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Mortality, Change, the Market

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Real Estate Agent with Remax equity group DRE# 200506219

Riverview CemeteryI drive past the Riverview Cemetery on Taylor's Ferry Road several times a week.  Several of my great, greats are buried there, I always think of them, the Langworthys and Fosses. I've looked for and found their grave sites.

It is a little uncanny to look at a mossy headstone, see names and dates that are a hundred years old and reflect that the dust under the stone was once flesh and blood.   

It is only recently I've thought about mortality as I pass Riverview. My mortality to some extent, since I haven't decided where I want my ashes scattered, or stored!  But also mortality in the sense of change since change is a kind of death.  One thing ends, becomes something else, shifts, modulates, crashes.   I've rediscovered how hard it is to let go of the old story, the what used to be.

The reluctance to change, deal with new realities comes in many forms.

And while I resonate with the closing lines of the Dylan Thomas poem, "do not go gentle into that good night. Rage, rage against the dying of the light", I've learned there are times to let go, to accept the death as part of the story.

I know that change is scary, just as death can be. I've heard my own reluctance to accept change in my Change - Quarters, Nickles, Dimeslittle inner voice that complains about current conditions, or something else that is out of my control.

I've heard it from the seller who is thinking in terms of last year's market, or even more problematic, 18 months ago. Who is saying, I know my home is worth more than THAT!  I've heard it from some buyers who thought the wild ride would be there when they were ready to purchase.  They express concern that maybe we aren't at the bottom, that there won't be appreciation in the house they buy. I've heard it from other agents in a variety of ways, and I'm sure you have too.

Just as hospice and care can ease the passing to the biggest change, easing this change, the passage to this market is part of our role.   

I'm being more explicit with sellers, giving lots of statistics and graphs, talking current market realities, and reminding them that they may be getting less than they thought perhaps, but they are also going to pay less for their next home. And I'm providing care and comfort.

I'm spending some time handholding with a few first time buyers.  I'm even more consistent in my education about current market values and historically low interest rates.  I'm reminding them about the appreciation trends over time, and real estate as a long term investment.  I'm saying the market has a future, and now is a great time to buy!

A 'Pair O Dimes'

 

The market has changed. 

The old market is dead!  Long live the market! 

It's a market with incredible opportunities.

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Jennifer Monroe
Indigo Home Team powered by Compass - Charlotte, NC
Real Estate REALTOR®/Broker/Designer

Timely post Alex! Zillow just put out a study yesterday confirming that sellers and homeowners are in denial about the value of their homes. And locally, someone donated three urns to Goodwill with the remains still in them!! So ya better hope the kids love you!! Lol!

Oct 31, 2008 03:39 AM
Sheila Moran
RE/MAX Access (Garden Ridge, San Antonio, New Braunfels) - New Braunfels, TX
SanAntonioSheila.com, RE/MAX Access, 210-32

Alexsandra,

Wow, this is a great post!

I loved how you used the analogy of graveyard with the old market!

This is awesome!

Oct 31, 2008 07:31 AM
Joan Mirantz
Homequest Real Estate - Concord, NH
Realtor, GRI, CBR, SRES - Concord New Hampshire

Alexsandra...I think a lot of us have come to the conclusion that ...the old days have died! We were just talking at our office meeting about changing the "message" in our advertising. Rather than stressing Houses for Sale we will be emphasizing our Service, knowledge, compassion and desire to help them through the process...

Oct 31, 2008 08:49 AM
Alexsandra Stewart
Remax equity group - Portland, OR
Broker - Portland Oregon Real Estate

Charley -- LOL about the turkey comment. Truly hope none of us are dealing with turkeys then - except the kind with a cooked drumstick!

Pat --  It's a real challenge -helping them move into the new marker mentality. Funny-sad how the fantasy is more attractive to so many prople.

Jason -  adapt or die, well put.  it's such a basic truth.   Your comment reminded me of the Boston market years ago -- I think it was the mid-late 80's  it was a stagnated market -- no one would budge!  sellers holding out, buyers refusing to offer.  Lasted for ever! even after other markets started to rebound. No one wins for sure.

Jennifer -- I mayhave seen that -- was it the one where sellers think their neighbors homes may have devalued, but not theirs?   I missed the note about the Goodwill donation!  I better get clear with the kids! :-)

Sheila - thank you, and I appreciate your coming by and staying to read.

Joan -- nice paradigm shift to emphasize the service and care needed to get through, and to another place.

 

Oct 31, 2008 04:13 PM
Robert Vegas Bob Swetz
Las Vegas, NV

Alexsandra - I really enjoyed your post and yes the old market is dead, but things have a way of rearranging themselves. And this market will come back, when is really unsure, some might have to get part time jobs to make it and some invested their money and will be able to ride the storm out.

Oct 31, 2008 05:35 PM
Elizabeth Weintraub Sacramento Broker
Elizabeth Anne Weintraub, Broker - Sacramento, CA
Put 40 years of experience to work for you

I think about mortality a lot the older I get. My parents are gone, all my grandparents and friends keep dropping dead out of the blue. I have morbid thoughts, too, like will my husband come home one day to find me dead on the floor? Will I have my cell phone on me and call 911 in enough time? LOL. But life goes on, with or without us, with or without our friends and family. And so does the real estate market.

elizabeth weintraub sacramento real estate agent in land park

Nov 01, 2008 03:59 AM
Alexsandra Stewart
Remax equity group - Portland, OR
Broker - Portland Oregon Real Estate

Elizabeth -- yes, that is so true too, age adds to the mortality thinking cycle.   I've lost some friends and family in the past few years too -- it does help you see the value of today doesn't it? and creates the perspective you mention.  thanks for your thoughts.

Nov 01, 2008 08:08 AM
Mary Strang
Viroqua, WI

Bravo, well written. On to new days, best not to look back unless you can do it fondly.

Nov 01, 2008 11:05 AM
Vickie McCartney
Maverick Realty - Owensboro, KY
Broker, Real Estate Agent Owensboro KY

Alexsandra~  Yes the old market is dead and the new market is even better!  Look at all the great tools because of technology that we have access to! Yes, it is a lot more to learn, but that is ok!  It keeps us young in spirit!

Nov 01, 2008 11:30 AM
Alexsandra Stewart
Remax equity group - Portland, OR
Broker - Portland Oregon Real Estate

Robert - sorry I missed you earlier!   One of the best things about our profession -- and life really,  things do have a way of rearranging themselves as you say. It makes each day a new day in some way!

Nov 01, 2008 12:03 PM
Alexsandra Stewart
Remax equity group - Portland, OR
Broker - Portland Oregon Real Estate

Mary --  nice thought -- why waste the energy loking back unless can do fondly.Looking back with regret is a drag!

Vickie - and I do love the technology and the tools.  I agree, a terrifc way to keep the mind young and jumping!

Nov 01, 2008 12:06 PM
Deb Brooks
Brooks Prime Properties Wichita Falls Texas - Wichita Falls, TX

Alexsandra, OMG, you just subscribed to my blog and I can tell you I will be doing the same for you. Thank you for the honor. This blog is to the point and poignant to the tenth degree. Wow. I am impressed with your heart's closeness to reality. Thank you for such a beautiful writing. We must all accept our temporary presence yet we must also remember that we have the opportunity to make and leave our mark. I believe you have. Thank you so much. This should have been submitted to Diary of a Realtor. Please do, my friend.

Later in the rain~Deb

Nov 01, 2008 01:32 PM
Alexsandra Stewart
Remax equity group - Portland, OR
Broker - Portland Oregon Real Estate

Deb - I do agree, we need to make a mark and leave something of value behind. Thanks for coming by, I do appreciate your comments.  Looking forward to more interechanges. I thought we could only post to 5 groups??  I am not familiar with Diary of Realtor, I'll have to check it out.

Nov 01, 2008 02:13 PM
Jane Page Thompson
Aiken Properties - Aiken, SC

Alexsandra, thanks for pointing out that we need to help nurse the market change along and can do it by seeing the positives in the market!

Nov 01, 2008 02:34 PM
Debi Boucher
Real Estate Showcase Photography - Woodland Park, CO
"Realtor Showcase" - Real Estate Photography/Virtual Tours

Alexsandra - Beautifully written. A poetic way to make your point, which is one it seems most of us agree with!

Don't you just love the old graveyards? My Grandmother's family has their own cemetery in Townsend, Ma. The Melendy family cemetery. I went there on a visit to see family several years ago, and took dozens of photographs. In those days, we were still using film. When I got the photos developed, I found they were ALL double exposed! I was not a happy camper....

Debi

Nov 02, 2008 12:35 PM
Laura Cerrano
Feng Shui Manhattan Long Island - Locust Valley, NY
Certified Feng Shui Expert, Speaker & Researcher

Alexsandra, You have a wonderful way of writing and I also love Dylan Thomas.  I try to not only accept change but embrace it--it's the one thing we can count on.  Fighting it uses valuable energy--and I'm not sure I would want to stop it--it allows us to move forward after some difficult times.

Nov 02, 2008 02:06 PM
Alexsandra Stewart
Remax equity group - Portland, OR
Broker - Portland Oregon Real Estate

Jane - Yes, we can find the positives, and it helps our clients  -- and I think it is better for our spirit too!

Debi - I do love old graveyards!  Even if I don't know anyone buried there! My sisiter and I will turn the car around to visit them, especially if they are pioneer cemeteries!  Did you wonder if the double exposure was caused by a ghostly presence?? :-)

Carole - You are accurate about fighting change using valuable energy!  Just causes us to spin and eventually lose sight of what's important.  Must admit though, sometimes it takes me more than a few minutes to get my mind straight!

Nov 02, 2008 06:30 PM
Debi Boucher
Real Estate Showcase Photography - Woodland Park, CO
"Realtor Showcase" - Real Estate Photography/Virtual Tours

Alexsandra - Funny you should ask...as I was typing the comment I thought about it for the first time! Then I thought, nahhhh...:)

Debi

Nov 03, 2008 12:18 AM
Russel Ray, San Diego Business & Marketing Consultant & Photographer
Russel Ray - San Diego State University, CA

I have found only one cemetary out here, but it is a huge, monster, gigantic one, dating from the 1870s. Unfortunately, they won't let you in unless you have an appointment for business. No running around looking at headstones trying to find the oldest one like when I was in high school.

I'm not afraid of change or death. They both come naturally, and I love Mother and Father Nature and look forward to one day returning to their home.

Nov 05, 2008 05:18 PM
Alexsandra Stewart
Remax equity group - Portland, OR
Broker - Portland Oregon Real Estate

Russel - I wonder why they won't let people in without an appointment.  Do you think they're concerned about vandalism?  With that one being that old, I'll bet there are some interesting people buried there! I think you have a very enlightened attitude about change and death!

Nov 05, 2008 05:37 PM