With foreclosures and financially distressed homeowners on the rise, we couldn't help but notice the recent increase in soon to be divorced spouses calling us about rentals or needing to sell their marital home. There is no doubt that the overall economic situation puts a tremendous amount of stress on couples and their families. Times are hard for almost everyone.
I'm wondering though how and why a declining economy can alter what two people have once promised each other - to stick it out through good times and bad times. It doesn't seem logical to me to add more stress and more cost to an already distressed situation only to end up alone instead of having the support of a spouse to make it through the tough times.
Is financial distress causing divorce or is it rather the inability to deal with problems and therefore the inability to communicate with each other? I believe the reason for an increase in divorces is not the down economy but rather the fact that spouses are not getting the point of being married!
I've been married for almost 14 years, to the same wonderful man. Yes, times are tough for us as well. We struggle the same as everyone else. It's frustrating, it's depressing and it can wear you down. We have differences just like everyone else, we are not perfect, we have flaws, the sun doesn't shine on us every single day. We have no marriage manual, we've been winging it since day one. The same applies to parenting btw. but that's another post.
My point is, making it through tough times is twice as hard if one has to do it alone. Isn't it much better to have your spouse to lean on and lend your spouse your own shoulder if they need it (and they do!)? Isn't that what marriage is about?
My husband is my better half. I need him to be there for me and he needs me to be there for him. We promised that to each other on a gloomy day in Denmark, and the time to call in that promise is NOW, when times are not so rosy. How else are we going to make it through the tough times if not together?
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