This Post is being written because I have gotten to the point of feeling my friends think I am ungrateful, the ones that have tried to engage me on Facebook. I may not be the smartest person when it comes to all the tons of tech sites, but security is an issue I take seriously.  I am talking about some of the fun things on Facebook,  the Gifts, Plants, Drinks, Photo's, Christmas stuff, etc.  What are we giving up to enjoy these "fun" things.  Did you just give someone all your information without even realizing it, and mine too?

Facebook Site

 

Think about all your sites, your blogs.  How many times have you told people that you wouldn't sell their information to a 3rd party?  How many times were you concerned someone else didn't sell, or give away your information yet we are doing it all day long on Facebook.

Look at the list to the left.  We'll take the buy your friends (bottom of 1st column)

 

After clicking the link you get this:

Hey Kathy, I just bought you. Find out how much I think you're worth! Tom Braatz, Tom Plant, Marti Garaughty and 12 other friends are playing too!

What's my Price/Ignore
Block This Application | Ignore All Invites From This Friend

Once you click the What's My Price you are now on a 3rd Party Site, not on Facebook.

 

 

 

 

 

 **Excerpts from Facebook Terms of Service:

1.  The Site contains (or you may be sent through the Site or the Service) links to other web sites ("Third Party Sites")

2.  Such Third Party Sites and Third Party Applications, Software or Content are not investigated, monitored or checked for accuracy, appropriateness, or completeness by us, and we are not responsible for any Third Party Sites accessed through the Site or any Third Party Applications, Software or Content posted on, available through or installed from the Site, including the content, accuracy, offensiveness, opinions, reliability, privacy practices or other policies of or contained in the Third Party Sites or the Third Party Applications, Software or Content. Inclusion of, linking to or permitting the use or installation of any Third Party Site or any Third Party Applications, Software or Content does not imply approval or endorsement thereof by us.

 3.  You should review the applicable terms and policies, including privacy and data gathering practices, of any site to which you navigate from the Site or relating to any applications you use or install from the site.

 

 

These 3rd Party sites are all the fun things that you see on my list here. Marketers have figured out how to engage us by using our social media friends.  I actually clicked the first couple I received, but after reading the terms I decided not to do it because the few that I had clicked wanted me to  agree to them having access to my list of friends. 

Think about that!  We put our Birthdays, Phone Numbers, websites, email, and a ton of other personal and business information on these sites.  When we did we didn't think of other Marketing Sites would have access to all our info, and that other people could give it to these 3rd Party Sites. 

So, I have over 50 something fun things that were sent to me by people I genuinely like.  I feel like I'm not being a good "neighbor" friend or whatever.  I want to plant flowers, have a coffee, and who wouldn't want to have a Nicest Person Award :)  But at what cost.....

I don't give away information on my own sites, so I'm not going to give yours away on my Social Media Sites either.

I'm very curious on how you interpret this......

 

By: Kathy McGraw CELLing Realty in Riverside County

 
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100 Comments on Marketing Technology: What is all that fun costing you on Facebook?

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DEC
16
2008
290,106 Points 33 Featured Posts Outside Blog

Charles-It is always prudent to know who you are associating with :)  If you don;t know the people and don;t want them following you then you can block them :)

Sonja-Agreed...it seems deceptive the way it is, but they do tell you in the terms which we know many don't read.

Glen- You have some good points.....however getting info from our AR Profile and giving them all our contacts is different.

Elizabeth- I am glad I'm not alone.  I knew I couldn't be, but unless you ask you never know :)

Jeff- thanks, and I think most of us have clicked on at least one or two before we figured out to ignore them :)

Joddie-Sounds like you are using FB in the manner that is best for you, congratulations for ignoring the other stuff :)

Lizette- The "big delete"...I like that :)

Mike-Hi...yes I too feel bad if it's an AR'r, but I would feel worse if I was in any way involved with inadvertently giving your personal info away.

geri- Sounds like you did what many of us did....nothing :)  I think it will be in all our best interests later to ignore all that extra stuff.

Teri- from this Post I realize how many people experienced the same thing.....but I am still shocked at that IQ Test-that one has to be illegal.

David- You're welcome and have fun, but just do it with common sense ....
1:59am • #81

Hi Kathy, this is a good head's up for those of us who are still just dipping our toes in the FaceBook waters.  Unfortunately, the time is probably coming, sooner than later, when we simply have NO PRIVACY left at all.  I know I have a paranoid streak which whispers that the government encourages Google... on down, to collect our information.  I'm sure it goes a long way toward controlling terrorism...but the price will always be at the expense of our privacy.  It's a new world...but we still do have some choices left, like not accepting those third party sites.  Great Post!

Gail MacMillan Titusville FL Real Estate
6:52am • #82
185,246 Points 3 Featured Posts

I don't think that anyone can fight the reality that these social sites will impact business. However, we do have to offer some of of personal lives.  This information inevitably will be open to the public.
11:28am • #83

I don't feel quite so bad for not getting into facebook.  I signed up a while back but I don't understand all of it.  The last thing I want is to bombard people with unwanted stuff.  I think I will stay in the back seat until I understand what it all means.
1:33pm • #84
966,201 Points 60 Featured Posts Outside Blog Called Shot Master

Kathy:  Every time I read stuff like this I find more and more reasons not to use these kinds of sites.  Thanks again for sharing.
1:34pm • #85
258,293 Points 6 Featured Posts Outside Blog

kathy, I have been mullng over blooging about Facebook safety issues.  I ignore most of these requests.  I was always suspicious, but then got caught up for a time with   couple seeing everyone else on board. Recently I deleted all the apps I signed for originally except for birthdays. I just might go and disable that one too. I am so afraid of not only info getting out, but viruses and malware getting in. I just cleaned my laptop from mlaware~ not a clue where it came form but could have been through Facebook!

This is a terrific post and a must read!
5:52pm • #86

Kathy, that is one of my biggest issues with facebook. Many of us use it to stay in touch with each other then you get a group who will start with all that other stuff. It really gets in the way of keeping in touch with old clients, referrals, friends, agents, etc. You know good old fashioned networking on a more personal basis then AR.
6:30pm • #87
489,954 Points 1 Featured Post Outside Blog Attended Rain Camp

I just KNEW I didn't like Facebook! Thanks for telling me why.
10:25pm • #88
DEC
17
2008

I think most people don't take into consideration the type of security issues 3rd party apps create, especially when associated with something as popular as FB.  As professionals who use it both as a social and work tool we have an responsibility to protect not only our personal information, but that of our friends and clients....and now we have some good ammo as to why I ignore half the silliness happening on FB.  Thanks for heads-up on the latest twist in mining data.
8:28am • #89

Thanks for the information, Kathy.  There are a few that are prompting me to get on Facebook, but I haven't taken the time to do it.  This is helpful to know.
9:23am • #90
DEC
18
2008
185,246 Points 3 Featured Posts

If you are comfortable with yourself personally and professionally, what is there to fear? Other than meeting new people.
6:17pm • #91
DEC
23
2008
199,383 Points 5 Featured Posts

thank you for this information Kathy!  I've seen all of the spam when you click on one of those "other requests"  I will let others know.  You should post this information somewhere on Facebook for others if you haven't done so already.
3:52pm • #92
DEC
24
2008
210,914 Points 1 Featured Post

Wow!  I missed this post, that is until I just saw what Sally is dealing with.  I too have felt bad about not responding to the requests.  But, my gut said, 'don't click that button'!   Danger Will Rogers!!   Thanks for posting this!   Merry Christmas!! 
12:51am • #93
290,106 Points 33 Featured Posts Outside Blog

Sorry for not coming back to answer your comments earlier.....

Gail- Yes we have given up a lot of our privacy, however we still have some choices.  It's a sign of the times I guess.

Remo Realty Group- I would agree wtih that :)

Rebecca-I think some of it looks so innocent that people just get hooked into the "social" part, and some like me actually feel guilty for not responding....and whala....we click on the links and have now compromised our friends and ourselves without even knowing it.

Karen-It's Ok to use some of the site, just not the fun parts of it.  And be careful of clicking links.

Ginger-After reading your comment I went to check if I had any app's and sure enough I did....thank you.  The Birthday one is one I especially don't like because once someone has your name and your birthday they have way too much info...

Marie- I know...it can be distracting, but i think it's like everything else, after awhile you don't even see it.

Ann- I'm smiling here :)  So I guess I won't look for you over there :)

Michael- We do indeed need to be careful of 3rd party apps.

Laura-Common Sense on the Internet goes a long way :)  I like FB but don't participate in the "fun".

Remo-How about the malware people have gotten, the unwanted text messages, the $9.98 charge that many people didn't even know they had signed up for just by taking that IQ Test.  Deceptive Marketing isn't about meeting new people.  At least this is my opinion.

Patricia- I never thought about that, good idea....you can also put the link for your friends :)

Doreen- I am a firm believer in trusting our instinct or "gut" and see it proved a good thing for you :)
2:06am • #94

Facebook? Totally useless for business... I signed up to check on the kids, to see who their friends were... so far so good... but personally I don't have any friends (except for the kids), no pics, no info... why would I bother? I have a biz blog that works just great and lots of regular readers (which I don't consider my "friends")! And I work around the clock! Facebook? Unless we have lots of spare time, it's pointless! And... if I ever have some spare time, I certainly won't spend it on FB! ;-)
Lori
10:28am • #95
290,106 Points 33 Featured Posts Outside Blog

Lori-It sounds like you have a plan for your online activities...and that's a good thing.  Since you really only use FB to check on the kids then you wouldn't be one of the ones that would be affected by this Post, unless of course your kids participate in these "fun" things and your name goes out to the 3rd party sites.  Your name would go out if they have you listed as a friend whether you are or not. That's the danger :) 
11:44am • #96
DEC
29
2008
229,226 Points 3 Featured Posts Localism Sponsor

Started on Facebook to actually get my son's high school music department together.  What fun to keep in touch - I do try to keep that as a personal site and not allowing many R.E. related info in there (sorry), sometimes I have to keep things none-business...  A great place to keep in touch with my kids, families and personal friends!
11:53pm • #97
DEC
30
2008
290,106 Points 33 Featured Posts Outside Blog

Sylvia-I think it's great that you set your own boundaries and use FB the way you do.  We can't work all the time, and not everyone cares about what we do :) 
12:04am • #98
311,726 Points 2 Featured Posts

Im very wary of all those 3rd party sites and what they really do.
2:32am • #99
DEC
31
2008
290,106 Points 33 Featured Posts Outside Blog

Andrew- and for good reason :)
11:45pm • #100

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