I have to admit I've been feeling the weight on my shoulders lately. Recently I have had to rethink many things in my life. I've had to make some tough decisions..good sound decisions not only for myself but for many.
On most days, I am busy typing away and blabbing like there is no tomorrow..I run here and there and truthfully by the end of the day..I'm tired just whipped. Not physically tired but without a doubt more like mentally drained.
There are things that I notice about myself, I tend to absorb my environment and the energy around me..and sometimes with media, market conditions and the political campaign and oh lets not forget our personal lives..I feel the weight on my shoulders!
I become testy and lose my focus..and really it won't be long before its full blown burn out and then what? Who will I be good for right?
When I feel the weight on my shoulders I schedule a meeting with self and if you have been feeling like this maybe you should to.
So what do I talk about when meeting with self?
Be very honest with self or there is no point in talking! :)
Focus on what you can do
Get away from your normal surroundings and change your routine.
Turn off the T.V. and skip the news
What can I do to be more efficient?
Re-evaluate YOUR goals and adjust if necessary
Re-evaluate YOUR business plan for 2008 and start planning for 2009
What drains YOUR energy?
What needs to be simplified in YOUR life?
Is there enough time for me? That's right..you can think about yourself..and you should!
These are just a few things I go over when I am having a meeting with self..sometimes these meetings can be as short as five minutes and as long as a week.
Sometimes a vacation is necessary!
In the world we live in today, people want it now, want it bigger and at any cost...and trying to appease people every single day of our lives requires lots of energy and thought a real juggling act but it can be done!
So the next time you feel like you have the weight on your shoulders..take a break..and really have a heart to heart and schedule meeting with self!
24 Comments on Feel The Weight On Your Shoulders? Schedule Meeting With Self!
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Great post. It gets you thinking we do all need to stop and reevaluate where we are and what we are doing. Sometimes we think we donl't have time for that but we need to make time.
Midori- I have a scheduled meeting everyday with myself for 3 hours from 1-4 for lunch, nap, and personal things. In order to be effective for others, as you said, I have to be in control of myself. I take a nap, and that time gets me refreshed for the afternoon and evening :) This is my "no-guilt" time.
The best meeting/therapy for me is always held at Neiman-Marcus! Unfortunately, that's not in the 'cards' right now. Dairy Queen will suffice! Thanks for visiting me last week... I appreciate it!
Sounds good to me, I need a mental health day, LOL Actually in the summer we go to the lake every weekend but now it is fall and just don't take the time. It is like the stress rolls off us as we get closer, even the dogs can feel it.
I just realized this truth again as I forced myself to take a break yesterday. Amazing how your perspective changes. One very wise person once said that you need to meditate at least once or twice a day and if you say that you cannot make the time t do it, then you really need to.
Sound advice. Our minds are directly connected to our bodies. When we're exhausted in one area it always affects the other. But while we may not be able to control how our bodies feel, we can control our thoughts. I think you just gave me an idea for my next post. I've been focusing on a quote from a book I've been reading. I may need to share it. =)
Midori - When you are down and out - watch the video you've posted. I thought it was a great laugh and that is typically what gets me going. Of course, we all need a vacation to re-energize. Your concept of a meeting is great advice.
Midori- One thing that is important to remember is that if we do not take care of ourselves then we cannot take care of others. If our kids need us, our clients, spouses etc. if we are not taking care of ourselves then we cannot be there for the ones that really matter in our lives. Taking time to meet with myself was something I fought until recent weeks. Now, I schedule a block of time daily to recharge and refocus. No longer do I feel guilty about the break in my day.
Thank you for bringing this full circle, as the issue we all seem to encounter is that very few people take time for themselves. Unfortunately, some think it is selfish, when it is exactly the opposite.. For a greater return to self permits us to allow ourselves to take care of the clients much better.. Self is the start of clearing the mind, if you don't allow the "brain" to stop and settle, it all becomes jumbles.. so, kudos and thanks for sharing..
Mmmmmmmmmmidori... a quick note between "stuff" on another crazy day. Stepping back for a few minutes or a few days is so important. For some reason I had to learn that the hard way. :-(
Your idea is a classic but have put a nice spin. I sneak mini meetings with myself by going to events (doctor appts., etc) early and hanging out with myself. Last night i got to a PTO meeting 10 minutes early and went over those loose end to-dos that can drive you nuts.
Great advice, Midori. I used to feel guilty about taking time out for myself, but no more. I like Fridays or Sundays (sometimes both). I do take time on both days - sometimes it's to run personal errands, and sometimes it's to read People magazine, curled up on the couch, with my green tea. Sometimes it's for nothing at all. I've even tried meditating lately. I have to try harder.
I just listened to a speaker recently talk about some of the same things you said. One thing she said that is supposed to help is having a journal that you could write your feelings in and what you really want, what you need to do to get and focus on that. I think this happens to everyone especially with how things are right now.
Midori, what a great post and it's funny I was just thinking about this today and then I saw a story on this exact topic. I have tried to change the way I approach each day by starting it off right. I give myself 20-30 min each morning to reflect and have just "me" time - I have seen that it helps everything else in my day work a lot better and I'm more present. Thanks for sharing your thoughts and advice. By the way, I also saw your post on Breat Cancer Awareness something very close to my heart with a family history and I will certainly be passing your info along- thank you! ~Anne Marie
Agreed. Take some time to focus and center yourself. A vacation is a great idea for recharging the battery. I am usually frantic before I leave. But the time off allows me to refocus my efforts when I get back.
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Great post. It gets you thinking we do all need to stop and reevaluate where we are and what we are doing. Sometimes we think we donl't have time for that but we need to make time.