I recently read an interesting blog

The blog related to the market; the abyss; the mess. It was realistic in it's depiction of market woes.

The comments were agreeable, if in agreement.

My heart literally stopped when the middle of a response included the sentence, "Maybe I'll get lucky and just die in my sleep." The author, having found rents not dropping in accordance with the market full of foreclosures, was encountering his own problems after job issues and an income unable to keep pace with rent increases. The possibility of living in his car is real. Doesn't matter if I agree with the content of the response- it's incomprehensibly sad.

It seems that if there ever were a year to really "reach out" with the benefit of a holiday encouraging that action, it might be now.

Clients might benefit from a touching base visit more than the perfunctory weekly report phone call- particularly those for whom the distress is singular (not shared).

If you have a client in "the mess", a box of cookies (I don't cook- bakery) or warm, "hello" might be more a part of our jobs now than it may have been in the past. Physically touching base in a way that offers support might be less about inconveniencing them during the holidays (as I'd considered with one busy shopper) than about making sure that the light at the end of the real estate tunnel is tangible. For some, the time of year makes the hardship more tangible.

I'm not at all into delivering cookies. It's easier to budget the cost for some newspaper ads.

 Touching base after making a time that works just to say "hello" and "it'll be fine" is easier with  cookies for me somehow, boxed with a ribbon.

 
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Nice post, Laurie.  It definitely stops and makes one think about how easy it is to reach out to someone else, and how easy it is to forget to do so.  Thank you for the reminder.  Enjoy the holidays. 

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Laurie, we were just having a conversation about this in my office.  Not only do we need to reach out but we really need to be more patient  and thoughtful about people and their current situations and try to help them as much as we can.  Thanks for posting!

5:50pm • #2
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Laura and Laura- from Laurie- we get it!! I learned over a year ago to check news twice daily, and have read lots of blogs. I can honestly say that this sentence- FORGET ALL OTHERS- stopped my heart in its tracks. It also occurred to me that I have contacts to make- thanks for understanding!

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Great post.  We get so warpped up in stuff sometimes that we forget to reach out.  Thanks for the reminder.

5:57pm • #4

Hello Laurie:  I liked your post, you are right, there are many people hurting now and a kind word from someone that understands will go a long way.    Cookies or candy are a "sweet" treat and always make a person feel good if only for a little while.  Merry Christmas

6:01pm • #5
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Jennifer honestly? That I might not quite fully understand desperation (in a "bountiful" season) was not good-even with current income challenges- but in thinking about contacts, action seems appropriate- needed or not by them- I'll take the gamble of needed. More now than in the past.

6:03pm • #6
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Laurie, I love this thought.  Many, many people are having a particularly bad time right now.  I haven't delievered cookies but I have tried to follow up and give a call just to see how they are.

6:44pm • #7
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I love cookies :)  You're so right. Cookies or a hug are often tokens of caring :)

8:26pm • #8
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Laurie you are so right, the personal attention is needed now more than ever, that is one of my strong point, Now I  find my self going that extra mile.  Hopefully many will remember to continue doing this even when the holidays are a distant memory.

8:32pm • #9
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This whole situation seems so surreal. We've gone from pointing fingers, to disbelief, to shock, to acceptance. My fear is that the next step will be apathy from those who are not at risk of losing their homes. Or, another possibility could be selfishness and an every man for himself attitude as the economy worsens.

We should all be praying like there's no tomorrow.

12:28am • #10
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Laurie:  Just a great amount of truth in what you write.  But also... in addition to customers and clients, there are many of our fellow Realtor/agents who are feeling just like this... that their entire life is passing before them.  We need to be alert to those we work with who are also in dire/almost suicidal straits.  Thanks for sharing your caring idea.

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Valerie, when I put myself in the shoes of someone engaging in this mess, this time of year must be more difficult for them- lots of "touching base" to do this week.

Carole, I haven't figured out what to do, but know that doing the norm is not enough!

Sally Jo, hugs...I like that.

Thanks, Jennifer- we should all follow your lead on superior customer service, more now than ever.

Lisa, I'm with you 100%.

Karen, it's such a sad (and startling) reality for some right now- how to make absolutely certain that the light at the end of the tunnel is absolutely recognized?

6:35am • #12
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Laurie - I don't know how I found my way here this morning, but wanted to say hello to an old friend, so - Hello! History or doctors, psychologist, whatever, tell us Christmas is the time of year most people take their own lives. It is sad!

People like you, a light shining in the darkness, giving a glimmer of hope will most assuredly put a smile on someone's face and if only for a minute, help them to forget their problems.

Best to you my friend!

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Paula, it so SO GOOD to "hear" from you- my best wishes (and then some) are right back atcha!!

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I've often felt that our job is 50% knowledge and 50% psychiatric assistance. I love your thoughts to help out in this time of need for so many. Well done!

4:54pm • #15
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Craig, I watched, "You Can't Take it With You" (the really old version) last night. I feel like sending it to anyone losing their house- along with a case of wine, so they can stop a rushing heart long enough to relax for a minute and know that they are very MUCH not alone in this nightmare. 

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