My Dad, My Hero

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My Dad, My Hero My Dad, My Hero

My parentsI just wanted to share with you the reason that I have been online so little lately--As soon as I returned from a BIG birthday vacation, I received a call from my family in Georgia.  My mother, who is the picture of health had a massive heart attack and is in a coma.  I had to repack my suitcase and head to Gainesville to be with my family.

I arrived to find my mother in the critical care unit with lines and tubes running everywhere and her looking so weak and frail that I could not imagine how she can possibly pull out of this.  I only ask that you keep my mother and father in your thoughts and prayers for us.

Just a bit of history that I would like to share--My parents were high school sweethearts and recently celebrated their 50th wedding anniversary--actually 51st this year!  My Dad is head-over-heels in love with my Mom to this day!  I never saw my parents argue and they were enjoying my Dad's recent retirement with lots of travel and a recent move to Gainesville, GA where alot of their friends live.  They were the rare couple who you see still holding hands and smooching in public; they enjoy sports and travel, shopping and church together.  They are still like young teenagers in love!

My mom has always been the picture of health--she does not smoke or drink, she is an avid fast-walker and can out-walk most 20-year olds!  She also participates in aerobics classes and has always been a healthy eater and has been thin (except when she was pregnant) all of her life!

On Saturday, my parents were watching the East Carolina/Virginia Tech football game after returning home from a shopping trip.  My Mom told my Dad that she felt 'weird' and in mere moments, she was slumpped over in her chair.  My Dad, after ascertaining that she was non-responsive, phoned 911 and was immediately instructed to get her to the floor and begin CPR.  My Dad, scared to death, delivered CPR to my Mom for nearly 14 minutes until the paramedics arrived.  She required defibrillation a couple of times before leaving the home and again in the ambulance.  The doctors are not going to do any surgery until she is stable and they are able to determine the amount of brain function that she has; they cannot tell that until she is able to be weaned from the sedatives which are keeping her blood pressure down. We still don't know much more than we did on Saturday but, she is 'hanging in there' for now.

The thing that is simply amazing to me is that my father, who has never given CPR, worked for nearly 14 minutes on my mother.  Fourteen minutes!  That is an eternity to someone alone in their home, giving CPR to their soul mate.  I cannot imagine how he did that.  As a former nurse, I've given CPR many times but, never longer than 5 minutes and never alone for more than 1 or 2 minutes! Most health care professionals will tell you that you simply cannot keep this pace for more than 5 minutes without some relief.   And, most of the time in a health care setting, the family is asked to leave during these times and the family never sees the paddles brought out and used on their loved one (defibrillated/shocked).  

Learn CPRI cannot tell you how proud of my Dad I am.  He is truly my hero and when my Mom does recover, it is because of his tireless efforts and immediate response time in the home.  All weekend, we have asked him if he is sore or needs anything and he continuously says no.  He has not slept more than 4 hours in as many days and looks like he could go another 4 days!  He is truly amazing!

So, if you would, please keep my parents in your thoughts and prayers and by all means, learn CPR--you never know when you may need it.

Debe in Charlotte

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Debe Maxwell, CRS | The Maxwell House Group | RE/MAX Executive | (704) 491-3310 - Charlotte, NC
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Kathy:  You know, you're right--we're all in the same boat with our parents and it would be nice to have a support 'group' for prayer chains for sick parents.

Audrey:  Thank you!  It is pretty amazing that he did CPR for SO very long--and he says, "Ah, it was nothing!"  I cannot imagine!

Sharon:  Thank you so much!  I'm SO glad that she's on the mend!  My Dad is one happy camper, let me tell you!

Teresa:  Hey, I was joking about the missing me!  You know I'm your biggest fan and thought that you may have missed my smart remarks! 

Hopefully Hanna won't be headed our way--we had the other "H" hurricane (Hugo!)

That is SO sweet that your son remembered my parents in his prayer!  Kids ARE great and somehow I've always felt that they were a little closer to heaven (innocence) and hopefully his prayers are going to be answered FIRST!

Debe in Charlotte

Sep 03, 2008 02:29 PM #109
Simon Conway
Orlando Area Real Estate Services - Orlando, FL

Debe - you and your family are in my thoughts. I hope for the best of outcomes for you. My own parents had a love affair which actually continued beyond my mum's passing some 25 years ago. I really do know what you are going through. Be as strong as you need to be and as weak as you want to be.

Sep 03, 2008 02:33 PM #110
Katerina Gasset
Get It Done For Me Virtual Services - Wellington, FL
Get It Done For Me Virtual Services

Debe- Thank you for keeping us all up to date. Congrats on the gold star which was certainly well earned for this wonderful tribute to your father.

Sep 03, 2008 02:38 PM #111
Deborah Fisher
Fisher & Company, P.A., Marketing & Creative Strategists - Fort Worth, TX

Debe, we are praying for your family... please keep us posted. 

Sep 03, 2008 03:09 PM #112
Debe Maxwell, CRS | The Maxwell House Group | RE/MAX Executive | (704) 491-3310 - Charlotte, NC
Charlotte Homes for Sale - Charlotte Neighborhoods

Update Once again, THANK YOU ONE AND ALL FOR YOUR PRAYERS!  Mom is talking now and is working on getting her strength back.  She remains in critical care and the cardiac catheterization will be on hold until she is a bit stronger.  She was able to eat a little something and is moving all of her extremities now!  This has been one very major step forward and I feel like she IS going to make it through this! 

Do keep them both in your prayers as she does still have a tough road ahead.  Thanks again!

Debe in Charlotte

Sep 03, 2008 03:33 PM #113
Grace Keng
Keller Williams Realty Cupertino - Cupertino, CA
CRS, CDPE (408) 799-8887


Thanks for keeping me update. I am praying for your mom and your family to go thru this. Do talk to her as if she is all right. Show love and care to her. I was told it will help her back.

Good luck.

Sep 03, 2008 04:37 PM #114
Adam Waldman
Westcott Group Real Estate Company - Hauppauge, NY
Realtor - Long Island

DEBE - I'm late to this post, and for that I apologize, but I'm glad that I arrived when I did.  I see in your update that your mom is talking now.  Your father truly did an amazing job, and he should be your hero.  I hope that your mom has a speedy recovery and that both of them continue to celebrate many more anniversaries together.

Sep 03, 2008 09:18 PM #115
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Joseph Hansen and Associates, Inc. - East Islip, NY

I am glad your Mom is doing better, the story about your Dad is inspirational, we should all impact our chidren like your Dad has.

Sep 04, 2008 01:19 AM #116
Jesse & Kathy Clifton
Jesse Clifton & Associates, REALTORS® - Fairbanks, AK

Debe... I'm late to the post as well.... I'm so glad to hear your mom is doing better.  What a relief!  We have you all in our prayers!

Sep 04, 2008 05:46 AM #117
Debe Maxwell, CRS | The Maxwell House Group | RE/MAX Executive | (704) 491-3310 - Charlotte, NC
Charlotte Homes for Sale - Charlotte Neighborhoods

Grace:  Thank you so much and you better believe that I WAS talking to her--even with the tube in!  People CAN hear in her position and I truly believe in that!

Adam:  That's okay!  I assumed that you were on vacation or something!  You brought in the good vibes coming in when you did!  Thanks, as always, for your kindness and I do hope that they celebrate MANY more anniversaries as well.

Joseph:  Thank you so much!  He is pretty awesome, isn't he?!

Jesse:  Thanks so much for the call and the email!  You're wonderful!  Thanks for your prayers too!

Debe in Charlotte  

Sep 04, 2008 12:23 PM #118
Kent Simpson
Realty One Group Mountain Desert - Tucson, AZ
Real Estate Is About People

Debe - I have a sneaking suspicion that your Dad was a hero long before this emergency - you might find that heroes in crisis situations are heroes on a daily basis just by who they are!

PS - My Dad's my hero too!

Sep 04, 2008 04:02 PM #119
Teresa Harris
Lake Real Estate, LLC - Denver, NC
Denver . Lake Norman . Charlotte

Thanks for keeping us updated, and with wonderful news too! Yes, kids are really something. My son remembers both his grandma's passing away. My mom passed away when he was 6. My husband's mom just passed away this Feb. 

Sep 04, 2008 05:06 PM #120
Leslie Woodall
CENTURY 21 Real Estate Group, LLC - Maryville, TN


Your Dad sounds like an amazing man.  I am also blessed with a "Hero" dad.  He never was the president of a business...he never made tons of money...he never owned fancy things...but what he does is make each of his childen (5) feel special in his own way.  His wisdom and gentle guidance are part of my very make-up!  I will pray for your Mom, for your Dad and for you as you all go through this very difficult time.  By the Mom and Dad celebrate 52 years in November!

Sep 05, 2008 08:24 AM #121
Pat Whitehouse
RE/MAX 1st Olympic Lynchburg Va - Lynchburg, VA

Debe- I'm so glad to know your Mom is doing better. Thank you for keeping us posted on how she is doing. She is a strong lady and a fighter. I'll continue to prayer for her recovery.

Sep 05, 2008 12:43 PM #122
Ginger Sala
Wilkinson & Associates, Wilmington NC - Wilmington, NC
Wilmington NC Real Estate & Relocation~

Debe, What an inspirational story of love beyond measure. Your Dad is amazing! I just found this post today & I am thrilled to see your Mom is recovering, thank God! We will keep her in our prayers. May God continue to bless your family!

Sep 06, 2008 04:53 AM #123
Susie Blackmon
Ocala, FL
Ocala, Horses, Western Wear, Horse Farms, Marketing

Debe, you and your family are in my thoughts.  What a wonderful Father you have!!  My parents are gone, but reading love stories like your parents' story brings back great memories. 


Sep 07, 2008 08:10 PM #124
Irene Woodworth
Color and Redesign Academy & Redesign Boise - Garden City, ID
Color-Redesign-Staging, Trainer & Motivational Speaker - Idaho


Wow, what an amazing event you have been through, especially for your Father.  It was so encouraging to hear about his love for your Mom.  I did not experience that growing up, however, I have a husband that loves me in such profound ways, that it is a gift from God.  We will keep them both in our prayers.  Good to hear your Mother is recovering.


Sep 08, 2008 11:43 AM #125
Ann Cummings
RE/MAX Shoreline - NH and Maine - Portsmouth, NH
Portsmouth NH Real Estate Preferrable Agent

Hi Debe - I'm so happy to read your updates about your mom.  My mom and dad were childhood sweethearts holding hands all these years just as your parents do.  What beautiful love stories from our parents.  I hope your parents have many more years together - they are a beautiful couple in that picture, and you look like both of them.


Sep 08, 2008 12:21 PM #126
Julie Neerings~Lifting Hearts ♥ Building Dreams~
Agent Referral - Salt Lake City, UT

Hi Debe~ I'm so sorry you and your family have been going through this and at the same time, what a true miracle that your mom is doing well.  YOU believed and knew in your heart that she was going to be ok. Not seeing the date initially that you wrote this (when I first started reading) I instantly thought in my mind, "Debe knows and is very confident that her mom will make it through, and she will".  What an amazing thing to see the UPDATES.  God is good and the many many prayers said, were heard.  I will be keeping you in my prayers. 

Sep 08, 2008 12:56 PM #127
Susan Mangigian
RE/MAX Preferred, West Chester, PA, RS152252A - West Chester, PA
Chester & Delaware County Homes, Delaware and Ches

Debe, I'm sorry I didn't see this before now.  I pray that things remain positive.  Your mom and dad are wonderful!  xxoo

Sep 08, 2008 01:58 PM #128
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