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Clicking Your Way to Great Chemistry

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Real Estate Agent with Keller Williams Realty 0575737

Cat and MouseIn working with new Real Estate clients and also adding new friends from the world or even here on Active Rain it is interesting how some harmonize with you and just "click". I have been curious why this clicking happens sometimes and other times you are more neutral toward a new person or even the opposite and don't really like them? I think with our client - professional relationships there are ideal partnerships and others you just tolerate.

But with regard to the friends we pick up along the way it really is a matter of attracting people into your life who mirror many of your own qualities. If you are a fun person you probably like fun friends. If you are a very serious person those that are very serious you seem more comfortable around.

Be aware that you are sending out these attraction waves all the time with messages which will click in a human relationship form of chemistry with those you like.

Those messages say, I like you, You can trust me, I am happy when I am around you, I want you to stay in my life, You make me feel good, I feel safe with you, I can be myself with you.

Whether you call it attraction, chemistry, electricity, familiarity, resonance, or love, you "know it" when you feel it. You just "click" with some people.

So, is this important? Look at who you are attracting into your life and who you are rejecting and repelling. Are they the right people for you or do you need to change your attraction rays? It is important because it will affect the quality of your life and your overall happiness. We want people around us who we can count on and understand us. The quality of our relationships affects the quality of our life.

So get out there and find out those who you click with and tether to them with a strong cord (nothing wireless allowed). And keep your cat away from stealing your clicker : )

Carol Lee
Dilbeck Real Estate - Oak Park, CA
Realtor - Agoura, Oak Park, Westlake CA Homes

Higary- I love the photo of the kitty.  When agents in my office start whining, I leave.  Who needs to listen to that garbage?  I have a one whine rule.  Tell your negative story once, and that is it.  Or it will take on more bad energy.

Jun 30, 2008 05:52 PM
Tom Plant
WINEormous.com - Murrieta, CA

Gary - Yet another excellent post. I definitely believe in the law of attraction and you hit the nail on the head. I'm glad we "click".

Jul 01, 2008 02:16 AM
Chris Ann Cleland
Long and Foster Real Estate - Gainesville, VA
Associate Broker, Bristow, VA

Gary:  My husband struggles with friendships.  I think he is serious and analytical to the point of turning people off in social situations.  He isn't shy, but what I would call more "formal".  At home he is nothing like that.  It's weird.  I have talked to him about his nonverbal signals, but he doesn't give it enough attention.  What's funny is that he does attract the serious, anaytical, formal people, but doesn't find them fun.  Go figure.  But that's what he is attracting because that is how he acts in social situations. 

Jul 01, 2008 03:25 AM
Patricia Beck
RE/MAX Properties, Inc., ABR, GRI, SRES - Colorado Springs, CO
Colorado Springs Realty

Its the strangest thing clicking or not clicking with people and I even experience it with clients, if you don't click with a buyer or seller, it makes the experience less fun for everyone.  Ha, I like the picture!

Jul 01, 2008 05:35 AM
Trey Thurmond
BCR Realtors - College Station, TX
College Station , Texas Homes

Another nice one Gary! You always say the right words.

Jul 01, 2008 07:13 AM
Patricia Kennedy
RLAH@properties - Washington, DC
Home in the Capital

Gary, I think it's also good to look at the people who make us uneasy or uncomfortable to the point we push them away!  I found myself staring my dark side in the face in the mirror while dealing with a colleague who drove me nuts - rather I drove me nuts.  But it was what she mirrored back to me.  Yikes!

You are so deep!

Jul 01, 2008 11:37 AM
Gary Woltal
Keller Williams Realty - Flower Mound, TX
Assoc. Broker Realtor SFR Dallas Ft. Worth

Loreena: I try to put some graphic to catch your attention and let you stay long enough to read the words : )

Lisa: Good you and your husband click. The cat photo was just a search on the Internet.

Liz: We have to get out there in the world and find those that we click with. No bushels or cannons.

Carol: I like that one whine rule. Beyond that "run away." They've turned into grouches.

Tom: I'm sure you've seen that attraction rule in your own life, and finding those like us here who "click."

Chris Ann: I can't explain your husband attracting the serious ones but not liking them. Maybe he should send out the less serious waves and see what happens.

Patricia: You can work with those you don't click with, but I agree, it is a harder row to hoe.

Trey: Thanks for stopping by to read. I appreciate your thoughts always.

Patricia: That's a deep point yourself. I guess you are changing your attraction waves cause you didn't want that former self's qualities coming back at ya anymore.

 

Jul 01, 2008 12:20 PM
Tom Braatz Waukesha County Real Estate 262-377-1459
Coldwell Banker - Oconomowoc, WI
Waukesha County Realtor Real Estate agent. SOLD!

Gary

You are on top of everything

Sincerely

tom braatz

Jul 01, 2008 12:33 PM
Judy Greenberg
Compass - Long Grove, IL
Compass- Long Grove -Buffalo Grove

I have many aquaintances,but the ones I really enjoy being with are those I click with!!! 

Jul 01, 2008 12:53 PM
Gary Woltal
Keller Williams Realty - Flower Mound, TX
Assoc. Broker Realtor SFR Dallas Ft. Worth

Tom: Thanks. I enjoy your posts and thoughts too.

Judy: Chemistry is a weird thing isn't it? That clicking feeling is just one of those things in your life where you know it when you feel it. Hard to explain.

Jul 01, 2008 12:57 PM
Lynda Eisenmann
Preferred Home Brokers - Brea, CA
Broker Associate ,CRS,GRI,SRES, Brea,CA, Orange Co

Gary ~

"Be aware that you are sending out these attraction waves all the time..." Interesting and true!

For me personally, I've made a decision to be very selective about whom I choose to spend my time with, and I guess if some do not call me back, they've made that decision too for themselves.

Jul 01, 2008 01:22 PM
Gary Woltal
Keller Williams Realty - Flower Mound, TX
Assoc. Broker Realtor SFR Dallas Ft. Worth

Lynda: You always have such profound wisdom for us all. I have come to that same conclusion as well with the others where you reach out a hand and they "don't" click with you. It was not meant to be. After you see this enough, you're ok with it. Very good insight.

Jul 01, 2008 02:31 PM
Colleen Fischesser Northwest Property Shop
NextHome Experience - Chelan, WA
A Tradition of Trust in the Pacific NW since 1990!

Gary, I really think it's just a matter of being genuine. I think one genuine person can recognize another. I love "real" people, and cannot stand those who try to be something they aren't.

Jul 01, 2008 02:45 PM
Gary Woltal
Keller Williams Realty - Flower Mound, TX
Assoc. Broker Realtor SFR Dallas Ft. Worth

Colleen: Very good thought. If we are genuine, we will attract what is right for us.

Jul 01, 2008 03:26 PM
Michelle Hall
Century 21 Hecht - Denver, NC

Gary, it is true how you mirror others.  However, they can also mirror you.  So if you want to change and be with people who are more positive you have to stop hanging out with the negative people.  If you want to be successful you hang out with the successful people.  Who you hang out with, can have a big effect on you.

Jul 01, 2008 03:32 PM
Gary Woltal
Keller Williams Realty - Flower Mound, TX
Assoc. Broker Realtor SFR Dallas Ft. Worth

Michelle: Yes if we don't want the goofy turkeys in our life we have to start behaving like the eagles. Absolutely true. A subtle point but it is the way the world works. If you start working really hard all those lazy people that you used to be around you just fade away.

Jul 01, 2008 03:47 PM
Carol Culkin
Diamond Partners Inc - Overland Park, KS
Overland Park Residential Real Estate

Gary - the cat photo...that reminds me (not only do you and I click)...I think yiour the cat's meow of AR bloggers!

Jul 01, 2008 04:32 PM
Gary Woltal
Keller Williams Realty - Flower Mound, TX
Assoc. Broker Realtor SFR Dallas Ft. Worth

Oh Carol, don't do this to me. Now I am all red in the face. You are too, too sweet ; ) We do click you are right. I would probably be a Realtor partner with you if we were in the same office, not to mention just great Wednesday evening hump day drinking buddies. Thursday mornings would be hell though.

Jul 01, 2008 04:40 PM
Pam Pugmire
Silvercreek Realty Group - Meridian, ID
Meridian Idaho Real Estate

Gary......this is so true, especially in a tough market, we need to work on and improve ourselves to make it. 

I recently started greatly limiting the time I spent being around and talking to some of my family members because I found that I always felt worse after being around/talking with them. I decided I would no longer dwell on negative things in my life.....I have a sister that lives to dwell on negativity, so I told her that I wouldn't talk to her about certain subjects. 

I still love the family members, but for the benefit of me and my husband and children, I just needed to do this.  My life has greatly improved since then!

Jul 01, 2008 09:17 PM
Mara Hawks
First Realty Auburn - Auburn, AL
Inactive-2012 REALTOR - Homes for Sale Auburn Real Estate, AL

clickety-clack... I love that "click" feeling I get with new customers... and I also like that there are so many wonderful people "just a click away".

Jul 02, 2008 02:28 PM