Let Your Advice Be Soft

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Motivational Power Quote

 

Let Your Advice Be Soft

 

"Advice is like snow,

the softer it falls,

the longer it dwelled upon,

and the deeper it

sinks into the mind."

Samuel Taylor Coleridge  

  

As I see it. . . . . . . .

Let your advice be soft. 

Let your advice fall gently for the highest and lasting impact.   

Hard advice can be perceived as demanding and can fall on deaf ears. Hard advice will be seem as confrontational and cause a breakdown in a relationship and in the communications.   

Soft advice is seen as conversation and is open for discussion. 

Both parties can see the advantage of the advice. The longer the person considers the advice it becomes far more likely the advice will be followed freely. 

The person receiving soft advice is likely to accept the advice and the person given the advice being seen as an advocate. 

®2009, Lou Ludwig, Sales and Management Consultant, Motivational Speaker, Trainer, Educator and Author

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Teresa Harris
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I have to remember this when dealing with my father-in-law.....Thanks Lou!

Apr 30, 2009 01:23 PM #7
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Gary Woltal
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Lou, soft voices are often heard much more closely because you have to pay attention to hear them. Othertimes they are trounced on by the loud speakers.

Apr 30, 2009 02:20 PM #8
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Hi Sheila

Remaining clam makes a big differences.

Thanks for your comments.

Lou Ludwig

Apr 30, 2009 02:24 PM #9
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Lou Ludwig
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Hi Sheila

in challenging times we have to keep our emotions under control.

Lou Ludwig

Apr 30, 2009 02:26 PM #10
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Hi Sandy

Thanks for sharing your thoughts.

Lou Ludwig

Apr 30, 2009 02:27 PM #11
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Hi Jared

Thanks for sharing your insight.

Lou Ludwig

Apr 30, 2009 02:28 PM #12
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Lou Ludwig
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Hi Sharon

Thanks for your kind words and stopping by.

Lou Ludwig

Apr 30, 2009 02:28 PM #13
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Lou Ludwig
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Hi Rosalinda

People hate it and they act accordingly.

Thanks for your comments.

Lou Ludwig

Apr 30, 2009 02:30 PM #14
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Lou Ludwig
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Hi Terese

Some people do that to us many times intently, be soft and you my shock him.

Thanks for sharing your thoughts.

Lou Ludwig

Apr 30, 2009 02:34 PM #15
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Lou Ludwig
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Hi Gary

Super insight on your part, thanks for sharing your thoughts.

Lou Ludwig

Apr 30, 2009 02:35 PM #16
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Steve Hoffacker
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Lou,

I missed this one. Great advice, Soft and gentle - we all like that. :)

Steve

Apr 30, 2009 04:40 PM #17
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Teddy Roosevelt once said, "Walk softly and carry a big stick." Both your quote and Teddy's can be modified slightly for writing, a modification that I learned while working for the Texas A&M University Press. For example:

  1. Hard advice: You should do it like this.
  2. Softer advice: One should do it like I have done it.
  3. Real soft advice: Here's how I did it. Hope it works for you like it's worked for me.
Apr 30, 2009 10:14 PM #18
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Janice Roosevelt
Keller Williams Brandywine Valley - West Chester, PA
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Wonderful approach to life, much more gentle. I need to remember to do this with my grown children especially

Apr 30, 2009 11:18 PM #19
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Zane Coffin
Century-21 Homestar - Geneva, OH
(Geneva Ohio Real Estate Agent)

Lou this is something I have been trying to do for years with my kids ....but it don't always work for me.....thanks for the advice and I will keep working on it...peace zane

Apr 30, 2009 11:37 PM #20
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Lou Ludwig
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Hi Steve

Soft and gentle works far better the rough and tough.

Thanks for sharing your thoughts.

Lou Ludwig

May 02, 2009 02:35 PM #21
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Lou Ludwig
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Hi Russel

Outstanding insight, thanks for sharing.

Lou Ludwig

May 02, 2009 02:36 PM #22
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Hi Janice

That a good area of the soft approach.

Lou Ludwig

May 02, 2009 02:38 PM #23
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Lou Ludwig
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Hi Zane

It takes a lot of practice and focus.

Lou Ludwig

May 02, 2009 02:39 PM #24
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Sharon Alters
Coldwell Banker Vanguard Realty - 904-673-2308 - Fleming Island, FL
Realtor - Homes for Sale Fleming Island FL

Lou, this is so true. Thanks for the reminder. It speaks more of being a trusted advisor than the pushy stereotype of Realtors.

May 03, 2009 04:26 PM #25
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Lou Ludwig
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Hi Frank and Sharon

We accomplish far more as an trusted adviser then a sales associate.

Lou Ludwig

May 04, 2009 12:02 PM #26
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