Selling with Soul? Huh?

Selling with Soul has nothing to do with new age philosophies, holier-than-thou attitudes or even learning to dance. It's really just a catchy phrase for following the Golden Rule in your day-to-day practice of real estate. That you treat your clients and prospects respectfully, as you would like to be treated. That you are competent, reliable and fair. That you appreciate the commissions paid to you directly by your sellers, and indirectly by your buyers. That you don't take these hefty paychecks for granted. That you truly want to earn your commission, not just show up at closing with hand outstretched. 

But there's more! If you Sell with Soul, not only will you be a breath of fresh air to the home-buying and -selling public, you can also make gobs and gobs of money while sleeping soundly at night. You make all this money because you're good at your job. You are a Good Real Estate Agent! You find your buyers the right homes, not just because you know your market, but also because you listen to your clients and strive to meet their needs for a home, not just your need for a commission. Your seller's homes sell, not just because they're priced right, but because you've helped them recognize and correct any obstacles to sale...instead of bullying them for a price reduction.

Soulful real estate agents know how to hold their sales together. They usually get through the inspection period, even a difficult one, not just because they are good negotiators, but also because they have great resources for getting repairs made. Their listings appraise because they are prepared for the appraiser and know how to defend their sales price. Throughout the transaction, they strive for a win/win whenever possible and they don't antagonize the other team, just because they're sitting on the other side of the closing table.

And of course, an agent who Sells Soulfully will be rewarded with plenty of repeat business and referrals. She won't have to spend thousands of dollars on personal promotion, or to pester strangers to ask for their business; no, her friends and past clients will be her own personal marketing department. She'll be proud of the business she's developed and will have no problem selling herself at listing appointments or holiday parties.

But lest you believe that soulful real estate agents are simply nice guys and gals who smile sweetly and then get trampled over by the rest of the real estate community, that just ain't so. While you don't have to be a "natural" salesperson to be a soulful one, your natural instincts to protect your client will ensure that you are not a pushover. But instead of protecting that client by blustering and posturing and setting up unnecessary confrontations, you do it with creativity, good negotiating skills and old-fashioned good manners. Oh, and throw in a healthy serving of competency.

Neither are soulful real estate agents simply For-Sale-Signs-For-Hire or Tour-Guides-for-the-Unmotivated-Buyer. We don't knowingly take overpriced listings because that means we misled our seller with regards to market value. We don't waste our energy  that should be devoted to our "real" clients or take time away from our families to entertain unmotivated clients with no real need to buy or sell. (That may sound a bit "un-soulful" to you, but it isn't. We treat the business of real estate with respect and have every right to expect the same in return from those people we choose to work with.  We are not afraid to walk away from overly difficult or unmotivated clients who are draining our personal energy that is needed and appreciated elsewhere.)

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This all sounds pretty rosy, doesn't it? As in, Be Nice and They Will Come? Real Estate in Utopia? I read over the above and smile... because, well, it's not that easy of course. Real estate is a tough business and the staggering failure/drop-out rate can attest to that. Every client, every sale, every situation is unique and it's not always easy, or even possible (for us human-types, anyway) to play by the Golden Rule perfectly, every time.

But it's not impossible or even difficult to be a soulful real estate agent most of the time. If you are a basically decent person who wants to make a fantastic living, sleep well at night and respect himself in the morning, then I salute you. And wish you the best in your real estate career.

 

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49 Comments on Selling with Soul? Huh?

Jennifer, this is how I work.  I'm your seond member and glad to be here.

03/12/2007 06:56 AM by Sarah Cooper (Real Estate Shows)


I know that's the way you work, so I'm glad to see you here - I keep up with your posts (so many of them - it keeps me busy!), so I'm looking forward to hearing/reading more from you. 

Have a wonderful week!

03/12/2007 07:01 AM by Jennifer Allan, Author of Sell with Soul (Sell with Soul)


I had no idea you knew who I was!  I remember you from Agents Online, although I haven't been there in ages because Active Rain is so darn sticky.  I think this is a great idea for a group and I hope I'll have something to contribute. 

And welcome, Ava!  I think I saw her pretty face when I was popping back to your post.

03/12/2007 07:31 AM by Sarah Cooper (Real Estate Shows)


Jennifer,

Thank you for creating this group.  Your ideas blow me away and I can't wait to see what a whole group of Soulful agents will do.   

Sarah Wynn

 

03/12/2007 09:06 AM by Sarah Wynn


Jennifer,

Validation is a wonderful thing! In my office I'm described as "warm and fuzzy" in contrast to several of the other female agents in my office whom my Broker categorizes as "working like a man"...oh except when it comes to Political discussions...he kind of backs down on that description.

Nope no more "Warm and Fuzzy"...Me...I'm SOULFUL !!Name graphic                         

03/14/2007 09:20 PM by Joan Mirantz- Concord New Hampshire Realtor (Keeler Family Realtors)


Jennifer

I can do that -soulful selling!
Do you have a theme song for the group?

Thxs for the post

03/14/2007 11:15 PM by Aziz Abdur-Raoof,Howard Co. Real Estate Scoop (RE/MAX Rewards)


A theme song?! What a great idea. Suggestions?

03/15/2007 06:07 AM by Jennifer Allan, Author of Sell with Soul (Sell with Soul)


I just noticed this group existed today!  The description fits what we strive to do, and this group sounds like where i'd like to be.  May i join?  

03/15/2007 08:03 PM by Rice Property Management & Realty, LLC


What's even more fantastic is when you meet up with new clients who fit right into the way you do business and they won't even consider using another agent!  That was my appointment today, and the entire time I spent with my clients just felt comfortable.

03/25/2007 09:30 PM by Erica Yamaguchi -- Irvine, CA Real Estate (Keller Williams Elite Realty)


Erica - That's a great point! Thanks for bringing it up... I'll add it to the list.

03/26/2007 06:28 AM by Jennifer Allan, Author of Sell with Soul (Sell with Soul)


Jennifer, it's like the law of attraction working... when we are being "soulful" in ourselves and we put out our intention to find clients like us, that's who we get.  I'm tickled pink that I can start the week off well!

We've had weird weather here, looks like it will rain in the morning and then the sun will come out and be 80 degrees in the afternoon...  but, any day is a good day to do real estate!

03/26/2007 10:40 AM by Erica Yamaguchi -- Irvine, CA Real Estate (Keller Williams Elite Realty)


The sun is shining here, my windows are open and what a change in people's attitudes!  It's delightful.

So, is there a theme song in the works?

Jennifer's book "Sell With Soul" is great!  If you haven't already, I suggest reading it and if you can catch anyone that's fairly new, you can get some good information out before they get "tainted"!  I am definitely going to suggest it to all my Prelicense students.

Happy Monday!

03/26/2007 03:52 PM by Heather Armstrong (Iowa Realty)


All this happiness! It's catching! It's a beautiful day in Alabama too... High 80's (perfect for me), sunny. Yummy.

Hey Heather - guess what I did this weekend? I revised Sell with Soul and added some more advanced material so that it applies to ALL agents, not just newbies. Now, I need a new subtitle and I'm stuck...

Oh, and yes... a theme song!

Yay for all of us!

Jennifer

03/26/2007 04:43 PM by Jennifer Allan, Author of Sell with Soul (Sell with Soul)


When I worked on Wall Street, we said that Brokers get the clients they deserve, and clients get the brokers they deserve.  Now I'm a stager, and my observation is that it's the same in real estate.  Selling soulfully seems like the best way to enjoy what you do and attract the clients you deserve, that will be pleasant to work with over the long haul!  I guess my partner and I are interested in Staging Soulfully....!!!

03/26/2007 08:50 PM by deborah novick (showcase your space)


 this was a great post and very informative.  Thanks!

03/27/2007 02:31 AM by Matthew Meli (M and T property management LLC)


With so many "sharks" in the waters who are making a "killing" financially in the business, sometimes it can get a bit challenging to remain true to your center and true to who you are as a person and not push back when you are pushed.  However, Jennifer you are an example of someone who has reached many milestones as a Professional in this business and has consistently been a Top Producer by being "Soulful", being true to you.  Thanks for creating this group!   

04/01/2007 07:59 AM by Joy Goushaw Southwest Florida Real Estate (Sandals Realty)


Okay.  I joined!  Looking very forward to reading more.  I think this is a good group for me and my personal selling style.  Thanks Jennifer!

04/06/2007 05:52 PM by Arizona Home Loan


I don't sell but sure hope I'm soulful.  I take the best care of my clients and sleep at night--and I believe they know it.  This is a lovely group and a beautiful post, thank you for letting me add my 2 cents.

Btw, it's grey here (was snowing yesterday, a white Easter) and cold....)  I'm going to enjoy it anyway!

04/09/2007 06:15 AM by Carole Provenzale Owner, Feng Shui Long Island & New York (Feng Shui Long Island & New York City)


Brrrrrrr here too... in Alabama!

I still want to talk to you someday about putting a Feng Shui for Real Estate Agents online course together!

Jennifer

04/09/2007 06:33 AM by Jennifer Allan, Author of Sell with Soul (Sell with Soul)


Jennifer-Thanks for the invite!  There is so much on the network, its hard to keep up with all the groups.  I think I am going to enjoy this group ALOT!

04/09/2007 12:07 PM by Midori Miller-Daytona Beach Florida Real Estate Trainer (CENTURY 21 Sundance Realty)


Welcome! I'm so glad you're here. Yeah, you'll like it!

Jennifer

04/09/2007 12:09 PM by Jennifer Allan, Author of Sell with Soul (Sell with Soul)


Dear Jennifer,

 I have to say, I haven't had much time to spend on the Active Rain network (in fact, I joined in December and this is the first time I've had to peruse the site), but I REALLY love your group concept.  It truly is a group of "my people".  This is how I sold real estate and it's how I deal with my clients (Realtors) now as a trainer and creator of products and systems for agents.  Thanks so much for setting this up!

04/13/2007 12:05 PM by Kelle Sparta and the Sparta Success Systems Team (Sparta Success Systems)


I'm very soulful as well. I tell my clients that it's there money. I just make happy clients!

04/18/2007 12:42 AM by Chris Webster (BUYER'S CHOICE REALTY)


I love the way that you have described soulfully selling.  We don't worry about the money, just try to do a good job.  The rest falls in place.

04/25/2007 07:05 AM by Judi Barrett (Integrity Real Estate Services)


I like to think I sell soulfully. There is an art to getting to a closing without killing people. It's not always how to get the best deal and hurt others. 

04/30/2007 04:54 PM by Lizette Fitzpatrick, Kentucky Real Estate (Central Kentucky - Prudential Don Foster)


I like your idea.  This is basically how I operate yet sometimes I feel that I get run over by the over-agressive sellers.

05/11/2007 06:50 PM by Robin Willis, Tucson's Expert Agent, Realty Executives (Realty Executives Southern Arizona)


Finally found a group that I feel at home with.  Being honest and upfront is a big part of being soulful to me, caring for the people you are approaching, being able to listen and being able to show that you do is so important to the client.  Especially in this time in the market, we have to have compassion and it has to come across like it is natural.

Soulful has a bouncy, spiritual and musical upbeat kind of feeling and I like it!

Count me in.

www.motheranddaughterrealty.com

 

05/11/2007 09:09 PM by Rosemary Brooks -Mother & Daughter (866)-750-8282 (Family Realty Group - 866-750-8282)


Here, Here!

I love this...  I'm a newbie broker, and this is how I imagined the real estate business to be.  I've been told I'll have to lose my "glow" and that it's not a pretty business.  I refuse to believe that!

I believe life is what you make of it, and so is the real estate business.

Cheers to you Jennifer!  I'm joining!

05/27/2007 01:26 PM by Deanna Wolfe, Denver Real Estate Professional (Prestige Real Estate Group, LLC)


Welcome! You definitely don't have to lose your glow... there are members of this form, whom I've obviously never met, but I can FEEL their glow through their words and they're kicking butt!

Funny you say that people have told you real estate isn't a "pretty business". In my book, I actually say that  "a real estate career can be a beautiful thing"... So there! Phooey on them!!

Go Us!

05/27/2007 01:37 PM by Jennifer Allan, Author of Sell with Soul (Sell with Soul)


I figured it out with the help of a little birwebie (internet term for birdie and interweb intertwined). I appreciate the help and hope to broaden my on line experience peering into yours.

jmac

08/22/2007 12:49 PM by John MacArthur The MacArthur Group (Long and Foster Real Estate, Inc.)


Well, I wish I had found this group sooner! I believe in treating EVERYONE with honesty, respect, and compassion, and 99% of the time, they will reciprocate. I come to really care about my clients and customers, and usually end up as friends...

About half my sales have been to buyers who only looked at one house. No, I don't pressure them into buying, I just try to listen to them well enough that I get a real feel of what is right for them, then I find it. I think that comes from taking more time with each buyer and getting to know them as a person. In the end, I feel honored to have helped them find and buy a home. The commission checks are nice, and necessary, but I can't remember where each check got spent- but I DO remember every hug at closing, each thank-you card I got, and every time I handed over the keys. In the big scheme of things, I consider those far more important!

10/26/2007 09:37 PM by Amber Bourland (Ozarks' Independent Realty)


Amber - thanks for finding us! Your style probably can't be "learned" - you just GET IT! My goal for this group isn't really to recruit The Others to our way of thinking; it's rather to assure us Golden Rule folks that our way can and does work!

10/27/2007 06:25 AM by Jennifer Allan, Author of Sell with Soul (Sell with Soul)


Jennifer,

I get your newsletter and am a member of your VIP lounge so I was pleasantly surprised and ecstatic when I found your group today. The beauty of your philosophy is that this is just the way you should LIVE and not just where it comes to your job. I was reading a blog the other day that addressed the lack of true customer service in every industry these days and how if you set yourself apart in the areas that really matter, you have your recipe for success. As always, thanks for your insight!

10/27/2007 12:51 PM by Sandi Logan - Real Estate Support (Logan Realtor Support & Virtual Assisting)


Here I am!  Thanks for the invite.  It's funny to read your introduction and smile through it as I nod my head.  I say often that I can't change the other folks in this business but I can learn to be better at my job one transaction, one day at a time.  It's what will let me sleep at night...

11/06/2007 06:08 AM by Bethesda Real Estate Sales ~ Josette Skilling (Long & Foster Real Estate, Inc.)


Josette - Welcome aboard!!! Thanks for accepting my invitation. You say something I just realized for myself - my message of fair play, common sense and showing respect for our clients and our industry is not understood by many - and I'm not going to change them! However for the choir (as in "preaching to"), it's so nice to have confirmation that there are so many "soulful" types out there. So, yes, you are correct - we can't change the world, but we can become exceptional at what we do. (thus changing our little corner of the world!)

11/06/2007 06:11 AM by Jennifer Allan, Author of Sell with Soul (Sell with Soul)


When I read this post I realized this is a group I should be in. This is totally the way I do business. I really like to help people and I work long and hard to do this. I have some clients I've been looking for many years for.  Others, after looking for years, decide to move elsewhere. That's not the point. I just don't think about the prospect of money. Actually I don't make much at real estate, but that's not why I do it.  I truly find enjoyment in helping others.

11/22/2007 11:41 AM by Amy McAllister Realty LLC


I am glad there is a group here to discuss this concept...I am relatively new to this selling game, and it is not something that I come by naturally.  I am so happy to have found like minded souls who are concerned with retaining our ethics.  We can do this soulfully and make money!

11/22/2007 04:21 PM by Howard Sanders, Pender Island Real Estate (Dockside Realty Ltd)


Welcome Amy & Howard! And yes, you can be soulful and still make lots and lots of money. Thanks so much for your interest!

11/22/2007 05:24 PM by Jennifer Allan, Author of Sell with Soul (Sell with Soul)


Jennifer,

I like your ideas. And, I enjoyed meeting you at the NAR convention. I purchased many of your cds and have been looking at them and listening to your book on cd. Great Job!

Lynne

11/22/2007 09:37 PM by Lynne Rowland Eaker (Allen Tate Realtors)


This is how I live and work.  I get referrals because people know I care about them I won't live any other way.

Thanks for the post and the group.  Soulfully yours,

Paddy Pizappi

03/28/2008 08:34 PM by Paddy Pizappi PineBush & Hudson Valley NY Real Estate (RJ Smith Realty Real Estate Solutions)


Jennifer,

I just finished your audio book!  I lOVED it and really, really appreciate you taking the time to write it and even make it convenient so I could listen to it in my car!

It's really helped me to get my real estate career of to a great start.

Thanks!

Myra Spano

04/02/2008 11:52 AM by Myra Spano ~ Virginia Beach Real Estate (Long & Foster Real Estate, Inc.)


Jennifer ~

I am a huge fan of yours! I am going to order your book! I love to write, and I am a musician/songwriter.

I admire you following your passion and writing a book. YOU GO GIRL!

BethAnn

www.BethAnnHomes.com

05/28/2008 11:22 PM by BethAnn Long REALTOR, e-PRO (Tomlinson South Inc.)


I love your philosophy. We work this way.  Giving people accurate information and helping them make good decisions, producing quality materials, staying knowledgable, being honest,  not dropping the ball, working for other people as I would want my agent to work for me.  It's the golden rule. it's soulful. May I join your group?

07/21/2008 08:53 PM by Kenneth Fisher (Prudential Burroughs & Chapin)


Hi All- Thanks, Jennifer, for making Selling with Soul into a group on Active Rain.  I am new to AR, and don't have a complete picture of all that's available here yet, but I love the "Selling with Soul" concept.  Our office is known for its integrity, and going above & beyond the expected.

Sometimes just knowing a few more kindred spirits are out there who treat people kindly and honestly, renews my purpose for getting into real estate to begin with.  I believe that people know what they want in a home, and don't need to be pushed into buying or have strange surprises when it's time to close!

07/23/2008 04:46 PM by Lynn Afton (Greenridge Realty Oakmont)


Jennifer, Sometimes Selling with Soul can get quite difficult, but in the end it's always worth it.  Mike

07/25/2008 08:58 AM by Mike Miller (Howard Hanna Real Estate Services, Inc.)


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