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The Kindness Comeback. . .

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Industry Observer CalDRE #01165532

The Kindness Comeback

It's A Return Policy Of Sorts. . . 

 

A few weeks ago, my sister sent me a text message of an odd never-before-experienced encounter she had on a grocery store visit. Let’s face it, we can see lots of what we might call “weirdness” in the course of our daily lives.  Maybe it's inevitable. 

 

But how do we respond?    “Moving On” is usually a good option especially when dealing with a person or a situation that borders on “seeming a bit unhinged”.  That’s what my sister did but she wondered why “that right comeback” didn’t immediately come to mind but arrived moments later after the incident was over.

 

That made me think.   What do we hope to achieve with a snappy comeback?  Do we feel the need to make a point?  Could there be a "winner" in this one-sided battle?  While I may occasionally think of something witty (at least in my mind) to say, after the fact.  Real life doesn't operate in reverse. So "moving on" continues to work well in many, if not most, situations where weirdness and oddness live.

 

Let's face it, Santa is especially busy these days. Each year shortages of items always seem to increase as things are crossed off that "nice' list. Tempers that may border on the naughty (plus blood pressure levels and all sorts of stress) can reach new heights. You may be called to help St Nick with a few of those last-minute holiday items, so remember - Kindness Matters.  Always.  And when kindness seems more difficult to find. "Moving On" works too.

 

 

The image in this post is from canstockphoto.com.   

Posted by

Michael Jacobs

 

CalBRE # 01165532

P. O. Box 587

Pasadena, CA 91102

Call/Text:  818.516.4393

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Paul S. Henderson, REALTOR®, CRS
Fathom Realty Washington LLC - Tacoma, WA
South Puget Sound Washington Agent/Broker!

I am seeing it more and more each day even though the evening news doesn’t reflect very much kindness. I guess I must look for the positive Michael 🎅

Dec 23, 2021 07:36 AM
Michael Jacobs
Pasadena, CA
Pasadena And Southern California 818.516.4393

Joan Cox and Paul S. Henderson, REALTOR®, CRS - it can be amazing what we "find" when we remain alert.  

Dec 23, 2021 07:42 AM
Roy Kelley
Retired - Gaithersburg, MD

Good Thursday morning, Michael.

I hope you are experiencing lots of kindness this week.

Dec 23, 2021 08:16 AM
Michael Jacobs
Pasadena, CA
Pasadena And Southern California 818.516.4393

Roy Kelley - I hope to be a "carrier of kindness" each and every day.  

Dec 23, 2021 08:26 AM
Will Hamm
Hamm Homes - Aurora, CO
"Where There's a Will, There's a Way!"

Hello Michael,  it varies with some people, they should watch more chistmas mvies like scoorge.

 

Dec 23, 2021 08:43 AM
Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!
Red Rock Real Estate (435) 632-9374 - St. George, UT
St. George Utah Area Residential Sales Agent

Moving on does keep one safe in so many ways but turning a blind eye to someone who may be intent on causing harm to another is a totally different thing. I have 911 on speed dial for those cases, Michael and hope a situation never gets that far!

Dec 23, 2021 08:43 AM
Jeff Dowler, CRS
eXp Realty of California, Inc. - Carlsbad, CA
The Southern California Relocation Dude

Hi Michael:

"Moving on" is certainly called for in some situations, and a feeling worth paying attention to.

Jeff

Dec 23, 2021 11:09 AM
Michael Jacobs
Pasadena, CA
Pasadena And Southern California 818.516.4393

Will Hamm - some messages are more subtle, aren't they?  

Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can! - different situations prompt different responses.

Jeff Dowler, CRS - maybe it's this particular moment but "hitting pause" comes to mind right now.  

 

 

Dec 23, 2021 11:52 AM
Kathy Streib
Cypress, TX
Home Stager/Redesign

Dec 25, 2021 06:45 PM
Ed Silva, 203-206-0754
Mapleridge Realty, CT 203-206-0754 - Waterbury, CT
Central CT Real Estate Broker Serving all equally

Sometimes, being too snappy with that comeback can lead to toes to toes and nose to nose confrontations. Turn the other cheek, or better just shrug and move on

Dec 26, 2021 07:13 AM
Michael Jacobs
Pasadena, CA
Pasadena And Southern California 818.516.4393

Kathy Streib - I "shut off" from ActiveRain earlier than usual yesterday so I didn't see this comment until I saw mention of it in your post on Sunday.  Thank you very much. 

Ed Silva - that's so true.   

Dec 26, 2021 08:03 AM
Paul S. Henderson, REALTOR®, CRS
Fathom Realty Washington LLC - Tacoma, WA
South Puget Sound Washington Agent/Broker!

In my heart, kindness is always present Michael. I hope you stay busy and motivated this week🙂.

Dec 27, 2021 09:03 AM
Debe Maxwell, CRS
Savvy + Company (704) 491-3310 - Charlotte, NC
The RIGHT CHARLOTTE REALTOR!

Hi Michael! I am with Paul S. Henderson, REALTOR®, CRS - I tend to find the positive. Life is just better that way!

And, my MO is to kill with kindness! Again, life is better that way!

Dec 27, 2021 08:30 PM
Laura Cerrano
Feng Shui Manhattan Long Island - Locust Valley, NY
Certified Feng Shui Expert, Speaker & Researcher

There is just a quality of once you know how people feel and are struggling, generosity just pours out like fountain in certain ways, I find.

Dec 27, 2021 10:24 PM
Endre Barath, Jr.
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices California Properties - Beverly Hills, CA
Realtor - Los Angeles Home Sales 310.486.1002

Michael such wisdom in this post !!! Just to share with you there are a few people I decided to eliminate from my circle, yes on this platform:)) I moved on as you would say.... and oh boy  at times it is hard not to comment on their phony baloney preaching from the throne attitude and not doing what they are saying....  like you said no gain or worth giving them a snappy comment they would not understand :)Endre

Dec 27, 2021 11:22 PM
Sharon Tara
Sharon Tara Transformations - Portsmouth, NH
Retired New Hampshire Home Stager

Oh I know that "perfect response after the fact" feeling all too well. 

However I do agree with you...move on. I seem to be telling Rick more and more lately "don't engage". 

Dec 28, 2021 12:07 PM
Michael Jacobs
Pasadena, CA
Pasadena And Southern California 818.516.4393

Paul S. Henderson, REALTOR®, CRS - that "to do" list never seems to shrink.

Debe Maxwell, CRS - as we know, one can't go wrong when listening to the wise words of Mr. Henderson.

Laura Cerrano - I like the use of "fountain" in your comment.

Endre Barath, Jr. - I can understand that feeling but also feel that there is a lot of value (for me) with the "killing with kindness" approach taken by Debe.  It's a juggling attempt at times, that's for sure.  

Sharon Tara - these times can be challenging.  That's for sure.  I guess they always have been.  

 

 

Dec 28, 2021 12:19 PM
Eric Bouler
Gardner Realtors, Licensed in La. - New Orleans, LA
Listening to your Needs

Your blogs reads great. Hope you are going to do well in 2022 as one of the best years...

Dec 28, 2021 12:36 PM
Michael Jacobs
Pasadena, CA
Pasadena And Southern California 818.516.4393

Eric Bouler - thank you.  I appreciate the thought and wish the same for you.  

Dec 28, 2021 12:45 PM
Jan Green - Scottsdale, AZ
Value Added Service, 602-620-2699 - Scottsdale, AZ
HomeSmart Elite Group, REALTOR®, EcoBroker, GREEN

Love this post!  Instead of dialing into the drama, change course and refuse to comment.  I'm not as quick witted anyway!  When i was a kid, middle of 6 with 4 of them being boys, I was the quiet one.  I just went along and listened.  Sometimes I need to revert to that kid!  

Dec 28, 2021 06:40 PM