Who doesn't know someone who is a master at the art of complaining? Heck, maybe that someone we know is even us? Although sometimes its funny, more often then not is just plain exhausting.
Lets take my mother for example. She has the amazing ability to find a problem or downside to just about anything anywhere. Please don't get me wrong - she actually is a wonderfully caring person who worries about absolutely everything! I don't know if its cultural, generational or just her nature - but if you ever want a devil's advocate - she's the one!l
I guess depending on how you look at it, it could be viewed as the ability to see 'what's not working'..... whether it be in our own life of in the world in general. Unfortunately identifying the problem is only the first step .........the evolutionary step would be actually finding a solution to the problem and applying it! Sad to say most of us don't get that far and instead complaining becomes just a vicious circle and kind of a waste of energy.
When it comes right down to it, complaining is a person's way of saying they're 'not happy with things the way they are'. This can be a good thing - acknowledging that there's something 'not working' for them.......But to actually fulfill the process we need to create something new and different to replace what's not working!
The other thing about complaining is that there's a tendency to focus on whats wrong with other people. Concentrating and obsessing over something or someone we can't change really amounts to abdicating responsibility for something WE can change - like ourselves!
So when you find yourself yadda yadda'ing......which let's face it happens to all of us at times, perhaps the thing is not to beat ourselves up, but rather notice the 'mode' we're in - acknowledge it - maybe even put a time limit on it........For example when my kids were in the midst of a 'whine on'......I'd take the Egg Timer - turn it upside down - and say: "Go for it......you have 5 minutes - whine to your heart's content and then get on with it!"
Then its time to make some changes: We can get out of the mode of 'stinkin' thinkin' by actually looking for a way to make some changes.
An perhaps its not our neighbour's house so much that needs changing - but rather our own home that needs redecorating (so to speak...:-)
Now thats always fun isn't it? Time to get to work....:-)
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