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I Don't Do Upset!

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Real Estate Broker/Owner with HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400 311291

 

Yesterday one of my favorite sellers called me, very upset. She wasn't upset with me, or that her fantastic house hasn't sold after several months. It was something that had happened in her life, and because we have become friends, and because she feels she can talk to me - she unloaded.

 

It immediately reminded me of another day. It was a day when a dear 80-something lady, the mother-in-law of a dear friend of mine, buried her husband. This was a terribly sad day, and she certainly had reason to be upset.

 

Someone made a comment to my friend that seemed unkind, and she complained to her mother-in-law about it. This sweet lady put her hand on my friend's arm and said: "Don’t let unimportant people or unimportant things become important."

 

Think about - almost every time we get upset, isn't it is about "somebody" or "something" that is NOT really important?

 

That day I decided that "I don't do upset."

 

I have used this so many times and it always hits home. When I told my seller that story yesterday, she quickly saw that the person who had upset her so was definitely in the NOT important category.

 

So I urged her to give in to the desire to get all those things she wanted to say out in an email…but send it to me. And then look around at all the good things that have happened for her lately, and repeat after me:  "I don't do upset."

 

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Baltimore,Md.

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Comments (34)

Cheryl Ritchie
RE/MAX Leading Edge www.GoldenResults.com - Huntingtown, MD
Southern Maryland 301-980-7566
Goodness! I am commenting on an ancient oldie but incredibly goodie post. This quote is a true gem...drill, rehearse, drill, rehearse!
Apr 19, 2012 06:27 PM
Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400
HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400 - Pikesville, MD
Sell Your Home With Margaret Rome

Cheryl, This is an ancient post but very true. Take a look at the introduction of Real Estate the Rome Way. This is how I started the book. Thinking about you.

Apr 19, 2012 07:51 PM
Kathy Streib
Cypress, TX
Home Stager/Redesign

Margaret- I followed you here from an old post I read about losing your keys.  Clearly I think it's time for you to re-introduce us to this concept!  

Aug 31, 2012 11:46 PM
Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400
HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400 - Pikesville, MD
Sell Your Home With Margaret Rome
Kathy, This post from 2006 is still very true for me. Thanks for the suggestion to bring it back.
Sep 01, 2012 03:29 PM
Diane M. Phillips Realtor 443-286-4365
Frankly Real Estate Inc. - Manchester, MD
Specializing in Carroll Co., MD

Margaret ~ Such wisdom in these words, I'm glad I followed the link!

Feb 06, 2013 12:29 AM
Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400
HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400 - Pikesville, MD
Sell Your Home With Margaret Rome

Diane,This is a very old post but still is still how I feel.

Feb 06, 2013 07:17 AM
Karen Anne Stone
New Home Hunters of Fort Worth and Tarrant County - Fort Worth, TX
Fort Worth Real Estate

Margaret:  What a great story.  It appears that besides all of the wonderful ways about you that make you such a great Realtor... that you are a really great friend, as well.  What a great combination.          April 4, 2013

Apr 04, 2013 04:12 AM
Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400
HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400 - Pikesville, MD
Sell Your Home With Margaret Rome

Karen, It has been so long and you are in our thoughts. We miss you.

Nov 16, 2013 10:24 AM
Dorie Dillard Austin TX
Coldwell Banker Realty ~ 512.750.6899 - Austin, TX
NW Austin ~ Canyon Creek and Spicewood/Balcones

Good morning Margaret Rome, Baltimore Maryland,

I just read your current post and there was a link to this post. I can't believe this post was not featured! I love your motto "I don't do upset!" I'm adopting this one!

Sep 29, 2015 08:07 PM
Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400
HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400 - Pikesville, MD
Sell Your Home With Margaret Rome

Dorie Dillard  This post written in 2006 is still relevant today. Thanks for stopping by.

Sep 29, 2015 08:17 PM
Jeff Dowler, CRS
eXp Realty of California, Inc. - Carlsbad, CA
The Southern California Relocation Dude

Margaret Rome, Baltimore Maryland 

After all these years these words still ring true. I was only a few days old on AR when this was written - guess I was still figurng out how to find, read, and comment on outstanding posts.

Jeff

Sep 29, 2015 09:20 PM
Elyse Berman, PA
LoKation Real Estate - Boca Raton, FL
Boca Raton FL (561) 716-7824

Margaret Rome, Baltimore Maryland You are so wise.  The concept of "I don't do upset" is a brilliant one and yet so simple.  I have to remember this; kind of like "Next."

Sep 30, 2015 07:15 PM
Lynn B. Friedman CRS Atlanta, GA 404-939-2727
Atlanta Homes ODAT Realty - Love our Great City - Love our Clients! Buckhead - Midtown - Westside - Atlanta, GA
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Margaret Rome, Baltimore Maryland 
You share so much wisdom with us on AR! Hugs - Lynn

Jun 01, 2016 06:09 PM
Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400
HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400 - Pikesville, MD
Sell Your Home With Margaret Rome

Hey, Lynn B. Friedman Thanks so much even though I'm a bit late answering.

Jul 29, 2016 11:54 AM
Cheryl Dukes . . . . . Intown Atlanta
Guaranteed Offer for your Home - eXp realty - Atlanta, GA

I love this theme, Margaret -- something I'll have to remind myself more of when my 10-year-old acts like a 10-year-old. 

Apr 18, 2017 08:50 AM
Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400
HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400 - Pikesville, MD
Sell Your Home With Margaret Rome

Cheryl Dukes - Atlanta  Good idea. This was written in 2006!

Apr 18, 2017 01:09 PM
Cheryl Dukes . . . . . Intown Atlanta
Guaranteed Offer for your Home - eXp realty - Atlanta, GA

Yes and it is still relevant today - great, timeless post!

Apr 18, 2017 02:06 PM
Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400
HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400 - Pikesville, MD
Sell Your Home With Margaret Rome

Cheryl Dukes - Atlanta Thanks and I still don't do upset.

Apr 18, 2017 06:38 PM
Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP
DFW FINE PROPERTIES - Flower Mound, TX
Selling Homes Changing Lives

Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400 - After reading this story I was reminded about trivial complaints some people were sharing and the gossip spread from out of one mouth to another. After burying my own husband, I recall thinking to myself, there must be something toxic about complaining and making a mountain out of a mole hill.

 

That was really good advice:

"Don’t let unimportant people or unimportant things become important."

Mar 22, 2023 08:03 PM
Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400
HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400 - Pikesville, MD
Sell Your Home With Margaret Rome

Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP 

This was written in 2006 and thanks to you I am going to make a new post of this. 

Jul 12, 2023 06:42 PM