People ask me all the time about this seemingly unflappable nature or calm I have. The key to that peaceful easy feeling in addition to my own personal faith journey, I have found is
ACCEPTANCE.
I have seen it working with clients, in relationships, and in circumstances. A well worn phrase these days is, "it is what it is."
Look at marital relationships for example. We all want peace and harmony there. Too many divorces surely must come from one or both parties always trying to "change" the other, rather than accepting the good with the areas that only the other can change. Think of a Realtor working with a client. There is a learning process between the two with habits, behavior, neediness, etc. The sooner we accept the is what it is, the faster we can move on. Life is so imperfect at times, I am amazed at the energy people put into fitting square pegs into round holes. And believing too, that by God, they'll do it.
One of my brilliant readers awhile back (they ALL are brilliant BTW) pointed out to me in the Rolling Stones song that YOU CAN'T ALWAYS GET WHAT YOU WANT. But maybe in the end we get what we need anyway. Now I don't condone hurting children, evil, or injustice in the world. We should fight those areas and NEVER accept those things. But the vast majority of things that bother you, you can live with and realize people especially, and many situations, are beyond your control. As the serenity prayer categorizes things that are out of your control, just let them go. Live peacefully by knowing what is, is, and shape the world from your side of the fence. You will be known as someone that has deep still waters and can handle just about any kind of stormy seas on the surface.
The word of the day is: ACCEPTANCE!!
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