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Happy 17th, kiddo, whatever you become!

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They sat around my dining room table, eating barbeque chips by the handful, drinking Sprites and talking genetics and amoebas.  Some of them my son has known since middle school - a bunch of nerdish kids quite possibly bound for those coveted Ivy League schools in a year.  Quite possibly doing something grand with their lives.  My baby was turning 17 to the noise of academic chatter and crunching of the chips.

my sweet babyLater on that evening, they would play Rock Band, and some of the kids would sing their hearts out - some well, others, not so much.  We, the adults chaperoning the occasion, would laugh, play a few songs with the kiddos, and forgo the evening cleanup to catch a few hours of sleep before dawn.  Next year, my baby will probably not want to celebrate at home.  Next year, he'll be chaperone-free, surrounded by unruly teenagers, flirting with girls and looking for adventure.  That's just the way it is, and I wouldn't begrudge him any of it, but for now, I am tickled pink that he chose to celebrate at home, which left all sorts of room for public displays of affection on our parts, and sharing of those embarrassing little kid stories.

This was the last hurrah for the kiddo.  In June, he will take the dreaded SAT and the rest of the summer will be spent in filling out college applications, and in learning to say goodbye to people and places that defined him up till now.  He has no clue about what he wants to be when he grows up, but he knows who he is.  Unfortunately for his eventual pocketbook, the stuff he is good at and enjoys is all in the artsy-can't-make-a-living category.  He probably will not own the most expensive car, or ever flaunt a pair of Prada's.  Lucky for him, he seems entirely content with not having those things.  Chances are, he would succeed at anything he tried.  Chances are he will choose with his heart, and the decision will be less than pragmatic.  He is a dreamer.  He dreams in rhapsodies and snowflakes and flutter of monarch's wings.  Wherever his life's journey takes him I hope he never grows weary of his dreams...  After all everything else can be bought.  The only difference is the price tag.

Happy birthday sweet kiddo.  May you always be you.

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Carin Arrigo-Zimmer
TopBroker Network Real Estate - Orange, CA
TopBroker Network Real Estate
Inna, your writing is as poignant as the kiddo you describe. Here's to 17, dreams, and South Park. HB Sean. =]
Apr 21, 2009 06:26 PM
Paul Slaybaugh
Homesmart - Scottsdale, AZ
Scottsdale, AZ Real Estate

I'm double his age, but probably less than half as sure of what I want to be when I grow up.  17 ... what an interesting calm-before-the-storm kind of milestone birthday.  Like a last reprieve from the Governor before full-blown adulthood (in legal parlance, if nothing else).  I know you'll hate to turn him loose, but he'll make you proud of what he can only become on his own terms and under his own roof.  You'll always see the boy within the man, no matter how well hidden he believes he is.  At least ... that is how I comfort myself as to the inevitable metamorphosis of my own little ones.  I love their current ages and just want to hermetically seal this time up forever.  A very happy birthday to your young man, and an empathetic smile and pat on the back for his mom.

Good to see you around again, Inna :)

Apr 21, 2009 06:34 PM
Inna Hardison
ha media group - Orlando, FL
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Dick - I have been MIA indeed. Life and business getting in the way of Rain, but I will return:l-)

Thank you for the sweet wishes to Kiddo, aka Daniel.  He'll be an awesome daddy, but I can't imagine wearing a grandma title with any grace any time soon.

Apr 22, 2009 03:35 AM
Inna Hardison
ha media group - Orlando, FL
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Jon - we do cherish these moments, as much as we can.  I hope he leaves a few feathers behind once he takes of from his nest.  It hasn't been the most comfy one, but he seems to like it here:-) Thanks for the comment.

Apr 22, 2009 03:37 AM
Inna Hardison
ha media group - Orlando, FL
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Erik - hey, and thank you for the kind word on our parenting skills, though I think his decision to spend this time at home was influenced as much by the fact that we are sort of stranded here in the suburbs of not-much-to-do, and pizza and Rock Band just sounded easier than having to come up with a plan.  Whatever the reasons, it made me very happy all the kiddos were here.:-) 

PS: From the little i know of you, your kids will speak to you, always!!!

Apr 22, 2009 03:39 AM
Inna Hardison
ha media group - Orlando, FL
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Carin A-Z - thank you, sweetie! Here is to 17 and South Park, indeed.:-)

Apr 22, 2009 03:40 AM
Inna Hardison
ha media group - Orlando, FL
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My dear Paul - I, for one, hope you never actually figure out what you want to be when you grow up.  The way you handle the quest makes you extraordinarily interesting, and I, selfishly, wouldn't want to see any of it changed:-) 

Your adorable collection of little knuckleheads will keep you laughing and crying for some time before you ever have to worry about them growing up, if they choose to skip the Peter Pan gene.  We only treasure the moments that we can't hold on to forever, right?  Thanks for the much needed smile and pat on the back!

Apr 22, 2009 03:43 AM
Robin Kurtz
Long and Foster Real Estate - Kensington, MD

I wish I could have been blessed with such a relationship with my own mother. You clearly understand the value. I wonder if your son knows just how lucky he is ... if he doesn't, he will one day!

Apr 22, 2009 04:26 PM
Inna Hardison
ha media group - Orlando, FL
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My dear Robin - very kind of you to say...  Jon and I are too liberal when it comes to parenting, even by our own standards, so while the kiddo may feel somewhat lucky, I doubt he ever really feels that he's got 'parents':-)  Double-edged sword, that.

Apr 23, 2009 02:24 AM
Lourdes Hoglo REALTOR® Three Village & North Shore Suffolk Co. Long Island
Prudential Douglas Elliman Real Estate - Setauket, NY

Inna, just met you! Wonderful post! Let your son follow his heart... the world needs beauty!

Apr 24, 2009 01:00 PM
Inna Hardison
ha media group - Orlando, FL
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Lourdes, hi, and good to meet you!  Thank you for the compliments, and I agree, there is not enough beauty in the world, and too much of all things other that... :-) Thank you!!!

Apr 24, 2009 01:50 PM
Ann Heitland
Retired from RE/MAX Peak Properties - Flagstaff, AZ
Retired from Flagstaff Real Estate Sales

You brought back memories of the 16th birthday party my mother threw for me. Funny, I don't remember 17?

Apr 25, 2009 04:51 AM
Inna Hardison
ha media group - Orlando, FL
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Ann, that's funny, I don't remember my 17th either, and my mom too threw a 16th birthday party for me, which I recall distinctly... There was a bottle of Champagne popped in my honor, and I managed to set my rather long hair on fire putting out the candles:-)

PS: thank you for stopping by!

Apr 25, 2009 04:55 AM
Sarah Eubanks
Hill Valley Financial Services - Oregon City, OR
Preferred Oregon Loan Consultant & Notary Public

Inna...Like, Paul, I hope to never fully grow up.  You miss the "magic" in life if you do that entirely.  :)  I am confident that Daniel will have a successful life.  Even in the artsy path he may choose.  The truth of the matter is that with supportive parents who truly believe that he can do anything he wants to when he "grows up", he will accomplish much.  My children are just turned 11 and nearly 10 and I treasure my time with them as clearly you do with yours.  Congratulations on a job well done...so far!

May 12, 2009 04:04 AM
Inna Hardison
ha media group - Orlando, FL
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Sarah - growing up is overrated:-)  Thank you for the sweet wishes and congrats, and I know you are right, in all the ways that matter.  Success, too, is relative to whatever makes one fulfilled.  I just hope my baby is happy... Of course I'm also hoping that he has more than top ramen to munch on while he is at it:-)

May 12, 2009 04:20 AM
Sarah Eubanks
Hill Valley Financial Services - Oregon City, OR
Preferred Oregon Loan Consultant & Notary Public

Inna...he will...because he will still come home and eat once in a bit!  Just kidding!!  You did, though, inspire me to write about post about my son.  I will be working on it today!  Have a fantabulous day!!

May 13, 2009 03:41 AM
Inna Hardison
ha media group - Orlando, FL
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Sarah - I'll look for it:-) BTW: your little girl is so SWEET:-)

May 13, 2009 03:55 AM
Sarah Eubanks
Hill Valley Financial Services - Oregon City, OR
Preferred Oregon Loan Consultant & Notary Public

Thank you, Inna.  I am pretty partial to her.  We are a lot alike...but I hope she only takes the good from me and can leave the not so great things behind her.  :)

May 13, 2009 04:05 AM
AZ Mortgage Broker: Michael George
Arizona Wholesale Mortgage Inc. - Phoenix, AZ
AZ Mortgage Rates

Sounds like a good kid Inna.  So are you a wreck about him going off to a far off place for college?  I think that would break my heart!

Oct 01, 2009 08:53 AM
Inna Hardison
ha media group - Orlando, FL
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Michael - Baby D is a great kid... Thankfully, he is going to an instate school, so at the worst, he'll only be three hours' drive away.  I will still miss him terribly:-)

Oct 07, 2009 04:08 AM