It's kind of peaceful in here. Uh, who's that talking? Oh, it's the self talk - talking again. It's kind of cool when I can answer me back too. It's kind of like....talking to me in the mirror and holding a conversation. LOL.
Getting some deep questions answered.
We ALL do some self talk from time to time and even ask ourselves questions. It's even better when we can answer ourselves. LOL! Now mind you, the self talk I'm talking about is not voicing your conversation aloud with SELF but being mindful of certain situations and circumstances. (otherwise, when talking aloud in public and answering yourself may get a few odd stares)
Questions to Ask Self may include:
- Why am I being so defensive about another's opinion? My answer can range from wanting everyone to think like me to feeling that I don't have control over a situation. Bottom line? I don't have control over anyone except MYSELF. A great tool for me because I will always cross paths with a client, peer or consumer who does not share the same thinking patterns as I do.
- Am I affecting others in a negative manner? This is one of the most frequent questions I ask myself and the most important because if I'm not aware of my own behavior then I obviously don't listen or hear others. This is one of the best tools in Real Estate. The ability to LISTEN to their client's needs and wants.
- Am I using Healthy Boundaries I have set for myself? Being positive does not mean I let everyone walk all over me and in business we have to keep our boundaries lest we ALLOW people to start walking all over us. Communication is key to being assertive and telling others what we do and don't want. On the flip side...we respect others boundaries as well.
- Am I saying yes when I really mean no? Again, personal boundaries are healthy and people respect people who set boundaries with them. It shows you respect yourself.Also, resentments add up for the person who is not being honest and telling people how they really feel. A good business, personal or intimate relationship consists of mutual respect and honest communication for their needs.
All the questions I ask self and all the self talk I'm doing allows me to look at self. That IS the only way to define self and keep from being a victim and start looking outside of self. It allows me to agree to disagree. It allows me to be accountable, responsible and honest with self and in turn dictates who I am.
It is with this information that I utilize in my life every day and take into my business. It is with this information that I am in a class all my own..... Individuality.
And with this.... I will classify myself as a good human being.
And allows me to sleep well.....EVERY night.