First Time Homebuyers - Cover Your Ears!

Real Estate Agent with Diamond Partners Inc 00244377

Buying your first home?  And, you think you found a great Realtor.  Good.  So, what would cause you to question the home buying process?  Is it because your friends told you THIS, your parents told you THAT, and your cousin who just bought her first house three states away is telling you SOMETHING ELSE.  And, now it's causing you to question how your Realtor is helping you go about about the home buying process, the very agent who you thought was so reputable.  You started out confident in yourself and your agent.  What happened?  I'll tell you.

 First....stop listening to all of THEM.  

It's great to have so many advocates, but who is the overall real authority when it comes to buying and selling real estate locally?  Who's been doing it day in and day out - and, for a number of years? 

STOP.  Tell them to stop.  Or, cover your ears.  You can't allow your family and friends to influence your decisions and question the process.  You should realize that when they begin interfering, it complicates things.  And, eventually, your Realtor can't help but take offense or feel annoyed.  As they say ...too many cooks spoil the broth.  

You might look to others for advice, but then you need to use some common sense too.  Your parents may have bought their current house 20 years ago - things have changed since then.  And, the process of buying a home varies from state to state and each transaction is handled on a case by case basis.  The procedures involved with somebody else's home purchase may not apply to yours, even if both transactions may seem somewhat similar.  This is not the kind of business where "if you've seen one, you've see them all."  Just like there are no two people who are the alike, no two snowflakes that are alike and no two houses that are alike two real estate transactions are the same either.   

TRUST.  You need to trust your agent.  It's only natural to feel a little insecure being that this is your first home purchase.  Is your Realtor simply a salesperson who doesn't get paid until the deal closes?   NO.  That's certainly not the case.  There are laws and a strict code of ethics.  A Realtor must provide an agency disclosure explaining whose interest is being represented.  A real estate agent cannot put his or her needs before the needs of those they serve.  If your Realtor is a buyer's agent, he or she is legally obligated to provide fiduciary responsibilities.  Besides, any Realtor who has  been in business for a number of years understands the importance of not pressuing buyers and ensuring that the process goes as smooth as possible.  It's true - we thrive on referral business from satisfied customers of the past.  Usually, a real estate agent will try to remain your friend long after the transaction is over.   

The experience of buying a home will be far less frustrating when you stop listening to  others and start trusting your Realtor to facilitate the process.  Don't work against your Realtor.  But, instead - work with your Realtor.  If the dream of home-ownership is your goal, then your local real estate professional knows best.  Other people might have good intentions, but your Realtor should be considered your number one source - especially if he or she has years of experience.  How can that possibly compare to your best friend who has only experienced one real estate transaction in his or her lifetime? 

STOP.  Tell them to stop.  Or, cover your ears.  TRUST the real estate proffesional you have selected.  After all, weren't you seeking proffesional advise when you decided to enlist a Realtor to represent you?  Who do You listen to? ...who should you TRUST?



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Carol Culkin - Licensed Real Estate Salesperson for ReeceNichols Real Estate, is your source for real estate in Overland Park and the bordering cities of Leawood, Olathe, Mission, Miriam, Lenexa and Shawnee, Stillwell and Spring Hill. Carol has been ranked as an award winning agent and offers her clients over 10 years of real estate experience.


Member of National Associations of Realtors®, Member of Kansas Associations of Realtors®, Member of Kansas City Regional Associations of Realtors®, Member of Heartland Multiple Listing Services, Accredited Buyer's Representative (ABR), Seniors Real Estate Specialist (SRES), Red Cross Volunteer - Greater Kansas City Chapter, Supportor of Cross-Lines Community Outreach.


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Overland Park, KS 66210

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Comments (9)

Donne Knudsen
Los Angeles & Ventura Counties in CA - Simi Valley, CA
CalState Realty Services

Carol - AMEN!  You're singing to the choir!  I blogged about this same issue, telling consumers and borrowers to stop listening to everyone else.  Listen to your Realtor and your mortgage professional.  Hopefully, if you have chosen them wisely, they know what they're talking about.  This is what they do day in and day out for years and years.  Your cousin Joey who has never owned a home doesn't know what he's talking about.  He's an amateur.

May 19, 2009 06:15 AM
Jodie Miller, Realtor, KW, Pasadena
Keller Williams Realty - Pasadena, CA

Preach it, girls!  Great post!

May 19, 2009 06:57 AM
Gary Woltal
Keller Williams Realty - Flower Mound, TX
Assoc. Broker Realtor SFR Dallas Ft. Worth

Carol, you just need to wear this little badge that says "Carol is the Poughkeepsie EXPERT." I'll have one made up and send it to you. Then there will be no doubts. After all it is on your badge.

May 19, 2009 11:02 AM
Carol Culkin
Diamond Partners Inc - Overland Park, KS
Overland Park Residential Real Estate

Donna -We know it happens time and time a again.  In NY we actually have attorneys handle the contracts so that's one more real estate professional who a buyer can consult with when in doubt. Yet, many are reluctant to make a call to their attorney to verify things. Instead they listen to well meaning friends and relatives as if they are the experts.

Jodie - Thanks! Today's soapbox!

Gary - Gary send one of those really loud air horns too. I can't think of a better way to react to fingernails on a chalkboard. Or, at least that's what it feels like whenever somebody mentions that a family or friend said this or that.  Excuse me ...but isn't my license proof that I am the practitioner.    


May 19, 2009 11:36 AM
Steven L. Smith
King of the House Home Inspection, Inc. - Bellingham, WA
Bellingham WA Home Inspector


Good advice there. It can be crazy sometimes, with everyone offering advice. I have had dads of buyers that I wanted to throttle.

May 19, 2009 12:41 PM
Carol Culkin
Diamond Partners Inc - Overland Park, KS
Overland Park Residential Real Estate

Steve - I have actually had better experiences with parents who are supportive and encouraging rather than with the siblings. I sometimes wonder if there is the jealousy factor or something.  But, it seems the siblings are a bigger hindrance.

May 19, 2009 12:53 PM
Jennifer Fivelsdal
JFIVE Home Realty LLC | 845-758-6842|162 Deer Run Rd Red Hook NY 12571 - Rhinebeck, NY
Mid Hudson Valley real estate connection

Carol - We have all had to deal with this and it is not pleasant.  Trusting the agent leads to a better transaction.

May 19, 2009 02:43 PM
Gary L. Waters Broker Associate, Bucci Realty
Bucci Realty, Inc. - Melbourne, FL
Eighteen Years Experience in Brevard County

Nicely presented.  Sometimes all these peripheral experts can be a headache!

May 20, 2009 06:00 AM
Steven L. Smith
King of the House Home Inspection, Inc. - Bellingham, WA
Bellingham WA Home Inspector


Sometimes it seems like it is not safe to trust the buyers or the sellers. I usually am working for buyers but they often have an axe to grind too.

May 24, 2009 03:52 AM