arguing: YOUR EXCUSES ARE YOUR OWN
- 12/14/19 07:05 AM
Here is a subject that causes discomfort starting with the one doing it first and then with anyone else it can rope in. Question: Have you ever heard someone pitch enthusiastically their excuse as if it was the gospel truth? For a person to do this they first had to convince themselves. Then, to make it stick convince you too
OWNING UP
Admitting what went wrong or how it could have gone better doesn't occur to the one who is in denial. NO. A story is manufactured and edited using the mind, emotions and five senses which add drama, scenarios and conjectures. In other words a … (23 comments)
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arguing: DISCUSSING POLITICS or RELIGION or ?
- 07/31/19 08:02 AM
There are subjects that come-up in life that can be difficult or sensitive to approach let alone discuss. Does this mean we cease to comment, put our true feelings on hold and let these subjects do as they wish? Subjects can range from being embarrassing to disgusting and from shocking to suggestive making the challenge to enter into these arenas daunting.
EMOTIONS TRIGGERED
The first thing to interfere with an investigation, report, finding or discovery of any sensitive or controversial subject or experience is the emotions that are triggered and surface when introduced. Those emotions tend to cloud, bias and detract or amplify what is … (4 comments)
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arguing: OPINIONS yours and theirs
- 05/12/19 10:51 AM
There is no end to what people think. You can ask anyone about what they think about this or that and they will respond (some better than others) but all will have a say so of some sort. Take this example for instance. I have extensive Real Estate knowledge forged in the fires of the field of experience. I know what works and what doesn't work
ADDED VALUE (mine)
Part of my education involved going to courtrooms all over Southern California in regards to different Real Estate matters thus testing beliefs, contracts, laws, compliance and what is required, allowed as well as prohibited, risky, litigious and not … (12 comments)
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arguing: IF WE DID (and did not do) WHAT CONGRESS DOES
- 01/27/19 06:42 AM
When did the idea of letting your inner dysfunction become normal and supportive thus becoming acceptable take place in Congress? If there is error in a person it has to surface so that it can be gotten rid of and not repeated. Think: I once was lost but now I am found. That is the way to becoming a better more productive person.
IF CONGRESS IS THE EXAMPLE....
Here we will present a list of products, situations and services that follow the dysfunction of Congress and see if you think they have a future? I don't even like the concept let alone the circumstances but … (10 comments)
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arguing: I NEVER SAID THAT (personal interactions)
- 10/09/17 08:57 AM
This happens more than we care to admit i.e. that another hears what they want to hear or what was sent and that's their experience. Often the one sending takes for granted that just because it was said their work is done. Of course if something doesn't go well, their fallback position is the famous cliche of...
I TOLD YOU SO
This is the over-used position of making yourself right when something goes wrong & having the smug attitude of innocence that you had nothing to do with it but everyone else did. It is also related to one of the oldest banes of mankind that … (10 comments)
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arguing: POLITICS RELIGION CAN SHARPEN YOU
- 07/20/16 12:05 AM
These two can really bring out what is going on in someone and lets face it, there is a lot going on in everyone. Some of it people share and some of it stays hidden for whatever reasons. I don't do well in the shadows, with hidden agendas or just plain leaving others to try to figure me out. I prefer the risk to grow by knowing and being known and mining for the Universal truths. On the way there, peoples personal truths, beliefs or stances can and should come out.
LET THEM
Exploring ones inner/outer world is an adventure like no other. Who among … (8 comments)
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arguing: WHAT DOES "MAKE SENSE" MEAN?
- 03/11/16 11:38 PM
Lets take the reverse approach to answer the title of the posting. When we say "this doesn't make sense", we are stating that what is taking place is not practical or reasonable. Keep in mind how extraordinary "sense" is from this point of view; We don't study it, take courses or are instructed in it yet we all have this ability to state whether it is present or not
ITS A MOMENT GRABBER
You are not making any sense is a raw meaningful statement when used by one person to another. It's potent, direct and is designed to call someone to their own attention for their sake. Of course if it is … (2 comments)
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arguing: HOLD THAT OFFER
- 01/27/16 10:58 PM
There was a time, and those times come and go, when agents and their buyers would tour several homes or not and at random, just submit offers to anxious sellers and their agents. No one complained and let the paperwork begin. Real Estate cycles affect that conduct as well as supply and demand. Here's another
HERE'S WHAT WE WANT
Let's not waste time. As a listing agent, you can be sure that I have had good, solid and meaningful conversation in regards to pricing, repairs & time frames with the seller and our side of the transaction is clear & ready to go. I will brief any … (10 comments)
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arguing: WIFE CAN DRIVE CAR HANDS FREE
- 07/20/15 11:53 AM
Yes its true. Perhaps there are other gifted people out there. You see I sit in the drivers seat, you know the one with the steering wheel and the pedals. However, my wife can control the car from the passenger side. HOW? After 43 years of marriage, it kicked in automatically. I never suspected this while dating her either. It never came up.
COMES IN HANDY?
Turn here! Why? Because we are going to X. Yes, I know but there are many ways to get there. Just turn here and the car turns. Oh there is parking space. I know but there is one … (22 comments)
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arguing: SENSE NO SENSE and NONSENSE
- 04/28/15 11:28 PM
Why do these three have permission to co-exist? The simple answer is so that we can choose one and discard the others. However, what appears to be sense to one may not be sense to another. The subjective sense while allowed has to be tested and found not wanting. It will eventually lead to neutral ground or the common sense
MAKES NO SENSE
Interesting to note that when we come across someones personal sensing and we don't agree, it always takes the shape of an argument to be. Why? That is how important this little dynamic we call "sense" is. If it is working properly, … (0 comments)
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arguing: EVERYONE IS A REPORTER
- 04/25/15 11:37 PM
Businesses no longer have the one way street or the mighty "my way or the highway" position that they once enjoyed. NO. Today, if someone doesn't like the business for whatever reason valid or not, they can fight back via the Internet. The word of mouth goes into cyberspace! The business has a chance to prevent this. Many fail that opportunity
MISSION STATEMENT
Every business today has to have a purpose and the core of it is the transaction or point of sale. The operation has to have a name that defines its purpose and intention. The mission of the business should be made known … (16 comments)
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arguing: ARGUING I HAVE STOPPED DOING THIS
- 03/01/15 11:09 PM
I have a deep love and respect for my fellow man which comes from observing the big and little picture of life. It is my firm belief that everyone I meet has been invited to be here and is prized and worthy of respect if not only to honor the one who sent them. One thing however, I wont support: wasting of time
ARGUING FOR GOODNESS SAKE
All of us are in different places and times with our personal growth, our weeding through our start-up and childhoods and looking for true meaning, satisfaction and purpose. I am in total support of anyone who is … (19 comments)
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arguing: ANNUAL REMINDER OF WATCH WHAT YOU SAY
- 08/18/14 09:52 AM
We do each other a great service when we remind each other to be mindful of expressing ones full thoughts and feelings over the Internet, online in front of everyone now and forever more. Even people who are mega-wealthy, powerful and famous learn at some point to keep the ole mouth shut!
OBSERVE & LISTEN
If you have ever been to marriage counseling, the counselor primes the conversation pumps and invites the "two" who are attending to comment so the counselor can see how they handle disagreement, sharing, exploring, feelings, emotions, and resolutions. The counselor then becomes an observer and a listener
DOING THE SAME … (5 comments)
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arguing: MARRIED BUT SLEPT ON THE COUCH?
- 08/07/14 11:38 PM
It is not what you think. We are having some painting done while we live at the house. DON'T try this at home is all I can tell you. A missed scheduling caused the painters to start late making our bedroom off limits for the night because of the fresh paint smell and the prep in place. Sleeping on the couch brought back memories however...
MANY WAYS TO ARGUE
I have been married...well for a long time. I remember in the early and mid days of marriage when me and my hunny bunny would disagree, among other little scenarios, the I'M SLEEPING ON THE COUCH" … (14 comments)
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arguing: UNLICENSED INEXPERIENCED FAMILY & FRIENDS
- 07/17/14 07:36 AM
Why hire a professional Real Estate agent who has been doing Real Estate, is familiar with all the lingo and documents, procedures, pitfalls, must do's and don't do's, is connected to the industry and all the necessary supports when you have an opinionated family member, friend or neighbor who knows it all
LET ME HELP AND ME AND ME TOO
Everyone means well. I got that. What I don't get is why everyone thinks they know Real Estate. Why do so many people profess such strong opinions for this subject with others? What is it about this industry that attracts all these so called knowledgeable … (4 comments)
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arguing: COME LET US ARGUE TOGETHER?
- 06/26/14 03:42 AM
How about "COME LET US REASON TOGETHER" instead? How are we to appreciate the different points of view, (and believe me, they exist), when we can't get past the argument stages? To disagree with someone is to be expected. To argue right or wrong is to overreact. WHY?
I MAY NOT BE WHERE YOU ARE AT
Leave some room for subjectivity and growth to kick in. Not everyone sees things the same way yet when they do, it does make things go smoother. But then, we don't have to address the smooth and happy as much but instead the parts that need refinement and … (12 comments)
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arguing: HI MAINTENANCE OR HIGH MAINTENANCE
- 03/31/14 06:27 AM
You the person should be an ongoing piece of evolving work. Sorry, you are not able to stay the same or devolve unless you choose to do so but true and real life is not set up that way. You are to always be assessing the self, improving, critiquing, adjusting and eventually striving to be better
HOW CUTE AND ADORABLE
You don't have to tell this to a newborn baby when they first enter into the world. They are already all they can be and they remain lovable, wanted and near perfect with innocence and simplicity driven with love all taken place without effort. It is their default
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arguing: THE REASON WHY YOU FAIL
- 03/21/14 08:09 AM
There is always a story to cover up the real reason as to why something didn't go right or less than expected. We are the first to buy into it. If it is plausible, then fine. However, if it is a reoccurring event or you find yourself the main player every time, chances are YOU are the problem
ADMIT IT OR IT OWNS YOU
It is not easy to admit an error to another. To yourself it even takes some effort if you are a prideful person. That's why we come up with a story to tell ourselves or others as to why this happened and how. Those … (5 comments)
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arguing: HOW YOU SEE IT IS CALLED POINT OF VIEW
- 01/27/14 12:46 AM
Point of view remains part of the human journey and we bring it with us everywhere we go. Everyone has one too. It is how you see things and then what you do or think afterwards. It runs the world and affects us all professionally and personally too
KNOWING THE PERSON HELPS THE PROCESS
You stop judging someone when you come to know them. To know someone takes time and desire to do just that and during this process you will discover how that person feels and thinks. Here is where it can become dicey or enlightening depending on how you handle … (6 comments)
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arguing: DONT BE A DUMMY LOOK WHO'S TALKING?
- 12/17/13 06:59 AM
In the world of dummies, they appear normal to each other. However if one ventured into our world, they appear to be dummies. The opposite must be true. If we ventured into their world, we would appear to be the dummy and so it went back and forth with this fellow (see pic below)
Look, I sez...why don't you make something of yourself?
He sez...I am. For now I am helping you to learn CPR
I sez...how can you help me with your eyes closed?
He says...how come you wear glasses?
I sez...because I have trouble seeing and this helps
He sez...I don't have to see … (4 comments)
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Here is a subject that causes discomfort starting with the one doing it first and then with anyone else it can rope in. Question: Have you ever heard someone pitch enthusiastically their excuse as if it was the gospel truth? For a person to do this they first had to convince themselves. Then, to make it stick convince you too
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