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I Failed!

By
Real Estate Agent with CENTURY 21 All Islands

This is the first l time I have been able to admit this to myself. Somehow, I feel this was an ethical dilemna that I failed to properly deal with as well. I have failed to get the job done for my client. The fault is mine, because I promised myself, and my client, that I would get the job done. Now, five months later, I admit that I cannot get the job done, and I am throwing in the towel.

If there is anything I can console myself with, it's that I did my best. I really tried my best.

Here is the story:

Client is a divorcee, sold her Single Family Home, after having it listed with another agent. That relationship had soured, because the property had been an overpriced listing, was not staged, showed poorly, and there were three dogs on the property. I had been called in to possibly take the listing over when it expired, which would be in a few weeks. The ex-husband shot that down, said there was no reason to change real estate agents, even though the home had been on the market for 6 months with no action.

Finally, after several major price reductions, and very bad feelings towards the selling agent, she sold her home. Then she called me to help her find her new home.

She is a co-worker of my significant other, so in spite of the information I will give you next, I told her I could help her find a new property. That's where I set myself up for failure.

The first problem was that the proceeds from her sale were significantly less than what she had projected. I thought we would be shopping in the price range of nearly $400,000. After her home sold, I had her go to my lender, and he qualified her for just about $300,000 even.

The second problem; the three dogs. In her price range, a single family home was not an option. Apartments were out too, due to personal preference, So our only option would be townhomes. Finding a pet-friendly Association is a challenge in itself. Finding one that would accept three dogs would be nearly impossible. We're not talking little lap dogs either. Two Huskies and a Labrador Retriever.

The third problem; location. She immediatley defined the areas she would be willing to consider, and that posed a significant hurdle. She defined a narrow corrider that would severly limit possibilities due to her ability to afford a property in those areas.

Now, at this point, I was gently letting her know that she would need to modify some of her requirements, and be open to looking in areas a little outside of her narrow corridor, try to come up with more money, or find some other options. She kinda-sorta acknowledged my urgings, but in reality she wasn't going to budge.

In spite of all these impossible restrictions, I did find two properties that had real possibilities for her. In the areas she wanted, in her price range, the association was ammenable to granting an exception to allow her three pets, and at least one of the properties was, in my opinion, pretty desirable. I found these properties in the first two weeks of our searching, and frankly, I was amazed that I had done so so quickly. I had no illusions about the scale of the challenge I had taken on.

Her reaction? let's just keep looking. AAArRRgghhhh!!

Then, I came up with another property that was just about two miles outside of her preferred area. It was not even listed yet, It was an estate sale that the relatives of a recently deceased homeowner wanted to just sell and be done with it. They were asking $299,000, over $50,000 below market value. It was a large townhome, with garage, a fenced backyard, in excellent condition. Heck, I wanted to buy it!

Her response? Didn't even want to look at it.

That's when I decided, it was time to throw in the towel. We had looked at over twenty properties. I can't even tell you how many MLS searches I had e-mailed her, or how many times she asked me to look into properties that we had already thoroughly researched and eliminated.

Sadly, the fact is, I had failed. What I had failed to do, most importantly, was to stay in the real world, and I had let her needs and wants drag me into her world of fantasy. I had failed to sufficiently define the real possibilities versus the pie-in-the-sky pipe dreaming that this client was engaged in.

John Walters
Frank Rubi Real Estate - Slidell, LA
Licensed in Louisiana

I don't think you failed miserably.  The buyer has too much taste for her income.  Typical even in these times.  It's hard to go backwards in class.

Feb 23, 2009 03:30 AM
Michael S. Mackey
CENTURY 21 All Islands - Mililani, HI
REALTOR ABR, CRS, GRI, RSPS

John - Thanks for the kind sentiments. I just wished I had been more forceful in setting her straight from the beginning. That was the real failure.

Feb 23, 2009 03:38 AM
Sharon Harris
Keller Williams Keystone Realty - Hanover, PA
Realtor

It is hard to set them straight sometimes. You as a Realtor want to find the home they so desire. however the buyer needs to commit to common sense as well. i love my dog and would not want to part with him. But 3 large dogs and some unreasonable behavior on the buyers side will get you nowhere.

Feb 23, 2009 05:34 AM
Michael S. Mackey
CENTURY 21 All Islands - Mililani, HI
REALTOR ABR, CRS, GRI, RSPS

Sharon - That's exactly what it got me. I still feel miserable that I couldn't get her to be more reasonable.

Feb 23, 2009 06:14 AM
Denise Gray
Realty World Alliance - Wichita, KS
Realtor SRES, Wichita Kansas Homes

Michael, I can't see where you failed. Some people can't be helped. I have spent the last 6 months finding perfect fit after perfect fit for a couple. They get all excited THIS IS THE ONE and get cold feet when it's time to write. I beat myself up about it for the first 3 months, became skeptical the next 3 months they would never get there. Now they call leave messages, plead with my voice mail that they are really serious this time. At this point they could pull up in front of my office in a moving truck, show me a suit case full of cash, and swear they have to be in something immediately and I tell them to keep on driving.

Enough is enough.

I feel much better now.

Feb 23, 2009 07:58 AM
Michael S. Mackey
CENTURY 21 All Islands - Mililani, HI
REALTOR ABR, CRS, GRI, RSPS

Denise Gray (Coldwell Banker Stucky)

Denise, I bet a lot of us can relate to the non-committal client. I'm with you, there is only so much we can tolerate, and the line has to be drawn. I'm glad you were able to do so and found relief!

Feb 23, 2009 10:17 AM
LYDIA LAMOREUX
ZipRealty - Volente, TX

Michael, Don't beat yourself up for that when the client is impossible to please. Congratulate yourself for cutting her off when you did rather than wasting more time on her unrealistic pipe-dream of a house.

Feb 23, 2009 04:15 PM
Celeste "SALLY" Cheeseman
Liberty Homes - Mililani, HI
(RA) AHWD CRS ePRO OAHU HAWAII REAL ESTATE

Oh....isn't that a part of what we do? Get suckered in ....live in fantasy with our clients, be codependent at times...until we have to throw in the towel....for our own sanity.

Yup...unrealistic and fantasyland clients are not good for the health :) 

Now...get that next one in contract!

Feb 23, 2009 04:22 PM
Evelyn Johnston
Friends & Neighbors Real Estate - Elkhart, IN
The People You Know, Like and Trust!

Sometimes we just can't do it.  It is not that you can't find her a home, it's that their criteria is not realistic.

Feb 23, 2009 09:21 PM
Michael S. Mackey
CENTURY 21 All Islands - Mililani, HI
REALTOR ABR, CRS, GRI, RSPS

LYDIA LAMOREUX (idealtxhomes, JoeStanProperties)

Thanks for you kind words Lydia. You're right, I shouldn't beat myself up.

Celeste "SALLY" Cheeseman HAWAII Relocations & Real Estate (Century 21 Liberty Homes)

Sally, you always help me cheer up!

Evelyn Johnston Associate Broker Elkhart Indiana Short Sale Expert (Prudential One Realty)

Evelyn, so true. Still, we try to make it work; will have to be smarter next time.

Feb 24, 2009 12:59 AM
Jon Wnoroski
America's 1st Choice RH Realty Co., Inc. - Green, OH
Summit County Realtor

Hi Michael - I can't see where you failed.  Ok, your mission was to find your client a home.  However, she presented hurdles that you could not overcome.  You certainly found her several homes that she failed to make a decision on.  In my view you accomplished your mission.  On the flip side, if you set out to find her a home she would be satisfied with, then I would agree that you failed.

Throwing in the towel on this one can only serve to save you from further grief.

 

Feb 24, 2009 05:43 AM
Lora "Leah" Stern 914-772-4528
Coldwell Banker, 170 N Main Street, New City NY 10956 - New City, NY
Real Estate Salesperson

Michael, don't beat up on yourself.  You succeeded in dealing with a difficult client in a very patient and respectful way.  But don't you hate it when clients are just plain unrealistic!

Feb 24, 2009 06:17 AM
Michael S. Mackey
CENTURY 21 All Islands - Mililani, HI
REALTOR ABR, CRS, GRI, RSPS

Jon Wnoroski, Summit County Realtor (Geneva Chervenic Realty, Inc.)

Jon - Thank you for discerning why I felt like I failed. I did want to have a successful conclusion rather than just getting half way there. I suppose I expected the buyer to be a little more realistic once she saw the realities of the market, but alas! Didn't happen.

Feb 24, 2009 06:19 AM
Michael S. Mackey
CENTURY 21 All Islands - Mililani, HI
REALTOR ABR, CRS, GRI, RSPS

Lora "Leah" Stern, Realtor Rockland County Real Estate (Coldwell Banker Residential Brokerage)

 Lora - I understand you also go by Leah ( Saw you on another blog). Thank you for your sentiments. I am always astounded when people are so unrealistic. Like the saying goes, I guess: "Common sense just ain't that common".

Feb 24, 2009 10:02 AM
Seraina Aguayo
Respect Realty, LLC - Milwaukie, OR
Realtor/Broker, GRI

Michael,

In my opinion you did not fail but rather you succeeded because you met her requirements which were rather limiting. It is a shame that she did not realize that what she was looking for was already found because you put in the time and effort to locate these properties for her.  It is wise that you made the decision to cut your losses early enough on and I find that I have had to do this several times.  I have found that it really helps for me to set the expectation with the client and come to a mutual understanding that once I find the property that fits within the criteria they give me, they will be prepared to move forward.  Thank you for this humble blog!

Feb 24, 2009 10:15 AM
Michael S. Mackey
CENTURY 21 All Islands - Mililani, HI
REALTOR ABR, CRS, GRI, RSPS

Seraina Aguayo, Realtor/Broker, GRI (Palazzo Realty Group, INC)

Seraina - Thank you. Your kindness is very comforting. I will take your advice to heart, and in the future spell out the expectations.

Feb 24, 2009 10:25 AM
Russel Ray, San Diego Business & Marketing Consultant & Photographer
Russel Ray - San Diego State University, CA

There are no failures in life, only lessons learned. You learned that it was time to throw in the towel.

Mar 03, 2009 06:27 PM
Michael S. Mackey
CENTURY 21 All Islands - Mililani, HI
REALTOR ABR, CRS, GRI, RSPS

Russel Ray, San Diego Marketing & Business Consultant (Russel Ray)

Russel, thanks for the philosophical viewpoint, and visiting and commenting. Very helpful to me.

Mar 04, 2009 02:22 AM
Nate Rowe
Oakstone Properties, Homes in Richmond VA - Richmond, VA
Realtor, Homes in Richmond VA

If you learned from it, then you did not fail.  I think that you actually won.  Thank you for sharing and I wish you the best.

Mar 10, 2009 11:13 AM
Khash Saghafi NMLS
Liberty Home Mortgage Corporation - Cleveland, OH
Mortgage Loan Officer, Cleveland OH NMLS 1114762

Hey Michael,

  If you call that failure, than I have failed a thousand times this week!  You did not fail AT ALL.  Hind sight is always 20/20.  A true measure of success is being able to analyze past mistakes, identify where improvements can be made, make the appropriate changes and then move forward.  You have done that and then some.  I think that this was a great learning experience.  I am sure that it has sharpened your focus.  You cannot help that people have unrealistic expectations.  I think that you did a superb job and you are stronger and better for it today. 

Mar 12, 2009 01:02 PM