Andrew Mooers | 207.532.6573, Northern Maine Real Estate-Aroostook County Broker (MOOERS REALTY)

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Ryan Huggins - Thousand Oaks, CA
www.HugginsHomes.com - Thousand Oaks, CA
Residential Real Estate and Investment Properties

Empathetic but not too much.  Don't choose sides.  Be that uninterested third party.

Nov 30, 2017 09:25 AM
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Candice A. Donofrio
Next Wave RE Investments LLC Bullhead City AZ Commercial RE Broker - Fort Mohave, AZ
928-201-4BHC (4242) call/text

Selection of top shelf liquor. 
Divorcing couples are a hairy bear. The best skill and quality is calm even-handedness in the midst of a lot of bad and sad vibes. 
The WORST thing to do is get involved on any level, even if it's clear that one party is being a complete jerk . . . be at your absolute most dispassionate.

Nov 30, 2017 08:00 AM
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Silvia Dukes PA, Broker Associate, CRS, CIPS, SRES
Tropic Shores Realty - Ich spreche Deutsch! - Spring Hill, FL
Florida Waterfront and Country Club Living

Patience and unpartiality are just two things that come to mind.

Nov 30, 2017 08:13 AM
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Kathleen Daniels
KD Realty - 408.972.1822 - San Jose, CA
San Jose Homes for Sale-Probate & Trust Specialist

I could not say it any better than Ryan Huggins - Thousand Oaks, CA - I've done many and also worked divorce cases as a paralegal - it takes patience and finesse to balance negative hostile energy and keep one from killing the other. Somewhat tongue in cheek humor there. 

Nov 30, 2017 10:35 AM
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Ken Jones, ASA, CRES
Institute of Real Estate Technologies - Newark, NJ
Kenneth J. Jones

Andrew Mooers In my case, I speak to my clients involved in divorce situations using my personal experiences with divorce.

It seems when clients hear something from someone who's already gone through what they're going through, they tend to better accept the advice than from someone who can only speak based on theory.

Explaining the benefits of moving forward to sever what's usually the last tether of a failed relationship vs. the continuation of "the battle" usually gets positive results.

Nov 30, 2017 09:50 AM
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Wayne Martin
Wayne M Martin - Chicago, IL
Real Estate Broker

Contact the experts, Sally and David Hanson. It is their specialty!

Nov 30, 2017 08:07 AM
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Corinne Guest, Managing Broker
Barrington Realty Company - Barrington, IL
The Best in Buyer Representation

Did a course on divorcing couples in real estate and decided they are not for me. I stick with the buyer side.

Nov 30, 2017 08:06 AM
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Barbara Todaro
RE/MAX Executive Realty - Franklin, MA
"Franklin MA Homes"

keep all communication separate.... and confidentiality is very important.... you're a neutral party.... get the deal together and close it....quickly

Nov 30, 2017 07:50 AM
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Maria Sapio
Berkshire Hathaway Homesale Realty - Carlisle, PA
Real Estate Agent- Carlisle, PA. Mariasapio.com

Maintain the utmost level of professionalism and don't get caught in the cobwebs of drama and gossip!!

Nov 30, 2017 07:38 AM
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Carol Williams
U.S.: I specialize in helping agents who have been in the business 2 years or less create a thriving business. - Wenatchee, WA
"Customized Mentoring & Marketing Services"

Letting them know you understand the emotional ride they're on and NOT taking any sides.  Being a good negotiator helps a lot because good negotiators are able to see things from both sides and find common ground in accomplishing everyone's goals. 

Nov 30, 2017 09:25 AM
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Scott Godzyk
Godzyk Real Estate Services - Manchester, NH
One of Manchester NH's Leading Agents

Referee training, psychology major, patience, space and being neutral  

Nov 30, 2017 08:54 AM
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Nina Hollander
RE/MAX Executive | Charlotte, NC - Charlotte, NC
Your Charlotte/Ballantyne/Waxhaw/Fort Mill Realtor

Never take sides. Don't get invovled in personal discussions.

Nov 30, 2017 08:15 AM
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Joe Pryor
The Virtual Real Estate Team - Oklahoma City, OK
REALTOR® - Oklahoma Investment Properties

Having legal advice is whay is needed.

Nov 30, 2017 08:07 AM
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Roy Kelley
Realty Group Referrals - Gaithersburg, MD
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Don't take sides. 

Nov 30, 2017 08:00 AM
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Tony and Suzanne Marriott, Associate Brokers
BVO Luxury Group @ Keller Williams Arizona Realty - Scottsdale, AZ
Serving Scottsdale, Phoenix and Maricopa County AZ

Ryan Huggins - Thousand Oaks, CA nailed this one!

Dec 01, 2017 03:42 AM
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William Feela
WHISPERING PINES REALTY - North Branch, MN
Realtor, Whispering Pines Realty 651-674-5999 No.

Knowledge and listening

Nov 30, 2017 10:43 PM
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Tammy Lankford,
Lane Realty Eatonton, GA Lake Sinclair, Milledgeville, 706-485-9668 - Eatonton, GA
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listening.  Because you just have to.

Nov 30, 2017 07:40 PM
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Dave Halpern
Keller Williams Realty Louisville East (502) 664-7827 - Louisville, KY
Louisville Short Sale Expert

Confidentiality. One spouse will tell you things about the other spouse that you should not know, and the other spouse should not know that you know.

Nov 30, 2017 12:42 PM
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Gita Bantwal
RE/MAX Centre Realtors - Warwick, PA
REALTOR,ABR,CRS,SRES,GRI - Bucks County & Philadel

Sally And David are the experts

Nov 30, 2017 12:15 PM
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Annette Lawrence , Palm Harbor, FL 727-420-4041
ReMax Realtec Group - Palm Harbor, FL
Making FLORIDA Real Estate EZ

What is YOUR greater purpose?  Without a solid understanding of your greater purpose you will become a victim of the strife you are about to enter. 

#1 Let them know what to expect.  That means you need to set the rules. Those rules must be, "You can not compel me to take sides." .....

Unless the side is clear. such as one is committed to lifetime benefits of state housing.

#2. Know the root or cause of  emotion.  Too often the emotion expressed is acutally a self-assessment and must be addressed through discovery. What exactly is the SOURCE of resentment?....as an example.

#3. Be aware, all human action is to aviod shame. What is the shame that is being avoided? Pull out the teeth.

#4. Know this is not  your battle.

#5. More than anything listening is the best tool. 

#6. Have resources.

Nov 30, 2017 11:52 AM
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Richie Alan Naggar
people first...then business Ran Right Realty - Riverside, CA
agent & author

A good listener who doesnt take sides with patience & service thrown in

Nov 30, 2017 11:10 AM
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Michael Jacobs
Coldwell Banker Residential Brokerage - Pasadena, CA
Los Angeles Pasadena Area Real Estate 818.516.4393

While I have not made it a specialty like experts Sally K. & David L. Hanson I have been involved with divorcing/separating couples over the years.  For me - transparency - has helped but I'm definitely no expert but appreciate the excellent advice I have "seen" over the years.

Nov 30, 2017 10:01 AM
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Sally K. & David L. Hanson
Keller Williams 414-525-0563 - Brookfield, WI
WI Realtors - Luxury - Divorce - Short Sale

Thank you Gabe Sanders ...there are quite a few which is why we have a course ...of course....you are welcome to contact us.

Dec 01, 2017 06:38 AM
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Nathan Gesner
American West Realty & Management - Cody, WY
Broker / Property Manager

Playing the objective, yet empathetic, third party.

Dec 01, 2017 05:53 AM
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Gloria Valvasori, Accredited Senior Agent
BETTER HOMES AND GARDENS REAL ESTATE SIGNATURE SERVICE - Mississauga, ON
REAL Experience | REAL Commitment | REAL Results!

Do not get involved.  You can be empathetic to their situation, but be professional, stay impartial.. ... Remain neutral, calm and keep it a business transaction.

Dec 01, 2017 04:44 AM
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Jeff Pearl
RE/MAX Distinctive / LIC in VA - Lovettsville, VA
Full Service Full Time Realtor

The dirvocing couples I have worked with were basically mutual agreement divorces. Still had to allow for delays, meeting with them separately to get paperwork signed, etc. Avoid taking sides and keep things calm and confidential. I did have one case where x husband refused to cooperate with a short sale, and another where x husband tried to stop sale, but the condo was in in wifes name. Sometimes an attorney is needed during the process. Remain professional no matter what happens.

Dec 01, 2017 02:31 AM
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Inna Ivchenko
Barcode Properties - Encino, CA
Realtor® • Green • GRI • HAFA • PSC Los Angeles CA

I learned to be very very neutral but firm if they fight. And not just in divorce, but in the middle of siblings. 

Nov 30, 2017 11:44 PM
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Bob Crane
Woodland Management Service / Woodland Real Estate, Keller Williams fox cities - Stevens Point, WI
Forestland Experts! 715-204-9671

The end of a marriage is a tragic event, my skills are better spent in helping them to patch things up than to benefit from watching the marriage fall apart.

Profiting from divorce is not part of my business plan, but helping people through tough times is part of my life plan.

Nov 30, 2017 04:48 PM
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LOURDES BOGLIO
BHHS Results Realty - Orlando, FL
Real Estate Agent serving Central Florida Area

Communication is the key.

Nov 30, 2017 03:42 PM
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Diana Dahlberg
1 MONTH REALTY - Kenosha, WI
Real Estate in Kenosha, WI since 1994 262-308-3563

A percent of sometthing is better than a percent of nothing.  

I have never had a problem working with both parties, offering a good listening ear, and being open, fair and honest with them.  I work hard to make it as painless as possible.

Nov 30, 2017 03:33 PM
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Debbie Reynolds
Platinum Properties - Clarksville, TN
Your Dedicated Clarksville TN Real Estate Agent

It takes lots of patience and also if representing both parties do not take sides.

Nov 30, 2017 03:29 PM
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Jennifer Mackay
Counts Real Estate Group, Inc. - Panama City, FL
Your Bay County Florida Realtor 850.774.6582

I actually prefer not to work with those going through a divorce and prefer the divorce be over before working with either side

Nov 30, 2017 03:20 PM
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Fred Griffin
Fred Griffin Real Estate - Tallahassee, FL
Licensed Florida Real Estate Broker

  If they have Attorneys, make sure those lawyers are kept apprised of everything.

Nov 30, 2017 02:58 PM
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Sam Shueh
(408) 425-1601 - San Jose, CA
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If you have connection with divorce lawyers that helps.

I think a woman realtor will do better. You do not want to get caught in the cross fire.

Nov 30, 2017 02:21 PM
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Hella M. Rothwell, Broker/Realtor®
Carmel by the Sea, CA
Rothwell Realty Inc. CA#01968433 Carmel-by-the-Sea

Maybe I'm just lucky, but haven't had an acrimonious divorcing couple as clients.

Nov 30, 2017 02:04 PM
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Anthony Acosta - ALLATLANTACONDOS.COM
Harry Norman, REALTORS® - Atlanta, GA
Associate Broker

A good divorce attorney....

Nov 30, 2017 10:21 AM
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Gabe Sanders
Real Estate of Florida specializing in Martin County Residential Homes, Condos and Land Sales - Stuart, FL
Stuart Florida Real Estate

I would ask Sally K. & David L. Hanson .

Dec 01, 2017 06:20 AM
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Joan Cox
Metro Brokers - House to Home, Inc. - Denver Real Estate - 720-231-6373 - Denver, CO
Denver Real Estate - Selling One Home at a Time

Definitely stay neutral, cannot pick sides, no matter why they are getting divorced! 

Dec 03, 2017 02:54 PM
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Will Hamm
Hamm Homes - Aurora, CO
"Where There's a Will, There's a Way!"

Keep it as a business and not get take sides.

 

Dec 02, 2017 11:34 AM
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Paul S. Henderson, REALTOR®,CRS,
RE/MAX Professionals. - Tacoma, WA
Tacoma Washington Agent/Broker & Market Authority!

I have found that I don't take sides and I try not to handle divorce cases where I know the couple divorcing. I refer those to another agent...

Dec 01, 2017 03:26 PM