Life Traction 101

Mirela, we lost one of our kitties over the weekend. We are coping with his loss and it is hard. But we are thankful for the joy he brought us and that at least we know what happened to him, that he didn't just disappear. You and your boyfriend will be in my prayers. ~ Sharon

Mirela~ Many people are experiencing hardships in one way or another.  Each of us should reach out to someone and try to help ease their burden if we can , even if it is just a kind word.  It is so sad that the suicide rate and depression is rising so quickly. Yes, times are tough, but you have to move forward even if it is one baby step at a time.

Mirela, I am so sorry your boyfriend saw this today. There are no words for it. Times are so hard, we have to lift each other up, reach out hands to those that need them. Things are bad all around, and we can certainly find worse.

For me, I go to the farm. Life melts away as soon as I see all my beloved cows. I work hard and realize what is important in life. I have said here many many times, when I have to stick my head between the legs of 1500 pounds of cow, it gives you one heck of a perspective on life!

Give your boyfriend some extra love.

I have been experiencing a myriad of challenges this year as well.  One of the things that keeps me balanced is my yoga practice.  I have an exceptional teacher, so it may not just be the yoga itself, but the way she helps restore balance and perspective.  It doesn't change the situation, but it gives me a sense of equilibrium so I can get through these challenging times.  I certainly takes a lot of inner strengh, friends and family, and faith.

Mirela, I have been with several people when they died, one was a suicide, another was my 9 yr old granddaughter. It does make you pause and think.  If death and tragedy have been a teacher, the lesson has been how to put things into perspective; and that helps.  It helps to know that whatever I'm experiencing, whatever sadness comes, someone else has gone before me; someone else has suffered; and someone else has found the strength to continue. And knowing that, is sometimes enough.

Mirella, I think life give us some hard time once a while to prove his fragility and some good one to accept his legitimacy.

Writing like you just did is part of your mooring and taking care of yourself will be my answer.

Mirela - It's tough sometimes to keep our chins up!  we had a few days like that recently.  Just keep reaching for a happier thought, and the happier thought and pretty soon with positive intention and gratitude, the happier thoughts will become your reality.  Gratitude is a good grounding energy for me. 

My grandma always advised us to"Count our Blessings!"  Grandma was right!  Wishing you the best!

Mirela- I am sorry to hear that your boyfriend had to witness that.  You are right that we need to put it all in perspective.  At times it is very hard, but as humans we need to keep things in perspective to survive.

Mirela: Witnessing a death, the way your boyfriend did, is a life changing experience. Coping with this current market and life in general is stressful for many of us now. But it is how we allow ourselves to react to the situation that really matters.

Mirela -- I just finished a book -- the Eaves of Heaven (Posting a review later) -- the title is from what the main character says his mother taught him: '... the eaves of heaven had a way of turning in cycles, of dealing both blows and recompenses. For every devasting flood, there followed a bountiful crop. For every stretch of flawless days, there waited a mighty storm just below the horizon. For every great sorrow, there was a great happiness to come." I think remembering there is usually a balance in life --helps me remember I must find ways to keep myself in balance. Yoga is good for me, working in my garden -- and dancing!  

Mirela:  I'm not sure if its just my age and I know more people in pain these days or if we just have more problems in the world today. I pray all day long for people, my family and even myself. We can't waist any good pain. It keeps us compassionate and humble. If we have never been through anything we can't understand what some one else is going through. My youngest son has type one diabetes and is 19 he has had it since he was 8.  Just before he got it I was visiting with a boy that was about 15 he just got out of the hospital and had told me he was diagnosed with diabetes. I just remember the pain in his face. I really didn't understand exactly why he looked so sad. He looked fine. My son got it shortly after. I  understand it now , but you really can't until you have lived it.

Thanks Liz

Hi Mirela, I dont think we can dwell on the bad, yet so many people do and we are bombarded with BAD BAD BAD by the media.  We need to form our own opinions, look for the bright side, Laugh, Smile ... and some where in there we have to work!!!  Sanity for me is taking "me" time. Thank God Sailing season is starting... that keeps me sane.  Sailed last Sunday in the pouring rain even with a sore back... and I did not think about work or bills or any other troubles.  We all need an escape from our daily struggles, but many people do not make that time for themselves.

I wish your boyfriend strength after witnessing such a tough scene.

Unfortunately life can deal some tough surprises ... but strength must prevail and we must always rise up and dwell on the great things around us. Hang in there.

No doubt we all have been through some tough times but life is full of curves. I find myself more in prayer these days.