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Learning How To Say No!

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Real Estate Agent with Re/Max Signature Properties

Hi Everyone!  This is it,.......my very first blog!  WooHoo! 

Recently, I was invited to a potential sellers home to talk to them about listing.  After speaking to the wife through the week, I was feeling very positive about the up-coming meeting and felt sure that I would come out of it with a new listing to sell.  WOW!  In comes Husband.  He states the facts and the facts are that I am now his employee, and I will be paid according to what he feels I'm worth, therefore at least a 50% commission reduction would be in order, as well, he will tell me what his house is valued at and,and, and,......So much negativity, and so much wasted time and effort.  It took me many years before I learned the fine art of saying no, but finally, I had a great opportunity to  exercise my new found talent.  I politely asked him to please stop the bus, and let me off there.  Thanked him for the opportunity to waste my time and showed myself out the door without so much as offering him a snippett of my research on the stats of what his home was worth. 

I remembered something at that moment that a very wise mentor in business said to me once, "If it's difficult in the beginning, It will be difficult all the way through the whole process".  Over my years in this business, I have had the pleasure and the pain of working with all sorts of people.  Some kind, some grateful and some down right nasty. 

No one needs to let anyone de-value their service, or rob them of their enthusiasm while working in this field.  I'm happy to have learned the ability to say no and am looking forward to the rewards of the future while working with positive people who appreciate me, my skill and my service.   As for Mr. Grumpy Pants, I told him to go and sell it himself.  He seemed to know it all anyway!  haahaha! 

Here's to the joy of working with happy positive people! 

Have an excellent Day Folks! 

 

Tracy

Keith Elliott Jr
KEIRE Realty Group - Manassas, VA
Principal Broker/Owner

Hello Tracy,

Welcome to Active Rain and congratulations on your first post! The opportunities to learn and network are incredible here. Best of luck to you!

-Keith

Apr 02, 2009 04:28 PM
Jason Rose
123 ConEd LLC -- Michigan real estate continuing education - Farmington Hills, MI
www.123ConEd.com

Good morning, Tracy, and welcome to Active Rain.  Since you're new here, I thought that I'd offer a few suggestions about where you can get some quick information to get acquainted with this site.  You should check out The Active Rain Blog by Brad Anderson.  Brad is a guru at Active Rain and always provides incredible postings with great information.  You should also look at Blogger Startup Kit, which is another posting by Brad.

There are two other posts that you might find helpful.  They are Why Blog for Points? I'll Tell You Why! and ActiveRain 101 - A Wealth of Tips for Newbies and Veterans Alike.

Hopefully this will help get you started.  Have fun and enjoy yourself here! 

Jason

Apr 02, 2009 11:58 PM
Yvette Gardner
Keller Williams Realty, Spartanburg, SC - Spartanburg, SC

Welcome to the Active Rain community. This is a great site with lots of information.  Have fun with it and hope to see more of your blogs soon!  We have a team of three outstanding full time agents to assist your buyers and sellers in Spartanburg/Greenville, SC.  Let us know if we can ever help. Again, welcome to AR!!

The Gardner Team, Keller Williams Realty

ygardner@HomesIntheUpstate.net

www.HomesInTheUpstate.net

Apr 03, 2009 12:45 AM
Jean Terry
Keller Williams Realty Spartanburg, S.C. - Spartanburg, SC

Hi and welcome to Active Rain, a great site to network, share, learn, and have fun. Good luck. And if you ever need an agent in the upstate of South Carolina, please call me.

Apr 03, 2009 02:22 PM
David Painter
Keller Williams Realty - Spartanburg, SC

Good to have you on Active Rain.  This is a good site for gathering information and interesting to see what others are blogging about. Contact us if we can be of service to you here in the Spartanburg / Greenville areas of South Carolina. We would be happy to send you a referral or to take good care of any referral you would send to us.

The following link will help you to get started on Active Rain. 

http://activerain.com/blogsview/209646/Blogger-Startup-Kit

Apr 03, 2009 04:28 PM
Morris Childs
PEP source - Spartanburg, SC

Welcome to Active Rain. It just gets easier after your first blog. Just write about what interests you.

Apr 03, 2009 04:42 PM
Vicente A. Martinez
Prudential Douglas Elliman Licensed Real Estate Salesperson - Woodhaven, NY
Realtor, Brooklyn - Long Island - Queens Homes

Hi and welcome to active|rain.

There are thousands of tips, tools, and tricks of the trade here. Be sure to check them out. Best of luck and see you around.

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Apr 04, 2009 04:13 PM
Kirk Westervelt
Van West Realty - Greenville, SC Realtor -Short Sale Expert! - Greenville, SC
Kirk Westervelt, Broker In Charge, Van West Realty - CDPE - Short Sale Agent - Home for Sale - Greenville, Simpsonvil...

Hello and welcome to Active Rain! I encourage you to learn from others, share your knowledge and experiences with all of us, enjoy yourself, and try to log in and join us in the Active Rain community as frequently as possible. I look forward to your future blogs and comments! Take care, --Kirk.

Apr 04, 2009 04:46 PM
Lorena Westervelt
Van West Realty - Greenville, SC
Co-Founder/Co-Owner

Hello, welcome to Active Rain! This seems like a wonderful environment to network as well as learn from others. I hope you enjoy yourself and participate often in the Active Rain environment!

Apr 04, 2009 04:54 PM
Jeffrey Thompson
Keller Williams - Greenville, SC

Hello and welcome to Active Rain.  Active Rain has been a great place to network with other realtors and to share ideas, experiences, and knowledge. I have learned a lot from others and I am looking forward to reading some of your bogs and sharing some of our experiences. Take care

Jeff Thompson

(864) 631-3099

421 SE Main St

Simpsonville, SC 29681

SellingTheUpstate@gmail.com

sellingtheupstate.com

If you know anyone moving to the Greenville, SC area, I pay a 30% referral fee.**

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Apr 06, 2009 02:24 AM
Sergio Rebollo Jr.
Real Estate TeamMates - Miami, FL

Tracy....Welcome to ActiveRain.  This is a great community to network with others as well a great place to learn from other's experiences and knowledge.  I've enjoyed it; I hope you enjoy it as well.

Sergio Rebollo Jr.
Exit Prime Realty
Coral Gables, FL  33146
305-582-4062

Miami Short Sale Specialist - Profile

Apr 07, 2009 10:55 PM
Carola Singer
Verico Canada First Mortgage - Okotoks, AB

Hi Tracy,

I know you wrote this a while ago but I think this still applies. You showed great posture and probably saved yourself a lot of unnecessary stress and headaches.

There are all kinds out there. :)

Talk to you soon.

Carola Singer

Oct 07, 2010 11:43 AM
Carola Singer
Verico Canada First Mortgage - Okotoks, AB

Hi Tracy,

I know you wrote this a while ago but I think this still applies. You showed great posture and probably saved yourself a lot of unnecessary stress and headaches.

There are all kinds out there. :)

Talk to you soon.

Carola Singer

Oct 07, 2010 11:43 AM
Tracy Barker
Re/Max Signature Properties - Okotoks, AB

Hi Carola! 

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So nice to hear from you and really nice as it reminded me of this networking opportunity! 

 

Thanks for the kind words on my first blog, but your right.  It still applies.  Next, I'm going to ask the active rain members for some advice on how to get buyers happy to sogn up onto a buyers brokerage agreement.  In this crazy market, the buyers are in fact not on a very short leash.  They are wandering all over the place and challenging us as realtors to compete by commission frequently.  Is this happening in the mortgage industry as well? 

 

Tracy

Oct 07, 2010 12:29 PM