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Do we really have SOUL MATES?

The age old question, is there that someone out there that we were meant to be with. This may surprise you but the answer is a resounding NO!

Now now, I know your ready to disagree with me but here me out.

Everything we want in life whether its a new house, a car, a girlfriend or wife, we want because we think in the having of it, it would make us feel better. That goes for any and everything.

Just think to yourself for a moment, what is there that we want that we believe in the having of it would make us feel better? We are all selfish in that regard and that's a good thing.

You must find a way to feel great no matter the conditions, no matter who or who isn't in your life. When you think there is that special someone out there and you won't be happy until you find him/her feel the restrictions in that. When you say to yourself "My JOY is my JOB" and I'm won't give anyone else the responsibility or duty to dictate whether I'm going to be that happy person full of abundance, you'll sense the empowerment an you'll let everyone and everything else off the hook!

I continually look for ways to feel great no matter what the conditions. I can find ways to be happy no matter what the conditions! The funny thing is when you learn to LIVE and LOVE LIFE you automatically attract the same type of people into your lives. The same way being with a woman who I adored felt good to me playing with my dog feels good, running around chasing my daughter feels good, watching football among friends and losing my voice feels good.

All these things bring me to the same level of happiness and therefor I don't allow any one person be the only avenue for my HAPPINESS.

Don't misunderstand me, if you have that special person in your life, fantastic! Just know if you don't and you don't feel great because of it your simply looking for love in all the wrong places...Its right here. Tell me what you guys think

Posted by Corey Armistead Mortgage Reduction Specialist on 10/04/2008 10:20 AM

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4 Comments on Do we really have SOUL MATES?

OCT

2008

well now, as for wanting things in life because we think they would make us feel better.... isn't that just the pursuit of happiness? And when it comes right down to it, isn't really everybody's goal in life really just "to be happy?" - having said that, of course we don't always know what is best for us.... and well, I DO have to disagree with you as far as that "special someone"... in most cases that is, and whether you want to call them a "soulmate" or "significant other" is up to you. However I completely agree with you as far as embracing happiness every moment you can and not waiting for that someone special to come into your life. You won't find what you're looking for if you don't know what it is.... "embrace life, be happy and see what unfolds."

OCT

2008

Hi Corey

I whole heartedly agree. Not only do I believe that no one else can "make us happy" but that even thinking that is an unfair pressure. I would not want someone looking to me to be responsible for their happiness nor would I think it appropriate for me to look for someone to "make me happy". We choose our reactions to our life circumstances. I just read a terrific book "Life's so Good" by Richard Dawson about a man that learned to read at 98 years young. A great read and a refreshing perspective on life.

That was a great post. I have never put much thought to believing or not believing in soul mates. I think that any relationship takes work and if you want it bad enough you have to work for it. Just like anything else in life!

Brooke

OCT

2008

Hmm - I'm going to say there are some truisms about relationships that I feel are more myth than truth. The "soul mate" issue has to do with people believing that they need to be completed by someone else, usually - and what you're getting at here Corey is that you are complete in yourself already. The best relationships, IMO, tend to be between COMPLETE individuals, not between half-individuals. Good for you for seeing that!

I will also disagree with the comment above that any relationship "takes work." That's a pet peeve of mine...it isn't to say that there's never work to be done, but I think that a lot of people end up wasting a lot of energy on relationships that require WAY too much "work" because they believe that relationships are hard and that tons of "work" is normal. If a relationship takes constant "work" then it's either not a very good one, or somebody's not ready for it. IMO a relationship should be a joy and an augmentation of one's life, not something that needs constant babysitting.

I'm very happily married BTW, just so ya know that I do know whereof I speak. :)

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