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What to Do If You Are Divorcing and A Chilly Housing Market is Forcing You to Stay Under the Same Roof

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Increasingly, GreatWest GMAC Real Estate Professionals are hearing of a trend - which could remind folks of the movie, "War of the Roses."

Current real estate market conditions have some divorcing couples looking to separate their lives, but realizing they can't afford to live apart until their home is sold. 

Unlike a few years ago, when many homeowners had loads of equity to share, and really good credit, current times are providing many glimpses of reversal of fortune.

If you are one of those couples, and need to continue co-habiting until you get the house sold, and shore up your financial situation better, there are things you can do to make life a little easier for yourselves in the interim.

It is also important to understand that staying together can actually have a positive effect on marketing your home.  Home Buyers have become quite sophisticated in recent years, and have a knack for sniffing out signs of Sellers in distress.  Seeing that a couple continues to be together in a home can remove a bit of the appearance of distress - even if it is painful for you!

If you are a divorcing couple and find yourself in a forced cohabitation situation until your home sells, there are a few things that you can do to make the experience a little easier.

1)   The two of you should sit down and discuss your situation as peacefully as possible.  Perhaps putting yourselves into a mindset that you will continue as roommates for a few months until the house is sold.  You are together in the house in the physical sense - even though the emotional sense has changed. 

(2)   Negotiate with each other the mortgage payments, utilities, and other household expenses, and address the duties for upkeep.  Doing this early on, will help alleviate problems from popping up in the midst of this living arrangement - which weren't addressed early on. 

(3)   If there are children in the home, please put the children and their well being first, and paramount in your consideration.  Doing so, will help you focus on things more important than your own discomfort.  If the children suffer less distress, it will be easier for all of you.

With a little thought and consideration, you can be successful in selling your home, and making what could be a bad situation work well, and to your benefit. 

Good Luck to you!

Written for GreatWest GMAC
by: Myrl Jeffcoat

 

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Comments(2)

Shirley Parks
Sands Realty 210-414-0966 - San Antonio, TX
Broker, 210-414-0966, San Antonio TX Real Estate

Myrl, that could be a good thing for divorcing couples.  Maybe they would decide that don't really want to divorce after all.

Jun 21, 2008 01:58 PM
Myrl Jeffcoat
Sacramento, CA
Greater Sacramento Realtor - Retired

Shirley - You are a mind reader.  While I was writing this piece, I came to that same conclusion.  The catalyst for my writing is one particular couple I have known for a very long time. They are finding themselves in this situation.  They have made it through thick and thin for so long, I just hate seeing them experiencing problems within their marriage. 

A couple of years back, when housing was at the zenith of value, they took out a new mortgage to finance a vast amount of improvements to their nursery and landscaping business. 

We all know what has happened to the value of housing in many areas of the country.  And we know what has happened to gas prices.  The couple's business is suffering because people aren't buying as many new homes which require landscaping.  And folks are finding the cost of gas is eating into their budget, so there are fewer posies that can be planted.

I really hope that the forced "togetherness" will provide them time to work things out.  Financial problems can take a toll on relationships - that's for certain.

Myrl Jeffcoat
GreatWest GMAC
3604 Fair Oaks Blvd., #120
Sacramento, California 95864
(916) 635-0420

 

Jun 21, 2008 06:39 PM