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Get Your Ego to Listen

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Real Estate Agent with John L. Scott Real Estate

For years now, one of the local Title Officers in my area has consistently made these handy, post-card sized collections of business builder tips.   They just randomly appear in my mailbox at the office.   The topics range from time management tips, to goal setting.   She doesn't seem to have any shame about giving me the same one over and over again either--she must know I don't get things until the 6th or 7th time!

Little does she know, I have developed a habit of putting these little business helpers all over the place.   One at the office, one in my home office taped to my printer and there is even a complete set of 5 taped to one of my kitchen cabinets at eye-level.   That's so I can easily see them and intergrate them into my daily routine, right?   eh, eh, right.

Well last night I went to get some ice cream after dinner and thought I'd actually read one!   That's right, folks, I've been getting these quick-tips, taking the trouble to post them where I could see them and yet I was always "too busy" to really absorb something that might be good for me.   I chose the one titled Enemies of Successful Salespeople which I vaguely knew was about listening better, or so I thought.   I then sat down to eat my ice cream and see if I could learn anything.   Well, after reading it carefully a couple of times I realized the message really wasn't about listening better, it was about our egos letting us talk too much which are really two different things if you think about it.   I thought about how many times I could have worked on being more prepared for my clients so they could make the right decision for themselves instead of me "telling" them the way it should be.    Your helpful "life" tip for the day!  

 Ego

Our egos make us think that what we have to say is more important than what the customer has to say.

Too Much Talk

The best salespeople know that the pay in selling is far greater for asking the right questions than for knowing the right answers.

Poor Listening Habits 

If you want to listen better, don't talk.  The person who talks will monopolize the conversation, while the person who listiens will control the converstation. 

Assumptions about What's on the Clients Mind

When we talk too much we think we know what the customer wants rather than what they really do want.

Talking about things that Don't Interest the Customer

Customers buy for their reasons, not ours, which may be for only 1 or 2 primary motives.  By dumping your entire sales pitch on them, you may only cause confusion, frustration with your presentation or just plain boredom.

Not Asking for the Order

Don't be afraid of rejection and don't take it personally.   Many times people are ready to move forward if only you'd ask.   You can dispense with the rest of the presentation and complete the paperwork.    

Lack of Well-Defined Goals and Objectives

If you don't know where you are going, how will you know when you have arrived? 

Not Taking Notes

If you don't write down what is important to the customer we will forget and talk about what we think is important.  The strongest memory is weaker that the palest ink.  

Toronto's 2 Hounds Design: Decorating + Staging
2 Hounds Design + Home Staging - Toronto, ON
Thanks for the post, Dale. I've got some thinking to do before making my phone calls!
May 04, 2007 07:26 AM
Irina Netchaev
Pasadena Views Real Estate Team, Inc. - Pasadena, CA
Pasadena CA Real Estate
Great post!
May 04, 2007 07:31 AM
Donna Lueder
Integrity Group Inc. - Boise, ID
Meridian Idaho Real Estate

I notice the talking thing when I am on the other end. Especially when I am looking to buy something when the sales person just goes on and on and on... Yak Yak Yak. We all need to check ourselves. Good job Dale.

May 04, 2007 07:34 AM
Anna Lukyanova
Century 21 Sundance Realty - Daytona Beach, FL

Dale,

Isn't that the truth. Just put your ego aside. Let them talk.

I usually rely on my memory, but when you have 3 simultanous contracts going on that's not just stupid, but also dangerous (liability wise). I love that saying"The strongest memory is weaker that the palest ink".

May 04, 2007 07:50 AM
Jeff Belonger
Social Media - Infinity Home Mortgage Company, Inc - Cherry Hill, NJ
The FHA Expert - FHA Loans - FHA mortgages - USDA loans - VA Loans

Dale... this is very good....  and you did a great job of breaking this down. You are so correct when it comes to our egos, and sometimes taking over.  I enjoyed this... thanks.

On another note, CONGRATS on your 1st featured post. Well-deserved....

jeff belonger

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

                                                                       jeff belonger

May 04, 2007 08:36 AM
Dale Bradbury
John L. Scott Real Estate - Kent, WA

Jeff--OMG!   This is a featured post?!?!   Wow, thanks for the kudos.   I just wrote from the heart...took most of last night and I tidied it up a bit today before posting.   Also got my clipart in there too...got to spice it up you know...   :-)

Anna   Yes I always remember my best listing presentations are always when I'm relaxed and that only happens when I'm well prepared (confident).

Dane, Irena, Donna    Thanks!  Maybe I'll post those other busniess helpers soon.

May 04, 2007 08:55 AM
Kyle Hogan
My Florida Homes For Sale - Melbourne, FL
Sometimes you just need a little reminder like those postcards to sit back and actually listen to people. I'm a firm believer that it works wonders at getting people to like you (and buy from you)!
May 04, 2007 10:14 AM
Leon Austin
Mobile Notary Services - Colorado Springs, CO
Colorado Springs Mobile Notary

"the person who listens will control the converstation"

Agreed. The person who listens is more aware of what the other person is saying, and is in a better position to guide the conversation by asking the right questions.

May 04, 2007 11:32 AM
Kelly Ross
Mason McDuffie Mortgage Corp. - Exeter, CA
Your Financial Security Begins at Home!

Very timely and well put Dale.  Good job!

 

Kelly Rider

SUCCESS LENDING 

May 04, 2007 11:48 AM
lorraine leff
first american lending - Riverside, CA
Great Advice.  Now let me see if I can acutally implement it!  Take care.
May 04, 2007 12:29 PM
Diane Bell, Hilton Head Real Estate, Bluffton
Charter 1 Real Estate, Hilton Head, Bluffton, SC - Hilton Head Island, SC
Listening is the most valuable thing we can do when working with prospects.  It's not important to hear ourselves talk.
May 04, 2007 12:41 PM
Esko Kiuru
Bethesda, MD

Dale,

Glad you kept those cards and finally took the time to learn from one of them. Excellent points. Have to hone my skills.

May 04, 2007 12:45 PM
Christy Powers
Keller Williams Coastal Area Partners - Pooler, GA
Pooler, Savannah Real Estate Agent
Wonderful post. I loved those, they are so true. If you do all the talking, it's hard to hear anything but yourself and hopefully you know what you think already.
May 04, 2007 04:32 PM
George W. Miller
Keller Williams Realty - Naugatuck, CT
Naugatuck and Beacon Falls Real Estate
Boy, you said it all here. One can never listen too much. I had a friend at my previous job that wore two hearing aids. He used to tell me that his problem was that he couldn't hear and that my problem was that I couldn't listen. Only one way to master that, practice, practice, practice.
May 04, 2007 05:21 PM
Doreen McPherson
Homesmart ~ Scottsdale ~ Tempe - Tempe, AZ
Phoenix Arizona Real Estate ~

Dale, This is great.  Please do post the others.  Thank you for sharing this.  Doreen

May 04, 2007 08:46 PM
Carla Starkie
Aspen Home Mortgage, NMLS# 396174 - Colorado Springs, CO
Mortgage Loan Originator, NMLS #1013160
Thank you for posting this Dale!  Now I just wonder how that marketing is working for the title officer...  Do you use her after her years of efforts to gain your business?
May 05, 2007 06:12 AM