I have 2 grandchildren. The little one is 8. The name stuck when he did not have his front teeth, and looked quite spooky when smiled, and he smiles a lot. He once came to stay with us and forgot his toothbrush, so he for a while was Toothless-Ruthless-Brushless, but he has a brush with him this time, - actually, I think he has everything that he needs, so we are with a shorter version. He is also known as Shane (Shine could be more appropriate).
He is very different from his elder brother. More on a cautious side. Very articulate, and very diplomatic. I remeber a year or more ago, he demanded something, got a "no", got angry and told me that he did not love me and did not want to talk to me.
I told him I did not need him either. Well, shortly after that he needs something, and here's the problem, I do not talk to him. He tries to act as it nothing happened, but I do not buy it. After considering his options, he approaches me:
- Grandpa! You know, we are the family. I need you and you need me.'
- And why is that I need you? What for?'
- We depend upon each other. We should help and take care of each other'
- And how is that I depend upon you?' I am still not giving up, though it is very funny how he is trying to persuade me to accept peace just because we are the family.
- You do not understand. We are the Family, grandpa. We need to be together'
Well, I do not last long, I am not a parent, I am a grandpa, and grandpas are weak, and my little Toothless-Ruthless is happy as now he can proceed with getting something for what he so needed the peace.
He surprises me. He would not scream, not go hysterical, not start banging the doors, no... He is looking for a solution, that would get him to where he wants to be in the shortest time and with the least bloodshed. With that said, he absolutely not manipulative. He is a very lovable shy kid, just what every grandparent could dream about. Obedient, nice... and cute. Heard that at school he is using diplomacy to stop fighting. And not that he is afraid, he just does not understand why kids do not use the magical power of negotiation.
Am I looking at a future politician?