Monday Morning- Today is the International Day of the Child as well as World Aids Day. It is also a new day, to a new week, to a new month. Normally I would have written something for either one of these days, but today I want to share my thoughts and hope with other people that might be having a hard time. It's hard to believe that in 31 days we will start a New Year, but it is Just around the corner, and so many people need Hope that we can overcome the struggles that so many families are experiencing right now. But how do you have Hope for tomorrow when you have to struggle with today?
Today I have been thinking of 2 different people that contacted me recently concerned with how they were going to make it.Believe me I know this feeling, and sometimes I really don't know why I'm not in a major depression myself, but I know that all things must end. I know that just as today may be uncertain, if we just keep going we will find light at the end of the tunnel. We all need someone to listen when we are at the end of our road-someone to listen and care without judging. And so many of our virtual friends do that on a daily basis. Being there for someone else has a way of giving us the hope we ourselves lose sight of at times.
Many People are having a tough time right now, and some Industries seem to have been hit harder than others. Have you ever tried to hear someone talk when the kids were yelling, or the TV was too loud, or even when you were just lost in thought? Well, trying to see the light at the end of the tunnel is just as hard to see if we are consumed with the everyday stress of trying to survive. How can anyone hear or think when they're in the middle of a crisis. Creditors calling, lenders demanding payment, and kids that have needs we don't know how to meet; we can't hear or see around the next corner, or see the light at the end. But it's there. Start each day with an Action Plan-small obtainable goals. We can't change the economy, but we can change our behaviors which in turn changes our mentality.
5 things you can do to help you make it to that next curve.
1. Start every day as a new one with an Action Plan-let go of yesterday and any problems it had. Focus on today, and tell yourself that today you will do something good for yourself, and today you will do at least one thing that will help you solve something that has overwhelmed you.
2. Divide the day into parts and make small goals that you will accomplish-ex: this morning you will be showered and ready to show property by 9am. Whether you show property or not isn't the point, the point is you are prepared. The Mental Preparedness is what is difficult when we're depressed,and if you only have 2 or 3 things that you will do in the morning, and 2 or 3 in the afternoon you have made it through another day. I would pick at least 1 major thing to do in the morning, and get it out of the way.
3. Give yourself permission to be emotional-be angry, bitch if you need to or cry if you feel like it. We all have times when we feel overwhelmed, and our emotions might take over. That's OK you're not alone. It may feel like it, but you're not. I call it the "Pity Pot" and everyone is allowed to sit on it for no more than 24 hours....because we have to share. You can feel as sorry for yourself as you want, but then it's someone else's turn.
4. Realize that there is a big difference between being Broke and being Poor. One is more about finances and one is more mentality. You can be broke without allowing the lack of money to dictate how you think of your life. Sure you might have to modify some things, but if you are broke it just takes one paycheck to add some hope.
5. Communicate-Talk with creditors and try to arrange something. Try to figure out your priorities for the Holidays, and then see how you can best meet them. Lists of important things can help you stay focused. Look for Alternatives......if it doesn't work one way, try another. Whatever you do just don't isolate! Communicate with someone.
And always remember that there are Alternatives, we might not like them, but they're there. It is when we don't know what to do anymore that we lose sight of what's ahead. But we can make it, one way or another we will make it through the tough times :) :)
By: Kathy McGraw- CELLing Realty in Riverside County