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Ray Henson, Life Events and Growth

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Real Estate Agent with eXp Realty of California, Inc. (lic. #01878277) DRE# 00949880

If life is a story, mine is pretty humble.  I was very reserved, well, painfully shy, when I was a kid and I was a bit overweight so I enjoyed high school, but it had its challenges.  I was pretty average with school work, but I hung out with a lot of really smart kids.  I was not an athlete, but loved sports and hung out with a lot of athletes.  I was probably the most cut kid from sports in my four years at Lincoln High School.  Twice a coach told me, you just took yourself off the cut list.  Twice, I was cut the next day.  Ha!  Coaches are so fickle!  All of that is for a little context to understand the next few paragraphs and some of the events that affected my life.

First and, most importantly, was marrying Mary Margaret.  I tell just about everyone, if I did anything right in this life, it was convincing this cute girl to marry me, not an easy task for a shy guy.  We have built a family together and a very good life.  She also gave me the confidence to run my own business and, during the Great Recession, leave that business and start my career in real estate.  She was also the driving force for us to purchase single family rentals.  We make a very good team, but I would probably still be in my first home, if it was not for her.

Mary Margaret

Lake Tahoe Half Marathon

Training in Mixed Martial Arts was also important to me.  I spent about five years training and I did earn my black belt.  It is ironic how things work.  I started my training to become stronger and feel more comfortable if I ever had to defend myself, but I feel that other aspects of the training have been more important to me.  Our training started each day with, "looking for the good."  Five years of that and reinforcement by our teachers really made a change in the way I viewed life.  We also had to perform in front of crowds for our tests.  For a back of the room, reserved guy, like me, it really made me confront my fears.

My pace group at the Lucky Run Half Marathon

My First Half Marathon, The Lucky Run

Joining Runnin for Rhett was also a life changing event for me, though I did not know it at the time.  I hated running.  My knee hurt. I thought my athletic life was over.  My wife made me join (I told you she was smart).  The training was nothing like  I had envisioned and I loved the people that trained with me.  They all seemed to have challenges in life and just keep moving forward.  Runnin for Rhett calls it, Moving into Life.  Daily training led me to running my fasted one mile, a 10k under one hour, a half marathon under two hours, plenty of trail runs, my all time high in bench pressing and two marathons, all over the age of 53.

The founders, Randy and Beth Seevers, also heard me mention my fear of speaking so they challenged me to do some inspirational speaking at their training sessions.  I was nervous, but happy with the results.  😀 They have also asked me to be on committees and even given me one of the most important job at Capital Beer Fest, overseeing one of the gates.  We have to get thousands of people in the festival in a very short amount of time. Yes, they have challenged me on multiple levels.

 Each of these events have really helped build my confidence.  As my confidence has grown, it has spilled over into my real estate business.  I do things that I never even thought I could do.  For example, about a year ago, I started building a YouTube Channel.  I have close to 100 videos and getting close to 500 subscribers.  I even speak in many of the videos.  Not necessarily well, but I am getting better.  And that really is what we try to do in this world, get better.  Right?  Never, did I ever, think I would have a video on YouTube with over 5,700 views. 

If you like the video, please subscribe to my channel.  😃

Thank you for the challenge, Anna Banana Kruchten CRS, Phoenix Broker and Carol Williams.  This one was a challenge!

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Raymond Henson, SRES, GRI, e-Pro

Past Client Testimonials   

3412 Babson Drive

Elk Grove, CA 95758

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Aura Alex
Seattle, WA
Retired Real Estate Pro

Raymond Henson, eXp Realty, I am glad you shared your story. I echo your shyness, and that's one of the main reasons I trained for marathons. However, I did enjoy friends and coaches that ran with me. We developed a bond among us, and it was hard to break that bond after the race when we had to say goodbye.

I truly enjoyed your story. I have learned much more about you and can easily relate to some of your experiences. Thank you. 

Feb 28, 2022 06:46 PM
Carol Williams
Although I'm retired, I love sharing my knowledge and learning from other real estate industry professionals. - Wenatchee, WA
Retired Agent / Broker / Prop. Mgr, Wenatchee, WA

Hi Ray,
I love that you're willing to keep pushing yourself out of your comfort zone. You and Mary Margaret seem to be the perfect team.

Feb 28, 2022 07:09 PM
Michael Jacobs
Pasadena, CA
Pasadena And Southern California 818.516.4393

Hello Raymond - at least you were trying out for the team (I never tried out) as I was often the kid in physical education class hearing pleas between team captains of "you take him, no - you take him".  Your story of sticking to it, trying and then trying again is something many of us can relate.  I enjoyed both of your submissions for the February AR Challenge.   

Mar 01, 2022 05:11 AM
Ray Henson
eXp Realty of California, Inc. (lic. #01878277) - Elk Grove, CA
Realtor

Good morning, Anna Banana Kruchten CRS, Phoenix Broker.  I have been lucky to be surrounded by good friends that push me a little and encourage me to become all that I can be.  

We are looking forward to meeting you too and exploring some of Arizona with you.  We do not have to run.  😉

Mar 01, 2022 05:24 AM
Ray Henson
eXp Realty of California, Inc. (lic. #01878277) - Elk Grove, CA
Realtor

Thank you, Kathy Streib.  I feel very fortunate to call you friend too.  It will be a good day when MM and I can meet you and Larry in person.  

Thank you, Aura Alex.  There is a special bond that you enjoy when you train in general.  The bond is so much stronger when you train with friends for a marathon.  In my first marathon,  I had hit that proverbial wall.  My coach surprised me by meeting me at mile 19 or so.  He kept me on track when I wanted to quit and ran, well, ran walked, the whole rest of the way and then he let me cross the finish line on my own and went back for someone else.  

I really enjoyed your story too.  I can't imagine traveling across the world and starting a new life as you did. 

Mar 01, 2022 05:33 AM
Lawrence "Larry" & Sheila Agranoff. Cell: 631-805-4400
The Top Team @ Charles Rutenberg Realty 255 Executive Dr, Plainview NY 11803 - Plainview, NY
Long Island Condo and Home Specialists

What a great story Raymond and I enjoyed reading it and learning more about you and Mary Margaret. From being very shy to speaking in front of groups and dealing with the public in Real Estate is a great achievement. Continued success to you!

Mar 01, 2022 05:35 AM
Ray Henson
eXp Realty of California, Inc. (lic. #01878277) - Elk Grove, CA
Realtor

Thank you, Carol Williams.  There are times I think MM and my friends will never let me back in my comfort zone.  Ha!  I am lucky to be surrounded by so many good friends.

Thank you, Michael Jacobs.  There were plenty of times I was the last man standing when teams were picked.  In a way, it has made me stronger today.  From what I know of you, it seems like the same is true of you.  You are one of my inspirations as a real estate agent and a writer.  I look forward to all of your posts.

Mar 01, 2022 05:39 AM
Ray Henson
eXp Realty of California, Inc. (lic. #01878277) - Elk Grove, CA
Realtor

Good morning, Lawrence "Larry" & Sheila Agranoff. Cell: 631-805-4400.  It is one of the reasons that I became an agent.  Early in my career, I was going to meet my clients to go over a contract.  I was in a wreck on the way to the meeting (my fault too) so I was already on edge.  When I showed up, my client took me to the conference room where everyone in the family was sitting (multi-generational), as well as some others from the company.  I had to present to them all.  The CEO of the company who was also the patriarch of the family peppered me with questions.  That is when I knew, this business was either going to make me a lot stronger or chew me up right away.  So far, so good. 

Continued success to you!!!

Mar 01, 2022 05:46 AM
Roy Kelley
Retired - Gaithersburg, MD

Thank you very much, Ray, for sharing more of your personal story.

Mar 01, 2022 06:36 AM
Joan Cox
House to Home, Inc. - Denver Real Estate - 720-231-6373 - Denver, CO
Denver Real Estate - Selling One Home at a Time

Ray, great story, and cannot see you are shy, but haven't met you in person YET.   You did well convincing Mary Margaret to marry you, and you too are so cute together!   

Mar 01, 2022 07:12 AM
Bob "RealMan" Timm
Ward County Notary Services - Minot, ND
Owner of Ward Co Notary Services retired RE Broker

I sure can identify with much of your story Raymond Henson, eXp Realty . Thank you for sharing it with all of us.

Mar 01, 2022 10:56 AM
Curtis Van Carter
Better Homes & Gardens Wine Country Group - Yountville, CA
Your Napa Valley Broker Extraordinaire

Raymond

Running short of time this morning but promise to come back and read. cheers cvc

Mar 02, 2022 09:57 AM
Ann Hayden 636-399-7544
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices Select Properties-St. Louis Missouri - Des Peres, MO
SelectAnn.com

Raymond Henson, eXp Realty ,

Sounds like you overcame your shyness!

Mar 03, 2022 04:44 AM
Ray Henson
eXp Realty of California, Inc. (lic. #01878277) - Elk Grove, CA
Realtor

Good morning, Roy Kelley.  I hope you have a great weekend. 

Mar 04, 2022 05:10 AM
Ray Henson
eXp Realty of California, Inc. (lic. #01878277) - Elk Grove, CA
Realtor

Good morning, Joan Cox.  I think I hid it fairly well when I was young and I have been able to overcome a lot of it now.  I still have a ways to go.  Videos have been a challenge.  MM keeps telling me to loosen up.  I keep saying, I am, but really, I am a little tight. 😂

Thank you for stopping by and leaving a comment, Bob "RealMan" Timm.  Have a great weekend.  

Mar 04, 2022 05:14 AM
Roy Kelley
Retired - Gaithersburg, MD

Good Friday morning, Ray.

Have a great day and an outstanding weekend.

Mar 04, 2022 05:16 AM
Ray Henson

Thank you!

Mar 04, 2022 05:29 AM
Ray Henson
eXp Realty of California, Inc. (lic. #01878277) - Elk Grove, CA
Realtor

Good morning, Curtis Van Carter.  Thank you for stopping by and leaving a comment.  I hope you do not have to work too hard and that it is a very productive day. 

Good morning, Ann Hayden 636-399-7544.  I work on it all the time.  One of these days, it will be gone.  🙂 

Mar 04, 2022 05:16 AM
Ann Hayden 636-399-7544

Raymond Henson, eXp Realty ,


I have always been shy too.  

Mar 04, 2022 05:19 AM
Hannah Williams
HomeStarr Realty - Philadelphia, PA
Expertise NE Philadelphia & Bucks 215-820-3376

Love this video Raymond Henson, eXp Realty  great story too ! Feel like I know you 

Mar 04, 2022 12:27 PM
Miriam Odegard
United Real Estate Indianapolis - Indianapolis, IN
Real Estate Broker Serving Greater Indianapolis

Beautiful story! So interesting and informative, Ray! Thank you for sharing it.

Mar 04, 2022 02:35 PM
Ray Henson
eXp Realty of California, Inc. (lic. #01878277) - Elk Grove, CA
Realtor

Thank you very much, Hannah Williams.  The videos have been a challenge for me, but I keep at them.  I am told that one day they will become second nature for me.  I am not there yet.  😉 

Thank you for your nice comment, Miriam Odegard.  I sure appreciate it.

Just out of curiosity, are you related to my friend Chris Odegard? 

Mar 05, 2022 05:20 AM
Miriam Odegard

If Chris Odegard is from North Dakota, South Dakota, Washington state or Minnesota, then likey so. 

Mar 05, 2022 05:29 AM