After much thought (and sleeping on it over night) I do believe that it will always be an ongoing problem to voice ones opinion and get a negative reaction....instead of acceptance that we are all human. We all have different thought patterns, beliefs, and opinions. I like being different.
So I am regurgitating an old post of mine (and deleted the old one) to give insight into this ongoing battle of the blogging minds.
For every action there is a reaction but be rest assured the theory that follows is....it's all in the manner of how each individual handles it. We all have the ability to take that first step to awareness. How we react and how we handle situations as they arise is on us...not them. If you are not interested in topics that really make your mind work ....well....read anyway. It just may give you a little insight into how all this relates to blogging and interacting with others ....with your keyboard.
Broker Bryant wrote Being responsive in a reactive world. and of course those "thinker posts" really rev me up to go deeper and use the brain, open the mind and...well....think. Broker Bryant starts with talking about a conversation and how people react instead of respond and how it usually happens when the two sides collide....or plain and simple.....disagree.
He says, "Their presentation is always full of harsh criticism, focus on others, blame and an unwillingness to "open their mind" to other possibilities. They are not the only one. We have all fallen into this trap before."
The site he found Bowen Theory really got me going. I started reading the first page and this statement jumped out at me, "People solicit each other's attention, approval, and support and react to each other's needs, expectations, and distress".
Letting other people dictate the way we feel and react. Wow. You think?
Whether in business, our personal lives or fleeting passing moments with a stranger we have to interact with other human beings at some level throughout our lives. On ActiveRain we interact by way of the keyboard and unless we actually make the effort to call someone "we think" we are in conflict with then it's all in OUR minds and our mind only.
The 'reality' of the interactions we have with people 'online' can be interpreted in so many ways...obviously because we are all human and we all have our own minds (thinking) and therefore have our own opinions. Are we being transparent or do we hide behind the keyboard?
Just 'think'. If we all thought things through until there was a certain awareness of WHY we are 'feeling' the way we do about a conflicting situation there would be a certain amount of clarity to keeping an open mind.
I am not perfect although if I do take a step back and evaluate the situation I can guarantee I become aware that 'it all starts with me'. Self. I'm the one feeling the way I do and therefore the other person is NOT 'making' me feel anything. We so often use the words, "you make me mad". The same thing goes for other people. I do not MAKE them feel the way they do and I really try to be aware how I may be affecting other people. No one is making me do anything.....but me.
I'm starting to wonder right about now...how many readers fell off the post already. LOL!
More often than not I react because of my emotions. I tend to take things personal and whether others admit it or not....they do too. We're human but it does not give us the excuse to intimidate, point fingers or cut down others to stroke the egos and try and PROVE others wrong.
And when two worlds collide....Then just detach; and agree to disagree! Easier said than done although it sure shows the better person. Go take a break from blogging or go read something else.
Accepting others for who they are...and who they are not.
Respond or React. Face to face or Hiding Behind the Keyboard. Reality or Assumptions. "IT" .....Can Drive You Nuts
Open the mind.
Clear the Heart.
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