Romance - Where did it go?

For those of you who have subscribed to my blogs, sorry for being late with my blogs the last couple of days. Hopefully this one will make up for missing a couple of days.

Todays blog are some notes I made recently when my wife and I led a marriage conference. Romance has become a lost art in todays world. It's as if many couples say "I Do" and then all of the romance and dating stops. What a shame1

 ROMANCE? WHAT'S THE BIG DEAL?

A. An investment in your marriage. You wouldn't dream of not maintaining other important things in your life, would you? Things like your car, your job or getting better at a favorite pastime. Why let this one go? If something is worth having, it's worth taking care of. 

B. A necessary ingredient for keeping marriage fresh. Nobody likes stale anything and there's nothing worse than a stale, dry relationship.

 ROMANCE? WHY?

A. Emotional bonding relaxes you physically & emotionally, making intimacy desirable.

 B. Communicates Value/Worth Show your mate that you care by setting aside some time to share dreams

 C. Deepens Appreciation for each other as you enjoy drawing closer together. It's not just for newlyweds folks.

Here's some questions to ask each other the next time you're alone. Please be honest with each other and remember, the object is to listen and grow, not get defensive!

Ask each other: 

1.  a. Describe for me what a romantic evening looks like to you. 

     b. Tell me about the most romantic date you can remember us having.

2. a. What is one romantic thing I do or say that you appreciate?

    b. What is one thing that I do or say that hinders a romantic mood for you?

3. Describe for me two or three different times in your day where you would like more non-sexual romantic touch from me.

4. Tell me about times in your day when romantic gestures or sexual advances are not appreciated.

One final note (especially to you guys) is to not confuse romance with sex. One may lead to the other and that's fine. Romamce is something you do to show love and warmth to another. Not so you can get something out of it!!!!