This is a Destiny Reading for one of my Twitter Friends.  I come from some gypsy lineage (tiny bit of Mongolian blood from my mother's side) with a knack for Tarot Reading, etc...  I didn't pay a lot of attention to it until my children were losing focus on the meaning of life in their pre-teen and teen years :).  I often had a house full of young girls who only worried about which boy liked them this week, so I started doing Destiny Readings.  It created a major transformation among the young women, my daughters and their friends, to think they had a personal real Destiny to fulfill.  Their self image was no longer about who liked them...how they acted...what they wore...what they looked like...

It's a combination of Chinese Astrology, Tarot, Birthday Analysis and Destiny Era charts...all rolled into one.  A bit of intuition/talent blends them together into one basic "Destiny" and primary purpose.  I do believe there is one big thing we come here to "complete". And if you don't look for it...you will leave this earth without having done it and will keep coming back until the job is done.  Of course I am also very grounded in the Catholic Faith and Judaeo/Christian teachings.  I don't view any one way as the ONLY way, and I roll everything into one until it blends into a world of great compassion and understanding. 

It's never a bad thing to FOCUS on something, so whether you believe that THIS is truly your Destiny...it really doesn't matter.  Improving focus on accomplishment is always a good thing.

The Destiny of this person is so very different from my own, that it has taken me a bit of time to blend into a primary purpose.  Your purpose is usually the OPPOSITE of what you do naturally and comfortably, day in and day out.  You may have heard the saying "What you RESIST...PERSISTS."  If you are an introvert, as example, your Destiny is likely about interaction outside of your personal world.  If you are an extrovert, then the reverse is likely true.

Sad to say that while generally speaking for this person, Spring and Summer are normally the best times to progress toward her ultimate destiny (vs. Fall and Winter), 2009 is the WORST year since 1997, and will not get a lot better until 2011 and 2012.  On  the bright side, that imposes less urgency to change in the near future :)

It is not surprising that her WORK has nothing at all to do with her destiny. Her work encompasses a wide territory and many people on a daily basis.  Her Destiny is VERY PERSONAL. She is here to work on herself.  She is not here to invent or create something for others, She is here to find contentment with her inner self.

In this Year of the Ox, that will be an exceptional struggle.  She will be pulled to areas that create self doubt and to some extent, even self loathing. For some that could create a year of great personal advancement IF they fight through it...but this person is not likely going to fight through it, so she needs to do a few things in 2009:

1) Surround yourself  with people who truly like you for Who You Are.

2) Avoid people who put you down in any way shape or form...just move away from them, hang up on them, refuse to engage with them, tune them out and nod if you must and get away from them as soon as humanly possible.

3) Declutter the area you spend most of your time in.  Remove anything that does not make you smile and add things that do make you smile, and keep them there and in the same place for a full year.  Don't keep changing your space.  Make it most comfortable and leave it alone until your birthday in 2010.

4) Expect the tendency to undervalue yourself to be the strongest this year...and fight it by ignoring it. Anytime you feel you didn't do "good enough", take a walk or better yet, indulge in an "escapist" activity like an uplifting movie that refocuses your thoughts. Don't try to reverse the feeling by "doing" (which is your natural tendency)...move away from it.

YOUR PRIMARY AND ULTIMATE DESTINY is to disassociate your feelings of self worth from your work. But that is difficult because you are work driven, and the more you stay in the driver's seat and refuse to be a passenger of life, the worse it gets.

YOUR PRIMARY TALENTS ARE NOT IN THE AREA OF FINANCE.  Understand that you are not meant to be good at that which you are not good at, and don't perceive those things as "your weaknesses".  Of the many things you can be good it...you are not meant to be good at all of them for a reason.

You feel a strong sense of needing to do something important for others...but the reality is, you are meant to be content with yourself. All the other things will COME to you, when you find yourself, contentment with yourself, maximum self esteem...all the things you seek you will actually drive away, until you come to a full understanding of your self and know that ultimately it is not what you DO, but Who You Are, that is most important.

To Thine Own Self Be True...the rest will fall into place once you ALWAYS honor only yourself.  Your sense of duty, ethics and fairness, which are very strong...will cause you to think this cannot be true...but it is also why it IS true.

Oddly, many on your Kharmic Path will try to fulfill their need to improve self-worth with "the need to be needed" by many, and at all times.  To make the most progress, make sure your non-work times of which there are few, are filled with non-work people and non-work activities.  On the bright side, becasue you don't indulge in pleasures enough...when you do...the pleasure from the activity is magnified.

If there was ever a year to balance work with relaxation...this is it!  If you don't...you will be much worse for the wear by the first new moon of 2010. 

 

12 Comments on Are You Fulfilling Your Destiny?

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Ardell~

It is easy to lose focus on life, purpose, meaning of being, etc. For awhile, I thought that I knew exactly where I was headed. Life has a special way of pulling it's own strings.

I always thought that we are NOT in control of our destiny- so, how can one "fulfill it?

ARDELL~ I LOVE THIS POST EVEN MORE, NOW THAT I CAME BACK TO IT AGAIN.

Your post reminds me of a quote... "God laughs, when people make plans"

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2:52pm • #1

I love your point number 3 , It is something I need to deal with and make it real, Thanks for the great blog

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Mott,

You are right for men, but women have a high propensity to get sidetracked by nurturing their men and children.  They often have to be forced to focus on themselves...the better women, anyway.

Men rarely lose site of their purpose and focus, some do, but not as many as women. That's why once the children are grown, it's easy to feel "empty" if you don't go back and find your own path.

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BTW...this post was written for a specific person and is not "universal", but if you see something that helps you...go for it!  LOL

6:27pm • #4
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If there was ever a year to balance work with relaxation

Boy would I love to achieve that balance this year !

I also agree that #3 is probably the biggest key for all of us ...

... I have good intentions to do so, but that is a huge challenge for me. I gotta strive for it though...

   ... I certainly dont want that "much worse for the wear by the first new moon of 2010"  thing hangin' over me !!

Nice blog entry ! 

Cheers ~

Sheldon :o)

9:21pm • #5
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Ardell, What a brilliant strategy for helping your teenagers refocus onto what really matters.  It is so easy at that age to get tossed about on the sea of the opinion of friends and crushes.  I've always had a strong affinity for people who have a focus beyond just themselves and their families.  Bernadette Devlin was a major influence in my formative years and I've spent most of my life as a community activist and this give my life its sense of purpose.  I've been dragged against my will into way too much caregiving for others, but I guess that is my friggin karma. 

Spent yesterday spoon feeding my mom in her nursing home took four hours to coax her to take 8 tablespoons - the staff gave up on her and wanted her to go into hospice (too time consuming for them).  Today she took her medicine and took in a liquid supplement.  This is so not my thing and must be something I'm hear on this plane of existence to learn.  Thirty years of eldercare with my mom AND dad.  Heck, I must be a slow learner.

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I was interested enough to google the term "destiny reading" and found a number of sites that will give you a computer generated destiny reading.  And I found this at amazon.

But, you did this one, personally, Ardell, right?  I'd love to know more about how the reading is done.  Thanks!

6:29am • #7
FEB
02

Ardell, I was born in the year of the Snake. What a difference my destiny is from this one.  I also looked up last years (hindsight is always better, right?) Wow! It was like reading my life story. I am looking forward to 2009 and the year of the OX!

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Interesting read.  I have no idea what year I was born in as far as Ox, Snake, etc. but I really enjoyed reading this.

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CJ,

Sorry, I don't stop by here often.  Yes, I do my own Destiny Readings.  You have to have a bona fide gypsy for a great grandmother though :)

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Ardell,

"hang up on them"

I've had to ask people to not speak "prescriptive curses" into my life... Boundary setting is so good at times..

Blessings to your twitter friend...

4:23pm • #11

Keyword... Balance. Thank you for the post. 

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