My wife was super tired and just generally not feeling well this afternoon.  In fact, without getting into details, I will say that the previous statement was a major understatement.  She was teetering on the brink of exhaustion.  She really needed to rest somehow, yet I had an appointment at 5:30, so I did the only thing I could think to do at that point. 

I rounded up all three kids and took them with me to my showing.

My kids are 9, 7, and 2, so this is no small feat.  The older two kids are very easy, but taking a toddler is at least a little brave, right?  As I was about to walk out the door, I discovered that I needed to change a dirty diaper, so that delayed our trip by a couple of minutes.  I think my wife might have thought that I was just offering to take them in order to be nice, but the four of us were in the van and on the road.

I was meeting with a young couple that wanted to see one of my listings in Round Rock.  I called ahead and let them know that I was bringing the kids, and they were fine with it (or at least they were polite enough to say that they were).  When we arrived, the buyers seemed excited about the house and about seeing my kids, which was cool.

The showing went really well, all things considered, although I had to keep a close eye on the little one, who started getting a little cranky right after the buyers left.  She wanted to play with all of the toys in the house, and it was tough persuading her to leave.  Actually, "persuading" may be the wrong term.  Perhaps "grabbing her and leaving amidst tears" would be a better description.

If this particular couple buys my listing, perhaps I should bring my offspring along to every showing?  Actually, I am not at all superstitious, so that probably won't happen, but it did go smoothly.

I wanted to let my wife get some good rest, so I took the kids to eat at Bennigan's, which they loved.  I had a lot of approving looks from the staff and other diners, as if I were doing something really noble by eating dinner with my kids without the assistance of my wife. 

We then went to Half Price Books (the Crouch family's favorite store) to hang out for awhile, and we bought a few great books, then got some ice cream from the grocery store for them to enjoy when we got home. 

My wife got a long nap and four hours sans children, and I got some quality time with my kiddos.  Overall, I would happily do it again. 

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43 Comments on Do you ever take your kids to showings? Well, I did it today.

JUL
09
2008
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Jason, Even if you don't make the sale, it was great to spend the time with your kids and give your wife a break!

11:29pm • #1
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Jason, on the buyers agent side I've seen the buyers kids along for the ride with the showings and especially when the owners have left for the appointment they always want to play with all the other kids toys. It's pretty humorous especially if the other kids have better toys than their own. Glad you treated Pam to some well deserved rest and the Bennigan's and the Half Price Books kept you all out of trouble. Good luck with the listing for sale.

11:31pm • #2

I think what you did with you kids is something I just won't feel comfortable doing.  I'm sure it was necessary for you to do what you did.  I'm glad your buyers were understanding of you bringing your kids, not 1 but 3!  I've done that once, and didn't feel very comfortable.

The best part of all, even if those buyers do not put an offer, you spent quality time with your kids, that's priceless.  Good for you Jason

11:32pm • #3
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You remind me of my husband!  Mick knows when I cannot get up and cope and he always pulls through for me.  I hope your wife is feeling better soon!

11:36pm • #4

I took two of my kids to a showing once as I got a call on the way to a benefit.  I didn't have a choice unless I just didn't show the house.  My girls spent the whole time saying "I like this house so much better than ours.  Why don't we buy this one mommy!"  The clients found it funny. I don't think I will do that again.

11:37pm • #5
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Hey Jason, I take my little ones with me on occasion and we always enjoy ourselves. I'm glad you had fun with your kids. Children are such a treat!

11:41pm • #6
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What a good husband!  I've taken my LittleOne(now 5) at different occassions and with certain people.  She use to travel in the backpack when she was up to 2+ yrs. old, which was great if I'd be somewhere for a while (inspection, etc.).  Now that she is older I can take her again once in a while (again, depending on client). At the 3-4 yr old stage - YIKES - no thanks! 

"Mommy, what's th-----"
"AHHHHHH Put that down!"

Yeah, wouldn't work for me.

Glad you gave your wife a break though!!! Good job for you!

11:48pm • #7
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My kids are grown, but I spend a great deal of time with our youngest grandson.  I have taken him on showing appointments, but only when the buyer is not someone I am meeting for the first time.  I do always ask first if they would mind.

11:54pm • #8
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What a nice guy and a good husband.  As long as your clients were good with having them there I don't see anything wrong with bringing the kids and it sounds like it made for some great father-kids quality time.

Glad to hear that you had a nice day!

11:55pm • #9
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Jason,

Yikes 3 of them, including a 2 year old! I give you a lot of credit for giving your wife the break. In the past I used to take my kids every now and then. As a single mom it's wasn't easy but we survived.

Seems like today it's a little more acceptable in many ways. BTW, I watched a young Dad in a local eatery not long ago. His kids were so well behaved I just had to comment and let him know. You could tell he was pleased.

11:56pm • #10
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Jason, you're one of my favorite bloggers, but I have to say this. I am NOT a fan of small children. I have a wonderful daughter who just graduated from high school, Magna Cum Laude. She has a scholarship and will be attending a bible college in the fall. But with the Fibromyalgia, I am hyper-sensitive to sound, light, movement, etc. And I'm a germphobe =/ Add those all up and you have a major avoidance of young children. (No, I didn't have this when I had my daughter. Thank God I had her when I was very young!) Anyway, I say all this not to insult you or your children, but with all the commercials on TV about Fibromyalgia, we know it's a growing problem. (Although not everyone has the same symptoms.) But there are also many people with anxiety problems. If someone has Fibromyalgia, they probably have at least some degree of anxiety, even if it's just from the pain. My point is, your buyers probably won't say anything because all good parents are going to take it as a personal insult if someone doesn't like children. For me, I've made it known to all my friends and family. We've just turned it into a joke about keeping the kids away from Lisa! ;) But if I was a buyer, I would NOT like it at all if my agent showed up with children in tow.

Sorry. I'm REALLY not trying to offend you. I love your posts and you're obviously a really nice guy. I just know that most people don't realize how offended other people can be about children. And there are so many reasons that I'm not even mentioning.

Still friends?

11:57pm • #11
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Jason.....it is a good way to interact with the kids and have them experience your day.  great job dad.

11:58pm • #12
JUL
10
2008
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Lisa - We are still friends, but believe me, it was really fine.  In fact, I have a feeling that they will be making an offer on this house.  I think I have shared with you before that my wife has fibromyalgia, which was one reason that she was so exhausted and feeling badly.  This particular couple was in their late 20's and very laid back, and they were only looking at one house today, so it was pretty low-risk. 

12:04am • #13
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Jason, you are a brave man indeed.  I wouldn't have taken my kids when they were that age, not that they couldn't have behaved well, I would be the one freaking out... Control issues.  My girls would go with me once and awhile after they were teenagers and we had plans after the showing.  It was always fine, but they were cool about listen to the radio or playing the video games in the car. 

I hope your wife got some well deserved rest.

12:22am • #14
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ROBERTA - Agreed.  It was a great day, actually.

GARY - I really had no other choice, and my kids were well-behaved, so it went well.  Thanks for your comments!

ANDY - I know it probably wouldn't work for everybody, but it went quite well in this case.  I wouldn't recommend it if you aren't comfortable. 

NAT - Thanks for your kind words, my friend.  I hope you're doing well - long time no see.

LINDA - My children were really very endearing today, so I am happy that it went smoothly.  I rarely get too stressed out, so I guess that shows with buyers.  I was relaxed, so they were, too!

CAROLYN - That's cool to hear.  I have taken my son on a number of appointments, but never all three of them until today.  I think it turned out really well.

KIM - There are days that I probably couldn't have done it, but this was an easy enough opportunity, since they were first-time buyers and about ten years younger than me.

CHRISTINE - Each person has to determine their comfort level in doing this.  This was the first time I had met these particular buyers, but I think they might buy this home or call me to find them another one.  Time will tell, but I got a great feeling from our meeting today.

STEVE - Sounds like you and I are on the same page here.  Thanks for your comments!

LYNDA - I guess part of me was thinking that I share so much about them in my blog and it has worked well in getting buyers that it couldn't really hurt to bring them.  If nothing else, they know me a little better now!

LISA - I responded to your comment first (above).  No offense taken - I appreciate your comments, as always.  Also, I understand fibromyalgia!

PAM - You share a first name with my wife, so I am always happy to see another Pam.  The kids had a blast, and my son thanked me for taking them along.

12:24am • #15
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LESLIE - My wife got a three-hour nap, which makes everyone's life easier, to be frank.  I wouldn't have brought them if we were looking at a bunch of houses, but it worked fine since it was my listing and just one showing.

12:25am • #16
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Well Jason I raised  3 children on my own...................I would have loved a husband like that!  lo.l....ok so I'm a wee bit envious........:)

12:30am • #17
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While I love that you enjoy and were able to spend time with your children, I have to say that if I arrived as a buyer to go look at houses and my agent showed up with his/her children, I would cancel right there on the spot.  Not everyone will be honest with you about things like that, and while most people enjoy being around children (I'll be honest here... I am an animal person, don't have children, never wanted children, but love my nieces and nephews), not too many have the nerve to tell you that they don't really want to be around children while looking at houses... especially if they are your children!  XXOO.

2:01am • #18
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Jason,

You are braver than the average husband with 1 child much less 3.  I am sure the kiddos enjoyed themselves tho.

Don R.

6:44am • #19

Jason- Taking 3 kids with you is certainly brave, or it's just a testament to being a great Dad and having good kids (ie, the thought of bringing them was ok, because you knew they would behave).  I have 2 kids, and although I've never brought them together on a showing, I have brought each one individually on a showing.  I had to do this because there simply was no other option: the buyer wanted to see the property at the time when I had no other babysitting choices and the buyer knew that if we went out, my kid would be coming.  I was more than happy to go out sans kids at another time and gave them the option each time.

I have to say each experience was great, my kids got to see part of what "Daddy" does and the 2 different clients always want to know what my daughter or son are up to.  Having said that, taking them out would certainly be a last resort and isn't something I'm nonchalant about, or that I've done more than these 2 separate occassions.

I'll bet you that you're kids will talk about their experience for a long time though, because it sounds like you made it a great "event."

7:02am • #20
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I think it is awesome of you to give your wife a break.  I am sure she is a strong woman but we all need time off from dirty diapers and SpongeBob every now and then.  I am glad your showing went well.  I remember taking my children a few times when they were younger.  It was fun!

7:26am • #21
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Jason, I don't see a problem with bringing the kids along every once in a while if needed.  While there may be some clients who would object, I'm sure that anyone who has a family would be understanding as long as it's just an occasional thing. 

After all, I've got several clients who've brought their toddlers along on their home search when they can't find a babysitter.  Can't say that I enjoy listening to Elmo or Barney playing in the backseat of my car, but I tolerate it especially when they're looking to buy a home for $500K.

7:32am • #22
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Jason...

The key here is that you didn't spring a surprise on the buyers! They advised and consented to the arrangement. Communication is the most important thing in these situation.

And a MARRIED dad out with three young kids is indeed unusual. Many may have thought you were a divorced single dad!

8:40am • #23
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Jason,

That was really nice of you to help give your wife a break.

9:10am • #24
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Great story and great Dad!  Jason you are the best for giving this gift to your wife and to your kids.  Kids need Dad time and Dads need kid time.  Have a great day and let us know if the couple buys.

9:21am • #25
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Jason, good job.  I think it's great that you take the kids with you sometimes.  My husband is also self employed, in the carpeting business and he used to regularly take my boys to work when I had all day clients, etc.  He always got brownie points for it and yet, as a woman, whenever I had to take my kids on an appt., I was always made to feel it wasn't professional.  Double standard?  I guess so.  I did it when I could, with people who I knew wouldn't mind but I never enjoyed it.  Good post!  See you soon.  Day 13 of my FFV!

9:23am • #26
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I'm happy it worked out for you.  I'm sure the kids really enjoyed being with their daddy.  Have a great day!  :)

9:40am • #27

Jason, I joked with some of the management for the company I work for saying I was gonna bring Isabelle with me on my days of floor duty!

10:01am • #28
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Jason, sounds like a win-win-win-win situation to me.

11:09am • #29
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You are the man, Jason. I can't imagine trying to show a house with my boys in tow. The closest I have come is having Brandi wait with the boys in the car while I showed a house. It actually seems to disarm the buyer a little from their natural defensiveness to a salesperson. Next time we go out as a family, the boys are passing out business cards for me!
11:51am • #30
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And for the record, anyone who would be offended by my kids does not get the PRIVILEGE of my service. Medical conditions and aversion to sights, sounds, etc is understandable, and I would respectfully refrain from bringing the kids around in the future once explained ... but to be offended? That's absurd.
11:58am • #31
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Very cool.  If you have kids that are well behaved, I am sure it was not a problem.  Buyers either have kids or want kids, in most cases, so I am sure they did not mind.  Very cool story though.

12:10pm • #32

Jason, I am sure your wife appreciated the gesture.  You are a brave man to take them on a showing though. 

12:18pm • #33
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Jason - I think it is fine to bring your kids as it allows your buyers to get to know you on a personal level as well. I have had both my daughters help me with walking my farm - and delivering items, I always introduce them and it seems the neighbors are always grateful to meet them.

12:37pm • #34
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Hi Jason,

WHAT A TROOPER!  You did a fantastic favor for your wife and your kids!

3:10pm • #35
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What a great guy you are!  My husband is very thoughtful as well, and it makes all the difference in the world! 

I have taken my two littlest with me to a showing ONCE, and I will never again!  I was showing homes to a friend whose home I had listed.  My husband, and my oldest daughter were busy, and my next oldest son was OK watching the 2 just younger than him, but I didn't think he was up to watching the 2 little guys also (ages 4 and 2 at the time-I have 6 kids if you lost count). It was a weekend night, so finding another babysitter was difficult since my friend/client called last minute. My friend has a young daughter that she was bringing (2 at the time), and she was OK with it, but my little guys drove me crazy.  Much of the problem was that we went to see several homes.  Needless to say, young boys can only be calm for so long.

I almost always take at least one child with me when I am doing RE erands like filling flyer boxes and the like.  It's a great way to bond with them one on one, and I love their company and help! 

4:06pm • #36
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Jason my friend...

Good for you!  I used to take my great nieces and nephew Starvin with me all the time, to losing, showings, etc.  It was never a problem, except for the kids every once in awhile.  One closing from hell (funny how you never forget theses, this was 20+ years ago).  I took Steven my great nephew who was around 7-8, and the jerk VA buyer brought a bag of cash to the closing, seriously.  The closer of course could not take it and it was late, so the other agent, Steven and I had to get in the car and go to all the Stop-In-Go's to get money orders, since I think the limit was $250 or so.  It took us forever.  Of course the closing it's self took forever too, he wanted to change wording in doc's, etc. just being an all around jerk the whole time.  Poor Steven was board to death.

Normally when I took the kids, in fact other than that one time, all was fine.  We also would make it fun and go to dinner, movie, store, etc. after so they looked forward to it.  I didn't have to worry about finding someone to watch them, and got to spend more time with them while they were visiting.

As you know the one great niece, Sandie works with me now, she is 26 now and is a great Realtor.  She started with me as a runner right after high school at 17 years old.  She grew up in the business and now runs it :).

Take care. :

5:47pm • #37
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I have had my wife and oldest son with me before when I recieved a call to show a home and I was in the area. Of course they stayed in the car.

11:38pm • #38
JUL
11
2008
Outside Blog

I've had to do this a few times before, but I've tried to keep it only with repeat clients, or clients that know me personally.  Even so, I'd have made the same choice you did because your family comes first and they really needed you at that particular time.  Hopefully the potential buyer was understanding, but oh well, if not. 

8:42am • #39
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Pam, My God... did I count 6 children in your comment???  And you still have such a wonderful sense of humor!!!  God love you girl.  I knew I liked you.

I am with Paul regarding being offended by children.  I also can understand illness, etc. but to be offended by children seems kind of, well, offensive.  I don't expect everyone to love my kids like I do, but I really wouldn't want to work with someone who found them offensive.  I don't take my children to places that are inappropriate, but with warning and with the right kind of buyers, I think it's okay once in a while. 

9:17am • #40

I would not take children to a showing. I did it once because I was babysitting my granddaughter and got a call. I thought it was kind of unprofessional, I felt uneasy so, I have never done it again.

11:22am • #41
JUL
12
2008
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I have totally done this.  For years, I couldn't think about it, but I actually think it has helped me at times.  

First, I always make sure that it won't offend.  I am a pretty good judge of people and would usually only do this with clients I have been working with long enough to know how they would react.  

Second, I always create a situation in which they view it as dedication to my family and to my clients.  Clients have to know that you don't work 24/7 and that your family is important to you.  This past week, my wife was having really bad morning sickness, so I worked from home so that I could watch my five year old boy.  Then I got a heads up on a new listing that fit my clients needs perfectly (they had been looking for months!).  I called them, let them know my situation, but said that if they were understanding, I could show them the house with my five year old present.  I showed it and we wrote an offer (with my 5 year old there!).  Two days later I got a card thanking for my dedication and for being willing to bring my son, and told me they enjoyed him so much that I should bring him any time!

Third, Professionalism is very important.  But more and more people respect one's dedication to things that are more important.  Sometimes, when you let people into your personal life (again, with good judgment and discernment) you are likely to endear (sp?) them to you.

Thanks for making me think more about it!

12:48am • #42

I took my kids to my very first showing!  Brave, huh?  I was so scared I was going to leave a horrible impression, but my husband wasn't home from work when the call came in, and I had no sitter.  I jumped in the car and prayed the whole way there.  It turned out great.  Turns out by buyer had 3 children and they played with mine in the front yard while we looked around.  She was also my first closing. 

1:14am • #43

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