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REGRETTING REGRET

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Real Estate Broker/Owner with people first...then business Ran Right Realty 636943 licensed to thrill

What is regret? Interesting as the definitions fit the different scenario as there is no general regret but instead specific. A missed opportunity? That would mean a failure to act promptly or at all. A poor choice? That remains normal for the life journey. Disappoitment? For who? You or the other person? 

WHY REGRET?

It has been said that all we need to know is safely hidden within ourselves and the life journey via exploring and risk brings it to the surface. We also have skills bank, abilites and talents that when needed spring into life yours being custom to your circumstances. All primed and ready for usage

THE APPROACH

Regret can be minimized by using and following this approach. If you have something to say, say it! If you have something to do, do it! Hesitation, doubt, confusion, anaylizing/thinking plus having a double standard interferes with the deed of doing or not or saying or not. Life is simple not complex except we make it so. Watch your own will too. Your power when applied can backfire

DISCOVERY OF REGRET DYNAMIC

Our failure to act from whatever reason introduces us to regret via hindsight. Regret has a learning curve aspect to it. Once more, we either over-do or under-do regret as we learn about it. Some of the missed opportunities can be physical, mental, emotionally painful. while some of the seize the day scenarios can be gainful or cause loss. Either way, the regret dynamic needs a look

ANY REGRETS IN LIFE?

This is not a fair question in a way. We either chose or didn't making us accountable as regret players or non-players. If we had it to do over is not realistic either. A first-time choice is a choice that must made and never having been here before just involves best efforts to do so but not regrets. In the end, we all made decisions and that is our reality. Results or lack of do not lie

MILD REGRET

Ever lose your temper or ordered incorrectly while dining and after assessing the situation saw how it could have been handled differently. That's the learning curve aided by conscience & common sense. Time also adds pressure to the regrets equasion. Do we or don't we act now or not? Too much thinking can sabatoge a life experience. Risk, adventure & mystery are well named

GIVE WHAT YOU GOT

When it comes down to action, giving all that you have makes difference. Regret on holding back will haunt you here as well. If you do all you can...well all that you can do is done. You're free from regret and your personal stock as a person is maintained or gains value. Act with freedom

REPENTANCE

This is worth mentioning for this subject. When we don't repeat what doesnt work, we have repented (changed) and are then on our way to what will work by knowing what doesn't work. Repeating what doesnt work is called insanity. It is better to do nothing than go insane

TEMPTATION

Everyone is doing it and we must act now to me is a turn-off but still worth keeping an eye on. I am reminded about how there are never-ending opportunites during a persons life time so lets let our portions allotted come in our good timing. That takes objectivity, patience & faith. All doable

THE HUMAN NATURE IS SUBJECT TO MUCH

Never having been here before (life), exploring, inquiry, and the testing of our curiousities/ beliefs is required if we are to grow inwardly as well as outwardly. Welcome failure as a lesson not a punishment and continue to grow and prosper until you decide not to. Its all waiting for you

Comments (5)

Wayne Martin
Wayne M Martin - Chicago, IL
Real Estate Broker - Retired

Good evening Richie. Regret is the after thought of an act done or not done. At the the time of action or inaction, it was right. Enjoy your evening 

May 06, 2021 05:01 PM
Richie Alan Naggar

Thank you for joining me Wayne Martin . Your comment stands

May 06, 2021 07:53 PM
Kat Palmiotti
eXp Commercial, Referral Divison - Kalispell, MT
Helping your Montana dreams take root

I don't want to regret NOT saying or doing something. "What if" isn't a great place to be. So being true to ourselves is key to minimizing regret.

 

May 07, 2021 05:15 AM
Richie Alan Naggar

Your most decent commenting stands Kat Palmiotti 

May 07, 2021 06:33 AM
Brian England
Ambrose Realty Management LLC - Gilbert, AZ
MBA, GRI, REALTOR® Real Estate in East Valley AZ

Whether we have regrets or not, we have to keep on moving forward in life but hopefully, it steers us away from doing the same regrettable thing again, haha.

May 07, 2021 05:36 AM
Richie Alan Naggar

The regret "hamster wheel" is not a good place to be agreed Brian England 

May 07, 2021 06:34 AM
Michael Jacobs
Pasadena, CA
Pasadena And Southern California 818.516.4393

Hello Richie - I have no regrets reading your thoughts.  With this or any post.  

May 07, 2021 05:49 AM
Richie Alan Naggar

The liberty to come and go or be still demonstrated via your commentiing thank you Michael Jacobs 

May 07, 2021 06:35 AM
Hella M. Rothwell, Broker/Realtor®
Carmel by the Sea, CA
Rothwell Realty Inc. CA#01968433 Carmel-by-the-Sea

I find that people who look back, especially those of a "certain age", tend to have selective memories.  They idealize certain stages of their life and, in my book, that smells of missed opportunities and regret.  Didn't they take advantage of the educational or personal advantages that youth gives us? When I look back, I have "finished" with those times, would not want to go back and continue those years or do them over.  I did the best I could with what I had without the gift of foresight. Especially today, knowing I can't go back and having many of my nearest and dearest no longer with us and some fighting for their lives to stay a little longer, I want to take advantage of every day I still have left without the burdern of "regret".  Hope that makes sense, because it does to me.  I look forward to new mountains to climb (not physically, of course) and people to meet and to live life to the fullest from here on forward. 

Jun 16, 2021 10:21 AM