psychology: 'JUST BE YOURSELF' IS BAD ADVICE?
- 11/01/25 10:09 AM
Really?!? So all the time we’ve spent examining how we actually manifest and then attempting to be true to ourselves – that’s all been a waste? At least that’s sort of the premise of a recent article by an “expert”.
According to the article, from childhood classrooms to corporate boardrooms, we hear: "Just be yourself." We’re told authenticity is the key to connection, career success, and a meaningful life. We’re reminded that in an age of AI therapists and robot baristas, our humanity is our greatest currency.
But it's bad advice the author says and points out she’s seen how often people struggle with what it … (4 comments)
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psychology: An 'Invisible Day' May Be What’s Needed To Improve Our Mental Health
- 10/01/25 03:20 PM
I think it would be cool to be invisible – at least for a brief period – so an “invisible day” sounded exciting. But it doesn’t really mean one becomes unseeable. It’s a whole different concept that therapists say it's an important way to reconnect with ourselves and help combat anxiety that many of us feel.
The report explains that current events may be weighing on our mental health. While it’s important to be informed about what is going on politically, it’s also necessary to protect our mental health so we are able to move forward.
While no single mental health intervention can … (3 comments)
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psychology: 'Pebbling' Is The Online Habit We Probably Do Every Day
- 09/01/25 01:51 PM
Honestly, this was news to me! According to a recent article, the latest friendship buzzword comes from an unlikely but rather cute source: penguins.
“Recently I learned that the act of sending your friends [and] family little videos and tweets and memes you find online [is] called pebbling, like how penguins bring pebbles back to their little penguin loved ones,” an X user wrote on the social media platform late last month.
The article notes that penguins may have the right idea: As we age, friendships become increasingly difficult to maintain. New responsibilities crop up ― families, more demanding roles at work ― pushing friendships … (13 comments)
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psychology: HOW TO BE SUCCESSFUL
- 08/01/25 04:05 PM
How To Be Successful
According to a recent article, the most successful people are not the smartest—instead, they’re both ambitious and lazy. This insight comes from a career coach to the Fortune 500.
The article suggests that we forget grinding 24/7 or having the highest IQ in the room. The most powerful billionaires and CEOs know exactly when to cut corners—and how to use their time better than anyone else, the career coach to the Fortune 500, Bill Hoogterp, reveals.
We’re told Bill Hoogterp has spent decades advising celebrities, CEOs, and rising stars inside some of America’s most powerful boardrooms. It’s reported that through his coaching firm he’s helped … (1 comments)
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psychology: Try "Trampoline Listening" For Better Conversations
- 07/01/25 11:26 AM
According to a recent article, therapists agree that developing this skill helps others feel heard and supported. So if we want to have more meaningful conversations, we should try this technique.
Here’s how it works. When talking to a friend, family member, partner or co-worker, it’s suggested that we probably have our go-to ways of responding. Maybe we’re the “ride or die” person always on their side. Or maybe we like to brainstorm solutions. Maybe we think critically about what they’re saying and consider other perspectives.
All of those have pros, we’re told. But therapists also recommend another conversational style: “trampoline listening.”
The term was coined by … (4 comments)
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psychology: Am I An 'Echoist' Without Even Realizing It?
- 06/03/25 10:03 AM
I’ve always been drawn to articles, reports, studies, etc. that deal with human behavior. Maybe I should have been a psychologist. Or maybe that aspect is what makes the real estate profession so interesting – and challenging: the opportunity to deal with many different personality types and figure out the best approach.
A recent article with a provocative title discusses a term I hadn’t heard: ‘echoist’.
The article begins by noting that Narcissism ― the personality disorder that’s been a mainstay in pop psychology for decades now ― gets its name from Narcissus, a hunter from Greek mythology who was so handsome, he fell … (1 comments)
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psychology: Don't Be Too Nice At Work
- 05/01/25 10:02 AM
According to one psychologist we should stop being 'too nice' at work. Really? Is there such a thing as being too nice in our work environments? Apparently this phenomenon exists and we can combat this!
The psychologist offers several examples of what ‘successful’ people do to be more genuine and trustworthy.
The author of this recent article notes that social discomfort is so universal that social psychologists like the author have made careers out of studying it. They can find it almost anywhere, like in salary negotiations or small talk conversations that have one too many awkward pauses.
She goes on to say that almost everyone will at … (4 comments)
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psychology: This Toxic Mindset Can Destroy Your Mental Health
- 04/01/25 11:12 AM
A recent article suggests that the "all or nothing" mentality can ruin our mental health and hold us back from accomplishments. Experts explain why.
We’re told that messages like “Go big or go home,” “Anything worth doing is worth doing right,” and even, “Do or do not. There is no try,” are meant to inspire us — but they often have the complete opposite effect.
This all-or-nothing mindset sets us up for impossible standards according to the article. Negative thoughts like “I’m not an athlete, so what’s the point in working out?” or “My first TikTok didn’t go viral, so I’m never posting … (1 comments)
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psychology: Micro-Habits: What They Are And How To Use Them
- 03/02/25 09:52 AM
A recent article referenced “micro-habits” a term I hadn’t heard before. So of course I had to read beyond the headline.
The article notes that If we’re like most people, we’ve probably tried to follow a new big habit just to find ourselves faltering a few days later. For example, we may have made it a goal to follow a plant-based diet only to find ourselves reaching for bacon at breakfast. Or maybe we promised ourself to read four books a month only to scroll social media instead.
According to the article, there’s a reason it’s hard to adhere to a new behavior. “Many people … (14 comments)
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psychology: EYE CONTACT - A LOST ART
- 02/01/25 11:16 AM
This recently published commentary is quite interesting , but probably does require that we buy into the main premise which is the title of the article.
The author suggests that If the title of this article caught our eyes, that's a good start—it might even help us reflect on where our eyes typically focus and where they don’t. He notes that eye contact, once a cornerstone of human connection, is becoming increasingly rare in our screen-dominated lives. The beeps, alerts, and endless digital distractions have shifted our gaze away from the eyes of others and into the glow of our devices.
And it’s … (6 comments)
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psychology: The "Cringe Attack" Experience
- 01/01/25 02:48 PM
Do you experience "cringe attacks'? My answer to this question posed in a recent article is definitely and emphatically “yes”!
The author notes that if we’re a human living on this planet, we’ve likely experienced a full-body shiver when remembering an embarrassing thing we did. We’ve probably even uttered the phrase “why did I say that?” many months after an awkward interaction.
The article clarifies that on social media and online, this experience is sometimes referred to as a “cringe attack,” which can be described as the “intense physical or emotional experience related to a past memory that causes feelings of embarrassment, distress, … (7 comments)
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psychology: How To Work With Winter Darkness (After Dark!)
- 12/01/24 10:01 AM
We’ve all heard about SAD (Seasonal Affective Disorder) and some of us may truly suffer when the natural light gives way to darkness at certain times of the year. A recent article dealt with a particular “annoyance” that we may experience specifically when we leave our offices/studios/places of employment and it’s dark outside.
In the article, experts share how they find time to rejuvenate when they get home from work in the winter.
The article notes that If we work standard hours, the sky may already be dark when we leave our work space. It’s that time of year: The days are shorter … (3 comments)
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psychology: Traits Considered Positive That Are Really Anxiety In Disguise
- 11/08/24 05:33 PM
People-pleasing behaviors aren't necessarily helpful — for us or for the other person, according to a recent article.
People-Pleasing
We’re asked whether we feel anxious at the idea of making someone unhappy by not doing what they want? Maybe we push your preferences to the side and say “yes” to everything to avoid conflict? These are signs of people-pleasing.
People-pleasing behaviors aren't necessarily helpful — for you or for the other person. Do we find ourselves saying yes to everything? Maybe we worry that if we say no, the other person will be mad at us, or we’ll have FOMO later. Or more generally, we might feel like … (2 comments)
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psychology: The One Word We Need To Stop Using
- 10/01/24 03:59 PM
And we've probably said it multiple times today.
According to therapists, "shoulding" ourselves — or saying that we should do this and should do that — can lead to guilt and shame. If we’ve ever uttered sentences like “I should really spend some time cleaning,” “I should just get over this already” or “I should work on my presentation,” we may be “shoulding” ourselves.
“Shoulding yourself is a cognitive distortion, and ... so many of us often engage in it,” said Carrie Howard, a licensed clinical social worker and anxiety coach said in a recent article.
“I shouldn’t eat that cake” and “I should have responded differently … (1 comments)
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psychology: Common Phrases That Can Be Taken As Condescending
- 09/01/24 04:29 PM
According to a recent report, while we may strive to be kind and compassionate in our communications with people, we’re bound to fall short sometimes. And one of the ways we do that in conversation is when we condescend, or talk down, to the other person.
We’re being condescending when we speak to someone in a way that implies our own superiority, said journalist Celeste Headlee, author of “We Need to Talk: How to Have Conversations That Matter.”
“It generally involves some kind of haughty tone, but condescension also almost always involves a passive-aggressive behavior,” Headlee told HuffPost.
“In other words, when you are condescending to someone … (5 comments)
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psychology: Feeling Too Busy May Damage Our Brain Health
- 08/03/24 09:06 AM
A recent article says there's a reason we dread looking at our Google calendars and other planners.
Feeling too busy, or like we don't have time to do what we want, can lead to "time famine," according to Yale University psychology professor Laurie Santos. Time famine can lead to poorer work performance and burnout, and is just as harmful to our mental health as being unemployed, Santos told attendees at a conference last month.
It even makes us less productive, because it makes us less happy, she said: "I think we feel strapped for time because we think working ... as much as we … (2 comments)
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psychology: Feeling Too Busy Can Damage Our Brain Health
- 07/01/24 05:48 PM
Did you know there's a reason we dread looking at the stacked blue, yellow and green blocks on our Google or other time management/appointment calendars.
Feeling too busy, or like we don't have time to do what we want, can lead to "time famine," according to Yale University psychology professor Laurie Santos. Time famine can lead to poorer work performance and burnout, and is just as harmful to our mental health as being unemployed, Santos said.
It even makes us less productive, because it makes us less happy. “I think we feel strapped for time because we think working ... as much as we … (4 comments)
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psychology: Habits That May Make Our Anxiety Worse
- 06/01/24 06:59 PM
Seems like we’re inundated with self-improvement content on a daily basis. A professional therapist notes that in the midst of chatter about how to become a better version of ourselves, there can be a heavy emphasis on resolutions. She says while that is well and good, resolutions that focus on avoiding negative outcomes set us up for failure.
It turns out, according to recent research, goals that focus on achieving positive outcomes are far more successful.1
The author of the related article goes on to state that keeping this in mind, she mused on her work with clients in her psychotherapy practice, considering what patterns she … (6 comments)
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psychology: Things To Do At Night To Make Our Mornings Happier
- 05/01/24 01:46 PM
According to a recent article, setting ourselves up for a good day doesn’t just mean having a solid morning routine in place (though that’s important too). How we spend our evenings, the article states, is a key part of the equation, yet one that’s sometimes overlooked.
The article goes on to say we might be surprised at how a few small tweaks to our nighttime habits can make a considerable difference in our happiness come morning.
So the author asked experts to share what evening practices will have the most positive effect on our mood the following day. Here’s what she learned:
Take an … (5 comments)
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psychology: A Simple Habit To Protect Us From Stress And Burnout
- 04/01/24 03:12 PM
And it only takes five minutes, according to a Harvard-trained psychologist!
Burnout can sneak up on us without warning, according to a recent report. And the most common cause of burnout, of course, is our jobs. According to the World Health Organization, burnout is typically the result of "chronic workplace stress that has not been successfully managed."
We’re told that while exhaustion, cynicism and reduced productivity are some of the most obvious signs of job burnout, there are other sneaky symptoms we might be missing, including procrastination, constant distraction and apathy, according to Wendy Suzuki, a neuroscientist at New York University.
There's no foolproof solution … (2 comments)
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Really?!? So all the time we’ve spent examining how we actually manifest and then attempting to be true to ourselves – that’s all been a waste? At least that’s sort of the premise of a recent article by an “expert”.
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