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70 Days to Change

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Real Estate Agent with Exit Homeplace Realty (Wilmington, NC)

Day 31:  Keep your eyes on Mama

The training wheels were off and we were all in the street excited about my oldest daughter's first true ride on her bike.  My daughter was scared.  She wanted the training wheels back on.  "I can't do this," she said.  "I'm scared."  I stopped, collected my thoughts and realized she was overwhelmed with the mechanism itself.  She was looking down at the bike, the pedals and the tears streaming down her face.  No wonder she was overwhelmed.  She was too involved with the mechanics.

I knew that I had to find a way to get her to focus.  So I pointed to a white mailbox down the road and told her not to take her eyes off that mailbox.  Then I told her to pedal and pedal she did.  We made it to the mailbox, turned around and then I told her to keep her eyes on Mama.  She did really good.

What I learned from this experience with my daughter is that we are like children sometimes.  We get too caught up in the mechanics.  We get emotional, we get scared and we get overwhelmed.  Sometimes we need to stop, collect our thoughts and focus.  Focus on where we are going.  Then, "Keep your eyes on Mama."

What are some of the things you focus on to get where you want to be?

Paul

"100 Days to Change"

Susan Neal
RE/MAX Gold, Fair Oaks - Fair Oaks, CA
Fair Oaks CA & Sacramento Area Real Estate Broker

This is a great analogy, but I'm afraid it also reminds me of when I learned to ride a bike.  My dad ran with me, holding onto the back of the seat, and told me to focus on our neighbor who was sweeping leaves in the street up against the curb.  I pedaled faster and faster, and left my dad behind, but I didn't know how to stop or steer, and I barreled into the neighbor man and knocked him flat!  He had his back to me and never saw me coming.

Jan 19, 2009 03:24 PM
Paul Hockaday
Exit Homeplace Realty (Wilmington, NC) - Wilmington, NC

Susan, my wife and I are rolling.  Thank you for sharing your story.  Have you ever heard of "target fixation"? 

Paul

Jan 19, 2009 03:29 PM
Tom Davis
Harrington ERA,DE Homes For Sale, $$ Save $$ Buy Today ! - Dover, DE
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Lol Paul,

Yes Susan thanks for sharing your story with us all!  Be Careful!!!  If I am in the area I will be sure to watch out for any bikes in your area!

LOL!  Well Cheers to a happy laugh from us all!

Thanks

Tom Davis

DE REALTOR (R)

Jan 19, 2009 03:59 PM
Jim Valentine
RE/MAX Realty Affiliates - Gardnerville, NV

Reminds me, our grown son, along with his other cousins, was doing "tricks" in the alley on his bike. 

Some of the kids were riding without hand and other kid stuff.  Pretty soon Adam yelled, "Dad Watch" and tore down the alley straight into a big bush.  After we picked him up and dusted him off we asked, "What were you doing?"

"Riding with my eyes cloesed", he answered!

Jan 19, 2009 10:10 PM