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I never hear them complain; they always seem to find the good part of everything. If they break their left arm, they say: "Thank you Lord for watching over me; I'm so thankful I didn't break my right arm. If both arms get broken, they say: "Thank God for my legs!" You get the picture: no matter what happens, they seem to find a way to focus on the good side of everything. 
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21 Comments on The Art of Being Happy
Mirela, there is a book called "Happiness is a Choice" that our former pastor recommended. He has a PhD. in psychology. I choose to see the glass as half full in life not half empty - that's why I'm a member of The Optimist Group! :) Merry Christmas!
Sharon: Smart girl!
Thank you for the book tip too! I'll have to buy it for them...
We all can definitely can learn the art of beng happy. The daily motivation I receive a couple of days ago from www.Walkthetalk.com is "Only You Can Make You Happy" Thanks for the positive post
I strive everyday to be happy! Really happy! I believe it is a choice. I love your blog and it has made me even happier! Thanks!
Liz: ...And now you've just made me even HAPPIER! Thank you! Your kind words mean a lot to me!
My grandpa used to ask if I was gruntled. What is gruntled you ask? It is the oposite of disgruntled. I choose to be gruntled. Thanks for your great post.
Jean: I like that:
"Only You Can Make You Happy"!
Hanging around other happy and positive people is a very good way to ensure joy. Listening, watching and reading motivational and inspirational material is another great way to do it.
My number one favorite is to realize just how lucky we are by comparison. Just look around you and you will see a lot less fortunate folks. My visits to my grandma's nursing home keeps it all in perspective for me. When I leave there I feel infinitely fortunate to be able to walk out of there, to be able to walk, talk, think and express myself. Health is a huge blessing. If you have IT, you have most everything!
Randy: That is SO CUTE! I'll have to remember that one!
Thank you, Randy!
Dear Mirela,
I don't necessarily think that most people can become happy, by their decision to become happy!
I do think that people can make a choice to spend more time with optimistic people to become happier.
The associations we make are so important! Being around positive people re-enforces our positive feelings.
When you are around the "downers", you feel down! Is that a message!
I spent an evening with 2 of my closests friends. We were having a little pre-Christmas dinner together. One said that she was depressed, didn't know why. I piped up EVERYBODY is depressed--this is not strange! Actuallly, not being a bit depressed now is unhealthy. Things suck!
That broke the ice! Later I found out my other friend was dealing with the 3rd anniversary of her Mother's death.
We were celebrating our friendship over great home made soup.
We shared. That was a friend's Christmas to me.
Barbara: Thank you for sharing this intimate vignette! I see a lot of joy in your friendship with these two women.
Being happy doesn't mean that you are always up and bubbling over with enthusiasm every moment of every day. No; it simply means that your Happiness compass is working just fine and it will always help you find your way there, regardless of what happens in your life.
In our society there seems to be an implicit message that we should always feel good at all times (and at all cost...) and furthermore, that we should somehow always strive to achieve that ideal. Holding that notion as dogma does much to usurp our eventual happiness.
When bad things happen, it is a normal reaction to be unhappy as a result. Melancholy should be embraced as the healer that it is. It should not be hurried, for it does its job in due time. As joyous as I am, I have had moments of extreme pain, where I just cried for days (the ending of my second marriage for example). I embraced my melancholy as the grieving necessary in order to get to the other side. Losing precious people from your life, that's another deep cause for pain. I still cry every Father's Day. It is not a good day for me on that celebrated occasion, for I still miss my father, and he's been gone for about a decade. Father's Day I cry, but the next day I feel like myself again.
Being happy is not about the facade, or the "Ra-Ra!!" Being happy means that you eventually adjust to whatever losses you incur throughout your life and you eventually reach your way back to finding joy in every day life. There is a miracle in living!
Mirela,
I've found in my own life that focus on others instead of on my self brings peace, satisfaction, happiness, and often joy. My mother taught us a little Sunday school chorus:
Jesus, and Others, and You
What a wonderful way to spell joy!
The lesson's never left me.
Mike in Tucson
It is a decision and I know I need to keep God close in my heart at all times
Mike: I've always said that parenting is the most important job in the World! Your mom is a prime example of that!
Thank you for sharing one of her valuable lessons! I love it and will use it from now on:
Jesus, and Others, and You
What a wonderful way to spell joy!
Mirela, great post! Life is what you make it. I think alot of unhappy people are missing something. That Spirit or that higher power that makes them ok with what is. If you have a good relationship with GOD how can you be constantly be unhappy?
Mike - I like that lesson.
Barbara: Thank you for clarifying! ...But I actually understood it the first time. It was easy to, because of the rest of your comment.
I just could not resist delving into my observation, it wasn't necessarily related to your words; they simply just jotted my mind to go that course. There is so much pressure in our society to give the impression of happiness, and I felt compelled to address it.
Joy and peace... Happiness is a state of mind that can not be fabricated, purchased, or induced. Chicken soup shared with your best friends: great recipe for EARNING that state of mind.
This is another reason I subscribe to your blog, always uplifting and worth the time to find you and read your perspective, thanks, Steve
I think our basic outlook is probably something we're born with, but I DO think we can alter that. It's not what we are born with that matters, but what we DO with it.
Yes I think people can learn the art of being happy. Not sure if self absorbed people are ever happy. But I think happiness is a state of mind and easy to achieve - just look outward. Thanks...
Happiness is a choice. Pretty Simple.
I thrive on positive attitude. It's so easy to keep others down with negative thoughs. Loose the unhappy feelings and we'll be better off.