Many who tune into the title of this blog post will say, "I need to check this out. Surely this is some kind of good marriage therapy advice, especially in the early years, to get you over the rocky spots." As Johnny Carson in his Carnac the Magnificent garb might tell you, "Oh but you would be so wrong wonder friend and may the fleas of a thousand camels nest in your shorts."
OK, a little bait and switch action here today. Don't tell me you've never seen that from a car dealer advertising one thing in the paper and you get to the lot and the real model costs $10,000 more? Kind of reminds me of new construction model homes compared to the standard issue product for the buyer. Anyway, I digress.
The "I Do" here that I refer to is deciding to do things out of your comfort zone. There really is a
Whole Point of the Pain in saying I Do!
What do we often say I do to?
I do want to volunteer
I do want to take this class
I do want to do Meals on Wheels
I do want to teach students with Junior Achievement
I do want to become a Realtor, Inspector, Mortgage person, Virtual Assistant, or even stay in this business
All worthy ambitions. All goals. All the little, or not so little "I Do's" in life we choose. There are millions of examples. But the tradeoffs? Don't forget that side of the ledger. The time invested. The hassle to our lives. The money expended. Not to mention the traffic you go through to accomplish your goal. Those little fifth graders you want to teach occasionally, they start their classes at 7:30 a.m. 90 minutes away from your house. Hello, you are a night owl. OK, so we can easily define pain with anything we set out to do. If we risk, we KNOW we are in for pain. But here is the beauty of life.
The "point" of going through the pain is very simple. One, you discover more about yourself than you knew previously. This is the volunteer effect where the volunteer gets more out of something than who gets the help. And most importantly for YOU number two,
You get the good feelings you need in your life.
It makes all the pain worthwhile.
Why ladies am I thinking of your child birth experience here?
Always know, the pain of the "I Do's" you so courageously reach out and strive for in life are well worth it if you get to that good feeling in life. Keep doing more and more of your I Do's and I promise you the good feelings will follow.