments for now only because I really don't know what else to say but thanks.

SEP

2008

Hi Neil, Just came upon your post, since you put it up for a re-post. I had to board my dog in Florida and the vet called me and said she had a stroke and may have to be put down, before I got to her. I was sick with worry, long story short she is fine, must have been left out in the heat there. Can you imagine if I had agreed and had it done without saying goodbye.

SEP

2008

Thanks Christine.

SEP

2008

I don't think there is a set amount of time to greive Neal. Jsut take as much as you need and enjoy every day you can with roscoe!

SEP

2008

I'm a griever. I admit it. So whenever I'm grieving at the loss of a pet, I head on out to the local animal shelter as quickly as possible to get me another pet. Then the deceased pet becomes a celebrated memory.

I love cat's and dogs. Right now we just have 2 cats our outside cat Murphy which is a white mann coon & Miss Emma a russian blue. She stays inside and is with me every move I make. I am always saying that I just don't know how I would cope when Emmie passes away. She is only 4 so hopefully we have a long life together.

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