Hella M. Rothwell, Broker/Realtor®, Rothwell Realty Inc. CA#01968433 Carmel-by-the-Sea

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Lyn Sims
RE/MAX Suburban - Schaumburg, IL
Schaumburg IL Area Real Estate

I'm with you. If they are splitting up well that would be ok but right now it's very touchy territory.

May 15, 2017 12:17 PM
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Ron and Alexandra Seigel
Napa Consultants - Carpinteria, CA
Luxury Real Estate Branding and Marketing

Hella,

I would do what you did.

May 15, 2017 12:28 PM
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Kasey & John Boles
Jon Gosche Real Estate, LLC - BoiseMeridianRealEstate.com - Boise, ID
Boise & Meridian, ID Ada/Canyon/Gem/Boise Counties

Sounds like you responded well.  So nice when friends and clients give us referrals, we don't want to shoot them down or disappoint.  Is the agent a CA agent in a different area?  Just becaues they are franchise doesn't mean they will refer or use the same franchise, you never know.  But, you are right, the wife needs to be on board. -Kasey

May 15, 2017 12:22 PM
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Jennifer Mackay
Counts Real Estate Group, Inc. - Panama City, FL
Your Bay County Florida Realtor 850.774.6582

Depends why  you got the referral IMO

May 16, 2017 07:12 AM
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Tony and Suzanne Marriott, Associate Brokers
BVO Luxury Group @ Keller Williams Arizona Realty - Scottsdale, AZ
Serving Scottsdale, Phoenix and Maricopa County AZ

Have them sign a Buyer Broker Agreement!

May 16, 2017 06:32 AM
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Les & Sarah Oswald
Eastvale Team Realty & Property Mgmt - Eastvale, CA
Broker, Realtor and Investor

I would call and find out why they are in need of a representation. Open communication is a must if they want my services.

May 15, 2017 07:25 PM
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Anthony Acosta - ALLATLANTACONDOS.COM
Harry Norman, REALTORS® - Atlanta, GA
Associate Broker

That's a hard one........

May 15, 2017 06:24 PM
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FN LN
Toronto, ON

Perhaps the spouse works in a different geographic area or works on different property types than you do.  Perhaps he wants some independent help so it is less emotional.  Perhaps the husband's employer needs an agent.

May 15, 2017 04:31 PM
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Nina Hollander
RE/MAX Executive | Charlotte, NC - Charlotte, NC
Your Charlotte/Ballantyne/Waxhaw/Fort Mill Realtor

I'd say thank you and touch base with the referred buyer and find out diplomatically what's up and let her know how I got her name. Maybe a divorce is in the works?

May 15, 2017 01:46 PM
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Kathleen Daniels
KD Realty - 408.972.1822 - San Jose, CA
San Jose Homes for Sale-Probate & Trust Specialist

Hum.  I wonder if they knew the buyer is married to a RE agent.  Odd. You handled it like a true professional. 

May 15, 2017 01:42 PM
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Candice A. Donofrio
Next Wave RE Investments LLC Bullhead City AZ Commercial RE Broker - Fort Mohave, AZ
928-201-4BHC (4242) call/text

Same thing you did. It just doesn't make sense otherwise.

May 15, 2017 12:16 PM
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Joan Cox
Metro Brokers - House to Home, Inc. - Denver Real Estate - 720-231-6373 - Denver, CO
Denver Real Estate - Selling One Home at a Time

Does sound like maybe you are being put in the middle, and not a good place.

May 18, 2017 07:53 AM
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Will Hamm
Hamm Homes - Aurora, CO
"Where There's a Will, There's a Way!"

YOu did the right think.  weird situation.

May 17, 2017 07:26 AM
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Sandy Padula and Norm Padula, JD, GRI
Realty One Group - Carlsbad, CA
Presence, Persistence & Perseverance

Call the referral anyway. Something might have changed...divorce?

May 17, 2017 06:54 AM
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Cynthia Biechler
Biechler Grp Real Estate w/HOMESMART Connect - Chicago - Chicago, IL

That's what I would do too.  I recently had a buyer referred to me also which turned out that a family member of the buyer was an agent and guess what this buyer was going to use both of us to see who could get her a home first. Wouldn't sign a buyer representation..this was my first clue.

May 16, 2017 06:15 PM
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Ryan Huggins - Thousand Oaks, CA
www.HugginsHomes.com - Thousand Oaks, CA
Residential Real Estate and Investment Properties

Definitely a touchy subject.  I'd probably thank the friend and have a frank and diplomatic discussion with the buyer that would center around what you said to the friend.  "I'm here if you need me."

May 16, 2017 10:52 AM
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Mick Michaud
Distinctly Texas Lifestyle Properties, LLC Office:682/498-3107 - Granbury, TX
Your Texas Lifestyle is Here!

Sounds like you already did it.

May 16, 2017 09:43 AM
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Harry F. D'Elia
Real Estate and Beyond, LLC - Phoenix, AZ
Investor , Mentor, GRI, Radio, CIPS, REOs, ABR

take the business

May 16, 2017 05:30 AM
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Gabe Sanders
Real Estate of Florida specializing in Martin County Residential Homes, Condos and Land Sales - Stuart, FL
Stuart Florida Real Estate

Get an agreement in writing.

May 16, 2017 05:28 AM
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Thomas J. Nelson, Realtor,CRS,e-Pro
Big Block Realty 858.232.8722 - La Jolla, CA
Co-Host of Mail-Right's: Real Estate Agent Podcast

I'd educate and thank my clients on how to refer me. What to ask, what to say. I have been hired by out of area agents and just paid them a referral fee towards their closing costs.

May 16, 2017 05:05 AM
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Gita Bantwal
RE/MAX Centre Realtors - Warwick, PA
REALTOR,ABR,CRS,SRES,GRI - Bucks County & Philadel

I would not waste my time.

May 16, 2017 03:02 AM
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Inna Ivchenko
Barcode Properties - Encino, CA
Realtor® • Green • GRI • HAFA • PSC Los Angeles CA

I agree with you. ''Big thanks for thoughts of me''~ appreciation words to your friend. 

 

 

May 15, 2017 11:55 PM
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Praful Thakkar
LAER Realty Partners - Andover, MA
Andover, MA: Andover Luxury Homes For Sale

Hella M. Rothwell, Broker/Realtor® - you did the right thing!

May 15, 2017 10:17 PM
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Debbie Reynolds
Platinum Properties - Clarksville, TN
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I would handle it exactly as you did, Hella. 

May 15, 2017 07:43 PM
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William Feela
WHISPERING PINES REALTY - North Branch, MN
Realtor, Whispering Pines Realty 651-674-5999 No.

Yes, the other party needs to be consulted.

May 15, 2017 06:13 PM
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Sybil Campbell
Long and Foster REALTORS® 5234 Monticello Ave Williamsburg, Virginia - Williamsburg, VA
REALTOR® ABR, SFR, SRES Williamsburg, Virginia

I think you handled it just the right way!

May 15, 2017 06:10 PM
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Bob Crane
Woodland Management Service / Woodland Real Estate, Keller Williams fox cities - Stevens Point, WI
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I would just say thank you and move on.

May 15, 2017 05:58 PM
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John Pusa
Berkshire Hathaway Home Services Crest - Glendale, CA
Your All Time Realtor With Exceptional Service

Hella M. Rothwell, Broker/Realtor® I think, you responded appropriately.

May 15, 2017 05:07 PM
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Anna Banana Kruchten CRS,CRB
Phoenix Property Shoppe - Phoenix, AZ
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You did the best thing.....who knows maybe they'll come back around.

May 15, 2017 04:39 PM
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Alan May
Coldwell Banker Residential - Evanston, IL
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I would be happy to meet with them to discuss, but wouldn't commit before having that conversation.

May 15, 2017 04:16 PM
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Fred Griffin
Fred Griffin Real Estate - Tallahassee, FL
Licensed Florida Real Estate Broker

You handled it well.

May 15, 2017 04:02 PM
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Sam Shueh
(408) 425-1601 - San Jose, CA
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Last time I tipped off my banker about a good deal, I found out she bought it having my broker reprenting her.  She was dating him which I do not know. I truly stay away from it. 

May 15, 2017 03:01 PM
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Barbara Todaro
RE/MAX Executive Realty - Franklin, MA
"Franklin MA Homes"

you said the right thing....I would have done the same thing....

May 15, 2017 02:53 PM
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Wayne Martin
Wayne M Martin - Chicago, IL
Real Estate Broker

Well done! Offer help only if necessary!

May 15, 2017 02:48 PM
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Jeff Dowler
Solutions Real Estate - Carlsbad, CA
The Southern California Relocation Dude - Carlsbad

Yep that is what I was going to suggest and what I would do

May 15, 2017 02:14 PM
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Joe Pryor
The Virtual Real Estate Team - Oklahoma City, OK
REALTOR® - Oklahoma Investment Properties

What you feel is right.

 

May 15, 2017 02:08 PM
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Susan Haughton
Long and Foster REALTORS (703) 470-4545 - Alexandria, VA
Susan & Mindy Team...Honesty. Integrity. Results.

Interesting scenario, but you handled it the only way that makes sense.  

May 15, 2017 02:07 PM
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Bob "RealMan" Timm
Alliance Real Estate - Minot - Minot, ND
Bob Timm, Broker Associate, Alliance Real Estate

I would thank the friend and gently let them know that the buyers spouse is a licensed Realtor.

May 15, 2017 01:53 PM
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Lynnea Miller
Bend Premier Real Estate - Bend, OR
Premier Real Estate Service in Central Oregon

My friend needs to know that the buyer's spouse is an agent and most likely will be working with their spouse on their real estate needs.

May 15, 2017 01:41 PM
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Michael Setunsky
Woodbridge, VA
Your Commercial Real Estate Link to Northern VA

Hella M. Rothwell, Broker/Realtor® You did the right thing.

May 15, 2017 01:08 PM
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Corinne Guest, Managing Broker
Barrington Realty Company - Barrington, IL
The Best in Buyer Representation

I would do what you did. If they still want to use you, get a written contract!

May 15, 2017 12:59 PM
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Richie Alan Naggar
people first...then business Ran Right Realty - Riverside, CA
agent & author

Have a meeting with all involved and propose a win win win

May 15, 2017 12:52 PM
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Roy Kelley
Realty Group Referrals - Gaithersburg, MD
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Thank your friend for the referral and move on.

May 15, 2017 12:51 PM
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Scott Godzyk
Godzyk Real Estate Services - Manchester, NH
One of Manchester NH's Leading Agents

I think you did the best you could with that. Most likely the husband will be helping unless is it far out of his area. 

May 15, 2017 12:39 PM
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Kat Palmiotti
Grand Lux Realty, 914-419-0270, kat@thehousekat.com - Monroe, NY
The House Kat

I would have said the same thing. If the buyer is married to an agent, I'm betting the buyer better use that agent!

May 15, 2017 12:34 PM