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Active Rain Really Is Like A Giant Family......Thank YOU For So Much

Ann and Bear - Thanksgiving 2003

Many of you know that I've had a really tough week this past week because I lost my Honey Bear. We have been together 17 years, and we have been each other's world all that time.

To say I lost a huge part of my very being barely begins to explain how I feel. My honey, my best friend, my work partner.... my world.

One thing I do feel is eternally grateful that I have been a member of Active Rain for as long as I have. Bear used to periodically tease me that I spent more time with you all than I did with him at times. Never true, but hanging out in the Rain has certainly been one of my pleasures since July 2006.

Bear and Ann

I cannot thank you all enough for the many cards, phone calls, voice mail messages, email messages, flowers, baskets, prayers, thoughts, and more. I have read and re-read every email message multiple times, and I've read and re-read every card from my Active Rain family over and over.

Even though I've read each email multiple times, I found I couldn't respond to any of them. So, I wanted to say a huge 'thank you' to every one of you who've reached out to me during this so very painful loss in my life that I'm trying to cope with.

I am getting by, minute by minute some times, and other times, I can get by hour by hour. Your thoughts, prayers, and support mean so very much to me. Thank YOU....

Honey Bear Bear My Honey Bear

Active Rain really is a great big family - embrace it and embrace each other. I do, and I've been paid back tenfold this past week.

Bear Perkins

Thank you all from the bottom of my heart.

Ann

Posted by Portsmouth NH Homes Condos - Ann Cummings New Hampshire REALTOR® on 06/23/2008 01:58 AM

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173 Comments on Active Rain Really Is Like A Giant Family......Thank YOU For So Much

JUN

2008

Ann, we love you and have been praying for you. Just take it one day at a time, allow God to comfort your soul.

Ann - you have been in my thoughts and prayers this last week and will coontinue to be for as long as you need. Bear's sudden passing is a reminder to me that we are not guaranteed tomorrow so we must live and love each moment to the fullest. Continued blessings to you Ann - Bear will ive on in your heart.

Ann - Yes you are in our thoughts and you have to take it one day at a time. Thanks for sharing the photos.

Ann, you have been a constant in my thoughts and prayers this week. I echo Judy, allow God time to heal and He's faithful to do that. What a love you and Bear had...you could see it on your faces.

Hi Ann, it's always difficult to go thru times like this even tho eventually we all do but, that doesn't make it any easier. I read about your loss in a post by Monika last week and literally felt sick because I've had so many people around me going thru the same type of loss lately. It doesn't makes sense, it never does.

I don't know what to say right now except that I know your honey bear with be with you for the rest of your life. So many things just don't make any sense at all, losing someone you love so much at such a young age is one of them.

marti {{{comforting hugs}}}

Ann earlier this year I lost my mother, as hard as that was, it would be nothing like losing my wife, I can not even begin to imagine what that would be like.

May God be with you as you continue to experience the lose of one who was such a huge part of your life. It would be great to have words that would make all the hurt go away, but those words do not exist, only the love that is left behind in our hearts can maybe fill some the empty feeling that we are left with at this time.

May God be with you and help you heal from this.

Ann, I am so sorry to find out about your loss. I can't imagine what you're going through but wanted to let you know you are in my thoughts and prayers.

My condolences on your loss. Noone can imagine how it feels if they've never been there. And you are right AR is like a family.

Ann, you have my sympathy and my prayers. I know where you are because I've been there. It's been 7 years since I lost my husband suddenly to a heart attack. You will be all right but it isn't easy. When it is to much to take an hour at a time, take five minutes. When my husband died, there were lots of decisions to be made - including finding a builder to finish the house he and I had started to build. God met every need. I found comfort in knowing that every decision didn't need to be made that minute. You are in my prayes. lea

Ann I have walked in your shoes so I completely understand your loss. My thoughts are with you as you deal with your grief. Every day is a new day, some will be better than others. Time will help heal the ragged edges and your heart will always hold Honey Bear close.

Ann: So sorry to hear about the loss your honey bear. I haven't had to experience this so I just can't imagine what you must be going through. My heartfelt sympathy.

Ann.... I didn't really know until just recently.I haven't been on that much as of lately.

In any case, I am so sorry for your loss. My prayers and thoughts go out to you and your family. Stay strong and hope to see more of you .....

jeff belonger

Ann... Bear will live on in our hearts and in our memories. We have so many memories to draw from. He was a special person who will truly be missed.

Ann - I had NO clue, this is the first time I've heard of it. I've been out of the loop a little too but with nothing like this. I'm so sorry - I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers as you work through this and move on with life.

Hi Ann,

I can't imagine what you must be going through, I am so sorry for your loss. Please stay strong, your friends are always here for you. :)

Love and hugs to you my dear friend. Sally

JUN

2008

Ann - I wish I had some pearls of wisdom to make everything ok, but unfortunately I'm not that talented. :) You are most definitely in our prayers! Lots of love from Alaska. Jesse & Kathy

Ann- I am so, so sorry. Sending you a big hug.

Ann. So sad to hear of your loss. Gosh! If you were closer I'd come over and give you a big hug. Time cures the empty feeling and replaces it with warm feelings. But, it's hard, very hard.

You have a wonderful spirit. You'll be fine.

I read and commented about your loss earlier...there is never a good time...and you think the tears will never stop...and for a while, they shouldn't. I believe tears are part of what heals you. At some point, and it is different for everyone...don't let anyone tell you when the "right time" is...the pain of your loss will be replaced by the sweetness of the many memories you have of the two of you together. The smiles will replace the tears...and that will be with time and time is what heals...May God walk with him always and comfort you at this time.

Ann, let me add my condolences and prayers. It sounds like you had a real gift, and one that will always be part of you. I'm glad ActiveRain has been a source of comfort for you, and I'm sure it will continue to be in the coming weeks and months. You do have many friends here that you can lean on for comfort.

Ann It is so wonderful to see the AR community rally around you at this horrible time. The love and sympathy is so heartfelt. I would like to share that my aunt has suffered the same loss, the love of her life, in addition to losing her mother and then a very close friend. She found strength in attending a grief support group...after each loss. My cousin's wife also speaks very highly of support groups. She lost her fiance at a very young age. She was only 30 something. She credits the support group she attended with her happiness today.

I don't know of any such groups to recommend, but I wanted to pass on the idea to you. You have so much support in AR you may not need a group, but sometimes being with people who have experienced the same thing is helpful.

My deepest sympathy to you and your family.

Anytime Ann.

You know how I feel. Now just take time to remember all the good times you nboth had together and when you are ready...life will continue

Ann, I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. I can't imagine what you are going through. My thoughts are with you during this difficult time.

Ann I just wanted to say how sorry I am again for your loss. I can not even imagine losing someone so close. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

Ann, I'm sorry for you loss. Our thoughts and prayers are with you.

Ann, My heart breaks for you. May God's peace engulf you. You will contunue to be in our prayers.

Ann...

You know I'm at a loss of words when it comes to these things. Nothing I can say will remove the feeling of loss inside your soul. So I will kinda mimic Lenn's thoughts...Time has a way of healing us. My wish for you is time. For with the passing of time the open wound that is your soul will heal. We recently had a death in the family so I understand what you're feeling right. Take care of yourself and try go forward the best you can.

TLW...ROAR!

Hi Ann, I just love the photos you have here of Bear. Time will help heal and being around friends and family will also bring comfort.

You know we are here for you and only a call away. See you Thursday...

Hi Ann,

Thank you for sharing - I'm so sorry for your loss. Thank you for letting us help you at this time. I will be praying for you.

Ann - we are all thinking of you. You know that if you need anything at any time you can call or email anyone here. Take the time you need - we'll be waiting.

Jeff

Ann - the distance and the fact that we've never met in person means nothing. I have been crying here with you and please know you and bear are in my heart.

Ann - There is nothing like starting out the week with chills and a tear forming in your eye. We love you Ann. MWA!

Ann, I'm tearful reading about this knowing that your heart must feel so empty.

I have to say, your love for each other was very evident - that's why I hurt for you - the people that requested thoughts & prayers for you on Twitter said something like: @AnnCummings lost her Honey Bear. Send thoughts............ or......... I just met Bear, he was the love of her life...... etc. So your family on AR also misses your love, it is clear that you were a team!

Peace, Love, Hugs, and Comfort I pray for you......

Hi Ann,

I'm very saddened to hear of your loss and will keep you in my thoughts as you go through this difficult time period.

Jo

Ann... Times like this leave me blank so comforting words don't really flow..... I know I'll be glancing off the bridge and reflecting on Bear's permature passing each time I cross through Portsmouth.

We love you, Ann.

Ann, my deepest sympathies to you. Know that you have been in my thoughts and prayers. Bear will live on through you and the Active Rain Family.

Featured in the ThemThem Group in honor of Bear.

Hugs,

Duane

My thoughts and prayers are with you.

(((((Ann))))) lots of love from Cleveland. You are always someone who is cheering people up, and so it's hard not to be able to send you a joke and have it all be better. It can't, but hopefully writing and talking about it and about Bear will help.

Ann - As you know, you have many friends that love and care about you and know that I am just one out of many that are reaching out to you. Many thoughts and prayers from the potatoe state of Idaho now and always.

Ann,

Our thoughts and prayers are with you...

Sean and all the agents at Coldwell Banker Wright Realty in Conway.

One day at a time my friend.

Love and hugs coming your way.

Ann, I am so sorry to hear of your loss, but you are in my thoughts and prayers.

Ann... ooooh Ann. I"m so sorry. I didn't know anything about this til now, so I guess I'll say I'm "glad" your post got featured. I've never been thru anything like this, so I can't even begin to imagine the range of emotions you're feeling. Hugs hugs hugs hugs.... and thanks for sharing all the photos...

Hey, Ann. I am sure your Honey Bear is looking down and smiling. I agree that AR is a great family and it is awesome to see the support that everyone shows. All my best and God bless, Jim

Ann, Good to see you back and good to see those happy photos of you and your Bear. Lots of people love and care about you.

My cell is on for you 24/7...should you ever want or need someone to listen. 410-530-2400

Ann - there are never words that can express how we (your extended family) feel when a family member or friend is lost. Just know that you have been and will continue to be in our thoughts and prayers. We are here for you no matter what it is you need. I know you know this already, just wanted to reassure you that. Take one day minute at a time, and just know you are very much loved here!! :-)

Ann - what a lovely post about your Bear. Take each day one day at a time. You are in our thoughts and prayers.

Wow - these responses are just what I meant in my post. Such a generous outpouring, and you'll all never know just how very much it means to me to read each of your comments. I've read them all at least twice, and will read them over and over. I find comfort in knowing someone's there if I need to talk, to not talk, to cry, to smile with. You all make this online community one heck of a place to be a part of. I think we're all really lucky we found AR, however each of us got here, and that we've become part of something like this online family.

Monika and Jay McGilicuddy were with me at the hospital during some very difficult times and decisions and discussions. They were part of the support that I really leaned on, and I can never thank them enough for being there with me. Most of my own family wasn't able to get here until just after Bear passed, so I really was quite thankful to have such good friends around me. I love you both and will always be here for you, too.

Thank each and every one of you and those who haven't commented - our online connections make the world just that much smaller.

Hugs to all,
Ann

Ann- Been thinking of you......One hour at a time turns into one day...my thoughts are with you during this time :)

Ann you have my deepest sympathy. You are in my thoughts and prayers, and take all the time you need to heal and get better. We will all still be here and supporting you. Evefn though I dont know you, this is something we can all relate to and come together to support each other in times like this.

Ann - you're certainly in our thoughts down here on the other end of the country. I'm glad to hear that your AR has been such a comfort in the last week. Your Bear sounds like a wonderful person.

Ann, My heart goes out to you. I am so sorry to learn about your loss. I will be praying for God's grace and comfort for you through this time.

JUN

2008

Ann i am very sorry about your loss. I am sure Bear is looking out for you with all of your AR friends

Ann: You are such a brave soul to be able to give back the love that has been given to you by your AR family. So many of the comments speak what my heart wants to say to you. As a widow, I have experienced grief, so I know it is never the same for any two people. I know that your Honey Bear wants you to be okay, and you will be ... as others have said it takes time, love, support, friendships, and a lot of faith. Don't worry about responding to everyone ... they don't expect it really. They just want to let you know you are not alone. My love and prayers to you added to all the others who care for you. God bless you!

Ann - you remain in all of our thoughts.

Ann -- I am so sorry for your loss. Although I can not put myself in your shoes, I have been down this same path. I know it is hard now. And I just wanted to extend a loving hand. If you need anything, please do not hesitate to ask. God Bless!

Ann - thoughts and prayers from Virginia Beach. Your Honey Bear looks like he gave great hugs!

Tina in Virginia

Hang In There Ann! Life is a journey Not a Destination. May Bigger & better things happen for you!

Ann -

I am so sorry for your loss. I pray that God wraps His Arms around you and gives you some measure of comfort during this time.

-Deborah

Ann- I am sorry to hear what you have been going through. You both look so young and happy. This just doesn't seem fair. Having lost my father and father-in-law too soon I will tell you I cannot imagine what would happen if I lost my husband. My mother and mother-in-law both attend grief counseling. AR is great support but I hope it is enough to get you through the tough times.

God bless you.

Ann, I am very sad to hear of the passing of Bear. This has got to be one of the hardest things you have had to go through in your life with all your memories and time together. Know that others out here inthe Rain are thinking of you with comforting thoughts sent your way. Hang in there and be around other people. I send my love your way.

Ann - What more can I say? Please find comforts in all your wonderful, warm memories - I know you have many - Big hugs to you and yours!

Ann,

Words fall very short at a time like this...there are no easy answers or substitutes for the loss you're feeling...let us hold you up in prayer and support you through this trying time!!! Thanks, Fran

Ann -

I'm very sorry to hear about your loss. I find your post to be very inspirational.

Dan

Ann, Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family during this difficult time. Thanks for sharing the pictures, it looks like your life together was filled with many blessings and love.

Donny and Meredith Samson - NoVa

Ann - I am so very sorry for you loss. You are in my thoughts and prayers. Just keep remembering all the good.

Ann, My heart goes out to you in your time of loss. I have been a member of Rain for a short time and can already see how much a difference it can make in my life. I know all members are out there as a big extended family. I cannot tell you how sorry I am for your loss. I do know that you were truely blessed to have someone in your life that loved you so much. Many people spend a lifetime and never have that. Just remember you have someone to talk to any time you feel the need with your Rain family. Having time on your hands is a hard thing during such a sad time in your life. I would love to hear some of the great times you and Bear shared. The happy memories will last a lifetime. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

Ann,

My condolences to you. I will say a prayer for you and your family.

Ann, I am a newbie here but already feel a part of this great family.. I am sorry that my first introduction to you is such a sad one but I know that the Lord will see you through.. HE puts angels here on earth in the form of friends and family to encourage us and lift us up to Him in prayer.. I am praying for you to feel His comfort and strength... May God truly bless you with His presence and strength..

Ann, we are so sad to learn of the loss of your Honey Bear, you are in our thoughts and prayers during this very difficult time.

Ann,

Please accept Brenda and My condolences.

Bill & Brenda

Ann Although I have not had the pleasure of meeting you yet I wanted to let you know how deeply sorry I am at the news of the loss of your best freind and partner. I hope that the love of this forum will help you during this time.

I'm sorry to hear about your loss. I didn't know him, but I wish I did. I will be praying for you and your family.

Ann,

We have not met before, but I was directed to your post by Duane.

I am deeply sorry for your loss. It seems that you are a well rounded woman, and have support in your life. If you want to speak with someone and could use a new friend/counselor, feel free to call on me. Sometimes it just helps to be able to have someone to listen.

You are stronger than you know, and you will be fine. I have confidence in you.

With a loving hug,

Sally

www.drsallywitt.com

Ann, I am so sorry for your loss. You know you are loved by so many here at Active Rain. If I can do anything for you just let me know. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

Ann, My heart goes out to you, and my thoughts and prayers are with you at this time. Keep your head up, we're all thinking of you.

Ann, My thoughts and prayers are with you on the loss of your husband. God Bless You!

Ann~ I am so sorry for your loss of your dear loved one, Bear. I pray that God gives you the daily strength to get you through this sad time of your life. Please know that our thoughts and prayers are with you and may you feel the prayerbeams sent your way. Sincerely, Vickie McCartney

Ann, Love is a powerful force in our lives. It continues to be so, even when time takes it's toll, and makes it impossible for the spirit to dwell in our earthly bodies. Bear's love for you continues, just as yours for him clearly does. Physical reminders (smiles, hugs, etc.) will be replaced with more subtle ones. (a memory, a warm feeling, an inspired thought) My thoughts are with you. If ever you just want to talk, vent, or cry on a virtual shoulder, you know how to reach me.

Ann, May God Bless you and keep you in your time of need. You will be in my prayers.

Ann, May God Bless you and keep you in your time of need. You will be in my prayers. (Sorry for posting twice, server cut off)

Ann I cannot imagine how it must feel to lose one so close. My thoughts and prayers are with you. I did not know your honey bear, but knowing you, I know he was a wonderful individual. May the love of your family and friends bring you comfort. If there is anything you need, just let me know.

I'm sorry for your loss...

Ann, we've never met, and this is the first time I've been introduced to you on AR. I understand you have experienced an incredible loss, and I would like to offer my deepest condolenses. From the photos above, Bear sure looked like a sweetheart. Kinda puts me in mind of the Red Sovine song, Teddy Bear. - Janna Price

Ann - your loss is huge and I'm very sad for you. Your friends on Active|Rain are very active sending well-wishes your way, every way they can. I'm glad you've found some solace here and glad to be a part of the effort. Grieving is very personal, be free to do it your way, any way that get's you through this trying time. God Bless.

Ann - I am so very sorry for your loss. I'm sending as much healing as I can, I know nothing helps at a time like this. Just take care of yourself as best you can.

Ann I just saw this now on Duane Marlink's group e-mail..........I'm so sorry....I'm sure it does feel like a part of you has been cut off.......the sense of loss all consuming at times....I've not lost a husband.....but I have lost a boyfriend.........the day he died a son came to my mind..........and was like he was speaking right to me.............I'll look for the link or see if I can find a You Tube version.........I still feel like when I hear it on the radio.....or that it comes to mind when he wants to comfort or speak to me..............may God keep you in the shelter of His hands as you go through these difficult times.....

aww Ann I'm so sorry for your loss. I am now with the woman that I am planning on getting engaged to, and i cannot imagine my life without her after just 6 months. I hope we can have the kind of love that you and Bear shared.

You are in our thoughts and prayers and my heart goes out to you.

-andrew

Ann - our prayers go out to both of you! I am so sorry to hear of your loss!

Dear Ann,

Mw wife barbara and I wish you all the best and send our heart felt condolences for your loss.

Ann, my heart and prayers go out to you, along with so many others that are keeping you close in thought. I'm so sorry Ann, may you be comforted and Blessed! - Teresa

Ann ~ Sorry for your loss. 2 years ago my mother passed and the one thing that I carry with me is that my own greif was my own and my own process as I go through every day since. This is a very special time. You will be comforted more than you know in prayers. Blessings!

Ann, you are remembered, and your pain and sorrow is both noted and shared.

God bless you and hold you tightly in His arms. You are in our prayers. So sorry for your loss. Let us know anyway we can help anytime. Ricki

Ann,

Losing a loved one changes everything. Your Honey Bear will never truly be gone, though, as your memories of him you will always carry with you. Each day it will get easier and the tears really do help you heal.

I'm so sorry for your loss, Ann. May you find strength and comfort in the love you two shared.

My prayers are with you and your family. If there is anything at all I can do for you please feel free to let me know. Be strong and we are here for you always.

Oh! I am sorry for your loss. My prayers are with you.

Ann - I'm so sorry for your loss. May your memories fill your heart with love and peace. All of (ActiveRain) our thoughts and hearts are with you during your time of sadness. We hope you will feel some comfort knowing your grief is shared by so many friends. Gently on our minds over the miles. God Bless you at this time.

Hello Ann, My deepest sympathies on your loss. I will keep you in my prayers also. Someone gave me this once when I was experiencing painful grief.....hope it brings you some comfort today.

"Someone once said -Life is like a tapestry. The bottom of the tapestry is facing earth and the top is heavenward. God sees the beauty of the work he is doing, and the picture as it is completed. All we see are the KNOTS and loops of the tapestry on the backside! When we get to heaven, we can look down on the tapestry and see it all complete and see it's beautiful. It takes faith in God to live with the knots down here."

May God hold you in his hand and give you comfort.

Sincerely,

Grace

Ann, I just now heard of your loss. I do not want to even try and pretend that I know what you are experiencing. But I offer His Peace and His counsel. It is all that we have to hang onto sometimes because He is the only one that knows. God Bless you ma'am I pray for quieter times for you.

Blessings

Ann,

I am very sorry to hear about your loss. You and yours are in my thoughts and prayers. God's love is perfect, and all thingsare part of His greater plan. Life keeps unfolding one day at a time, and we must treasure every moment as a precious gift!

God Bless!

Ann, My heart is breaking for what you must be going through. I cannot imagine how hard it must be for you right now. You both look so happy in these photos...try to hold on to the wonderful and joyous times you had together.

Your Active Rain family is happy to be there for you...

Ann: I am sorry for your deep loss...please know that my thoughts and prayers are with you.

Hi Ann....I am so very sorry...My heart and all my prayers are with you. It is so hard.

Your pictures are gorgeous and I am sure your Honey Bear is watching you and praying for you from Heaven...

Lots of Hugs and Love,

Ginny Lee

Ann, again, I am so sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

You are in my prayers too and may the coming days and months pass quickly as you adjust and grieve, cry all you can, it helps the healing process, I know from experience. God bless you girl.

Deepest sympathy. It's so hard to lose the one you love so dearly. You were really loved.

Ann - We do not know one another. I have read some posts you have shared. You may have commented on one of mine. It is not important.

I read this and it changed my day. There is so little love in the world, love lost is emotionally crippling. Then I realized, love has not been lost. The vessel you shared is gone. The love will remain in your heart forever. The spirit and essence of your "Bear" is yours forever.

I did not know him.

I only know of you.

The world is a bit sadder today.

Ann - I'm so sorry for your loss. You're in my prayers and thoughts.

Ann,

We may not be right there, but our hearts are.

Take care,

Steve

My thoughts and prayers are with you - I have been away from the rain - so I had no idea - I am sorry for your loss - hold his memory close and he will always be with you

Ann, I am still at a loss for words. I feel your pain very much! I was just thinking about you "again", today and trying to imagine how I would deal with it and it wasn't good! The best I can think of to stay busy and surround yourself with your family and friends. We at Active Rain are all here for you:)

Howdy Ann

I am so sorry, that I just now heard of your loss.

Know that my familys thoughts and prayers are with you.

Take care of yourself.

Dale Baker

Prayer for Ann & Family & Friends

Dear Heavenly Father

With heavy hearts we come to You. You are Almighty Creator God; holy and full of grace and love. Our hearts are heavy because of a life that has left Ann. Death engulfs us Lord. Fear is waiting to take us down. Thank You Father, that because of Jesus, You know our pain and sorrow intimately. Thank You that Jesus knows the way through this dark shadow. Take the hand of Ann's love Honey Bear and make Yourself known. Guard their hearts and minds in Christ Jesus. Keep that which is Your own and take it into eternity to be with You. In Jesus, death is but a shadow. Jesus has swallowed up its sorrows and pain. Thank You Jesus for the cross. Thank You Jesus for the resurrection. Lord, we are before You, confessing that You are Lord of all; the gate keeper to eternal life. Your grace and love abound even as our sin seems ever increasing. Take our hands Lord and lead us through. We lay our fears at your feet. Your promise is that You -- and You alone -- will come to take us home.
Thank you for the comfort we find in Your presence. Through the Holy Spirit we know Your presence is with us. Send us Your peace Lord; the peace that passes all understanding. Don't let us waiver and doubt. Give us a faith that is everlasting. We release our lives into Your hands. As we wait and watch, we know Lord that none of us will escape this journey through death. Teach us how to embrace it with faith. Give us strength to hold up those who are stepping closer to seeing You face to face. Take away the fear in the heart of our loved one who will soon see You; let them find peace in Your grace, comfort in Your love, and strength in Your mighty power over death. Comfort us as our grief seems to over power us.
You are a good, just, righteous, and loving Father. Don't let us grow bitter in this shadow of death. But pierce our hearts with a joy that we can not fathom or understand. A joy that is above all that is corrupted here on earth. Jesus you wept over death and so too, we weep. But it is a grief and a mourning that holds joy on the other side. You are conqueror of all; and so we trust You. We trust that You will do what is right, what is loving. Whether in death or in life Your will is accomplished and You are sovereign. May we know Your presence, Lord. Keep us ever aware of Your loving hand guiding us through all things. In the name of Jesus we pray, amen.

Ann,

Sometimes there are no words for the loss of a loved one but remember the good times you had together and share those moments with those who are close to you now and remember we are there to support you through this difficult time.

Prayer for Ann & Family & Friends

Dear Heavenly Father

activerain.com/realestateagentchristina

Amen to Christina's pray.

Ann, I am so sorry to hear of your loss. I too, will pray for comfort and peace for you during this painful time.

Doreen

Ann - I am so sorry for your loss. I can't even begin to imagine what you're going through. You'll be in my thoughts and prayers.

Hi Ann,

My heart and prayers are with you and your family. It must be really tough and I KNOW you are a survivor! My hubby had a heart condition last year and the Dr. told him it was a widowmaker. I'm lucky, I count my blessings, but I never know day to day. Keep your chin up - we all care for you!

Ann,wWe have never met and our relationship may only be through AR but I want you to you know that you nd your family are in our thoughts and prayers. I can only imagine the pain of your loss, reach out to HIM during this time and He will give you peace.

Ann - I was touched by your post along with the supportive comments I saw here. ActiveRain is a wonderful community of friends. You are in my prayers. I can only imagine what you must be feeling right now. May God bless you and keep you during this season.

Ann,

I am so sorry to hear about your loss. I can't even imagine what you must be going through. Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers. I know you will be able to find comfort within the Active Rain network. As I am sure you already know, this is an excellent group of people and very supportive.

Ann,

I am so sorry for your loss. I hope that you get to feel Bear helping you to get some serenity back into your life. May you be blessed and given peace to help you through your terrible loss. God Bless you.

JUN

2008

Ann,

I am so sorry for your loss. I lost one of my brothers a few years ago and can only imagine what you are going through when it's the person with whom you spend every day. I will keep you in my thoughts.

Ann - My thoughts are with you. I'm so sorry to hear of your loss.

Kathy

Ann, I am totally blown away by the outpouring of concern and love for you. Not that you do not deserve it but that people with busy lives would stop and take the time to relay their deep feelings of grief over your personal loss. This has proven to me that this world, as bad as some would portray it, is not such a a bad place. God provides what we need and when we need it. I am certain that He will carry you. This is my second post Ann, but I could not stay silent with such an overwhelming show of support.

Blessings to you

Morning Ann,

Try as I might, I am always at a loss for just the right words at these times. I hope knowing that you have so many friends and family here in Rain as well as in your personal life that care and pray for you during this very difficult time will bring you some comfort.

Time does help heal and your grief will become fond, happy memories in time. Life goes on and you will come to a healed point. Our thoughts, and prayers are with you.

Ann, you're so blessed to have had your Honey Bear, the love of your life to share your adventure. Those of us who know you only because of the AR family are blessed to be touched by you and your great love adventure. Thank you for thinking of us; for sharing your story; for allowing us the opportunity to be human, to care, to respond, to cry, to comfort and to pray. Thank you also for letting us be reminded that truly every moment counts with our own loved ones.

I am so happy to hear that you guys had a wonderful life together. Go on, Ann, share your memories with others. They are an inspiration.

Ann - Sorry to hear of your loss. As some have stated, time will help with the loss and please know your Honey Bear will always be with you, You have your memories and your photo's and your family here at AR. God Bless and Keep you and your family in his care. - Ceil Winters

Ann, family, and friends

My hear reaches out to you as you struggle with letting go of the physical side of your Honey Bear. Having lost my wife years ago, I know some of what you are dealing with and will lift you up in prayer. Know that the memories yoiu hold dear will never leave you and the legacy that your Honey Bear leaves behind is yours to share with all who will read and listen. The years go by without losing the hurt but they will teach you how to care for yourself and to place the memories to the best of their use. Have fun sharing those memories with others as they show up. Look around for the reminders as walk around. Let us hear in the Rain be a part of those memories as well when you post some of them to share. Know that God has His arms wide open to encircle you in His love. Shout out to Him as you hurt, love on Him as you feel His arms, and know that we are with you as you need us.

Ann-My thoughts are with you. In time, I hope that you can look back and remember the good times you shared.

Ann, I am sorry for you. You are truely in my prayers. If I can be of any assistance, I am just a phone call away...

I am so bad in these situations so I may not have the right words to say. I send little cyber hugs your way. What a beautiful tribute to Bear.

Great post Ann and my prayers are out to you!

Take care and have a wonderful day

Robert Swetz

So Sorry to hear about the pain you are going through.

Death is never easy for us that are left behind but they say that with time you become stronger---Stay Strong!

I don't know you and I just found out about your post, but I care about the pain you are going through......I lost my brother 14 years ago on August 21st., he was just 38 and I still cry and it's ok to cry--as a matter of fact---it helps!

So cry all you want! I'm crying right now because, well, I am remembering my brother--he was awesome, just like I am sure your husband was and still is, becasue he lives in your heart--that's where it matters anyway.

So you see time heals all wounds---but you can still cry and that is ok!

Hey, I am cry-baby anyway, so don't mind me.

Take care and God bless you.

P.s. sorry for the mispells----my spell check never works, and I am not even going to try.

Ann,

I am new to the Rain world. I hope that each day begins with a thought of Bear and a smile remembering his wonderful life. You are in my prayers tonight.

Hi Ann, Just want to drop by and cheer you up at this difficult time. I know it's not easy, but time will help. You're lucky to have a great support system! I look forward to seeing you around the rain when you're feeling better.

Ann, I just got back home to my computer after a few days respite. I am so sorry to hear about your loss, our deepest and most heartfelt condolences! I haven't gone through the pain of losing a spouse, I have lost both parents, and it is hard I know. You and your family is our thoughts and prayers. I pray that the Lord will keep you in his tender care at this difficult time!

JUN

2008

Ann - I am so sorry. Just from what I have heard lately, your Bear was your everything. And you were his.

I lost a loved one some time ago, I asked my mom 'how will I ever get over this?'

She said 'you never will - but you have to try to get used to it.' That is hard, too.

You will be OK. Bless you, Ann.

Ann, My heart is hurting for you so much. I have been where you are. What got me through was the love and support of my friends and the hand of God and His Angels on my shoulder.

The suddeness of this must have you reeling! The days you had together no one can ever erase. I know you will forever cherish them. I see how your eyes sparkled in the photos with your Honey Bear, and I know you must have been the light of his life. You will see him again one day, meanwhile he is always with you in spirit and heart.

Sending you out the biggest love-hug I can. We will keep you in our prayers. Take care of yourself my friend.

xoxoxo, Ginger

Ann,

When Midori met you and Bear here in March or April and I couldn't make it becuase I was a week away from a huge event, she told me all about both of you. I was so disappointed I couldn't come also. She was so animated when she described meeting both of you and telling me about your visit. I too can't believe Bear is gone. I am so glad you have Monika and Jay there, I can't imagine going through anything like this, let alone going through it alone.

I send huge FL hugs to you and when you come down again, I'll replace those virtual hugs with some real ones. My love, thoughts and prayers are coming your way.

Lysa

Ann, when I read the news I was so stunned and saddened. You are such a special person and while I never met Bear I understand he was loved by all. What a huge loss. I wish I could say something to make you feel better. Know that there is one giant AR hug here whenever you need one. We are all here for you.

JUN

2008

I cannot thank you all enough for the kind words you've written here for me to read. I've read, re-read, and read again each of your comments, and will continue reading them for some time to come. It's taken me until this morning to feel like I could write something back to you to say thank you.

Your words bring me a small amount of comfort, they help me to know I'm not totally alone all the time. Your caring outpouring here just overwhelms me, and all the letters and cards and phone calls and emails mean the world to me.

This is so hard, and I guess will be for some time to come. I keep thinking this just isn't real, but it is, and my heart just hurts so much. I keep putting one foot in front of the other, and somehow manage to get through each day.

Thank you all for caring and for the wonderful words you're written here for me to see.

Ann

Ann, I am not sure if we have ever connected here in the Rain but I wanted to send cyber hugs to you anyway, I read your post the other day and again today. My heart goes out to you during this most difficult time. i will keep you in my prayers, no other words are coming right now...

JUN

2008

Ann - I am so sorry to hear of your loss. My prayers are with you and I hope that you can find some peace as the feelings of loss find that special place to rest. Bear will always be with you. May God bless you and yours during this difficult time. Please let any of us, your AR and ReMax families, know if there is anything we can do to help.

Ann-

I can't even imagine what you are going through and I don't know what to say except you and your family are in my prayers & thoughts.

God Bless!

Dear Ann~

When I think of You and Bear...I think of two warm hearts wrapped in a smile reaching out to others. And although I only met Bear for a moment in time, that is the Gift you both gave me. I know you shared that warmth of spirit with Bear for many, many seasons...

It's the kind of joyous sizzle that lives in a special place in the very core of one's being, I am thinking, and I know for sure...it never dies. . .

JUN

2008

Ann, I am so glad you wrote this wonderful tribute to your sweetie and I'm so sorry for your loss. You will be in my thoughts and prayers.

Ann, my thoughts and prayers are with you in this time of loss. I wish you every good thing.

JUL

2008

Ann, I haven't been on the rain in about two weeks. I was immediately forwarded to your post and your story. I became connected almost instantaneous as I read what your husband meant to you. I thought of my boyfriend and how close we are, and my eyes began to swell because the thought of loosing him was hard to bare, so I can't imagine what you feel after being with your love for so long. I know he is with you, looking over you right now, and if your on the rain I'm sure he's chuckling and teasing you about your habit to himself.

May your days and nights be filled with peace. And may each day be lessen with grief and added with more joyful memories.

JUL

2008

Ann--
Please don't feel like you have to respond to this.

I won't tell you that I know how you feel, but I can imagine. My husband is my work partner and my best friend; we have been together for 15 years next month. Since I was diagnosed with incurable cancer, I can see what it had done to my husband. I know that he lives, eats, breathes and sleeps my disease. Even though I am sick, the worst thing I can ever imagine would be losing my husband. I feel like my heart would break; I don't feel like I would survive. I know that's how Michael feels about my illness and about the possiblity of my own death.

I know we all deal with things differently. Some people handle things much better than others. But I do know we are all different. I pray, with all of my heart, that you find some peace in this.

My husband is reading over my shoulder right now. I was just about to write--- call me anytime-- and he asked that I include him. I know that you don't know either of us very well, other than through AR, but please take this offer seriously:

On those sleepless nights, when you are tossing and turning and sick with grief-- please call us if you need an ear to listen. Our number is 480-704-4430 and we honestly do not care what time you call. My husband takes sleeping pills due to his anxiety about my illness and I take Oxycontin for pain, so there is a possiblity that we won't wake up the first time, but feel free to dial the phone until one of us answers. You don't have to feel weird about it or that you are imposing. All we'll do is listen to you...talk until your heart is content. Anytime. Anyday. We will be so happy to help, even if it's just a voice on the other end of the phone. Sometimes, I think it's easier to contact strangers than it is relatives. If you ever feel that way, you have my number.

I am heartsick for you Ann. I am so sorry.

Much love,

Karen George

P.S.-- and if you ever need a change of sceneary, we have a spare bedroom with a super-comfortable bed. Consider mi casa, su casa.

JUL

2008

Ann, I just came upon reading about your tremendous loss and I am so very sorry. Bear sounded like a great, fun partner who was loved. Please know that I am truly sorry for your loss. Take care.

Ann - The loss of a loved one especially one as close as bear is hard on anyone. just know that you are in our thoughts and prayers.

My Big Bear and I

Kathy

JUL

2008

Ann, I'm so sorry to hear about Bear. You are in our thoughts and prayers.

JUL

2008

MWA to you and Bear. I hope & trust you are doing well, Ann.

JUL

2008

Hi Anne...

I saw your comment on Midori's post and I popped right over here to let you know that personally I've not forgotten about you. Hoping all is well and things are getting better for you. Come back when you're ready. Most of us will still be here :)

(Hugs and all that other mushy stuff I'm so bad at :)

TLW...ROAR!

Hi Ann-You never ever have to worry about me not staying in touch with you! :) Will call you this week sometime. Glad to see you out and about on the rain...I won't be gone completely...believe the day you start blogging again..I'll be commenting! :)

JUL

2008

Ann- Like TLW and Midori I just wanted to say it's good to see you out and about.

Ann - I am so sorry to hear of your loss. I am homebound myself right now having just come out of the hospital which is how I am able to finally catch up on my emails. Words can never comfort enough in the loss of a loved one but are a good way to let you know you are cared about and thought of all through the day. Thank you for sharing the pics...he looks like he was truly a special person. May you have the strength and all the support you need to get through the months ahead. I will keep you and your family in my prayers.

AUG

2008

Ann-

You are doing such a tremendous job! One week at a time, one day at a time, one hour at a time, one minute at a time, one bite at a time.

The world is a big mirror: What we show the mirror, it shows back to us!

AUG

2008

Ann- I can not believe that I did not know this until now. You commented on my blog and I was noticing that you are far down on my reader board. SO I came here to see if you were alright and I found this post. I feel bad I did not know sooner. I am sure though, that you need love and hugs now just as you did then.

I pray for you to be strong and to know that God is by your side to help you through tough moments. I do not know what I would do without my Nestor. I am going to go and give him a hug. Here is one for you.

AUG

2008

Dear Ann,

What sad news. My sincere apologies for not knowing sooner. As you know I have not been as Active in the Rain as I had been so I wasn't aware. I have been feeling very guilty for not spending more time here with our friends. There just are no words that would ever ease the pain you must be feeling for this great loss. My heart is breaking for you. You're a dear kind person and I'm so sad to hear of this news today. Please know that you are in our thoughts and prayers for some comfort in this time of loss. The footprints that those we love leave on our souls somehow gets us through their parting. We love you Ann and our hearts go out to you.

AUG

2008

Hope you are doing a little better and that your broken heart is mending, Ann. I read about Bear back in late June and just popped by to see how you are.

Take care, Ann. You are in lots of people's thoughts and prayers.

Amanda

AUG

2008

Hi Ann, You are in our thoughts and prayers. We will help you get through this.

SEP

2008

Ann- My heart goes out to you at this time. I imagine the difficulty of trying to express such feelings... you did so beautifully. I too am thankful that you have so many to support you... to say the things that bring comfort at times such as these.

SEP

2008

Ann--I wasn't on the computer as much during the summer and was not aware of your loss. Your "Bear" made it into many of the posts that I read of yours so I feel as if I knew him. The pictures of the two of you together are lovely. So very sorry for your loss and hope that time has helped to heal you a bit...Looks like the two of you have shared many wonderful times together. Take care.

To everyone who was kind enough to leave a comment here - you can't know just how much those comments have meant to me. Just now I read through every single one of them again, and I was touched just as much this time as I have been all the other times I've read them. They bring a comfort to me that really does help me to feel as though I'm not so alone as I feel.

Time has been passing, although if I could, I would have stopped the passing of time awhile ago. Fall is here, and the changing color of the leaves just emphasizes the fact that Bear just really isn't here anymore, and that makes me so very sad.

I continue to keep putting one foot in front of the other, and I make it through the minutes, the hours, the days, the weeks somehow. Each day becomes another night and then another day, some are better than others, some are just plain awful, but I'm here. I am going to a grief counseling group, and I'm hoping that will help me. It's just started, but I was ready for it to start, so I guess that's a good sign.

Anyway, I just wanted you all to know that I have been reading all of your comments when I can handle looking at this post. It's hard for me to come back to this post because the pain is still raw, but I love the pictures I used in this post, and I love having all your comments to wrap around me.

Thank each and every one of you very much.
Hugs,
Ann

OCT

2008

Ann, I missed this when it happened. I'm so sorry for your loss. I can't even imagine what you have went through. I'm glad to hear that you have become involved with a grief counseling group. I had a neighbor who found out she had pancreatic cancer in January and was gone by March. Both of her grown daughters have been in counseling groups and I know that has helped them to get by. Her husband holds a strong front but I know he is hurting also. I guess there are some things we won't understand until we get to the other side.

JUN

Oh Ann, I know how much you miss your BEAR. Always remember he will remain in your heart forever and in all of our hearts. You two were such a team, so full of fun and life. I look at pictures I have of the two of you and smile, just know how much fun you had together. Those memories live on forever so know that you are thought of often even though we don't see each other - you are alwasys in my thoughts and prayers. You have such wonderful friends around you. This, Ann, was such a beautiful tribute to Bear and your life with him. Thank you for sharing this. Love B

JUN

Hi Marchel - Thank you for your comment. And I feel badly for your neighbor's family. They are still in the very early stages of grieving, probably still in the shock and numbness stage. It's been a year for me at this point, and there are still some very difficult days/hours/moments that overwhelm me. I'm glad the daughters have been in grief counseling, hopefully her husband has been able to find something as well.

Hi Bonnie - You've been one of our good friends for many years at this point, and that has meant a lot to both of us. I feel him all around me, in many ways. Thanks for having been part of the life Bear and I had together, and for your continued friendship. Love you!

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