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His Needs...Her Needs: A Buying Perspective

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Real Estate Sales Representative with Coldwell Banker Burnet

So I've put a couple in my car and out we go to look at houses.  At house #1 the wife spends most of her time looking at the master suite, kitchen, and bathrooms while the husband investigates the garage & the shed out back.  Stereotypical, I know.  But what are the things we learn from gender needs and preferences in the purchase of a home?  Here's a few:

  • Don't overgeneralize right away.  Just because he's a guy doesn't mean he needs or wants the garagemahal.  Interview the clients thoroughly to discover their lifestyle first, and what kind of home they're looking to purchase. 
  • Ask questions when looking.  You can go general ("What are your impressions?") or specific ("What's your thoughts on the kitchen layout as it matches what we discussed?").  Either way, the more feedback you receive, the better.
  • Find out who's the dominant buyer.  If you're working w/ someone who's single--may be not much of a problem:)  However, in family structures, sometimes even a grandmother or eldest child may be the one who casts the swing vote.  It'll save a lot of time & effort cutting to the chase & better servicing your clients.
  • Sometimes a spade is a spade.  Women are indeed concerned with the "feel" of a home while guys want to know when the furnace was last serviced.  Women like large closets and cozy fireplaces, and guys appreciate a well-built shop.  There's nothing wrong with "man land" and the "girlee zone".  Each individual needs to feel like their personal space is accomodated effectively.

Certainly, you have others.  The challenge though, is to bring clarity to the situation.  The ultimate goal is a place that feels like home.  With all of the choices out there, it's imperative that Realtors are as efficient and attentive as possible.

ama hender
Lone Tree, CO

Very true! It is important to read the buyer signals. 

Sep 28, 2008 02:22 AM
Chip Jefferson
Gibbs Realty and Auction Company - Columbia, SC

It can be difficult when a couples wants and needs list are so different. the woman is usually the main one I work with. They usually win..LOL!

Sep 28, 2008 02:26 AM
Lenn Harley
Lenn Harley, Homefinders.com, MD & VA Homes and Real Estate - Leesburg, VA
Real Estate Broker - Virginia & Maryland

I like this post. 

Buyer's agents find success when they learn to listen to their buyers and show them the homes that meet their criteria and expressed desires.

Goodness, why not???

 

Sep 28, 2008 02:27 AM
Kristin Moran
Owner - RE/MAX Access - KristinMoran@Remax.net - San Antonio, TX
San Antonio,TX - Real Estate - 210-313-7397

I agree.  You really have to listen & see where they truly lie.  what you start out with as their wants & needs can end up being totally different.  KM

Sep 28, 2008 03:11 AM
Angela Lawrence
Noble Merit, REALTORS® - Winston-Salem, NC
Broker/Owner

from our experience, in most cases regarding couples, the woman usually wins.........

Sep 28, 2008 03:20 AM
Carol Swain
Keller Williams Real Estate - Langhorne, PA
Realtor, -www.swainsells.com- Bucks County, Pa

Great Tips.  Normally the woman is the dominant buyer. 

Sep 28, 2008 03:31 AM
Li Read
Sea to Sky Premier Properties (Salt Spring) - Salt Spring Island, BC
Caring expertise...knowledge for you!

Good post, especially the reminder about finding out who's the dominant voice (sometimes it's a surprise, and not always readily seen).     thanks!

Sep 28, 2008 05:08 AM