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Professional Boundaries: Two real world examples

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Real Estate Agent with Integrity Real Estate

 On Sunday afternoon, I posted an article titled Talking is Action.  The post dealt with the incremental costs to real estate agents for the unanticipated services associated with difficult transactions.  I'm grateful that so many of you shared your front-line stories and learned a great deal from each of them.

Daniel Gates commented:  

    I would love to see a follow up blog to this detailing how an agent can implement this.

This evening's post is the first of two , maybe three, that will attempt to answer Daniel's request.  The question at hand really deals with best practices.  But, before we can look at best practices, we have to get a feel, and a sense, for the concept of professional boundaries.

Boundaries are the rules of engagement that we establish as we relate professionally with others. Behaviorally, they are the place where we draw a line and publicly declare, through words or actions, the standards that we expect from ourselves and others.

Example #1

Two days ago, Maryland's first lady, Katie O'Malley experienced headaches and shortness of breath while giving a presentation to a group opposed to domestic violence.  Mrs. O'Malley was hospitalized and later released to a local media frenzy.  The public knows only that the symptoms resulted from a coronary related issue that is not life-threatening.  Mrs. O'Malley grew up in a political family and is herself a sitting judge in Baltimore City.  She has been widely criticized for not publicly revealing more information about her recent ordeal.

My perspective:  Mrs. O'Malley's decision to keep her health details private is a very real example of a professional boundary.  She has properly divulged all relevant facts and was correct to retain her privacy and dignity.  Mrs. O'Malley's medical diagnosis is a private family matter.  Any additional public disclosure would be unnecessary and possibly construed as political pandering.

Example #2

John F. Kennedy recognized that his reading skills were far superior to his listening skills.  Only experienced writers were considered for inclusion in the inner circle of staffers during his presidency.  Relevant matters were presented to JFK in writing before being discussed at white house meetings.

My perspective:  JFK established an appropriate professional boundary by espousing the importance of writing skills among those working closest to him.  We all have personal challenges and should make every effort to surround ourselves with a proper support group in our professional settings.   By accommodating his cerebral processing needs in this way, JFK took every precaution to protect the integrity of his official decisions. 

Keep in mind 

  • A professional boundary is a "line in the sand" that's visible for public viewing and scrutiny. 
  • From a branding perspective, boundaries can be used effectively to present an image of integrity and credibility to consumers.  

In my next related post, we'll roll up our sleeves and talk business. 

For follow up post see:  Radical Professionalism.
Jeff Belonger
Social Media - Infinity Home Mortgage Company, Inc - Cherry Hill, NJ
The FHA Expert - FHA Loans - FHA mortgages - USDA loans - VA Loans

Ed... this was very interesting and I can relate to this. Basically, not always focusing on your strengths, but knowing how to use your weaknesses to work for you also, as JFK did. Well, okay, maybe not using them to work for him, but making sure they weren't used against him. The same as Mrs. O'Malley. I just got done with a whole pizza, so it interfered with my thought process there for a moment.

Overall, great job in showing how boundaries are important.

                                                                                                              jeff belonger

May 03, 2007 11:56 AM
George Souto
George Souto NMLS #65149 FHA, CHFA, VA Mortgages - Middletown, CT
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Ed, great start, I look forward to the next post that gets down to business.  I agree that there are acceptable professional boundaries that we need to respect, but there is problem when people try to hide under this umbrella, and the situations falls outside of a legitimate professional boundary.

Something tells me that the next post is probably going to address this in someway. 

May 03, 2007 12:11 PM
Ed Rybczynski
Integrity Real Estate - Havre de Grace, MD
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Jeff

Thank you.  I agree, boundaries can be used to emphasize our weaknesses.  Talk to you soon. 

May 03, 2007 12:36 PM
Ed Rybczynski
Integrity Real Estate - Havre de Grace, MD
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Hi George

In the next post, I hope to provide very practical advice concerning best practices in our daily businesses.  I've been dealing with the concept verbally with audiences and would like to reduce it to writing.  We'll see how it goes.  Have a good night.

May 03, 2007 12:40 PM
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Ed~

Soooo apropros  in the real estate profession, where we navigate the winds of change in a sea of  opportunity, and where we can supply calm in turbulent emotional waters if we establish boundaries and set expectations ....right from the beginning of the journey...

May 03, 2007 02:43 PM
Kaye Thomas
Real Estate West - Manhattan Beach, CA
e-PRO, Manhattan Beach CA
I think we all have boundaries that define us.. what we choose to share or not share says a great deal about who we are..
May 03, 2007 02:43 PM
Ed Rybczynski
Integrity Real Estate - Havre de Grace, MD
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janeAnne

Very beautifully said, thank you. 

May 03, 2007 09:15 PM
Ed Rybczynski
Integrity Real Estate - Havre de Grace, MD
Your Source for Local Real Estate

Kaye

Your insight about defining ourselves through sharing, or not sharing, boundaries is very interesting.  I admit to not having thought of it before.  Thank you for sharing your thoughts on the matter. 

May 03, 2007 09:19 PM
Sarah Cooper
Real Estate Shows - Hurricane, WV

Hi, Ed!  This is an interesting post for me, because I work in partnership with my Dad.  His boundaries are not always the same as mine!  He's very social, laughs and jokes all the time and sets the world at ease.  I'm quieter and more private, it takes me longer to feel comfortable with people.  He tends to handle the "people stuff" and I do the "paper and computer stuff" and all is well.  I visit in his world but he really does not venture into mine at all!  :o)

Off topic, loved the interview with JT!

May 03, 2007 11:41 PM
Chris Griffith
Downing-Frye Realty, Bonita Springs, FL - Bonita Springs, FL
Bonita Springs Listing Specialist - Agent

Just stopped in to say howdie.  I find that boundaries get better with age and I get more strict about people that step over the boundaries.  Three strikes by rump.  One, done.

May 04, 2007 12:14 AM
Ed Rybczynski
Integrity Real Estate - Havre de Grace, MD
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Sarah

The comparison of you and your father makes for a great analogy.  Like you, I'm rather withdrawn and have a business partner that's very talkative and outgoing.  Boundaries make for an interesting and relevant  discussion because they're analyzed frequently by other professions, but ignored by our own. 

 

About JT's interview:  Thanks for your kindness.  These things aren't alway easy to discuss, but I feel it's best that people learn about my past directly from me and not through a rumor mill.  I could tell that you were a little surprised by your comment to Jeff.  I'm sorry about that.

May 04, 2007 12:26 AM
Ed Rybczynski
Integrity Real Estate - Havre de Grace, MD
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Howdie Chris

You are so right about boundaries getting easier with age.  I wish that I had the same strength of conviction 15 years ago that I have today.  Boy, do I wish.  Loved your comment "Three strikes by rump.  One, done."  Don't understand it, but it sure made me laugh.  It just sounds funny.

May 04, 2007 12:30 AM
Chris Griffith
Downing-Frye Realty, Bonita Springs, FL - Bonita Springs, FL
Bonita Springs Listing Specialist - Agent

my rump=my ass.  Three stikes, my ass!  One (strike) you're done.  I have no tollerance for idiots.  I got "bothered" by someone in my office - I'm done with that person.  Her days are numbered in our office. 

Hey....I'm a sweet little cupcake, baked by the devil.  :)

May 04, 2007 12:35 AM
Ed Rybczynski
Integrity Real Estate - Havre de Grace, MD
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Chris

Alright, that's all the humor that I can take for one day.  You're going to destroy my "man of constant sorrow" mystique with your comments.   "Sweet little cupcake, baked by the devil"  Whoo - that's funny. 

May 04, 2007 12:40 AM
Sarah Cooper
Real Estate Shows - Hurricane, WV
Ed, you're very welcome.  I had to go back and see what I said in JT's post :o) but yes, I was surprised.  That can't be easy to discuss but I think it's good that you did.  I'm a fan of transparency.  As you said, better coming from you than a rumor from someone else.  I respect you all the more because I DID hear it from you.  (Well, through JT.  You know ... )
May 04, 2007 01:48 AM