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When Your Gaydar goes off like an ALARM!

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Real Estate Agent with Keller Williams Greenville Central

This is going to be a along and controversial post and I cannot wait to read your responses. To many of us out there REALTOR or not, there are black and white's in life. There is a bridge you don't know how to cross. With respect to life I'd absolutely agree. With respect to homosexuality and doing our jobs some take great issue or exception. I do not...at all. Here's why.

I love everyone equally. Perhaps it's easier for me personally as I was a professional singer onstage for nearly 15 years. I've worked in theaters across the globe and on  the oceans for that matter. My two best friends in life and their partners form an extended family that I've never been able to keep with most married women who have their children and drift away. My old proud label was that of fag hag. That's ok.

More gay men embrace marriage, fatherhood  This was the article today on two gay men who had children surrogately with foreign women and are raising them in SC. They've "married" in CA and are living here. I mean they went through THOUSANDS of dollars and many years of waiting to have their own children and are raising them up better than many I've seen. Each say you hear of kids in garbage bags, beaten, disappearing, abused, raped and lives destroyed. Nobody even thinks that there are qualified adults out there that can raise these children with love and give them everything they need, except they're of the same sex. I know many of my gay friends want kids but the expense and the stigma is too much for them so they dote on my child as a uncle would.

Let me clarify something for those of you whose hackles are rising. I AM a Christian, a darned good REALTOR, a mother, a wife, and an extremely charitable person in dealings with orphaned children all over the world.

As a Christian, my job on this earth was to love, not to condemn. After all Christ sat down and invited the SINNERS, not the RELIGIOUS people to his table. This is my view which all of my gay friends know. I love everyone unconditionally. No I do not believe they were created that way and I do believe homosexuality is a choice. And many of my friends ARE Christian. And I do not believe in Same sex marriages but do believe in civil unions. I've seen the lack of that cause some incredibly unjust situations with loved ones.  But I Love them as they are and live my life as an example not a condemning force on earth. That's God's job and HE and I will have a good chat about all of this when I get to heaven.

As a REALTOR, my gaydar goes off infrequently in SC compared to most places I've lived: Miami, Atlanta, NYC and others just to name a few. But we do have homosexuals here and I LOVE them. Love helping them find a home, love asking about their relationships, love easing THAT part of the conversation, getting it out and making them comfortable knowing that I don't judge them for who they are. Bring on all the gay men and women in SC I say. I'd love to represent them all!

So with respect to the men who had their children and are raising them in SC or anywhere else. You go guys and gals and if you ever want to check out the Greenville SC, Upstate SC or Mountains/Lakes of SC, just call me and I can't wait to meet you all.

I'll be the one with the gaydar going off like an alarm and a smile on my face!

Comments (7)

Sacramento Grapevine
SacramentoGrapevine - Roseville, CA

As I tolm my Homophobic Javoha Witness sister,  we are created in the image of God correct,  God made us correct ?

Well God made them gay so get over it.

Aug 10, 2008 09:01 AM
Anonymous
Anonymous

i agree with Sindee 

 

they are gay so get over it

 

i have absolutely nothing against gays, my neighbors ho i just sold there house are gay, i have known them for 12 years and they are the nicest people i have ever meet and they will do anything for you. i think that as being a women gay guys are the best friends you can have, they are always there for you. 

 

i also think that with the younger generations it is something that is more common and more accepted then say people my grandparents age. 

 

and i think that with younger generations things are being more widely accepted, and not questioned. they are the way they are. 

Aug 10, 2008 09:14 AM
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Tim and Pam Cash
Crye-Leike (Sango) - Clarksville, TN
Real Estate Professionals - Clarksville TN

Holly, I treat everyone as I would like to be treated.  I am not perfect so I try hard not to pass judgement on anyone.  If something makes one happy and it is not hurting another or illegal, I have no issue with it.

Aug 10, 2008 10:45 AM
Holly Lynch
Keller Williams Greenville Central - Travelers Rest, SC

I hope nobody thinks I"m a homophobe..that would be the farthest from the truth. I love my gay men!! Ever See Will and Grace..that's my life!

Aug 10, 2008 02:47 PM
Israel Barden
RE/MAX Big Bear Village - Big Bear Lake, CA

Hate is just baggage that wears you down. There are many, many people who use their religion to disguise their bigotry. I applaud you for having the intellect and foresight to be able to love everyone.

Aug 11, 2008 06:56 AM
George Wilson
Raleigh Cary Realty - Raleigh, NC
Raleigh Cary Realty 919 439 0965

Holly I agree with everything you said except that you believe people choose to be gay.

My uncle & one of my best friends are gay and believe me it is not a choice for them.

Why would anyone grow up in the South and choose to be gay!  Do you know the hatred and bad jokes they had to hear growing up.  I am surprised by how many people who say they know and work with gay people believe it is a choice.

Anyway, we cant agree on everything and I applaude Christian who believes in letting God judge people!!

Thanks for your post!

Aug 11, 2008 07:25 AM
Cheri Smith
Prudential Gary Greene, Cypress TX - Cypress, TX
Realtor Prudential Gary Greene

Ok, I'll bite. Since no one else is brave enough. Ha ha.

I agree with you on loving them and treating them equally.

I agree with you that it is a choice.

However, it seems like some posters condone the act itself which I as a Christian can not and do not do.

I put homosexuality in the category of "sexual sins" along with all the others and while I still accept and love those I know who are "guilty" of those other sexual sins as well, I still don't condone the behavior as a general rule.

 

Aug 11, 2008 09:17 AM