It really struck me the other day that there are two kinds of people in this world. The type who understand that you can design the kind of life you want to have, and the type who think that life just happens to you.
If it isn't already obvious, I am the type of person who believes that you can manifest and create whatever kind of life you want to have. My life is proof of this. I live the way I choose to, I focus on the things I choose to, I even choose to think about specific positive things and not dwell on negative things. As I think about those things I want in my life and visualize them I also believe them to be coming true.
I can't imagine living a life that I felt was just "thrust" upon me. I believe that you need to decide what you want in life, visualize it, write it down - sometimes I make manifestation boards and then go after it with both hands - to me you take the action and let go of the results. As I look at the happy and successful people in my life I notice a commonality. We all decided what we wanted and formulated a plan to actively pursue it. Things did not always go smoothly, or sometimes it takes longer to manifest then others but it didn't matter, it doesn't matter, we continue to pursue our dreams and goals one step at a time. We know we are on a spiritual path and that along the way there will be lessons learned some painful and some glorious.
If you are unhappy with any aspect of your life, ask yourself "How can I design something better?" Once you have designed what you want go after it with all of your heart. There will be stumbling blocks along the way, but you will succeed.