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Tuesday Truths.......How $34 and 7 pounds changed my Real Estate Career

We've all had times in our lives where things weren't the best. Some people have relationship problems, some have financial, work, children, or health problems.....we all have had problems, no one is exempt. But what happens when we lose control, and allow our "issues" to overcome us?

Beautiful Sunset

Patience and perseverance have a magical effect before which difficulties disappear and obstacles vanish.

~John Quincy Adams~

Let me go back a little for those of you that don't know me. I was doing very well in my business until the end of 2006. Last year was pitiful, but we still managed to hang on. Go with the flow, and don't give up. Most of the time I was optimistic, but sometimes I was quite depressed. There were days, and weeks, where I couldn't figure out how I would be able to pay the bills. And this was the time when I decided to quit smoking.....

How could I continue to justify smoking when I couldn't pay my bills? Money had gotten so tight that my mortgage payments were consistently late, and if the toilet wasn't bolted down I probably wouldn't have even had a "pot to piss in"! That's how bad things had gotten. Even getting a "paid" job didn't work out.

So ended 2007, and the first five months of 2008. Stopping smoking was hard, but every week I was thankful as that was $56 a week I had been spending on cigarettes...or a little over $200 a month....heck I even made a little game up in my head to make me feel better....

Let's see, the $200 is now paying for my:

On-line fax- $29.95 month
Web Hosting $59
Gas for my car...about $100 if I was careful where I drove....

yes, I did feel good about this, but there was a dark side to everything. I cut everything down to the bare minimum, and my son took over my car payments. Even with this my house was in default and the money coming in wasn't enough.

During this time I swapped one addiction for another. I was no longer smoking, I now was eating a ton of junk, and not exercising. This resulted in my gaining over 20 pounds. Talk about Depressed.... I hated myself and all the weight I gained. I hated the fact that I couldn't pay all my bills, and I hated that no matter what I did I couldn't change the value of some of my listings for the Sellers. Yep, it took a ton of strength to be Positive when I couldn't see my way out.

But one day in June I found " it". Don't ask me what "it" was....but everything started changing. Buyers instead of Sellers were calling, and I was able to catch up on many of my bills, including again getting myself out of default, and closing down my other office. Things were looking better, not great but better. I seriously thought finally I could replace my old coffee pot....but not quite yet.

So.....fast foreword.....In the past few weeks I have caught up all bills except some personal loans, and have been able to buy a few things I wanted or needed. A couple Thank You gifts, 2 new hoses and some weedwacker string, and yes my $34 Coffee Pot! That Coffee Pot was one I wanted to buy since November, but wouldn't do it until I was doing better financially. And I got it......last week :) So now I needed to do something about my weight.

When I started to feel better about myself by paying my bills, then I also had the resolve to do something about the weight. Just like quitting smoking it isn't easy, but in the past week and 1/2 I have lost 7 pounds.....Now I am a success again.... I am because I feel I am :)

***losing those 7 pounds and being able to splurge $34 for a Coffee Pot is my new measure of Success.

I'm back with a whole lot of attitude and determination......

and several new clients ***

Quote for all of us: Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is the little voice at the end of the day that says I'll try again tomorrow........by: Mary Anne Radmacher

By: Kathy McGraw- CELLing Realty ~ Authoring the California Real Estate and Life Blog, Military Matters, So Cal Beach info and photos, and Real Estate Information in California

Posted by Kathy McGraw, Riverside County CA Real Estate on 07/29/2008 09:57 PM

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109 Comments on Tuesday Truths.......How $34 and 7 pounds changed my Real Estate Career

JUL

2008

Damn...now I gotta send more coffee lol! Good...you really needed that coffee pot...especially at night. I'll never call you again at night when you're drinking coffee....lol.

I am very proud of you....quit smoking (copied me), gained weight and then lost some (copied me) and cut down on the junk sugar stuff (copied me) LOL.

I'm so happy things have turned around. I have yet to get in the shower. I worked at the office all day....went to the sellers to meet the buyers and agent for final walk through....that took an hour...got home at 6:15 and been blogging...lol.

Glad to hear business is picking up for you.

I lost weight, but don't drink coffee or smoke. So giving up the junk food was my way of feeling good.

Kathy the courage to be so public with these issues is one of the things I admire about you. During the time you were going through the hardest of times, I, as well as many others were going through hard times ourselves. Some of us more privately than others. Some of us worse than others. But the point is you have two choices 1. live through it or 2. die. So it took you gaining a few pounds to get through it. That is not too bad. I'm proud of you!

I have been through really bad times in my life. I've stood in the free cheese line with three kids (babies). I've never been handed a free meal on a silver platter with out a very high price to pay. So I chose to work hard for what I have.

This includes taking care of myself even while going through the hardest of times. It is not easy but with a little perseverance and self discipline it helps make the going a little easier.

Believe it or not, during those harder times I would read your posts and be inspired all the way over here on the right coast! I absolutely love the RAIN!

Mmmmm. That was a bit more than I wanted to know. But, if one more person can stop smoking, it was worth the read.

Congratulations. Now have a good cup of coffee.

Kathy, thanks for sharing your journey...success's like this need to be shared and celebrated with those of us who are cheering you on. Glad your are on your way back to the top, it has been an uphill battle the last year or so for many of us in this business. But, your quote by John Quincy sums it up perfectly.

Kathy,
I admire your willingness to share your experience and how you have fought your way back. Now.......about those chocolate chip cookies, all of a sudden it does not seem like such a good idea. :0( Maybe I'll send you some easy, low cal recipes. LOL!

Congratulations on the weight loss, it is a difficult battle but you can and will do it.

Kathy, I am so happy that you are doing well. Isn't it amazing how good you feel after losing some weight? Wonder why it is so hard for me? Makes me crazy! I am glad you are getting busy. I too have had my more than trying times and you know what, you deal with it by wallowing a bit and then get up, dust your butt off and move forward. Good for you!

Great post and very motivating - I quit smoking years ago but have not give up the junk food yet --- I need help!

Kathy, this was a great post. Congratulations go to you because you are a winner. You are the type of person I have always wanted to associate myself with all my life. You made no excuses...you fixed what was wrong. I'm subscribing to your blog. Give us more!

Just want you to know that I love you, cyber buddy- if it ever gets to the point of hobo, I have a couch for you in MO. On a side note, our value is NOT is what we do or have it is simply b/c we are. God loved us first- our job is to see what HE sees and do the same. be good cheryl

Hi Kathy, I read this post with a very heavy heart for you. It takes courage to extend such a personal

sharing with others. Thank you. Because of your courage you have reached others to tell them, your not alone and it can be done. A person never knows to what extent their experiences help others, so keep sharing and may all the very best of all things continue in your life.

Kathy, good for you. you remind me a a great post I read yesterday: "Be kinder than necessary, for everyone you meet is fighting some kind of battle." by Lizette Fitzpatrick. We all have our own battles, thanks for sharing yours. it reminds me that 'everyone' means 'everyone'

Kathy, Some people never are quite able to turn their life around....you did and look at your comeback, stronger then ever! I believe a day just comes that changes one thing...and starts a spin of changing other things in a positive direction. Congrats on your weight loss AND your coffee pot, sometimes my kids don't realize why I am always saying "It's the LITTLE things in life."

Sally- Wow without my coffee (smile) I thought for sure that I had become a follower instead of leader by copying everything you did LOL :) :) Two smart people doing the right things...yep that's OK :)

Randy- You look so good now....giving up the sweets is hard isn't it? At least for me......

Nannette- I remember writing in November for the Positive Attitudes Contest....and that particular time was very difficult.....but I got through it. Like you said...I remember reading so many people that you just knew were also having a hard time......and lately I have seen a few of them doing better also. I am not sure how many are gone....I know some are, but I agree with you...it also helped me to read all the Positive things going on around here. I loved Sally's Group....Positive Attitudes fopr the Weary soul.....and it was some of the Positive Contests that kept me going....Thanks for sharing your experiences too Lynette :) It is only overcoming adversary that makes the soul stronger :)

Lenn- Wow I am shocked you were reading this....quitting smoking is definitely the way to go for people that can/want to do it. Hope all is well with you.

Missy- Yes....many of us had struggles, and it is nice to read when they are doing better. I know my heart warms when I read of someone else that was having a hard time now doing better :) As for the quote I loved it....reminded me of so many of us that were hanging on by a shoestring but patience and perseverance prevailed :)

Cynthia- Ahhh I have my cookie smile on again....you mean not even one cookie LOL :) You are so right though......but why can't they make Low Fat stuff taste good? And as far as my weight...once I set my mind to something and make the commitment I follow through :)

Audrey- Yep.....Pity Posts only last so long if we are ever to take charge of our lives. Weight Loss really is similar to not smoking, you'll do it when you're ready....and lose how ever much is comfortable for you to commit to.

Positive progress is contagious, glad you're doing better.

Kathy, Thanks for sharing such a personal story. In this business the tides can turn all in one day. I know your has and I hope many more in similar situations get to read this.

Hi Kathy,

My word girl you are one tuff cookie...(sorry, I couldn't resist)

Seriously, when you look good you feel good. We can talk about it all day long but, you have to do it on your own terms. There is no doubt in my mind that you will succeed in whatever you set your mind too! Keep up the good work and come visit the Fit club when your ready...:)

Norma- I think we all have our own timetable.....and if you're ready...then there are people that will help you. If they aren't in your own personal life look for help here.....many many people here have helped each other with one thing or another.

Steve- Nice to meet you....I will be by tonight when I have time to run around in the Rain :)

Cheryl- A couch in MO...now my day is set....we can both go and sell Sheldon..... LOL :) Cyber friend you are so right in that our value is in that we are......not in what we have.

June- I really don't want anyone to have a heavy heart over anything I write.....I am so happy with how things are going now. and as we all know we don't know who reads what, and exactly what word, or experience might help someone else. Thank you for sharing your thoughts.....I will come by tonight to see you also :)

Peter- I featured that one in the Positive Attitudes Group before it was even featured.....I liked the message :) Remember that saying "No man is an Island" ........we all have issues, problems, pleasures, and LIFE :)

Carole- So right you are......and as we talked about getting rid of all that old stuff (papers) didn't hurt either :)

Leslie- Thank you so much........

Rod- Thanks....every Tuesday something theat is a little more Intense than Marekt Reports is my Post :) :)

Susanne- I had to laugh that was funny.....You are so right...that's why all you fitness stuff just made me feel worse...I wasn't ready and I had my own stuff to get through....see even your comment helps I just borrowed my Grandkids bike to start doing "something" :) :) Can you give me the link to your group.....

Kathy, thank you for being yourself and sharing. I believe one of the biggest things you did for yourself is saying "I can't afford it now" versus "I can't afford it". You are definitely an inspiration.

I like how you quit smoking using the financial incentive of what the money normally used for cigerattes would pay for. And congratulations on quitting smoking!

Kathy, glad you picked up on it too, I thought it was very good. so is yours btw.

I am so happy for you Kathy. I read a blog of yours months ago about losing your house and hoped it wouldn't happen. AND congrats on the quitting smoking!! ( a few extra pounds is a much lesser evil than smoke!!)

Kathy,

Congratulations on your success!!! Quitting smoking & losing weight are not easy things to do. But I admire how you have "put" yourself out there and let everyone know what was happening in your life. It is very courageous.

Many of us are in similar situations but are not as brave to talk about it. Thank you for giving me some new inspiration.

Sister Kate, I am hugging you right now. You have no idea how much I miss you and our AR family. I have been working like a dog from sun-down to sun-up and not feeling particularly inspired to blog as I am so tired and can't focus to complete a clear thought.

What I haven't been too tired to do was keep you and our AR family in my prayers. I see so many hurting and I feel blessed that I am able to pay the bills but know that many are struggling.

A famous philosopher said ( I am too tired to remember who) "Be bold and great and mighty forces will come to your aid".

It is no doubt that the Lord has you in his loving embrace and is preparing you for bigger and better things. Know that I am always here and your face is never far from my heart, I am sending love and positivity to you from the East Coast.

I have to run but I am so proud of you, keep doing the darn thing Sis. Send my love to Corina and the Crew.

I haven't forgotten our Tea Party.

Hi Kathy,

Now I'm soo glad your feeling better, now that your ready here you go. Take it slow on that bike its different now that were older...;) SuZanne....LOL!

Kathy,

We have exchanged conversation before and so I know that we have had some hard times in common. I have to tell you, after I quit smoking I gained the same amount of weight you did. It was awful, I kept eating because I told myself I needed a crutch because I wasn't smoking. But then when I couldn't fit into some of my favorite clothes, that added insult to injury and I started adjusting my diet and now I work out 5-6 days/week and have a karate class one day a week. It has helped tremendously and I am liking my body better than when I was a twiggy because I smoked.

And I take a break, today is a break day for me. I can't work out a straight 7 days and that's o.k. I let myself indulge too, but then I pull myself back in. And bottom line is, "Hey Kathy, we're not smoking-yahoo"

Congrats on the 7 lbs.- you deserve a cappucino maker:-)

Kathy, thank you for sharing such an inspirational story. Congratulations on your accomplishments. You've overcome some HUGE challenges due largely to your determination and perseverance.

You've shared some very personal details about how scary things have been. Yet at the same time you demonstrated how to hang on when the going gets tough. You are an inspiration.

The quote you closed with is excellent reminder....just try again tomorrow.

I love real people with real stories that are not afraid to just put it out there! We all are in this journey together rather we want to share are troubles or not! Sharing my hard times has helped me find better times and we all learn from one another! Congrats to you and keep your head up and keep blogging!

Great story , You made my night and day.

congrats on kicking the habit. the pick up in business is a bonus.

Thanks for sharing. This is a really intense time for our family and I appreciated you taking the time to share.

Kathy, thanks for sharing your overcoming your hardships. I know how difficult it is to stop smoking as I know many who have gone through that. That is an incredible amount of weight to lose in one and half weeks. Financial stress will give you sleepless nights. Been there in a past life. Hang in there Kathy, and I will keep trying to encourage you. I hope better days continue ahead for you.

Wow Kathy! You are one strong lady!!!!

You have accomplished so much in such a short period of time - gave up smoking - that's HUGE!!! Weight will come off with your new attitude and perseverance.

It's interesting how we need a kick in the butt sometimes to put things in perspective. You go girl!!!

Hi Kathy, You have found that something that doesn't need a name. It needs no further description. I am very happy that what ever it was , you have it. Since I didn't know how you were suffering, after the fact it does no good for me to say, "Way to go". Allow me this, I am so sorry that whatever you were having to go through caused you such an extraordinary amount of pain and anxiety. I am so pleased that you pushed yourself through it and that you were successful in seeing the new opportunities before you. To say I am 'proud of you' I would hope is already known by you.

I am glad you are smiling again and it is my fervent wish and prayer that you should never have to experience that level of involuntary change, ever again.

Kath kath kath.....you are soooo 'real'...........and I've been playing with a post all week........about being 'real'.........i was even go to phone you to see if you think i should post it.........I've been reluctant reluctant reluctant (no its not a stutter.:-). You amaze me. You're so courageous in sharing those areas of vulnerability. I find no lack of people on A/R who know the 'hype' and how to prime the pump of positive re-inforcement.......however sometimes just sometimes..........we need to hear how it 'is'........and not just how it 'should' be...........I can't begin to tell you how much respect I have for you...:-)

can MY post piggy back on your post.....? :-)

I don't know if I'd call you a 'copier'..........I think you're pretty damn original....

JUL

2008

Hi Kathy...Congratulations. You are doing super. Thank you for sharing. You stuck with it and it paid off.

Thank you also for the two wonderful quotes.

Now, I wish Sally hadn't mentioned junk sugar stuff. I read that as I'm sitting here eating Golden Oreos and drinking a cold glass of milk.

Guess I'll have to go to bed.

Cheers and Kudos to you.

Kate

Way to go, Kathy! I appreciate you sharing your inspiring story. I went through cancer twice in a three year period and know what it is like to come back from a challenge. It's awesome that you will have this story to speak life into people in the future! Great job!

JB Brookman

Castle Homes and Estates

Ladera Heights, CA

Wow, Kathy. I knew that lots of us were having a bad year in '07, but had no idea. I'm amazed that you continued to have such a positive attitude with so many negatives in your life at that time and I'm sincerely happy that you've turned the corner! Coffee all around :)

Wow, congrats on the inspiring turn around Kathy. I doubt there are many of us who haven't been thru times like that. I know difficult times toughen us up but they kind of suck while they're happening. I know how much that $34 coffee pot means to you, been there, done that and I'm really glad you have it!

Lol, can relate on soooo many levels, being an ex-smoker and having gained and lost weight! Congrats on turning things around!

Wanna start jogging? LOL!

Hi Kathy, I am so delighted that this was featured and you really deserve it for your inspiring and uplifting post of what you have endured and overcome. I am so happy for you!

Hang in there and enjoy the newly brewed coffee. All the best.

Barb- Thanks...one thing about me is I am myself.. :)

Regina- That was the best way for me to quit by telling myself what I could do with that money :)

Peter :)

April- Yes that was in January I think......it was a pretty stressful time. As for the stop smoking...yes I know it's healthier, but still I enjoyed smoking. I just didn't like the effects, and before I quit I just couldn't afford them anymore...

Harold- Oh yes many of us are in similar situations.....and I think that's important is that we realize we're not alone. And we didn't create this......although many of us are paying the consequences. Hang in there.....

Oh my it is Toni B :) :) I am so happy to see you. I was thinking of you the other day, and put it in my Agenda to contact you. thanks for your words, and friend I hope you are taking care of yourself......that sounds like a very stressful schedule :)

Suzanne- Oh, I'll go slow.....just hope the people walking don't pass me by....:) Thanks for the link I will check it out.

Kathy - That's a very insightful piece you have written. I think most any of us that have been in the real estate business any length of time have had an up close and personal experience with the "feast or famine" part of it.

I went through a similar experience in the early 1990s when we had a major real estate bust that lasted a few years here in California. I went through savings, began having health problems, and a litany of mis-fortune. I ended up taking a second job, which was only supposed to last a few months, but ended up lasting 8 1/2 years. It was with an international software development company. My co-workers there ultimately ended up being a really good pool of clientele.

I was able to rapidly get back on my feet, and reclaim the road to prosperity. I'm glad things are working out for you as well!

I'm going through a rough time right now myself. It helps me to hear that you went through the same thing and survived. Thank you.

Kathy, what a big turn around. That's a lot I'm sure it was one of (if not THE) hardest things you've ever had to do. I swore after I quit smoking that I would never get addicted to anything else...and here came Active Rain! LOL

Kathy, Congratulations . Great post. I love the quote. Thanks for sharing.

HI KATHY!

Wonderful story. It is about how you feel. It's all in the mind. Congratulations on your successes and your abilitiy to hold on when the waves were high! Thank you for sharing your story & inspiring us all!

All the best,

My mom died of COPD several years ago brought on by smoking. Congratulations on quitting; that is the best thing you could do for yourself and your loved ones.

Kathy ..that's great that you stopped smoking. :-) Thanks for sharing all that....i think sometimes we need to hit our low just to see how strong we are. It looks like you're on your way to the top...You go Girl!..............Janis Olson :-)

Kathy,

I'm not the expert here but I've been able to keep my weight around 200lbs...a little more than I want but I'm also 6'1" so many tell me I'm fine. I try to work out in the gym 3-4 times a week in the morning...unless I have an early appointment. I leave the phone in the car and just go into my little world with my ipod and as little distractions as possible. My biggest problem is late night eating and I mean I'll eat dinner no earlier than 6 and all the way until 8pm. Not too much junk but enough where if I stopped eating after 5pm I would probably be in even better shape.

The key is that you must workout and do lots of cardio and you'll lose more...dieting is one way but not the whole package. If you don't train while you diet you'll never shed all the pounds you want only because when you hit 40 the metabolism goes down so it's harder. Try it for about a month and see if I'm right. At least 6 glasses of water during the day will also fill you up. The other issue is the first 5-10 could be mostly water weight...it's maintaining that you can try. I also have been using anytime we get depressed because of life or business as part of my drive to keep going. I have been doing a lot lately on one leg as injuries have come but have healed quicker than I thought. Just try this and let me know...just give it a month if you can to see if it works. You can also space out your meals to 6 smaller ones instead of 3-4 big ones. I'm not the best example but I'm a pretty good teacher.

If you can't join a gym there are ways to do things outside or inside for free.

Wow, I'm so impressed! Can't imagine how difficult it would be to quit smoking in the current environment. Congratulations!!!!!!

Yea, for you and being featured to boot. Don't you just love AR, look at the love and support you have received from your friends. Most people couldn't bring themselves to be so open and honest. You, however, do it in a fashion that says we all have our struggles, it is nothing to be ashamed of and you can rise above it all. You go honey, you are nationwide. LOL.

Kathy, This was a good read as I drink my coffee. Times are tough here in Michigan so I can relate to our story.

Kathy- When I actively got involved in AR I found your posts and immediately loved the strong and sincere person I saw. Your sorrow and dispair and then your determination to fight through is an inspiration to all. Kudo's to the great spirit that you are!

Quitting smoking is a wonderful accomplishment - good for you!

Right On!!! It does feel wonderful to take hold of your life and kick some booty.

Kathy, Good for you. Sometimes we have to go thru the rough times in order to appreciate the "little or smaller things in life" We are not in the easiest business to have our finances on track all the time, especially in these economic times.

I, too, have gone thru some major set backs and health issues. I have adopted the philosophy of "The Secret" and constant thanks and appreciation for what I have. Since I have done that, things have improved 100% from last year this time. Don't mean to be going on so much, your post was inspiring, continue the good work.

Kathy - Goosebumps gal, goosebumps. Moving story and that garners a ton of respect from me. Wonderful job. Perseverance is one of the hardest yet important traits we can possess. It appears you define that very term. I'm proud of you hun, keep on keeping on:-)

Hi Kathy,

Your post was great. I'm glad to read that you're doing better financially, emotionally and physically. Thanks for having the courage to share!

Kathy

SO glad to see you pulled yourself up and out of the 'BlackHole". Many of us have been there before and many more are there now. You just have to keep moving forward , and get through the Bad times so that you and your loved ones can truly enjoy the Good times !!

Laura

Congratulations on the smoking thing. As a kid of smokers I was very, very happy when my folks finally quit.

Hi Kathy,

This is so inspirational. Good thing you did not give up. Thank you for sharing your story. Congratulations on your weight loss and kicking the habit (smoking).

Catherine

That is so real. I think many of us can understand the stress when things get tight, your a wreck due to stress, and you are just praying that life, work, relationships, etc. will get better. I like that you are real and I feel ya.

I enjoyed your post.

Kathy, Congratulations! I quit smoking years ago and I know how hard it is. Now if only I could lose weight! It seems I don't have the will power I had when I quit smoking. You picked a stressful time to quit and that made it even harder to quit.

Kathy You have always been a success in my eyes. You are the girl that asks for what you want and get it. (Remember the "be my friend button") hahah one of these days I hope we get to meet in person, cause you are truely an original. Obviously by the 70 comments so far a lot of other people think so too.

Kathy, you go girl. I can see you running a marathon next...Happy running!

Kathy, congratulations on quitting smoking! It's been over 10 years now since I quit smoking, and let me tell you this...it was the most liberating feeling of freedom for me! (I am in control now!) I still have my $2 bill that I got as change from the last pack of smokes that I purchased. I keep it with me always to remind me that I can do anything I set my mind to. I know, silly and sentimental, but it helps me to remember my successes and to keep channeling that positive energy into each new challenge. Thanks for sharing!

It was good to talk to you this morning. I didn't even ask, but I'm glad to see here that you are winning the nonsmoking battle. When I hear things like this, it's music to my ears. Congrats!

You go girl!!!! I too am going through the stop smoking and with the 25 pound weight gain. Yes depression sucks. What I would like to know is how did you loose 7 pounds in a week and 1/2? Send some of that good karma my way!!!

Thank you for your story of hope. It's undeniably good to hear of someone pulling themselves back up from the abyss. We've all been there, and it takes a special person to be able to share that with others. Continued success to you!

Yup, you're better than me - I am still smoking, but if I didn't smoke, one Buyer would have to die every hour and we can't afford to lose buyers, now can we (chuckle!)

My wake up call came recently when my father-in-law had open heart surgery (with triple bypass) - he is 80 years old!

As soon as he was able, he started walking to build stamina. Within a month, Dad was walking (at a brisk rate, I might add) TEN MILES A DAY!

My husband and I have started walking and ONLY because Dad has put us to shame!

Keep on 'trucking', Kathy - you truly ARE a winner!

Althea Garner

Congratulations on your featured post. I am so impressed with your candor and spirit! Good luck and God Bless!

All the Best

KatFIsh

Whoa! I just got home from lunch at the Cheesecake Factory and a morning of hating myself for being in the pickle you described. I was ready to point my car at the center divider, except that it is against my faith! Your post was just what I needed to give me the courage to pick myself up and get going. Thank you for taking the time to be so forthright. I believe that your "it" is the Persistence Effect. It seems that whenever we are in positive action in any area of life, other areas benefit too. I will put my nose to the grindstone right now, and continue to work and pray for "it" to show up in my business. God bless you, Girlfriend!

Gratefully,

Inspiring, I had a bad 2007 as well. Thank goodness things are going better for you! Keep inspired.

LIVE IT - THINK IT- WANT IT EVERY DAY!

I admire you for having the strength to say it all. A lot of us have been where you are and may still be, but there are better days coming. If you haven't had an opportunity read The Secret by Rhonda Bryne.

Your transparency is refreshing. Thank you for being willing to be humble to assist so many others who are experiencing similar circumstances but can't articulate them.

May you continue to be blessed with Buyers who buy and close and Sellers who are realistic about their pricing.

That's absolutely wonderful news, Kathy! You never know what someone is going through in life, as is evidenced by your story. I hope that people will take this as a reminder to not only stay encouraged but to be an encouragement to others. You just never know how that one word can help keep someone motivaed to keep going.

~Renae

I feel your pain! Living in California is not easy on the gas tank. I don't smoke....but definitely need to loose more than 7 pounds.

At least my business is good, I have 3 escrows as I write......you would think I would eat less!

Paula

Myrl- I liked your story.....it also showed that we can overcome. Sometimes the best way isn't the way we "want" but it will all happen as it's supposed to..:)

Ruthmarie- I hear you....hang in there, and like the quote says if it doesn't happen today...try again tomorrow. My thoughts are with you.

Linda- Thanks...and I really mean it when I say that people on here will, and do help each other every day by things they write. A couple of Sally's contests made me focus on the Positive even when it was hard. That and comments....people saying nice things when I felt like shit :) there really is a power here in the Rain :)

Gita- Did I ever tell you I get a smile when I see your picture and your comments :) Have you ever said a mean thing anywhere? You're a gem here in the rain :)

Yvette- We all have an inner strength, but many haven't been taught or practiced how to pull it up when we need it the most :) Thanks.........

Jim- Do you remember that reporter Peter.......it was his death that got to me. Not the advertisements, not the proven facts....only his death. I cried and I didn't even know him. It was time.......quitting while stressed is a sure way to fail....but the financial incentive was more important to me than anything else so I made it work :)

Janis- Oh how true that is....we don't ever really know what we're able to accomplish until we're forced to do it. I learned that in the Military many years ago :)

Neal- Thank you...I think that's the longest comment I've seen from you ever, so I will certainly take it to heart. I can't really afford the gym right now, but I can afford to ride the bike I borrowed, and walk. I read that gardening burns calories....and vacuuming...two activities I can do free, so I will probably do these for now. Oh and I absolutely agree with those first few pounds....the next ones will be from a combination of things...I'll keep you posted.

And I really hope whatever injury you have gets better soon :) Thank you for your caring comment.

Diane- Why thanks....and as far as quitting smoking in this environment is kind of like running uphill backwards :) It can be done, but dang there's easier ways.....:)

Audrey- Hi there...I have no idea how that yellow star got there...but hey it looks like it helped give some inspiration to a lot more people than would have seen it without one :) For that I am grateful.

We do all have our struggles....as I said relationship, health, money, business......many things. And they sure can weigh on our souls. We know that. But many times what we don't know is we aren't alone. Alternatives......when we can't see the forest for the trees then how do we see the path out? This network validates that we're not alone in our struggles.....

Now, as for you are you ready yet to find that new assistant? Baby steps friend, baby steps.

Tony- I am glad that you found it a good read :) :) Now I hope things turn around for all of you in Michigan also......

Martha- Thanks you...and see that type of feedback gives me a hint of who is even reading my Blog :)

Kelly- Thanks, and thanks for tasking a moment to comment....

Kim- Oh but it feels good to not be depressed anymore, and to have a few of the bills paid. Getting out of Mortgage Default is a pretty darn good feeling also.

Congratulations on not only the 7 pounds and the coffee pot but on the new attitude. You'll be fine Kathy and one day you'll look back on this time and be able to say you survived one of the worst housing market crashes.

Christine- Smiling here...don't worry about going on....sharing is what this place is all about. I'm glad to hear that you found what works for you.....and learning to appreciate what we do have and not what we don't can be a hard one for many people.

Hi Jason- Thanks...and I am so happy to see you here. I have a ton of respect for you also, and you have been an Inspiration to many here....on how to start over, and how to overcome.

Lillie- Why thank you....yes doing better emotionally, physically, and financially. This has been an interesting time, but I'll be glad when it's all behind us :)

Laura- Very true that many have been, and are in a similar situation. None of us can escape some of life's problems no matter how we try :)

Daniel- I'll bet you were very glad. We don't realize how much it stinks for one thing until after we quit :)

Catherine- Thanks and hope all is well with you....

Toni- When we have financial problems it just seems everything else becomes one too.....especially relationships. More people I know get in arguments over money. It's hard to overcome, but it can be done. The one thing I learned through this is not to hide it in shame like my parents would have.

Dear........- Yes this was a stressful time to quit, but one that needed to be done, so I did it :) Unfortunately I replaced the cigarettes with sweets....now have to get rid of those....but at least I am doing this part when things are better.

Cait- Oh yes I remember that button....then I thought I lost you...remember LOL :) I just read one of your comments, or a Post, where you were talking about your daughters choice of schools....and the attire they wear to graduate......yep you're a woman after my own heart :) Maybe we will meet one day...I"m going to be a Vagabond when I retire :)

All Tech Mortgatge- Oh no Marathons for me......oh no that's way more work than pulling yourself out of a hole LOL :)

Stephanie- I love the idea you hstill have the $2 Bill.......and if that's your reminder that you can do anything you set your mind to then have you had it laminated LOL :) Seriously, I love that. Thanks for sharing it with us.

Cheri- It sure was good to talk to you....and yep still not smoking. A very hard battle at times, but I know/knew the consequences if I smoked again.....way too expensive both financially and socially here in CA.

Whoever didn't sign in but wants some Karma sent their way.......you will do it when you're ready!!! And for me, that week and 1/2 I ate not one single cookie, cake, candy, soda, nothing like that. I also ate breakfast and didn't eat a meal at midnight while blogging. The next pounds will be the ones I am going to have to work for....the first ones were just deprivation of my sweets LOL :)

Melba- Thanks......and indeed we've all "been there".

Althea- Oh no we can't lose any biuyers LOL :) I may have quit smoking before you, but you are walking before me.....regardless of the motivation. I am going to start a bit of exercising......and walking is the one I like the best :)

Very good to hear that your father-in-law is better.

KatFish- Thanks, and hey I never know what I'm going to write...Tuesdays are more Intense Posts, and Mondays are light.....:)

Grateful in CA- Boy am I glad that whatever faith you have it kept you from meeting the center divider. Sometimes it is hard to see alternatives. But they are there....and as you see many of us are in similar situations. I wrote this, and many things I write because I know we all have similar experiences.

I wasn't just blowing smoke when I said that the Contests from the Positive Attitudes for the Weary Soul Group gave me a lot of Inspiration, and helped. Also giving myself permission not to be ashamed when talking to bill collectors....that helped. I know I am/was trying, and so that helped. Baby steps.. Here's 2 more Posts......

Monday Morning Gifts... Think of Yourself as a Ware, and then Sell It :) (Help get motivated...a week ago I think)

Choosing your own year.....what will you paint for 2008

Anyway, just remember when your nose is tired of the grindstone, and all looks at it's worse....look at the small things around you.....a sunset, a sunrise, a child....anything to help you enjoy life. Come on here and look for people that are Positive, but realistic :) Best of all to you....and I am just an email or phone away if you need someone to listen.

Paul- I only know of a few people that had good years.....so that would make us in the Majority...:) 2009 will be our time, and we're almost done with 2008 :)

Jo Ann- Yep see my comment above....:) And no matter what we find that can positively help us overcome our limitations....that's a good thing :)

Shirley- sometimes the gift of gab is indeed a good thing :) We just have to remember we're not alone....someone somewhere is experiencing similar things. Thanks for your comment.

Renae- Absolutely.....we never know what words someone might want or need when they are reading.....whether it's a laugh they need, a smile, or just knowing that someone will acknowledge them as people.......it's the same for all of us:)

Thanks for that reminder that life doesn't have to big to be meaningful. Congratulations on joining the ranks of x-smokers. I too appreciate the virtues of a good cofee pot. Thanks again for keep us real...

Kathy ~ Welcome back to success...whatever that means to each of us. to me, it is a happy family. Of course, staying busy helps the whole family to breathe a little easier. Keep up the good work. And, great job on being smoke-free! :)

JUL

2008

Jim- thanks for the sentiments :)

Sarah- You said it well...success means something different for each of us :)

Monika- I am so looking forward to bing able to look back :)

well my wife and I also quit smoking this past Winter... what a blessing... we have so much more energy, smell better, and dont any longer have those odd coughs...

The weight is still coming off ;-)

Great ideas and solutions come from neccesity, the mother of all invention, as they say...

Congrats to you! I am so glad that you feel better about yourself. I have had a particularly hard week and was feeling sorry for myself. Thanks to giving me an attitude of gratitude!

AUG

2008

You are my new accountability partner for weight loss. My mom, dad and I are now walking every morning at 7am for a least one hour so we can all lose the weight we know we need to lose. I've gained over 80lbs since high school and my mom just got the news from the doctor that if she doesn't lose the weight she could eventually die earlier than she should.

That is a Great accomplishment. My goal is to take off about 50lbs myself.

AUG

2008

Kathy,

I'm so glad that things have turned around for you and you were able to pay off many bills and buy your coffee pot....thanks for writing this post; there is great wisdom in it with a message for us all, no matter what obstacles we're trying to overcome.

Jo

Rhode Island (Paul?) - Good for you guys...that smell is something many of us don't realize when we smoke, but it does stink :) I had more energy before...but I think it's the weight.

Judy- It's nice to hear you giving yourself permission to feel sorry for yourself, but even better that you got off the "pity pot" :) Heck I doubt most of us could stay positive all the time no matter what our jobs are, and this economy just sucks.

Todd- OK....so did you guys walk to day LOL :) Most of us could do better....I think I'll skip over to Susanne's fitness Group :) Link above......

Tyrone-Small steps and permission to falter :)

Jo-Anne- Nice to see you, haven't seen you in the Groups much. Indeed overcoming "something" is pretty universal......and knowing that there are alternatives, and that others have made it sometimes helps. Those that live alone sometimes have it harder because there's no one else to depend on or to share your fears.

AUG

2008

Kathy~ I am so proud of you! Talk about persistence and determination! You are such a inspiration!

Vickie- Thanks :) :) It is comments like yours that helped me make it through the roughest times .....

Kathy, thanks so much for sharing such a private part of your own life as it gives us all the feeling that we are not alone and that we will succeed too! As others have said...what a great inspiration at a time when we all could use some!

Diane- We are indeed not alone.....:) Things are tough but they're not insurmountable.....they just seem like it at times. I know I had some pretty down days, but every day I would start again at 9 am and work towards something positive.

AUG

2008

Thanks for being so transparent and sharing your personal story. You are definitely not alone, with the changing economy, many can learn something from your perserverence and attitude.

One question-$59 for webhosting seems high. Maybe check out HostGator.com. My old webdesigner wanted to charge me $20 to host my site and I wouldn't have it so I left her and am using this company. Between my husband and I, we have several domains and it is a low overall monthly fee.

Hope it helps...

AUG

2008

Good for you! Thanks for sharing it helps...guess who has to have another joint replacement? I'm trying to get at least 20# off before the surgery. If others can do it I can do it...right? : )

AUG

2008

Comment about webhosting.....(sorry but no name) I know I pay more than some other Hosts, but I am very happy with my host...excellent Customer Service, live people 24/7 either by phone or online chat. They saved me big time with my website a few months ago....also I have several websites being hosted. Thank you though for the information....

Lynette- Oh no not again! Oh yes you can do it....I learned not to sit so long...and actually do some, oh shoot what's that word.....oh yea....... exercise LOL :)

AUG

2008

Kathy

We can do anything that we want to do as soon as we decide to do it and we take action.

Good luck and success

Lou Ludwig

AUG

2008

Lou- What a perfect statement...we sure can do what we want with work and determination and perseverance :) Thanks for stopping by.

Thanks for sharing you heart. You have done an amazing job getting back on your feet. You put a smile on my face today!

Livia/Brooke-Hi....thanks for coming by....on Tuesdays I usually have something that is more heartfelt than on other days....this one was a good one to write :) And even more so after I found out that so many others are where I was....we can all make it through, sometimes we just need a helping hand up :) My helping hand is my inner strength that won't let me stay down for long ~ tenacity :)

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