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Symptoms of Inner Peace, Number 5

A loss of interest in conflict...

lightning bolt Conflict is something you no longer want to be a part of... it is just not where you want to be or go. The only way this works is, you do not even let the other person know you are passing on the conflict. Try picking a fight with someone who just is not interested. Eventually the person picking the fight will go somewhere else.

Is this easy? No one ever said it was... least of all me! However, criticisms are like homing pigeons, they always return home eventually! You see, wrong-doers must justify themselves. Therefore, participating in the conflict only deepens everyone's resolve to "prove their point." It is self preservation that stops someone from blaming themselves. Instead, they look to condemn others. When you participate in conflict, you add fuel to the fire.

I'm not suggesting we should all be pacifists and never fight to make a difference. I am simply suggesting that the majority of conflict we face in every day like is not only unnecessary but unproductive and perhaps destructive as well. Is there someone in your life you hope to change? Of course there is! However, ask the deeper question, am I so right that I am above change myself? Psychology proves that people respond better to praise than punishment. Don't participate in unnecessary conflict. The way to get honey rarely involves kicking over the bee hive!

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Based on the teachings of Dr. Wayne Dyer and Peace Pilgrim

Posted by Sara K. Braden- Handmade Cards and Gifts on 07/05/2008 11:44 AM

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13 Comments on Symptoms of Inner Peace, Number 5

JUL

2008

Sara... I don't try to justify myself when I am wrong.. because I never am. LOL. (Must be the drugs I am still taking, that are talking). I do believe to stand up for what one believes in.

AWESOME Picture on your Blog Sara.. and a wonderful message in your blog. I agree with you that praise gets more done that punishment. I Used to work with protection dogs when I was younger, and the best way to get them to do anything and learn was to go overboard with praise when they accomplished the task we were teaching. So many dog owners do not have a clue when trying to train thier dog to do something. when they do not do what they are trying to get them to do, they slap or beat it. Over and over again the dog does not perform, and why? because they are being punished for just being a dog. They can not understand english or interpret what someone wants them to do. Anyway I can relate to praise being much more powerful than punishment. And it is so true with people as well. Tom

Valerie: I would never suggest you could be wrong. I once thought you might be wrong, then I realized I was mistaken (0; You have to stand up for what you believe in... but... you also have to pick your battles. Often time conflict arises over the remote control, whose driving who where, the kids, etc, and these conflicts are often never resolved and not over core beliefs!

Thomas:I am with you buddy! I have an American Pitt Bull Terrier who is the most angelic creature you cold ever meet. She was rescued from a meth lab when the dealer was arrested. Love and praise has made her the best companion I could ever ask for. The abuse she suffered is a distant memory and she has wiped that jerk from her mind. She is proof that love can conquer all!

my pitt bull My pup still has chemical burn on her face that will never grow fur but her heart was ready to heal entirely!

Sara.. I couldn't agree with you more. I like the way you think. One needs to choose their battles. When it comes to the small things, one should just let them roll off you. It is the life altering things that need to be worked out.

Amen sister Valerie! You said it beautifully. Let the little stuff go! If the guy on the highway cuts you off, save the finger (0; It won't make your world better. hee hee!!

Sara.. Would you like to have a laugh? It goes along with your "save the finger" statement. If you would like to read this.. please continue. If you have reservations, you might want to think twice.

Last year I was on a two lane road (not a highway). I was in the passing lane, but wasn't going fast enough for the car behind me but moved over to the "slow lane". I happened to look over and the guy gave me the middle finger, and said " F you."

Being a single mom for years, I got his attention and responded "I'm a single mom, and that is the best offer I have had in a while. When and where would you like to meet?" I've never seen anyone turn red so fast... and he didn't even have a comeback.. he was speechless. I think more people should think twice before giving the finger.. don't you?

JUL

2008

Valerie: I love it!!! YOU are my hero!! That is awesome. SUCH a valid point... better be careful what you ask for! I bet you leave MANY men speechless!! (0;

Dyer also suggests asking the questions, "Is this worth having my joy stolen for?" Rarely is the answer yes!!!
Thanks for the great picture and the post.

Joeann: excellent EXCELLENT EXCELLENT point! Oh so true. Spoken like a genius. Gosh, I REALLY appreciate your comment. THANK YOU

Sara.. Have you seen the majority of men that give you the finger? One look at them.. and now you know why there is birth control.

This is enough on this topic. There are so many better things to talk about.

Valerie: okay, hmmm... I was just starting to LOVE this conversation. Hate for it to end. (0; No truer statement has ever been stated than the men willing to flip off a lady are perhaps the entire reason birth control was invented. hee hee. I actually could picture the neanderthal that did it and the look on his face when you retorted. TOO CUTE! You know you are a goddess!!

Sara.. Thanks for making me smile. If you want to continue this conversation I have no problem.. I just didn't want you to think I have some sort of fixation on it.

I was teasing you (0; You can alwaysspeak your mind on my post! I ADORE you. How can anyone think of anyone else as fixated on sex or neanderthals? hee hee well... maybe one of those subjects... I'll let the readers be the judge of which....

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