A SAD FAREWELL TO A DEAR FRIEND...

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Real Estate Agent with Johnson Real Estate, Inc. RES.0761759

RUSTY (aka rustbucket)

IN LOVING MEMORY

VALERIE OSTERHOUDT

1994 - 2009

 

Today was a day that in every pet owners life you know will come. But you never want it to be today... or ever for that matter.

Last night I spent the night at the vet with my four footed friend "Rusty".  He has been with me for over 15 years.. we've been through a lot together.  I rescued him from a breeder who wanted to drown him because he wasn't of show quality.  His tail was not the right color, and his stance was not perfect. There was NO WAY I was going to let that happen. The aid that brought him to me, said we were his 4th home in 3 months.  He was too hyper for any of the other families.  I told her that I've had Cairn Terriers before, and this is part of their personality.  The sad thing was that at 9 months of age, he had never done stairs.  He was in a kennel all his life.  Which is why he was hyper when he was out, and in the yard.

As a puppy he was full of life and firey red.. hence the name Rusty.  We traveled everywhere together, he has been to North Carolina, South Carolina, all the way to Maine, New Hampshire, Massachusetts... and every state in between.

As you can imagine he had a full life, even with loosing his eyesight at the age of 8.  In the last year he lost his earring and was getting arthritis... which I can even relate to. 

Last night he had a stroke, and the vet didn't know if he would come out of it or not.  After 15 hours, no change, labored breathing... and he didn't even know I was there.  I came to the realization, that it was his time.  I wanted him to live, but it would be for me, and my selfishness... which I couldn't do.

It was one of the hardest things I had to do...  I know he is in a better place now and not suffering... I am the one suffering. 

I'm taking the rest of the day off to mourn....

valerie osterhoudt

 

 

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Valerie Osterhoudt, ABR
(Accredited Buyers Representative)

Is a Full Time Realtor® with with Johnson Real Estate, in Cromwell, CT who specializes in Homes and Condos For Sale in the Middlesex and Hartford Counties in CT.

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Rainmaker
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Valerie Osterhoudt
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Jack.. Thanks.  No it wasn't easy, but at the same time I knew it had to be done.  Rusty is in a better place now, and is no longer in pain... I hope.

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Apr 18, 2009 03:05 AM #28
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Petra.. I'm hoping that my first dog, Meghan (also a Cairn Terrier) was there to greet Rusty.  I'm envisioning that Meghan finally has a playmate... and Rusty is no longer in pain.

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Apr 18, 2009 03:08 AM #29
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Joan.. You are so right, our pets do touch our lives and also let us know when it is time to go. 

My sons are with their father for the week, so they weren't around when I had to go to the vet.  I'd like them to remember Rusty the way he was.  My sister who also loved Rusty was up from North Carolina visiting... so she too, had a chance to say good-bye.  There is never a good time to a pet (who is a member of the family) to pass.  But also, it couldn't have happened at a better time. 

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Apr 18, 2009 03:28 AM #30
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Gary.. I sorry to hear you've gone through this too.  It is not an easy decision.  I'm sorry for your loss too.

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Apr 18, 2009 03:29 AM #31
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Johnson Real Estate, Inc. - Cromwell, CT
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Ross.. Thanks for sharing your *wonderful* story.  I brought a smile to my face... for I fully understand how you and Renee felt/feel about your "boys".  They ARE a member of your family.. no question about that one.  Here is a story a small story about Rusty.... if you don't mind.

About 10 years ago after going through my divorce, I was thinking of renting for a while.  I found the ideal place that would work for my sons and myself.  When I found out they did NOT take pets, I obviously didn't take the place.  I opted to buy a condo instead.  This way Rusty would have a home too.

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Apr 18, 2009 03:34 AM #32
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Donna.. The best bet, I would think, is to spend time with her now, and say your goodbyes just in case you aren't around.  This way you were able to do so.

I just told my youngest son that Rusty died in his sleep.  I didn't have the heart (nor did I think it was wise) to tell him the truth.  He was so heart broken that he didn't get a chance to say good bye.

So, say goodbye while you can.

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Apr 18, 2009 06:14 AM #33
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Johnson Real Estate, Inc. - Cromwell, CT
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Kara.. Thanks for having me in your thoughts.  That *truly* does help me feel better. 

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Apr 18, 2009 06:15 AM #34
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Johnson Real Estate, Inc. - Cromwell, CT
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Michael.. Thank you for your thoughtful comment.  Yes, he will always be in my memories, but it hurts (for now) knowing that no more memories are going to be made.

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Apr 18, 2009 06:17 AM #35
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Kim.. I like that "All dogs go to Heaven".  I'm just hoping my first dog, Meghan is there waiting for him, and they are now playing together... and neither one is in pain.

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Apr 18, 2009 06:18 AM #36
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Jennifer... Thanks.  Pets give you unconditional love... and all they want is that returned. I will always have the memories of Rusty, and I hope he carries the love with him in "Dog Heaven".

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Apr 18, 2009 06:21 AM #37
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Gary, I've been doing so much crying lately, I think I've run out of tears.  Then for some reason it all starts again.  What gets me through is knowing that he had 15 years of life.. not 9 months, which would have happened if he stayed with the breeder.

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Apr 18, 2009 06:22 AM #38
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George.. My sons were not around yesterday, being spring break they were with their dad.  I told them today, and Jakob just fell apart.  "I didn't get a chance to say goodbye".  I told them that Rusty died in his sleep, I didn't have the heart to tell them that we had to put him down.  I think that would have made it worse.  If Jakob was older, I think he could handle the truth better... Kyle did, but Jakob wears his heart on his sleeve.

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Apr 18, 2009 06:29 AM #39
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Toula.. I am remembering all the good times.  For example. At Christmas I would put dog treats in the gifts that were for Rusty.  Since he (obviously) couldn't read, this helped him find *his* gifts.  It was a hoot to see him tear them open.

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Apr 18, 2009 06:39 AM #40
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Teresa... My son Jakob took it the hardest.  He cried and ran out the door.  His biggest hurdle was that he didn't have a chance to say goodbye.  He wanted to go for a walk and wanted me to come with him.  It was a good time, we bonded a little more.  The tough part was when we saw another dog... he just broke down again.

My other son Kyle, knew this day was coming... he is sad, but not surprised. 

I'm taking every day, one step at a time.  It is a double edged sword.  I have great memories, and at the same time it causes pain.  Hopefully in time I'll just have the memories, and feel happy he was in my our lives.

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Apr 18, 2009 06:44 AM #41
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Kristin.. Thanks for your kind words.  I got chills reading your comment.  I appreciate you mentioning I should take my time.  Alot of other people (not the members here) think I should just shake it off and move on.  How can one do that with a family member?  As I said to Teresa, I plan on taking one day at a time.

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Apr 18, 2009 06:47 AM #42
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Valerie, sorry that the boys had to experience this, but it is one of life's experiences that we can not avoid, losing someone close to us.

Apr 18, 2009 07:31 AM #43
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George, You are right, with life, there is always death... it is just NEVER the right time for it.  Jake just wished he had the opportunity to say good bye.

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Apr 19, 2009 06:34 AM #44
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Dave Jones
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Sorry for your loss.  I know how hard it is to lose a member of the family like that.  He will live in your hearts and memories forever.

Apr 20, 2009 01:02 PM #45
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Dave.. You are right, Rusty was a part of the family... and I know I did the humane thing of putting him to rest.  It just is NEVER easy.

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Apr 20, 2009 11:42 PM #46
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Peg Gilliland
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I am very sorry for your loss of your dog Rusty our hearts are with you and your family.

-Peg

May 25, 2009 07:04 AM #47
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